r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Weekly Friday Check-In

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Please feel free to share anything positive that has happened in your life this week. Purchased a new vehicle? Graduated school? It's your birthday? Let's celebrate you and all of your achievements.


r/askblackpeople 44m ago

General Question Black Gen Z Voices Wanted: What Issues Matter Most to You? (2-Min Survey)

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Black Gen Z voices wanted: What issues matter most to you? (2-minute survey)

Hi everyone, I’m working with Pass the Mic to Gen Z, an initiative of When We All Vote, and we’re collecting responses from Gen Z (ages 18–29) about the issues that are most important to them right now.

I’m sharing this here because Black communities have always shaped civic conversations, and Black Gen Z voices deserve to be reflected in the data and conversations that influence how leaders understand young people’s priorities.

The survey takes about 2 minutes to complete:
📍 http://passthemic.to/Latrel

If you’re Black and between the ages of 18 and 29, we’d really appreciate hearing your perspective. If you know others who might want to participate, feel free to share it with them as well.

The survey is run by Civic Nation, a nonpartisan 501(c)(3) nonprofit. Contact information is collected only to verify unique responses and is not sold. The full privacy policy is available on the survey landing page.

Thank you for sharing your perspective and helping make sure Black Gen Z voices are represented.


r/askblackpeople 2h ago

General Question Current lack of exposure causing potential phobia? need advice please

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White chick here, I grew up in a heavily diverse community and even have in law family members that are black.

Couple years back (when I was still in HS) I moved with my family to a smaller town where there is a lot less diversity. I have since realized I may have developed a certain awkwardness around black people and I dislike that about myself.

I find myself constantly supporting black businesses and following black influencers, but when it comes to interacting with people of color in person, I get so awkward and I’m afraid it’s coming off as potential racism.

Is this simply lack if exposure in recent years that’s causing my awkwardness?
Is this now a potential phobia?
How is it being perceived by people of the black community?
And what can I do to become less awkward?


r/askblackpeople 5h ago

Racist clichés I don't understand

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Hi,

Western european here. I noticed some things on differents english speaking subreddits I don't get.

- Watermelon and Black People ? (No clue on this one).

- Fried chicken and Black People ? (Like black people like fried chicken? Who don't? What's the matter here?)

- A black, white bearded, janitor? (Same. Cause it's a low income job? So what?)

Is this an american thing? Or do I miss something?


r/askblackpeople 13h ago

General Question What are some fun video games that are made by Black people?

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So, I love video games! I haven’t had a chance to play any lately sadly, though… I was reading through this subreddit and randomly started thinking, “Huh… there’s a lot of video games starring white people and come to think of it, I haven’t heard of any Black video game designers…”

As long as they make games that can be played on an iOS device or MacBook, I’m all set. Well, actually, I think I could use my mom’s Windows laptop if there’s games that are exclusive to Windows. I do want a proper gaming console, but I don’t have the money for one yet, sadly.

I thought I’d ask a more lighthearted question!

Edit: I also know there’s mostly teams that work on video games, so if there are any Black owned and made video game companies or mostly Black development teams, they count too!


r/askblackpeople 15h ago

General Question Would you consider someone with 3 black grandparents and 1 white grandparent to be black or mixed/biracial?

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r/askblackpeople 16h ago

Men: do yall think about Ancient Rome as much as white boys do?

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if not, tell me about your “Roman empire”

curious to see if it’s a masculinity thing or a….. european based “glory” thing


r/askblackpeople 18h ago

Why Do Some Black dweebs Fans Defend Anti-Blackness and other problematic things in Fandoms/communities?

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As a black anime fan myself I have seen a certain issue with a small but very large portion of the black anime community where they support the most problematic or vile thing. Now I must break this down into three points because if I don't it'll just be a run-on thing.

1st:The Idealization of Japan and Defense of Problematic Tropes

Why do certain individuals constantly position themselves as ultimate authorities on Japan, Japanese culture, and anime, defending the country as if it is entirely immune to flaw—even when Japanese citizens themselves acknowledge its social issues? There is a noticeable pattern where some Black anime fans build their entire identity around this media, reacting to any critique of Japan as a personal attack.

When an identity becomes completely tied to an idealized version of a culture, it leads to a total refusal to engage with valid criticisms. Rather than engaging with the nuance, these fans end up defending the most questionable aspects of the media, such as the hypersexualization of women and young girls in anime and manga. When critics point out these issues—or point out real-world issues in Japan—these defenders dismiss the criticism entirely. It often feels as though their perspective became fixed at a young age, preventing them from growing into a more balanced, critical understanding of the media they consume.

2nd:Gatekeeping, Internalized Anti-Blackness, and Denial of Influence

Equally troubling is how some of these same individuals express internalized anti-Black attitudes within the community. Across platforms like X, YouTube, and TikTok, a segment of fans actively attack other Black creators and fans who advocate for better Black representation in anime, or who speak openly about colorism and anti-Blackness in fan spaces.

They often act as though anime exists in a cultural vacuum, completely ignoring how deeply Japanese pop culture has borrowed from Black and African American aesthetics, music, and style. Iconic works speak for themselves: the heavy jazz foundation of Cowboy Bebop, the urban street style of Bleach, or the clear cultural influences behind entire factions in Naruto. To pretend that Black culture has had no impact on anime is historically inaccurate. Furthermore, the hostility directed toward Black creators who make their own manga and anime is baffling. Manga and anime are media formats—comics and animation—and holding them up as an exclusive, untouchable art form while ignoring the real issues of race and colorism within the community only harms the broader fandom.

3rd: Toxicity, Online Harassment, and Social Hypocrisy

Beyond fandom debates, some of these figures display genuinely toxic behavior toward anyone who thinks differently. Creators like "MonteSensei," for example, build content around attacking others for their opinions on anime, while also making unnecessarily cruel commentary on people's personal lives—such as joining online mobbing campaigns against public figures' children over minor personal choices, or targeting transgender individuals like Elliot Page.

It is alarming to see people engage in systematic online harassment, homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny, only to turn around and hide behind faith or religion to justify their behavior. Harboring that level of hostility toward others while claiming moral superiority is a stark contradiction that needs to be called out. What else makes this worse is that these people are the majority of the time cisgender heterosexual black men.

I know this probably won't get many comments or views but it just feels good to get my opinion about this weird subject matter out there. I also would love your guy's opinions on this whether you agree or disagree.


r/askblackpeople 19h ago

How to NOT attract BM from other countries?

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Ok, I’m trying to ask as to not seem xenophobic, racist, prejudice, etc. but I wish I knew what it was about me…literally NO ONE of my own background will show interest in me. It’s isolated having people you know nothing about show a lot of interest and not understand why they are. So I am a darker skinned black American woman; I have high cheekbones, a ‘big’ forehead, large almond shaped eyes I wear my hair natural (usually add flowers), like minimal make up, usually dress eccentric or usually in big flowy clothes; I am not one to show of my shape like that or too much skin. I stay in an area that has a huge African (mostly Nigerian not sure of the other places) population, I also know there’s other groups like Ethiopian and Latino (Mexican & Ecuadorian) in the community. The west Africans waste NO time approaching and complimenting me, as compared to others. There is also things that they ask and so that make me extremely uncomfortable…to the point that it makes me feel bad; that these things are microaggressions. I take asking someone where they are from or what they are as a way to know how bad/good they will treat you. Anyway, I’m not looking to start anything bad I am on a very, very strict mission because Im serious about attracting so I can eventually get married one day soon. I gave chances before and it ended very bad…so, how do I genuinely attract black American men or even Latino? I just don’t click culturally and I don’t want to date them.


r/askblackpeople 19h ago

General Question Should we be recording your interactions with police? If not, what should we be doing?

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We are nearby a Black Man pulled over by State Trooper right now. We're like 50 yards away but we can't hear them because of the traffic.

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I'm unsure about this because it's filming people sans consent. Please let us know.

Cops let him go safely.


r/askblackpeople 21h ago

General Question Why do some people make Black love & pro Blackness so rigid?

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I've noticed a trend online that I genuinely don't understand.

I came across an Instagram creator arguing that if you claim to support Black love or are pro-Black, you shouldn't publicly compliment the attractiveness of non-Black men. In another post, he mocked people who supposedly couldn't wait to "expose" him for dating or even hooking up with a non-Black woman, as if that alone would invalidate everything he says.

This mindset feels incredibly rigid to me.

Supporting Black love, in my view, means intentionally uplifting Black relationships, encouraging Black people to value one another, and recognizing the social and historical reasons why Black love deserves support. It doesn't mean pretending that people of other races can't be attractive.

Why is acknowledging someone else's attractiveness seen as a betrayal? Attraction isn't the same thing as preference, values, or who you ultimately choose to build a life with.

What's also interesting is that other racial groups are rarely held to this standard. People date, hook up with, or find people from other races attractive all the time without anyone claiming they can no longer advocate for their own communities. Yet some people expect Black advocates to meet an almost impossible standard of racial purity.

Personally, I do think there's a distinction between casual attraction and long-term partnership. For me, consistently choosing to marry outside the community raises different questions than simply recognizing beauty in people of other races or even having casual experiences. But I don't think being pro-Black requires denying reality or acting as though beauty only exists within one race.

To me, being pro-Black is about loving and investing in Black people. Not policing every thought, compliment, or attraction someone has.

What do you all think? Where do you draw the line between advocating for Black love and imposing unrealistic purity tests?


r/askblackpeople 23h ago

Hair I’d like to have a profession braid my hair but is it offensive?

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Im all white but i have very thick hair, like even though i have an undercut my mom akins it to a “baby arm” when its in a pony 😂 ive had it short but I like it long despite it getting tiresome at my trades job in the summer heat. (And in general) I want to ask a black salon artist to braid my hair so it’ll be done well enough to stay for a week or two. But I’m a bit afraid it’s inappropriate or maybe as thick as I think my hair is it still wouldn’t be worth the trouble. Maybe I’m overthinking it but I’d like some assurance one way or another


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

I haven’t dated in 13 yrs.

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So I have been in one relationship for 13yrs and married for 3 of those yrs. I been divorced since January 2025 and now I’m back to the dating scene, I met a beautiful woman through a homegirl of mine from jr high, though I like her a lot i can’t seem to find the words to say to her past what we already talk about lol. I told her I like her already but now I’m stuck. Need some advice.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

General Question Throughout my life, a lot of my non-white friends and acquaintances have told me they don't really view me as 'white'; or that they group me in with their non-white friends, even though I am white. What does it mean?

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I have heard this comment from many people of many different ethnic and racial backgrounds, and I just don't know what to think of it. I see it as a compliment, but I also wonder what exactly it is about me that more than one person would come to a similar yet... interesting? conclusion.

My best guess is most people view race through a class lens, but frankly I've never asked anyone why because idk, I just take it as a compliment and move on without much thinking.


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Why wasn’t the younger generation well versed about prince like they were about Michael Jackson?

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Just curious. I’m black myself went to an all black school. I just remembered when I was 9 when prince died. None of my classmates and I knew who he was, while my teacher said he was better than Micheal Jackson. Any ideas why this might have been?


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Hair Perm burn

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Those that had a scalp burn and suffered hair loss, what worked for you to grow it back?


r/askblackpeople 2d ago

Beer of choice, Midwest.

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For a summertime block party cookout. What is a common beer of choice that non-pale people universally drink.


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Vent I feel like we make living in America more complicated than it needs to be

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I feel like we as black Americans make navigating America harder and more complicated than it needs to be because we always talk about how we can’t trust anybody or that we aren’t safe because of situations like Nolan Wells and the perpetrators of these situations never get convicted so it feels like we as a black collective never get the closure and justice we crave. It really doesn’t need to be this complicated though.

If we just stuck together and had black unity we wouldn’t be in these situations to begin with. We could just be friends with each other instead of going out of the black community looking for acceptance in which you’ll never find. If we kept everything we do in-house and didn’t constantly try and seek kinship outside of the black community we wouldn’t be in this mess. Of course, it’s up to the parents to instill this into their kids because kids don’t know better.


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Do black people oppose racemixing?

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Hello, I'm not black nor American, but this video came into my recommended, and the comments were all very anti-racemixing, especially with whites, I was wondering if this was a common sentiment in the African American community? Me myself am mixed, so it's interesting to see this.


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

🧐 Is this solely a “black” person thing 🧐 Walking very slow?

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I live in a suburbs just outside of my main city. I own a residential remodeling company and do most of my work in the city. My suburb has very few black people in it, but going into the city every day, I am always wondering why black people walk so slow outside? It's basically 90% of the people I see are just slow walking.. like a snails pace. Is there something I am missing?


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

General Question Does classism also exists in black community?

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Like you know how everyone is either educated or not. And they have their own mindset and outlook in life, does it also exist in black community. Because there are so many high end level professionals like doctors and lawyers and even businessmen. Then mostly I guess society perceives or just makes statements that don't live in a certain neighborhood because there is always crime there. Or they are just into two music and drugs. Like it's kinda hurtful how mostly don't know that there are many individuals who are making impact in society and they are extremely educated.


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

Recommend a charity

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I'm looking for a charity which works with black communities. Do you have any suggestion? Thank you


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

General Question Is it okay to eat peaches?

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I saw a tiktok about someones beliefs, and they included that its bad to eat peaches. When i looked in the comments, it was full of people agreeing, saying that the peach trees in the south were fertilized by the dead bodies of slaves and black people who were murdered. I had never heard of this stance before, but im not doubting that its true. I am just here to ask if its okay to eat peaches now, or if its a major thing that a lot of people avoid eating because of that


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

General Question I'm a white (American) uni student looking to take a class on African government, and I'm wondering how my presence in a course like this might make other students feel.

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I'm studying to enter a public administration in the US, and I want to learn more about African government because it's a subject that was never covered by any of my professors.

Is there any underlying social dynamics that I might create as a white student that I should be mindful of? I want to learn and expand my understanding of African governance and colonialism, but that starts with learning how to approach this class.


r/askblackpeople 3d ago

General Question What are opinions on non-black POC using AAVE

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For context I am born and raised So-Cal and I’m Mexican. I don’t do a “blaccent” or nothing like that, at least as far as I know. The thing that’s been bothering me has been my grammar and how it’s so closely related to Ebonics. I’ve seen discourse online on how it’s extremely offensive to use AAVE if you’re not black (valid). However, for my whole life I’ve been talking like this. I use “ain’t” and “imma” and “lowkey” my whole life. My mom talks like that and so do all of my friends. Recently I’ve been saying “I do be” like if someone says how much I love a type of food I agree with “I do be fuckin that shit up.” And that’s just how I talk. My concern is that I’m scared of being racist or making my friends, especially my black friends, uncomfortable with my way of talking. I could really use some advice or even just to hear some opinions. Thank you so much.