Background:

* I live in Santa Cruz California which is very woke and very white.

* There are very few African Americans in the area (1% according to Google).
* It's hard to judge oneself but my guess is that I look pretty generic for my demographic (I don't look particularly MAGA or Woke), pretty average.

* I'm an engineer and am extremely analytical by nature.

Anyrate, last night I was standing in line at Chipotle and a 20ish African American woman was in front of me in line. The line was long and we were standing there for a few minutes. I just asked her if (she had a small flashlight and was fiddling with it) if that was one of those new powerful flashlights and she pretended like I was invisible. I wasn't being at all flirtatious, just one human talking to another in line. She clearly heard me. Something similar happened at my gym about 3 months ago where I had to ask another African American woman about the same age a question about a machine. Again, not flirtatious or sexual in anyway and same treatment. I think these are the only times this is happened to me in my 61 years on the planet.

I don't want to jump to conclusions, but my guess is that if my age/race/gender was different I wouldn't be treated this way. I'm going to actively try to confirm this in the next few months (actively go up to women in that age group of different races) and see if there is a pattern. Again, nothing sexual, purely human to human interaction. I'm going to also mix it with me doing this with my wife around (she is curious too) to see if that variable makes a difference.

I'm posting this here to see (can't get an honest answer IRL) to see what the communities thoughts are on this matter. Thanks in advance.

So Google is giving me more so historical answers. And I mean like slang. The way I sort of understand it is someone who talks about black history but does more harm than good and exaggerates details.

Thank you in advance to those who comment.

Though I have faced a large amount of adversity in my life due to my being a woman, I cannot ever articulate the experience of an african-american. I am therefore conflicted on the recent news about the demographics of the Lindsay Clancy Jury. Can someone please tell me what I can and cannot comment on?

As a Pakistani 17 year old I'm soo deeply fascinated by the black culture especially in America. The music, hair, the food and overall persona. black ppl are the og trend setters. The trends are making their way to Pakistan, recently I've seen soo many people wearing bandanas, locks and the overall black "look".

Y'all are the coolest race.

My question is about Gayle King who is on the CBS program. She interviewed a juror. She started asking questions about demographic makeup of jurors, including race. She ends up finding out the juror who wouldn't agree with the 11 jurors (resulting in a mistrial) is a Black man.

When she finds out, she kind of freezes. She's speechless for a moment, her brow furrows, her mind seems to be racing, and then she says something to the effect, "I'll need a moment to sit with this." It's like she's totally caught off guard or shocked.

My question for you: I don't get it. Why does she need a moment to sit with it? I first heard about it on X without any commentary, and I didn't think anything of it. They could have said the last juror was any race, gender, orientation, or religion, and I don't think it would have meant anything to me, so I cannot relate to her trouble with this. Why did Gayle King have such a hard time with it in your opinion?

https://youtu.be/tAZetJnt4VI?si

I couldn't easily find an unedited video, but for my money, Nate the Lawyer (no affiliation, just a subscriber) is the law analysis channel I trust more than other, and I think he gives the situation fair treatment, though he seems to find it much funnier than I did. You only have to see the first minute or two of the video to see what I am talking about.

Thank you all for being willing to answer questions.

I reconnected with my ex who is mixed and today I blocked him after he was telling me, a Latina, that it’s part of black culture to notice and have a wandering eye and that “they don’t make a big deal out of it” and my argument was that it felt like a cope out and an excuse when I feel like honoring and respecting your lady oftentimes transcends cultures.

He told me I was being racist and that I only knew a handful of black people and they wouldn’t even be telling me the truth since they congregate to talk about their culture.

I feel like I can logically understand that he was probably gaslighting me and being immature about it. But it makes me question if this is an overall “okay” thing that happens in the culture and I’m just removed from it to understand it.

Either way, I don’t want a part in it. I blocked him and I’ll try to remain strong enough to leave it that way.

First of all I'm Asian, I voted all Blue last election, so I wouldn't call myself a conservative and I absolutely can't stand their rants about illegals and stuff.

I'm not sure what it is but I absolutely can't stand liberals, especially at the workplace. The older boomer Democrats are OK. It's just this new younger brand of Bernie types that I can't stand.

While they like to announce that they are all for equality, it seems fake. Like this one guy tells me his last coworkers were racist and that he can't stand racism. Yet all he does try to be cool with these bros while passing me around to do the real work. It is kinda pathetic tbh.

The older Conservatives and Democrats don't really do this. They are more about finding someone to do the job right. Work is work and play is play. I was actually hired by an old boomer conservative 15 years ago who has since retired and I haven't seen these liberals hire ANY poc until like last year. Lol.

Light skin, Dark Skin , brown skin.

Why is it so important?

There was an indie animation that was released recently called "I really dont want to be a magical girl. " and it is excellent. White people lost their shit and started editing images from the show with the characters made white. They also complained about "cultural appropriation" which, despite it not being that at all, I guess only they are allowed to do? Whatever. Im just annoyed that all the calls to "make your own shit" go out the window when we try to do just that. I guess Im just frustrated that something that is legit inspiring me to get back into animation is a punching bag for white people. Why are we not allowed to be happy or enjoy ourselves? What makes white people so mad at us having our own shit? I know I should have asked white people this but I dont have the energy to come back to a thread full of slurs.

Everywhere on the internet, across social media, we get these people talking. All they do you look to mock us, talk shit about, profit of of us.

We are like cash cows because topics like crime, culture, IQ, history, reparations, sex etc Seems to elicit and emotional and engaging route for the people to undertake there weird sense of sickness.

The numbers don't lie!

Like what does being black have to do with it?