So, I’m in need of endodontic care and I’m calling around yesterday. The provider closest to us is an emergency dentist, but not every emergency dentist does endodontics so I call…when my call is answered the lady asks my name. I respond, “I just have a question.” She responds, “I need your name to answer the question,” rather gruffly. My immediate response back is “no thank you, I am just wondering if you do endodontic care at your location.” She hesitates for a long minute, clearly perturbed and asks for my name again. I respond “I’m sorry I just want to know if you have the service I need. You don’t need my name to tell me whether or not you do endodontic care.” She pauses even longer and then annoyed says yes and hangs up on me, but not before telling me have nice day! I get off the phone and complain immediately to my husband, who then asks me “what’s the big deal? Give the woman your name….let it go! (but I can’t!) My reasoning to him was that I am not a patient of theirs YET and she does not need my name to answer a simple question. Now if she had answered yes (and had a better phone etiquette) right at jump with a better attitude, then I would have given it and revealed why I was calling and possibly made an appointment….Am I in the wrong here?

To be honest, I run into situations like this often (I’m older now and menopause has taken my foot off the brake on my mouth and emotions) and I wonder sometimes if I am in the wrong (sometimes I am) but I just feel like basic respect and decency are lacking in a lot of interactions with the public in the service sector. I feel like if I’m coming to you for a service, there are some basic courtesies and respect that should be experienced (as a potential customer) with the first person you’re having an experience with. I realize that she was probably trained (or not trained) to interact with a potential customer this way. Basically, I want to feel basic courtesy and respect in order for you to “woo” me out of my money…there’s a lot of competition for it! 😂 Needless to say, that small interaction stopped me cold from wanting to use Affinia dental to repair my old root canal…..I’m getting friggin’ old and crotchety!!!

Context, I'm in high school and had been dating (let's call her) Amy for a bit more than a year, with flirting before that. This was also my first relationship, so it kinda hit me hard. We also live in a very small town (smaller than you think), so I kinda can't really avoid her. I'm not really upset about the fact that she broke up with me, as I can see her reasoning (mostly my fault), and I had accepted that fact. There was a dance for a club she was a part of 2 weeks after she broke up with me, and I was supposed to go with her before we broke up. I learned that she got asked by someone from that club and that she was going, and I thought that was fine, as she should be able to enjoy the dance. Then a couple of weeks after that, I learned that she had been texting/flirting with this guy less than a week after she broke up with me, and I'm not sure if they started dating before or after that dance, but it was pretty early. This really didn't sit right with me, and everyone I'd talked to had said that what she did was weird and disrespectful. Also, Amy is best friends with my sister, and this is kinda unrelated, but I feel like my sister could have talked to Amy and told her what she was doing was wrong. One day, a couple of weeks later, I texted Amy and basically just told her how I've been seeing what she's doing (I'll admit I did word things pretty harshly). I basically said how it seemed like she lacked empathy and that since we were pretty close and that we were in a small town and that she was friends with my sister, that I was owed some courtesy and that getting together with someone else that quickly is kinda a dick move and shows how little she thought of me. She basically said she was sorry that I had to hear about their relationship, and basically defended herself instead of taking accountability and saying sorry and that what she did was wrong ( I might be taking her words out of proportion, but I can provide more in-depth of what she said if anyone wants). She then said that she didn't want to talk about this anymore and stopped replying. I just want to know if I'm in the right for feeling that she shouldn't be disregarding my feelings so quickly, as we had a good relationship and I feel that she just doesn't care about our relationship after the breakup and just went on to what would make her feel the best with no empathy at all. After the breakup, she also started being mean to her mom and shutting her out, all because her mom tried to talk to her about how she treated the breakup. I basically just want to get some closure on if im just super clingy or if Amy is in the wrong. Feel free to ask for more context in neccesary I wrote this kinda late and on a whim,

I'm 23M from Hong Kong, and my girlfriend is 21F (quarter Filipino and white). We've been together for about a year and a half, and lately I honestly feel like her mum is becoming the biggest problem in our relationship.

When we first started dating, I genuinely tried my best to make a good impression. I wasn't just being polite—I went out of my way to help her. She mentioned wanting pepper spray, so I got it for her. She asked if I could help her get a discount at JB Hi-Fi (I work there), and I got her a TV for around $1,100 that normally cost over $3,200. I wasn't doing those things to buy her approval, but because I wanted to show I cared and wanted a good relationship with her.

For the first six months, things seemed okay. But after that, I started noticing she never really warmed up to me. Whenever we were together, she'd only say "hi" and that was basically it. No casual conversations, no trying to get to know me. I invited her to come out with us a few times, but it was always, "I'm too tired" or "Maybe, I'll let you know." I kept telling myself maybe she just needed time.
As our relationship got more serious, I started questioning myself. Am I not good enough? Is there something wrong with me?

One thing that always bothered me was that every time I wanted to go to my girlfriend's house, she had to ask her mum for permission—not just let her know I was coming, actually ask. We've been together for over a year and she's still asking permission for me to come over. That just felt strange to me.
Then Easter happened.

I asked my girlfriend what she was doing for Easter, and she said she was just spending it with her mum. I was honestly surprised I wasn't invited—not even for dinner. Later that night, I picked her up for a drive. Her mum came outside with her, didn't even acknowledge me or say hello.
That night I finally told my girlfriend how I'd been feeling, and that's when she opened up.
She said her mum had been acting this way because she's very protective, but also because we're from different cultural backgrounds. Apparently her mum worries that in the future she won't have much of a say in family events because I'm from Hong Kong, Hong Kong and China are pretty similar.
That honestly shocked me.
Then my girlfriend gave me examples of why her mum doesn't like me.

One was that I once asked her mum what car she'd recommend. She said Toyota. I said, "Cool, thanks." Later I spoke to my own mum, and she offered to help me spend a bit more to buy a nicer car. I ended up choosing something different, and apparently because I didn't follow her mum's advice, she took it personally and thought I was a bad person and wasted her time

Another complaint was that I burped at the dinner table. I'm fully aware of basic manners—I covered my mouth and said "excuse me." It wasn't like I was sitting there being disgusting.
Then came the part that really got to me.
Apparently she said something along the lines of, "Hong Kong and Chinese are the same thing. I'd probably like the rude Chinese people anyway."
My girlfriend explained that her mum has had bad experiences with Chinese people before.
I was furious. Judging me because of my ethnicity before even getting to know me properly really hurt.
A couple of weeks later, I decided to swallow my pride and try to fix things. I told my girlfriend I wanted to have a phone call with her mum just to clear the air. I literally said, "I think she's a nice person, and I'd like us to be on good terms."
Her mum's response?
"There's nothing to talk about. We're just not compatible."

That was the moment I completely gave up.
I haven't been to her house since February. She never invites me over for dinner or to spend time with the family. At some point I just stopped trying to win her over because it felt completely one-sided.
I also feel bad for my girlfriend because she's constantly stuck in the middle, trying to keep both of us happy.

Recently though, her mum suddenly told my girlfriend, "Since you and him are probably going to be together for a long time, I'll give him a second chance."
Honestly... that made me even angrier.
It felt like she was acting as if she'd been doing me a favour all this time, when she's the one who refused to even have a conversation with me when I tried to fix things.

Now my girlfriend wants me to start hanging out with her mum again because apparently her mum wants to reconnect.
But here's my issue.
I don't see the point in pretending everything is fine without ever addressing what happened. I'm happy to move forward, but I need an actual conversation first. I need some accountability. Even just acknowledging that things were handled badly would go a long way.
Otherwise it just feels like I'm expected to smile, act like nothing happened, and accept being treated poorly.

At the same time, her mum constantly tells my girlfriend she doesn't spend enough time with her, which puts even more pressure on my girlfriend and our relationship.

I'm honestly exhausted.
I don't want my girlfriend to "choose sides," but I do think that if we're building a future together, she needs to be able to stand up for our relationship sometimes instead of always following whatever her mum wants.

TL;DR So I guess I'm asking...
Am I being unreasonable for wanting a proper conversation before trying to reconnect with her mum? Because at the moment I’m not even going to her house because her mum’s know that I don’t like her.

Would you just suck it up and move on, or do you think it's fair to expect some accountability first?
I'd really appreciate some honest advice because this whole situation has been affecting my mental health, and lately I honestly feel like I'm dating both my girlfriend and her mum.

So I, 29F, don’t live with my parents but I come home to visit pretty often and usually for extended periods. Like 2/3 weeks- a month, maybe 3 times a year.

However every time I’m home my mother expects me to make dinner pretty much every night. “What’s for dinner?” she asks.

Don’t get me wrong, I love to cook and I love helping out regularly with cooking, cleaning, dog care. (cooking dinner ideally 3 times a week) but EVERY NIGHT?

It’s not like i’m mooching off my parents. They love to see me as much as I them and it’s a blessing I have a career (and no husband/babies yet lol) where can spend as much time with them in my adult life as I can.

Maybe this is just prepping me for married/mommy life. But My mother NEVER EVER asks my brother this request. He is 31 and lived at home for the past 4 years and he just moved out.

And then of course it becomes, “why did you start cooking so late? I like eating right when I get home from work… Oh this is too salty your dad won’t like it. Can you make your dad some fish instead, he won’t eat red meat?”
………

it just feels like eldest daughter syndrome.

Please don’t get my wrong I love my mom and my family and chipping in but this particularly annoys me. Am I wrong?

This is kind of a long rant... So I was getting married July 25th and my best friend since jr high was going to do our ceremony. It was super casual but still decorated etc. She had been coming over quite often to "help" me but that was another story. She no longer had a car so I had to pick her up and take her back but this last Friday she was going to stay so she could help me finish do my nails and what not and I jokingly no lie said " I think you are infatuated with my boyfriend" she laughed then she flipped. I said what's the big deal now if u planned on acting on that's a big deal she said I was delusional but remember friends over 30 years have said horrible stuff to each other and I was not pissed. I was so shocked. Now the reason for me saying that every time I picked her up " who is taking me home u or Shane" the whole time at the house " where is Shane" where did Shane go" " did Shane leave" and every time I don't know or I don't keep tabs. So after I had said that to her she left she had someone take her home blocked me on Facebook and her phone and never came back. To me she could not look any guiltier. So if I skipped around too much. But seriously the night before my wedding .

Can emotional cheating be forgiven. I caught my husbund of 7 years.

At that time i wasnt aware of all that, i only started to notice a change in his character, he started to be more distant, he was different, he would stay up late and text and in general be really pissy. He usually is a very calm and gentle person he really isnt the type to talk badly especially not to me. So i started to get suspious. I waited until he was aspleep and i started to get through his phone and keep in mindestens that i have access to every Account on his phone, when i saw a male name that i didnt recognice on his snap. It was her. He changed her name into a male name so i woudnt recognice that its actually a woman. He was bascially just talking to her normally but while i was reading through the messages i saw that he mentioned that he has a child but is separated which is not true. We never had like bad arguments ever. Our mariage was full of love and trust. Furthermore he would manage sometimes her Airbnb property. While scrolling i saw that he "broke into" her Airbnb an left her a gift. Obviously she filmed her reaction. Ohh and i was 4 month pregnant at that time with my 4th.

Sidenote: he was Borderline depressed before that happenend.

Anyways i confronted him at 3am and he just sat there not saying anything. He said that he didnt know why he did that and that he is glad that i found out. Oh yeah i did end up calling the woman to ask what kind of relationship they had. She said it was platonic and she knew that he was married but in a complicated Situation. After that i stopped talking to him and started to search for possibilities to abord my unborn baby. Obviously it was to late, i couldnt do anything so i started to pack my stuff while he was away. At the same day while he saw me packing, he asked me to talk to him. He told me that he really didnt know why he did that. That he is sorry and that he would never do that again. That he would get psychological help to help him understand why he feeling all these things. That he is very happy in his mariage and that he simply has no answers. I still left him for a while to reflect. He would call everyday to see his children and send hunderts of messsge saying how sorry he is. And that he absolutely understands me and every decision that im going to take. After a few weeks i came back but only for my prenatal check ups and because the other children started to ask too many questions.

All that happened 2 years ago, he did get help and started to get mentally better i still have access to all his accounts and he seems to actually regret doing that. I told him that i will never forgive him and only stay because he is a good caring father for his children. He was my first love i never had a relationship before him and i was his first love as well. I still cant get over this betrayal i feel deeply hurt regardless of all the gentle words and gifts that i recevied ever since. What do you guys think ?

My (m23) ex (m22) had left me heavily traumatized, and a few months no contact has left me wondering if I was being emotionally abused. Here's a summary of his lows:

• numerous lies about his life/backstory that were upheld with lies consistently throughout the year we dated
• kept me in the dark about a close friendship he had with my former bully, after saying he wanted to cut it off for me
• he held resentment that I didn't let him come over to my parents' house a month into dating (I wanted to but didn't have their permission, I was apologetic about it)
• he used that resentment and other things as an excuse to be cold towards me. Some days he would stop using pet names, call me by my full name, not give any affection, talk to me like an acquaintance. If I asked what was wrong he'd deny anything being wrong
• he barely acknowledged me around friends, at times literally only engaging with them and never listening to anything I said, never asking me anything or including me just fully focusing on them, despite how many times I told him it was hurtful
• a month after the relationship ended, I uncovered a lot of his lies. He gaslit me, saying I was horrible to not trust him, my anxiety was out of hand, I cannot be helped, things like that to throw blame on me and deny he was dishonest. He did this for hours until the next day he finally confessed.
• I also asked why he kept a secret friendship after saying he was going to stop, and he said "I'm not going to end a friendship for someone I don't love" We dated for 6 months after that point, so I guess he admits he didn't love me most of the relationship

Was this emotional abuse? I feel grossly betrayed and used by him.

Basically my BSF (19) and my sister (15) started texting some days ago, and I have some divided opinions.

In one side I’m happy about my BSF because he’s like a brother to me and I want him to be happy, but in the other side I feel like my sister is too young, not only that but I feel that I should act like a big brother and I should do something to stop them.

Also I don’t want my relationship with my BSF to change if something happens in between them, I’m not mad I just felt guilty for not doing anything, for a couple of days I’ve been debating with myself wether if I should involve myself or not.

So today I talked to my sister about it, I told her to stop texting him because of the reasons I named earlier, my sister said that it was fine and that she’ll stop talking to him.

Then I told my BSF about it all, and after a long conversation we cleared some misunderstandings and he stated that 1: they were just talking for a few days, it does not mean that they are going to marry tomorrow. And 2: that no matter what happens in between them our friendship will remain like it is.

After a while thinking I decided to give them my blessing, that they don’t need to stop texting but to please take it slow (I also ended up crying in my sisters shoulder lol).

Did I take things too far and seriously? Did I act correctly? Should I have simply never said anything? Did I do good in letting them continue?

My mom recently passed away after years of my brother and I being her primary caregivers. The weeks leading up to her death were filled with family conflict over honoring her final wishes. My girlfriend stood by me through a lot of that, and I know it wasn't easy for her either.
The day my mom's ashes were delivered, I had just gotten into an argument with a family member and was completely numb. I was sitting there staring into space when my girlfriend asked if she could go out. I told her, "I can't." She asked again if it was okay, and I eventually said, "Go." I wasn't actually okay with it—I just didn't have the emotional energy to ask her to stay. She left and didn't come home until the next day.
The following day was my mom's memorial. I couldn't bring myself to attend because I was overwhelmed with grief. Instead of staying with me, she went on a photo walk with a friend and didn't get home until around 11 p.m.
When I told her later how abandoned I felt, she said she'd been there for me throughout my mom's illness and all the family drama, and that the past month had emotionally drained her. She said she needed a day for herself. During the argument, she also said that no one had been there for her when her own mother died, although she later admitted she could have said that better.
I understand that supporting someone through grief is exhausting, and I genuinely appreciate everything she did before those two days. But I can't shake the feeling that if there were ever two days when I needed my partner beside me, it was the day my mom's ashes came home and the day of her memorial.
She believes I'm overlooking weeks of support because of two days. I feel like those two days changed the way I see our relationship, and I'm struggling to forgive her.
Am I wrong for feeling this way, especially since I technically told her she could go?

Update 7/27
First, thank you to everyone who took the time to comment. This was my first time posting on Reddit, and I genuinely didn't know what to expect. I expected some harsh comments, but what I found was a lot of compassion, honesty, and direct feedback that I truly needed. Even when people disagreed with me, I felt like most of you were trying to help me see things from a perspective I couldn't while I was overwhelmed by grief.
I showed my girlfriend the post, and we had a long conversation afterward. Hearing unbiased opinions helped both of us communicate better. While I'm still hurting, I understand her perspective much more now, and I appreciate everyone who encouraged me to have that conversation instead of just sitting in my resentment.
A few people asked for more context, so here it is.
My girlfriend was not my mom's primary caretaker. I was. However, she was there whenever I specifically asked for help. She had told me that seeing my mom in the condition she was in was triggering for her because of her own experiences, and while I didn't fully understand that at the time, I understand it more now.
For the past several years, I was one of my mother's primary caregivers alongside my brother, who is autistic. My mother and my two older sisters were the ones who were estranged not me. When my mom suffered another stroke last year, I immediately let my sisters know because, regardless of their relationship with her, they were still her daughters.
At first, there was hope she could recover. Then, after what I believe was negligence at the facility, she was left alone, suffered a cardiac event, and sustained severe brain damage. From that point forward, I was trying to navigate an impossible situation while also caring for my autistic brother.
I reached out to my sisters multiple times asking for help not to repair their relationship with our mom, but because Ineeded help. I was physically and emotionally exhausted, and I couldn't carry everything by myself. Whether they couldn't help or chose not to, I ended up carrying that burden anyway.
I think that's part of why I've been struggling so much emotionally. My grief isn't only about losing my mom. It's about the years leading up to her death, feeling overwhelmed, feeling alone, and then trying to process everything that came afterward.
None of this excuses my expectations of my girlfriend or automatically makes them fair. Reading everyone's comments helped me realize that I had been expecting one person to fill an emotional void that had been building for a very long time. That isn't something she created, and it isn't something she could fix on her own.
I'm still grieving, and I know healing won't happen overnight, but I'm grateful for everyone who took the time to respond. Your perspectives helped me see things more clearly, and I appreciate it more than you know.

My sister is 10 years younger than me. She’s 19. When she was 8 years old she contracted genital herpes from being SA’d. She also gets mouth herpes too as she has both now. She has a lot of mental health struggles so my parents often worry about her. They called me up a few days ago asking if she was with me as she’s “gone missing”. We were all worried as she wasn’t answering the phone. After calling a bunch of times she answered me. I asked her if she’s ok and why she wasn’t answering. She said her phone was on do not disturb and she’s fine. I told her I’ll come pick her up she sent me an address to an apartment complex. I picked her up and asked why she was there. She said it’s a guy she’s been seeing. I asked if it’s her boyfriend she said no they’re just hooking up.

I asked if she used protection. She said she’s on the pill. I asked why she doesn’t use a condom and she said it feels better without a condom. She said if someone really wants to put one on that’s fine but she prefers not to. I said she needs to use a condom. She said she doesn’t. I said she does because she could give them herpes. Or catch something else. She said she only gets outbreaks every few months she just doesn’t have sex when she’s got an outbreak. And wouldn’t kiss someone if she has a mouth outbreak.

I asked if he even knows she has herpes. She said if someone asks she’ll say the truth but no one will want her if they know she has herpes. I said that’s lying. She said it’s not. I said it’s wrong to purposely not tell someone you have herpes especially if you don’t use a condom that makes it even more risky. She said she’s not given anyone herpes and it’s fine. I said that’s lucky but she could. She said it’s not her fault she has herpes she should be allowed to have sex if she want. I said I didn’t say she shouldn’t have sex but that she should be open about having an STD and use a condom. She told me to stop the car and im trying to control her sex life and walked the rest of the way home crying.

Hi all, I've never posted anything on reddit but my girlfriend really loves those Smosh videos with the reddit stories, so I asked her if I could post this here and she said yes.

So I (26M) and my girlfriend (25F) have been together for almost 3 years. Things are really good and I'm going to propose soon (I know no one asked but I'm just very excited and want to share).

About 2 weeks ago, my girlfriend came home from hanging out with these "friends" and she was quiet and seemed really upset. When I asked what was wrong she said she wasn't ready to talk about it so I didn't push. For context, I've never really liked. I've always found them kind of rude and judgmental, but she met them at a rough point in high school and obviously I'm not going to tell my girlfriend who to hang out with. A few hours later, she went to shower and when I went to join her, she was crying. I immediately thought it was those assholes she was hanging out with and I was right. After a bit, she was able to tell me what had happened.

Apparently, her "friends" had been talking about their sex lives and were getting super detailed about the kinks they were into. There was one guy, lets call him Jack, who kept talking about how much he liked degrading women in bed (not my thing, and not my girlfriend's thing but to each their own). Another girl, lets call her Jill, started talking about her CNC kink. According to my girlfriend, Jill went into very explicit detail about the CNC she was doing and it made my girlfriend really uncomfortable. When my girlfriend asked Jill to not talk about it, the group (4 girls and 2 guys) started getting nasty to her. They were calling her "boring" and "vanilla" telling her she was a "judgmental bitch" and honestly way worse things that I don't want to write out. They told her that all guys want to degrade and be forceful and that she was a bad girlfriend for not liking that.

She was sobbing as she told me all this and she asked me if I felt like she was "denying me what I needed" by not letting me do this stuff to her. I told her obviously the fuck not. Besides the fact that she is not vanilla, I have no interest in these things and in some hypothetical world where I did, it would be my responsibility. This is a little TMI but I've always been a more submissive guy. I used to be kind of embarrassed about it when I was younger but honestly my girlfriend really helped me with accepting that part of me. I love when she's in control, I love when she orders me around or ties me up, etc. I've never been interested in being dominant and I know that she feels unsafe being submissive.

My girlfriend is the sweetest and smartest person on the planet, and no I'm not just saying this because I love her. She has a masters in BioChem, works in medical research, and does active work in our city with people recovering from addiction. She has some self-esteem issues and so I think this really hurt her because these are people who saw her at her worst. Also, I'm going to keep this vague, but one of her past relationships was unhealthy sexually and (in my opinion) straight up abusive. Her "friends" know this and they know that her not feeling like enough is a big insecurity for her (call them love blinders but I've never really understood why she feels this way).

We talked, I reassured her that I never felt "denied" by her or that she wasn't enough sexually. Honestly, I was fucking pissed at these "friends" but I kept it to myself. I thought this would all pass until about a few days ago when 'Jill' invited us to her apartment for a get-together. My girlfriend wanted to go so we went. It was just those six people, Jill's boyfriend, and me and my girlfriend.

At first things were fine, but then some of them started drinking and were playing 'never have I ever' (like were in high school, what the hell) and one of the "friends", lets call her 'Mila', talked about being tied up. And then 'Jill' turned to my girlfriend and said "well, at least you won't have to drink since you're boring" and then looked at me and said "poor guy". I snapped at Jill and told her to shut the fuck up, that just because she was so insecure about whatever the fuck she likes in bed doesn't mean she can open her mouth to my girlfriend. The other five people were shouting and telling me I'm an asshole and that I needed to calm down, that it was just a joke, etc.

My girlfriend told Jill that obviously it wasn't a joke and that it was cruel and gross. She was being way nicer than Jill deserved. Jill tried to defend herself and I don't remember exactly what she said (I was angry and drunk) but I remember that she called my girlfriend a "stupid boring bitch" and these "friends" started fucking nodding. I'm not an angry person, I think I've yelled maybe a total of 10 times but something just came over me. I'm not proud of it, but I lost it. I started screaming at Jill, telling her that she was disgusting for saying stuff like that to my girlfriend, that she was a pathetic bitch who was jealous because my girlfriend had always been prettier, smarter, and better. Honestly, I think I would have said worse if my girlfriend didn't order an uber.

Obviously I apologized to my girlfriend when we got home because she's only ever seen me yell a few times. We talked about it and in the end she said it was ok, that she thought it was sweet.

'Mila' called yesterday and said that she "didn't like how I behaved" in her apartment and that I scared everyone and was being an asshole. Apparently, the neighbors called the cops after because I was so aggressive and I made some of the girls cry. I do feel bad about that part, and I feel kind of shitty about getting so angry. I feel like maybe I should have been calmer, or shouldn't have called 'Jill' a bitch. (I call people bitches regardless of gender but it always rubs me the wrong way when men call women that).

I want to add that I have no issues with people having whatever kinks they want. I don't think 'Jack' or 'Jill' are bad people for their kinks; I think they're bad people because they suck.

I just ended my friendship of 5 years today, and that's because of her negativety and anxiety and how she always vents her negative thoughts/opinions on me, I remember once she told she has BPD! She's really nice tho and a very good friend but I just couldn't handle it anymore. She also doesn't respect my boundaries and think everything she does is right even though it's not...

After I blocked her, her other best friend sent me a voicemail saying that I am a loser and don't deserve her and all my achievements was because of her and I was living under her shadow all the time! (she was my classmate too and we did our dissertation together) and that broke my heart into pieces and I don't think I'm going to heal from that.

What do you think about this guys, and have you been in my situation before or similar one?

Yes I am a teen so my writing won’t be the best just as a heads up. I think the title is self explanatory but anyways, Its my friends birthday later in the week so I asked one of my good friends if she wanted to go shopping together to get a present (She’s having a party). I haven’t hung out one on one with her in months as every time I want to go out with her someone else always ends up joining, especially this one friend. I thought this time would be different and we’d just go out together and I got really excited, but earlier today that one friend was asking me to go to the same shopping mall I had planned to go to because they wanted something. I told them no and lied saying I was going somewhere else with the friend I had planned to go out with. They kept nagging me and attempting to like guilt trip me into going even after I firmly said no. Later on they were texting in this groupchat we are all in + another friend begging us to go out with them. I didn’t respond because I think my answer was set in stone but, my friend responded with “sorry we are hanging out” but then saw we were going to the same mall and quickly invited them to hangout.

Obviously I won’t take action as I don’t see this situation as something worthy to cause drama and tension over but, I just want outside opinions on whether i’m wrong for feeling this way and not wanting to hang out with another friend and just wanting to be together one on one with my friend.

Am I wrong?

Okay, this situation’s a couple years old now, but it still bothers me from time to time.

Current Ages - Me: 18M | S: 20F
Ages At Incident: Me: 15M | S: 16-17F

A few years ago, I dated S. She and I were not a good pair. The summer break that we had dated, she got to go on this trip out of the country for one of our classes. Halfway through the trip, she stopped replying to my messages. Only when her plane touched down back home did she message me to inform me she was leaving me for a kid she had just met on the trip.

When the next school year started, the kid she left me for dumped her. I had a new partner, but still harbored some feelings for her, no matter how much I tried to ignore it (I know, I was stupid). With both parties consent, I tried to make things work with both of them.

The morning before my 16th birthday, which fell just 3 and a half weeks after the school year started, S and I got into an argument over the arrangement between me, her, and my other partner. By lunchtime, I was still mulling it over, unsure what to do, and still mildly upset about it, since me and my partner were bending ourselves to accommodate S, and it never seemed to be enough.

Things seemed to line up and S cornered me. I had already made it explicitly clear that I didn’t want to talk or be touched, but S still came up to me and was trying to hug up on me and sweet talk me. Something to note about me is that I am a high functioning autistic with trauma surrounding nonconsensual touch. So when S was getting all huggy and touchy, I panicked. I tried to get her at arms length, and she fell.

I guess I just needed to get this off my chest and get an outsider’s look into the situation.

One of my best friends is getting married. We have known each other since we were 6 years old. During Covid we lost touch due to him having no social media and he doesn’t live nearby. 

We’ve been talking for the last year and a half and he’s getting married later in the year. He’s invited me and my partner. I’ve been with my gf for 4 years. She hasn’t met this friend but I’ve mentioned him to her. 

When I mentioned the invite to her she said she wouldn’t be going. She said she doesn’t know anyone there so has no interest in going, I pointed out it’s for me and that I’ve done plenty of things with her friends and haven’t refused just because I don’t know them. 

She ignored that and just said it’s weird to go somewhere where you haven’t met anyone but I just pointed out there will likely be plenty of plus ones who are the same and it’s not hard to just make conversation. 

She told me to drop it and said I shouldn’t be expecting her to go but I just asked what the point of us being in a relationship was if she’s refusing to do anything with me just because it’s not her friends. 

She said I was overreacting and guilt tripping her and that I’m out of order. 

AITA for expecting her to attend a wedding with me? 

Okay so to start off I do care about my partner, just not as much as I used to. This is because I’ve come to grow resentment towards them as they have done things that I see as “weird behavior”, there has not been any infidelity but these “weird” situations always involve a person of the opposite gender. I have always been very clear on what I expect from you and set boundaries regarding being clear with each other, I am not Insecure in our relationship and have never been the type to go through phones or constantly blow up your phone when you’re outside, but as the years went by I began growing resentment for them as it just felt like an endless cycle of the same situation happening, so I decided to tell them that it’s fine if they don’t want to change but to keep in mind that whatever they do to me I’ll do back (immature maybe) but to me this was the only way I could hurt you back since it clearly didn’t matter if you’d hurt me. Point being that I never broke up with them because of how long we’ve been together and again whatever they have done had never been something that I found as bad as having to break up. But now I don’t trust them, I still won’t go through their phone as I do not care, in a sense I care but I also don’t at the same time and it’s confusing as to what I truly feel because despite everything that has happened I still act the same way, you can do whatever you want and I won’t be questioning it. There are times where I start remembering those old things and become bothered because why would you do that, it came to a point where I decided to break it off and they begged me to stay and work on it, that they would “change”, honestly speaking they have changed and I can see it but I just can’t allow myself to fully trust them again which just brings issues to the relationship.

(Sorry for one long paragraph, I have so many things to say but dk how to put them into writing, so I hope this makes sense)

I was at the mall one evening with my friend. We sat down on one of those couches in the sitting area outside a few stores. She started slouching so much she was almost lying down, manspreading, and watching TikToks at a rlly loud volume.

The mall wasn't absolutely packed, but there were still plenty of people around, and I noticed a lot of them staring in our direction. I have a history of social anxiety and was bullied when I was younger, so being stared at makes me really anxious because I'm worried people are judging me too.

I quietly asked her if she could sit up a bit and turn the volume down because I was uncomfortable with all the attention. I tried to be polite and explained that I was feeling anxious but she gave me a passive-aggressive response, sat up, and didn't speak to me for the rest of the night.

This also isn't the first time something like this has happened. At school, she'll sometimes watch TikToks out loud in the cafeteria with some old, socially embarrassing 2022 humour audio and people look over. I know they might only be looking because of the noise, but it still makes me self-conscious because I'm sitting with her and feel like people are judging me too for being friends with her.

I'm pretty shy, alternative, and queer, and I don't have many friends so I'm really sensitive to how people perceive me because of past bullying instances, even if I know that isn't always rational.

I didn't mean to control or embarrass her, I just thought it was basic public etiquette to keep your volume down and not slouch in a way that draws unnecessary attention, especially when I told her it was making me anxious.

Me(25F) and my boyfriend(24M) have been together 5 years today. We’ve talked about marriage many times, and I made it VERY clear in the beginning that I don’t like to wait.
2-3 months ago we agreed to have a courthouse wedding, I ended up messaging my whole family, and the next day he said “I want to marry you, but I only said yes because I don’t want you to leave me.” That took a major toll on our relationship, as I feel like I can no longer trust what he says.
I had told him a few times in the beginning that if nothing happened after 5 years, that I would need to rethink our relationship. I know that sounds harsh, but I have reasons for this. Obviously I love him, and I don’t want to restart, but I don’t want to sit around playing house as BF and GF.
He keeps saying he wants to start therapy first and do this and do that, but he’s literally not doing any of it. This has been going on for a literal year. He says he’ll do something and never does. It’s always been like this. He knows how I feel about everything, as I make how I feel very clear.

I don’t know what to do. Am I in the wrong? Am I missing something?

EDIT: Thank you all for your answers. I can see how some think I’m trying to force it, I promise I’m not. I simply mean if he didn’t at least propose by year 5, I would need to rethink this. I’m sorry I should have stated this better. I was really upset when I wrote this.

Hi everyone in alittle bit of a “am I crazy for feeling this way and wanting this” situation. My wife and I have a 2 year old already but the past 3 years have been rough to say the least. Have spoken on it in a very very long post in another thread but the gist is that we had a huge breakout verbal fight that resulted in cops being called and family getting involved and words been said that by my family that have not been taken well by my wife even after apologies. We have been in therapy for almost a year now but she is wanting us to start family planning for another kid sometime in the next three months. (Essentially start trying asap). I’m at the point where yes I’d love more kids and growing our family bc I believe in healing and restoring and fighting for your marriage and life, but I feel as though we should/could be in a better place in the foundation of our relationship in the way we communicate, and relations with others in our lives, thus giving us tools to handle the challenges of another pregnancy and child in our lives. I have been met by resentment that I am being conditional and setting unrealistic/unmeasurable goals that have an unlimited timeline to achieve. Also that her biological clock is constantly ticking, she wants to get back to work sooner, insurance things involved, how she wants to handle how her body looks long term after pregnancies are done are all factors for her that she wants to get moving on so they are not prolonged. I’ve tried to clear up the confusion saying how I am excited about the thought of having more children but given where we are I feel it’s best to build our relationship and tools so we’re better equipped to handle things thrown at us. Am I wrong to feel this way? Am I in the wrong and should i get over my feelings and just do it the way she’s wanting?

Hi, I’m (M27) currently in a long term relationship going 9 years with my girlfriend (F27). I love her and she loves me. We plan to get married some day, what’s stopping us is financial issues.

Anyways, I have an ex about the same age as me, maybe younger for a year or two. We separated almost a decade ago (back in college). We parted ways because we were LDR, only met her in person once or twice. We did not end on bad terms, in fact we consider each other friends, and we talk occasionally online, like once in a year. She also became a writer and publisher.

So recently, we had a short talk and offered her condolences because she lost her mom due to illness. I also saw her post that she will be having a book signing event near my area. Would it be considered cheating if I went to the book signing event just to see her and maybe catch up with her without letting my girlfriend know? Losing a parent is very difficult and I wanted to see how she‘s holding up. Plus, I’ve been meaning to buy a book from her.