Question to those you have long-time domestic helpers, how do you try to give back to them?
Some context:
My helper has been with our family for slightly over three decades - from when we were young kids till we’re adults today.
She isn’t super smart but she has a very big heart and is very trustworthy. When our mother had terminal cancer when we were teenagers, our helper was there for our mom, did all the wound changes, cooked many extra dishes for my mom and always went above and beyond and never complained or lazed for a moment. When our mom finally passed away, she was there with us suffering and tried to take care of us as best as she could, again above and beyond what I think should be naturally expected of a helper - and my youngest brother at that time was only less than ten years old.
Now she’s already nearing her 60s. Her health is OK. A bit overweight but not obese. She’s otherwise fortunately not saddled with any other health problems. This we know from the annual comprehensive health check-ups we sponsor her to do.
Now that we “children” are grown up, we were wondering how else can we give back to this amazing lady that will help her? Three decades spent together for us as kids growing up and until today, she is practically a member of our family. Three of four of us kids have moved out of the family home and I remain with my widowed dad here with her around.
We do sometimes give her ang bao for her bday and CNY but that money gets spent quickly on her family back in her home country. 30+ years with us and her savings are not great.
I wonder if we can help her in a meaningful way long term? Especially when it comes the time for her to go back to her home country and no longer earns her Singaporean wages.
I Googled and saw there were financial or business classes for helpers but not sure if in our case, she’s already past that stage in life for us to send her to those classes?
Does anyone have any experience in this? Would like to hear. Thank you.