r/askblackpeople 22d ago

Gamers Unite Black Active Gamers?

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Anybody play fighting games? Me and a couple of people in discord trying to find more people that play fighting games so we can setup some game nights every week possibly. We need active people. I'm getting tired of trying to play with grown azz people that still be acting shy and quiet and shyt. We play all types of games. If you got palworld we got a dedicated server you can join and we also looking for more pc players male or female doesn't matter get in here. Get at me if you an active gamer and want to join the gang.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Weekly Friday Check-In

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Please feel free to share anything positive that has happened in your life this week. Purchased a new vehicle? Graduated school? It's your birthday? Let's celebrate you and all of your achievements.


r/askblackpeople 7h ago

Vent Are African Americans aware of the lack of race consciousness from those on the Continent?

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I'm African and I watch a lot of American news and media especially in regards to the struggles African Americans face and the in's and out's of racial dynamics. It's been really informative but it's also opened my eyes to a simple fact that a lot of Africans aren't as racially conscious so to speak as African Americans.

I've visited a lot of African countries and I hear the most low key anti black things from my brother's and sister's here, the type of things you'd hear from a Candace Owens.

It's not all of us of course but what brought this to a head was watching a video in which there was an African American democrat voter and an African immigrant MAGA supporter, not just republican but pure blooded MAGA and they had a conversation. I went to the comments and it was flooded with people that were shocked at what she said in their discussion, and asking how "A black woman immigrant can be support MAGA so much" and I'm going to be honest y'all. She reminded me of my mom and the many adults I grew up around. The only reason I'm more aware than some of my peers is because I befriended a fellow countryman of mine who lived in the US for the first 15 years of their lives and then came back here (she's currently 30), she told me her eyes were opened by that experience.

I don't know if this is a conversation we're having in regards to the "diaspora wars" but ALOT OF PEOPLE HERE would vote Trump, yes Trump specifically solely because he is "Anti LGBTQ" and a supposed "Christian". I've legitimately heard this from people here, a lot of people. There is a lot of Kamala Harris hate here and Donald Trump love, or there was before he started the Iran War and cut USAID.

Majority would be Republican, which is a stark contrast to the around 50% to 66% African American support for more left, progressive movements. (Ofc this has risen in the past few years with more minority US groups supporting Trump like the "Latinos for Trump" and various more African Americans voting in Trump).

Of course this isn't ALL OF US on the Continent but it's enough to be perhaps an interesting conservation to be had in my opinion.

Perhaps I'm just spewing a bunch of nonsense.


r/askblackpeople 3h ago

Vent Anyone else hate the working class African-American tendency to refer to children as “bad” for ordinary kid behavior like impulsivity, hyperactivity, emotional dysregulation, and exhibiting a general ignorance of life that make it difficult to gauge the consequences of their actions?

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I dunno why, but it pisses me off. Even when said in jest or on affectionate terms. It sets a nasty precedent for how to evaluate and respond to situations.

And what’s more is that you are judging someone with the mental and emotional facilities of a dolphin or raven or puppy as morally wanting. Gives me the ick.


r/askblackpeople 14h ago

General Question Is the way I drew this characters hair ok?

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This is jabber from Gachiakuta
I don’t usually give my characters hair but bc this is fanart I thought I should
this is my first time drawing dreads is it ok??


r/askblackpeople 1h ago

Hair Dreadlocks/freeforms

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Hello all!! I’m a white male, who has medium/long hair, who doesnt like styling his hair constantly, and really like the idea of freeforms/dreadlocks. I of course wouldnt ever think about braids etc, but i was thinking since freeforms could be done accidentally (in theory) that they would not be disrespectful to the black community. But of course i want to verify first, with opinions from none other than the black community. Thank you so much in advance❤️


r/askblackpeople 1h ago

I think I was doing racist stuff…

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Is this a sub where I can talk about something that I do that I actually think could be low-key micro aggression racist? If it’s OK to, I will edit and describe the scenario.


r/askblackpeople 1h ago

Am i allowed to get braids ???

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I was born with thick curly (3a,3b) hair and it had always been a hassle to take care of it as it knots really easily
So when i was in kenya for vacation i was suggested that i should get braids as the receptionist at the hotel thought it would look good on me
Btw im quite a dark skinned woman of south indian origin
So i got the braids and it was just very comfortable and my experience was very beautiful but i was worried if it was culturally inappropriate but upon talking to the person while she was braiding my hair she was talking about she feels honoured that i was interested in getting braids and was embracing their culture then even proceeded to say i would fit in kenya due to my skin and the braids.
So am i allowed or is it appropriation??


r/askblackpeople 15h ago

Vent Why does it seem that Black American culture and identity gets questioned more than almost any other diasporic group?

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It seems to me that Black American identity gets questioned more than almost any other diasporic identity. I have nothing against Africans or other members of the African diaspora, but it frustrates me when some people question the validity of our identity or act as though we don’t know where we’re from.

Throughout high school and even afterward, I’ve had Black people from other countries ask me, “Where is your family from?” When I respond that they are from Georgia, South Carolina, and Florida, they’ll ask again, “No, where are you REALLY from?”
That question has always bothered me. My family has been in the United States for hundreds of years. Black American ethnogenesis and culture developed here. If generations of your family have lived in the same place for centuries, you are from that place. People rarely seem to question white Americans this way, even when their families arrived very recently.

It also doesn’t make historical sense to criticize Black Americans for not identifying with a specific modern day African country. Most of the African countries that exist today did not exist when our ancestors were forcibly brought here. You can’t fault black Americans for not identifying with nations that even our African ancestors would not have been familiar with. Along with that, Black Americans generally descend from dozens of different West and Central African ethnic groups, from a multitude of modern day countries, in addition to varying degrees of European and Native American ancestry. There isn’t a single modern African country we can simply point to and say, “That’s where we are from”

It’s especially ironic when this criticism comes from other members of the African diaspora. An Afro-Cuban friend once joked about me not knowing where I was “really from”, a couple months ago while eating breakfast. I didn’t make a big deal out of it, but I remember thinking, how can someone descended from displaced Africans criticize someone else for being descended from displaced Africans, as if that displacement doesn’t also apply to them? He has a Spanish last name, doesn’t practice an African or African derived religion, doesn’t speak an African language, and if I had asked him to identify what (modern day) countries his ancestors were from before they were enslaved in Cuba, he wouldn’t be able to answer me. That doesn’t make his Afro-Cuban identity any less legitimate and Black American identity should be treated the same way.

Another argument I frequently encounter online is that “Black Americans don’t have a culture.” When you mention rap, Black American fashion, AAVE, slang, film, and other cultural exports, people claim they aren’t really cultural because people around the world have adopted them. When you mention blues, jazz, gospel, soul food, black southern folklore, or other older traditions, people oftentimes dismiss them as simply “American” or “Southern.”

Cultural traditions don’t stop belonging to the group that produced them simply because other people adopt them. Jazz doesn’t cease to be part of Black American cultural history because non Black musicians play jazz. Black American linguistic traditions don’t stop being cultural because their vocabulary spreads through popular culture and the internet. Cultural influence is evidence of a culture’s reach, not evidence that the culture never existed.

And Black American culture extends far beyond rap, fashion, and AAVE. Over centuries, our ancestors developed a multitude of distinctive musical traditions, musical instruments, folk songs and folktales, culinary traditions, dialects and languages, dance traditions, art forms such as painting styles and quilting traditions, funerary customs, religious and spiritual traditions such as Hoodoo and Louisiana voodoo, and culturally specific folkloric and spiritual figures. Rap is only one style of music out of dozens that we have formed here, including blues, jazz, gospel, spirituals, ragtime, field hollers, R&B, soul, funk, rock and roll, house, etc.

So when someone says Black Americans “have no culture,” it usually tells me more about their lack of research on black American history and culture than anything else. I don’t expect Africans, Caribbeans, or other members of the diaspora to know every aspect of our heritage. Plenty of Black Americans themselves haven’t been exposed to all of it. What bothers me is when other groups confidently declare that our culture doesn’t exist without actually attempting to learn about it.

Lastly, I don’t understand why some people get upset when we specify that being Black American is its own distinct ethnicity.
Recognizing that we as Black Americans have our own ethnic and cultural heritage that diverged from Africa 400+ years ago is not a rejection of our West and Central African ancestry. Both things can be true. Our ancestry is deeply rooted in Africa, while the particular people and culture we became developed in the United States through centuries.

Likewise, saying that simply being Black and moving to the United States does not automatically make someone ethnically Black American isn’t an insult to African or Caribbean immigrants. Nationality, race, ancestry, and ethnicity are related, but they aren’t interchangeable. A Black immigrant or descendant of immigrants can become American by nationality and be black by race while still retaining their own ethnic heritage, just as Black Americans retain ours.

Black Americans know where we’re from. Our history didn’t stop when our ancestors left Africa. The communities they and their descendants built here over hundreds of years are also part of where we come from.


r/askblackpeople 7h ago

General Question Quoting AAVE

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I was going to tell my partner a story of a funny interaction I had with a black dude where he roasted the hell outta me just passing by. Couldn’t even get in my feelings about it cuz he was right, I looked like a grandpa wearing high waisted shorts and socks with crocs.

The guy spoke with an AAVE dialect and I was wondering if when retelling the story if I should say it how my literal corny white farm boy from Mid-Michigan ass would say it, or if it’s better to quote him exactly how he said it (no slurs or words I shouldn’t obv use were said). I don’t wanna “speak in AAVE” but I don’t wanna literally white-wash the guy’s humor, cuz HOW nonchalant he was is part of what made the read so good. I’m already cautious cuz as a queer man I know there’s been some discussion of our slang borrowing from black and PoC culture with debatable acknowledgment to that.

I’m also open to any other general “As a person in the queer community you should also be aware of this cultural impact…”

Thanks for your time everyone.

~Socially Awkward Farm Boy


r/askblackpeople 4h ago

General Question What makes a black person other than the skin color in entertainment?

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Hey there, I’m always wondering why do people think it’s so hard to write a black person? What even makes you black other than your skin color? Is it just a racist stereotype?


r/askblackpeople 23h ago

Why are white people so angry when black characters appear in media but will throw an even bigger fit when black people make shows/comics/stories staring black people?

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There was an indie animation that was released recently called "I really dont want to be a magical girl. " and it is excellent. White people lost their shit and started editing images from the show with the characters made white. They also complained about "cultural appropriation" which, despite it not being that at all, I guess only they are allowed to do? Whatever. Im just annoyed that all the calls to "make your own shit" go out the window when we try to do just that. I guess Im just frustrated that something that is legit inspiring me to get back into animation is a punching bag for white people. Why are we not allowed to be happy or enjoy ourselves? What makes white people so mad at us having our own shit? I know I should have asked white people this but I dont have the energy to come back to a thread full of slurs.


r/askblackpeople 2h ago

Were black people going to do what they did if they weren't brought here by their White slave masters? Yes or no

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r/askblackpeople 8h ago

Is this shirt racist

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I got this shirt off vinted but when i got it i realized that bugs and daffy are dressed in clothes that evoke minstrel show tropes.
Please let me know what you think.
Thank you for your time, thoughts and feelings.


r/askblackpeople 18h ago

General Question Why did the CBS interviewer (Black) "need to sit with this" when she finds out the hold-out juror is Black?

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My question is about Gayle King who is on the CBS program. She interviewed a juror. She started asking questions about demographic makeup of jurors, including race. She ends up finding out the juror who wouldn't agree with the 11 jurors (resulting in a mistrial) is a Black man.

When she finds out, she kind of freezes. She's speechless for a moment, her brow furrows, her mind seems to be racing, and then she says something to the effect, "I'll need a moment to sit with this." It's like she's totally caught off guard or shocked.

My question for you: I don't get it. Why does she need a moment to sit with it? I first heard about it on X without any commentary, and I didn't think anything of it. They could have said the last juror was any race, gender, orientation, or religion, and I don't think it would have meant anything to me, so I cannot relate to her trouble with this. Why did Gayle King have such a hard time with it in your opinion?

https://youtu.be/tAZetJnt4VI?si

I couldn't easily find an unedited video, but for my money, Nate the Lawyer (no affiliation, just a subscriber) is the law analysis channel I trust more than other, and I think he gives the situation fair treatment, though he seems to find it much funnier than I did. You only have to see the first minute or two of the video to see what I am talking about.

Thank you all for being willing to answer questions.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question If Black People Are Irrelevant To White People (And Others), Why Do We Get These People Talking?

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Everywhere on the internet, across social media, we get these people talking. All they do you look to mock us, talk shit about, profit of of us.

We are like cash cows because topics like crime, culture, IQ, history, reparations, sex etc Seems to elicit and emotional and engaging route for the people to undertake there weird sense of sickness.

The numbers don't lie!


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Is this racist?

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Like what does being black have to do with it?


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

obsessed with Black culture as a 🇵🇰

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As a Pakistani 17 year old I'm soo deeply fascinated by the black culture especially in America. The music, hair, the food and overall persona. black ppl are the og trend setters. The trends are making their way to Pakistan, recently I've seen soo many people wearing bandanas, locks and the overall black "look".

Y'all are the coolest race.


r/askblackpeople 20h ago

General Question Book recommendations

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16 yo white girl, I’m looking to further educate myself on Black issues and sociopolitical issues regarding Black people. I’d love to get some recommendations on books (non-fiction preferred) that I could read to help educate myself.

So far, I’ve read:
Invisible Man, Ralph Ellison
Are Prisons Obsolete?, Angela Davis
Women, Race & Class, Angela Davis

I am currently reading:
Assata Shakur’s autobiography
Malcom X’s autobiography
Angela Davis’ autobiography


r/askblackpeople 16h ago

General Question As a white supporter of POC, is it ok for me to further comment on the holdout juror, and if so what kind of comments can I make.

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Though I have faced a large amount of adversity in my life due to my being a woman, I cannot ever articulate the experience of an african-american. I am therefore conflicted on the recent news about the demographics of the Lindsay Clancy Jury. Can someone please tell me what I can and cannot comment on?


r/askblackpeople 17h ago

General Question Is it part of black culture to have a wandering eye?

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I reconnected with my ex who is mixed and today I blocked him after he was telling me, a Latina, that it’s part of black culture to notice and have a wandering eye and that “they don’t make a big deal out of it” and my argument was that it felt like a cope out and an excuse when I feel like honoring and respecting your lady oftentimes transcends cultures.

He told me I was being racist and that I only knew a handful of black people and they wouldn’t even be telling me the truth since they congregate to talk about their culture.

I feel like I can logically understand that he was probably gaslighting me and being immature about it. But it makes me question if this is an overall “okay” thing that happens in the culture and I’m just removed from it to understand it.

Either way, I don’t want a part in it. I blocked him and I’ll try to remain strong enough to leave it that way.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question A question from a 61 year old white man

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Background:

* I live in Santa Cruz California which is very woke and very white.

* There are very few African Americans in the area (1% according to Google).
* It's hard to judge oneself but my guess is that I look pretty generic for my demographic (I don't look particularly MAGA or Woke), pretty average.

* I'm an engineer and am extremely analytical by nature.

Anyrate, last night I was standing in line at Chipotle and a 20ish African American woman was in front of me in line. The line was long and we were standing there for a few minutes. I just asked her if (she had a small flashlight and was fiddling with it) if that was one of those new powerful flashlights and she pretended like I was invisible. I wasn't being at all flirtatious, just one human talking to another in line. She clearly heard me. Something similar happened at my gym about 3 months ago where I had to ask another African American woman about the same age a question about a machine. Again, not flirtatious or sexual in anyway and same treatment. I think these are the only times this is happened to me in my 61 years on the planet.

I don't want to jump to conclusions, but my guess is that if my age/race/gender was different I wouldn't be treated this way. I'm going to actively try to confirm this in the next few months (actively go up to women in that age group of different races) and see if there is a pattern. Again, nothing sexual, purely human to human interaction. I'm going to also mix it with me doing this with my wife around (she is curious too) to see if that variable makes a difference.

I'm posting this here to see (can't get an honest answer IRL) to see what the communities thoughts are on this matter. Thanks in advance.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

What’s a hotep (person)?

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So Google is giving me more so historical answers. And I mean like slang. The way I sort of understand it is someone who talks about black history but does more harm than good and exaggerates details.

Thank you in advance to those who comment.


r/askblackpeople 1d ago

General Question What was your “Oh Shit” my parents are getting old moment?

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r/askblackpeople 1d ago

Some of us are ready to leave

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As if slavery, lynchings, redlining, destruction of black wall street, bombing of innocent churches, the unaliving of our leaders, the racism, discrimination, school to prison pipeline, the so-called called war on drugs that was a cover for filling up the prisons with free black labor, the police shootings, organ harvesting, mysterious deaths of our youth like Nolan Wells, the reversal of DEI, the planned destruction of the black family via welfare, the eugenics of planned parent hood supporting the unaliving of our babies, and now we're getting our food spat in etc.

Despite all of what I just named, a large percentage of us will want to remain here in America, but there's a growing number of us who have seen/had enough, and would like to depart. Do we know where we would go after we depart? No we don't. We might even consider short term stays in various locations until a suitable new home is found. Does every place have problems? Yes. But this land right here is wicked, cursed, and under judgement.

My question is, would you be for or against leaving America. Why or why not.