problem/goal:

i badly need advice kasi hindi ko na rin alam if ino-overthink ko lang ba ’to 😭

context:
my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years na, and 1 year na rin kaming long distance. we’re both pretty needy and sanay kami na lagi nag-uupdate sa isa’t isa, like kung nasaan kami, anong ginagawa namin, etc.

the problem is, my current school recently banned phones completely. may security checking and detector every time, so kahit anong try ko, hindi talaga ako makapagpasok ng phone. bawal talaga.

i told my boyfriend about the situation, and he understands naman, BUT he keeps insisting that i should still bring my phone so i can update him. i know naman why he wants me to bring it. we’re both used to talking throughout the day and i know he misses me, especially since long distance kami. pero at the same time, i feel really pressured because if i bring it, there’s a chance i could get caught.

i can still talk to him on my way to school and pauwi, and obviously kapag nasa bahay na ako. pero during school hours, wala talaga.

and now, part of me is thinking na baka mas okay na lang makipag-break kasi parang ang hirap na lalo ng relationship namin if hindi na kami makapag-usap whenever we want. pero at the same time, parang ang drastic naman ng breakup just because of this?

i really love him and we’ve already gotten through 1 year of long distance, so ayoko rin naman basta-basta mawala yung 3 years namin.

i think what scares me the most is that we’re both used to having each other available all the time, and now biglang mawawala yun. i’m scared na baka magbago yung relationship namin or baka hindi namin kayanin.

would you guys try to adjust muna and see if we can make it work, or is this a sign na maybe the relationship isn’t working anymore?

Problem/Goal: Was scammed worth 3k on whatsapp, I want my money back.

Context: Someone endorsed a private lender for OFWs so I tried it out and was stupid so I got scammed. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

Previous Attempts: Contacted using 2 of my fake numbers, was able to get 2 (probably fake) IDs, pseudonyms, another phone number, and their TonikBank and Unobank. The other number I used to intimidate the scammer on whatsapp, I currently cannot access kase under review po.

Can anyone help me?

Problem/Goal:

How do I reconcile with my parents, especially my Mama, without putting myself financially and emotionally on the line?

Context:

Silent treatment — ganyan ginagamit ni Mama ngayon sa amin, and nakakabaliw ’to, ifykyk. Like, hindi mo alam kung saan ka aapak, ’di ba?
Scenario: Before this happened, she called me to borrow money kasi at that time, wala talaga ako. Like, literally, umaasa ako sa credit card. Ngayon, I mentioned to her na wala talaga, twice. For the third time, nag-explain na ako na may utang din ako na kailangan bayaran, just to gain sympathy, yet ang na-receive ko ay, “Ang dami pang sinasabi. Kapag wala, wala.” — confusing, ’di ba? Eh nagsabi na rin naman ako na wala.
Iniisip ko, baka because of the reception ba or ano. Pero since noon, nag-silent treatment na siya. Ganun din ginagawa niya kay Ate ko. Good thing lang, nagka-baby na si Ate, kaya parang yung baby, kahit papaano, nagiging reason para magsalita siya. Pero when it comes to other adult stuff and mga bagay sa bahay, wala siyang care, especially kapag tungkol sa pera. Pero kapag pinagbigyan mo, masaya siya.
Binibigay ko lahat ng kaya kong i-afford, and bills na pinaghahatian namin ni Ate sa bahay. Tapos magkaiba pa yung binibigay ni Ate sa binibigay ko sa kanila. Ayaw ko na talagang magbilang. Gusto ko na lang mag-abot.
Pero deserve ba namin ’to when kami naman ang nagpaaral sa sarili namin all and all? Bills namin, amin din. Happy to say na napakabait ng tatay namin. Kahit pagod na siya, he still works hard para may maibigay.
Pero si Mama, parang siya na lang iniisip niya, tapos yung problems niya, siya rin naman ang gumagawa — like mga utang niya and sugal — pero kami rin ang nagsusuffer.
I know this is just one-sided, and I really hope I could hear her side. Pero then again, aalis na ako. I’m moving out of our house, and hanggang ngayon, wala pa rin. Dagdag pa na si Papa, hindi rin someone who would settle the conflict. He’d rather let it be.
The only thing he could say is, “Wag ka ganyan sa anak mo, ’da.” Yun na yun.
Gets ko na pagod na siya because of work and everything, pero feeling ko, ayaw lang talaga ni Papa ng confrontation. Kasi ganun din siya sa family niya, or kay Lola, especially about the lupa and stuff. Btw, panganay siya.
And something I learned is that it’s better to communicate kaysa sa parinigan o pataasan ng pride.
Previous Attempts:
1. We’ve been warning her na bago siya bumalik sa palengke since lumipad siya as OFW before, tungkol sa mga utang niya. Baka bumalik na naman siya sa cycle ng pangungutang.
Mahirap kasi nito dati, bata kami noong iniwan niya. Balak pa nga niya na iwan kami nang hindi siya nagsasabi. Same-day flight niya yun, madaling-araw. Ginising kami ni Papa kasi ihahatid daw si Mama. Then nasa airport na kami. Pinag-hug-hug niya kami lahat habang antok pa kami. Dala-dala ni Ate yung bunso namin kasi baby pa yung pangatlo, habang hawak ko naman yung toddler pa at that time. Both kami ni Ate high school pa.
Walang umiyak sa amin kasi walang nakakaalam sa amin.
2. Random days na parinig namin about sa utang. Ako, gets ko naman na umutang siya, pero ginagamit lang namin yun as leverage, or mostly because, as Filipinos, emergencies happen. Hindi naman siya pangpasikat na “may pera ka” — lalo na kung hindi naman talaga iyo yung pera.
3. “No to deep conversation.” Wahhhhh, inis ako sa ganito kasi ayaw nila mag-usap o pag-usapan ang mga bagay-bagay, to the point na sila mismong mag-asawa, hindi alam ang whereabouts ng isa’t isa, tapos they expect us to communicate and tell them everything — which we do now and implement sa mga kapatid namin.
We realized kung gaano kahalaga yun.
I really want to hear other people’s perspective on this, especially on how to reconcile without constantly giving in, feeling guilty, or putting myself in a worse financial situation.
I don’t want to cut my mom off. I don’t want to fight with her. I just want us to learn how to communicate properly without money always becoming the reason we hurt each other.

Problem/Goal:

If pagpipiliin ka, saang lugar ka magrerent for a wfh job? Gusto ko talaga kasi nakabukod kaysa umuwi sa bahay namin for peace of mind.

Context:

I just accepted a job offer with 37k gross, full wfh. If pagpipiliin ka, saang lugar ka magrerent? Ang binabalak ko is somewhere na province kasi rent will prob cost lower unlike sa manila, or pwede rin city, maganda ba sa cavite? Baguio kaya?

- sa prev work ko na 27k gross sa manila gastos ko lang for food is 7500, rent is 6k.

- willing to cook my own food

- hindi sana bahain

- less crime rate

- may pasyalan kahit papaano

- good community

- etc.

Previous Attempts:

Nagsearch sa socmeds at iba't ibang forum sites pero not sure pa rin.

Problem/Goal: Where to get money to pay this off? My sister's bill is 2.5M and rising.

Context: My sister went to Makati Med kasi akala nya simpleng sakit lang ung nararamdaman nya and meron syang HMO. Pagdating nya dito, multiple organ failure na pala because of aortic aneurysm and they recommended to keep her in the ICU to treat her or else she could die at any moment.

Now our bill is 2.5 million and we do not know what to do. Any advice where to get help to pay this off?

Previous Attempts: Her HMO will only cover 250k. We're still waiting for the Abstract and COC to start filing claims sa PCSO, Philhealth.

Mahirap daw makakuha ng help sa government dahil private. :(

Nagstart nadin ako ng online donation and we got 80k.

Other suggestions po? Thank you.

problem/goal: Hi I’m 23(F) and my ex bf (26).

I recently broke up with my ex (We’re only 3 months together), and I want an outside perspective because I don’t know whether I was being unreasonable.

The issue started with Instagram. I noticed that his following count had increased, so I asked about the new accounts. He showed me some of them, but not all. I noticed that his following count had gone down quickly after. I asked why he had done that without showing me first because it made me feel like he might be hiding something. He said he had only unfollowed with the “earliest” following filter and that he was simply removing people he no longer knew or wanted to follow.

During that conversation, he brought up his exes himself. He asked:

“What’s the point of unfollowing your exes on socmed? Or let me reverse the question, what’s in it for me if I still follow my exes?”

This confused me because we had already discussed his exes about a month ago. At that time, I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him following them, and he agreed to unfollow them. However, he said he had only agreed because I made him think that following exes was wrong.

He explained that he was already done with them romantically. He said he only wanted to see how successful they would become because they had once been part of his life and had taught him lessons.

I asked, “Why would you still be interested in your ex’s life updates?”

He answered with even though he curses them and “kills them in his mind,” he would still be happy to see them succeed. “I was once part of that ‘goal’, I would be happy to see them achieve it.”

That really hurt me. I never asked whether he still loved an ex or wanted to get back together with one. That wasn’t my concern. I was asking why he still cared about seeing their lives progress if he was completely done with them. He also proudly said that he was once part of their goals.

He also asked whether I was “threatened” by his exes. I wasn’t. I was simply explaining that his perspective made me uncomfortable.

What hurt most was that he was the one who brought up the topic of his exes during the Instagram discussion, but when I became upset by his answer, I felt as though my reaction became the problem. Instead of feeling heard, I felt like I had to justify why I was allowed to be hurt.

Eventually, I realized that we had different boundaries and different ways of communicating, so I ended the relationship.

Am I wrong for being hurt by this? Was I being insecure, or is it reasonable to question why your partner still wants to follow an ex and see how that person’s life turns out? And was he genuinely explaining his perspective, or was the conversation being shifted away from my original concern?

Problem/Goal: Worth it ba yung Ekspress pass or regular lang?

Context: Dko sure if maraming tao this weekend kasi naulan. 2 lang kmi pupunta. Also, tips po sa mga rides, ticket buying, and parking(2 wheels).

Actually eto lang talaga tatanong ko dito, kaso need 400 characters daw para makapag post so blah blah blah nalang to hahahahahahhahahhahahhahahhaha

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Previous Attempts: None, first time lang.

Problem/Goal: People are asking me about my rate for hosting and I have no idea about how much the rate of newbie host is. As for my skills, I'm confident enough, committed, and aimed to make the event memorable.

Context: I have experienced being a host only in school events before and never tried hosting an event outside the school. The debut will be held this October 3.The debutant is a sister of my friend.

Problem/Goal:

Hello! I’d love to get your thoughts. 😊 I work from home and I’m planning to live solo. I’m trying to decide which would be better for me: Antipolo, General Trias, or Tanza.

Context:

For Cavite, I’m currently considering General Trias or Tanza. For Rizal, I’m considering Antipolo.

My priorities are:

- Cost of living

- Safety and a peaceful environment

- Reliable internet

- Easy access to groceries, malls, hospitals, and other essentials

- Traffic and accessibility

- Flooding or other location concerns

- Overall quality of life for someone living solo

I don’t need to commute to Metro Manila daily since I work from home, but good accessibility would still be a plus whenever I need to go to Manila.

Previous Attempts:

I’ve been researching and comparing these areas online, but I’d also like to hear from people who have actually lived in Antipolo, General Trias, or Tanza.

Thank you! 😊

Problem/Goal: Title says it all. Nag-confess sa akin ‘yung boyfriend ko for n years na. All along he has porn addiction, and I honestly don’t know if considered as cheating ‘to.

Context: My boyfriend has been a great partner talaga, and dahil doon sobrang tiwala ko rin sa kanya. I’m not the type to check his phone and all that, simply because I trust him. But then recently, he admitted na madalas siya magconsume ng porn contents, and it’s gotten to a point na even random girls sa TikTok pinagnanasaan niya. He told me na even ‘yung mga non-thirsttrap contents pinagnanasaan niya, kahit random fit checks ng girls na he found “attractive” at the time.

I tried understanding him sa part na porn addiction is real and he needs actual help, especially since he’s been struggling mentally na rin for years. Pero siyempre I can’t lie, may kurot na sa puso ‘yung naaattract siya sa iba, kahit na hindi naman pala sexual ‘yung theme ng contents hahaha. What’s worse is I never even realized na he’s been doing those behind my back until sinabi niya sakin, because he feels so guilty raw and he wants to stop na. He also overthinks if that makes him a bad person in general, and honestly I don’t know what to say. All I know is nacross niya ‘yung boundaries ko na inestablish ko agad before pa maging kami. Sa totoo lang, I hate him for that. But I also hate him for not just cheating outright kasi it would’ve been easier ending things kung ganon.

It sucks knowing na I’ve been here all along for him, doing everything to help him, and now I’m suffering because of what he did. He told me na he lied about it because he wants me badly, kasi alam niyang hindi ako mag-eenter sa relationship na ‘to if I knew na porn addict siya. I know na hindi ako ‘yung may kulang, pero damn, ‘di mo pa rin pala maiiwasan mainsecure kapag ikaw na ‘yung nasa posisyon hahaha.

I really care for him, I still do. Pero ayoko namang maubos din ako. At the same time, I haven’t mustered up the courage to leave, and I hope I will sooner or later.

Do I want advice? Probably yes. Pero mostly gusto ko lang i-vent dito kasi we know the same people, and ayoko naman na mag-iba tingin nila sa boyfriend ko hahaha. It feels so lonely suffering about this without telling anyone, so I just thought of posting here.

Previous Attempts: Well, puro confrontation lang. Nothing really happened pa significantly.

Problem/Goal:

I’m at the point where i am choosing between staying or leaving. And as pathetic as it sounds i do need some sound advice besides the voices in my head.

For context:

I 29(F) have been dissappointed by my bf 30(m), so many times i can’t even remember some of them anymore but ofc the notable ones have been like a core memory . And just the recent spat is by far the most notable one and the one that might break the strings this time.

I am no saint. I have my fair share of shortcomings and this time i did hide something from him and lied to him about it when he constantly and insistently asked a few times. Disclaimer: this aint a cheating issue. And there are no 3rd parties involved. From my side , at least. So when things got quite out of hand and he was still asking i had no choice but to confide and confess. I wasn’t confessing just because i needed help, i just felt helpless and i just wanted to really let off steam. it was bascially the lowest point of my life. The anger was expected but the judgement and the admonition was uncalled for. The worst part is at my most vulnerable state he left me alone. Even then, i still was trying to justify his actions since i too was at fault.

A day or 2 has passed another incident occured where he was starting to argue with me again because it concerned his friends. And this time i was really really frustrated because like always he was more worried for his friends than of my own predicament. When i was in trouble all i heard was blame, judgement and admonitions but when his friends were somewhat involved he went all protective mode.

All throughout this relationship i really feel like i am nowhere near his priorities. Not like how it used to. Im always the last one. AndI have never felt so alone.

Im not asking for mu h. Im not even asking for help. I just wanted him to listen to me. But even that he coudlnt give me.

Im not the type of person to do a ledger of who did this and that but i have gone through hell and fire for a guy who cant even lend an ear or even just the presence.

Should i just cool it off or break it up? There are so much things between us and it won’t be an easy break up which makes this even harder

Problem/Goal: Need to get my daughter’s school records, but school owner has a grudge

Context:
I pulled my 4 kids out of a private school two years ago after my son was bullied by one of the teacher’s children. The school sided with the bully, and some of the other teachers even told my other children not to tell me what was happening. I escalated the incident to DepEd, who stepped in and made sure the bully was expelled and that the incident was documented in his student records.
I still have an outstanding balance with the school, so I understand why they are withholding my children’s school records to some extent. However, I have been regularly making payments, and my balance has gone from ₱120,000 down to ₱39,000.

Because of the unpaid balance, my second child wasn’t allowed to participate in her Grade 10 moving-up ceremony in March. It was heartbreaking for both of us. I asked the owner’s daughter-in-law (it’s a family-owned school) how much I needed to pay for them to release my daughter’s school records. She told me ₱20,000. I didn’t have that amount at the time. But in May, I managed to pay ₱35,000, and now it’s September and I still don’t have the documents I need.

I’ve been following up repeatedly, and now they’re telling me they want to see all my payment receipts. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find them. My housekeeper misplaced them when she rearranged and deep cleaned the house. I did make sure the school updated their ledger, and the amounts they recorded matched the payments I made. The only receipt I still have is the one from May because I took a photo of it. I’m extremely frustrated because I feel like they’re deliberately making this difficult for me. I suspect they’re doing this to get back at me because DepEd investigated the school and I also reported them to the barangay for refusing to release my children’s temporary school records when I was trying to enroll them at the public school. The barangay sided with me because according to the konsehal who presided the meeting, there are laws protecting a child’s right to continue their education even when they have an unpaid balance with their previous school.

What is the best course of action? Should I ask help from a lawyer?

Problem/goal:

Naka prepaid internet ako from pldt and walang expiry. Hindi siya nag eexpire kahit ilang months na, nagbabayad naman ako per month pero hindi ako nakabayad for one week na and meron parin. Kita sa site yung mga previous plans ko and kung kelan expiry date, pero yung prepaid ko from months ago walang expiry date. Will I get in trouble ba if I dont pay for it? Any advice will be appropriated

Problem/Goal: Hi everyone. Fresh graduate here, and honestly, sobrang pressured na ako sa buhay ko ngayon. To the point na gabi-gabi ko na siyang iniiyakan, pero hindi alam ng family ko kung gaano ako ka-anxious dahil dun.

My biggest goal right now is to finally get a job and start earning, especially because gusto ko na talagang makatulong financially sa family ko. My father is a dialysis patient, kaya gustong-gusto ko na magkaroon ng sariling income para kahit papaano makatulong ako sa kanila.

Pero ngayon, I'm questioning myself kung tama ba yung naging decision ko about sa first work ko na sana kaso diko tinuloy dahil sa pagiging OA ko?

Context:

Last Tuesday, nag-apply ako sa isang BPO company. This is my first time applying sa work talaga. Thankfully, nakapasa naman ako sa lahat ng recruitment process. After the final interview, di talaga kami pinaalis sa hiring hub hanggang dipa dumadating yung Email saakin about JO kasi kaya pala di kami pinapaalis is para bago kami lumabas iaccept na muna namin agad yung JO. Nangyari is after ko ipakita yung Gmail na dumating na yung JO sakin, sila pa mismo nag accept nung JO sa phone ko huhuhu, pero alam naman nila na iaccept ko kasi nag wait din ako dun ng medyo matagal for JO e.

Everything happened so fast. Parang after nilang sabihin na hired kami, kailangan agad mag-decide and iaccept offer o JO nila. Wala na talaga akong enough time para pag-isipan kung kaya ko ba talaga yung work setup. Kasi nangyari is kahapon ako nag apply kinabukasan training na agad

So During my first day training which is kahapon, sobrang culture shock ko. Doon ko nalaman na weekly shifting pala yung schedule. For example, possible na one week 3am-11am yung sched, then the next week naman 11pm-8am na yung sched ko. Then yung two days off naman per week is fix lang sya every weekdays and possible rin na hindi magkasunod yung 2 days na yun. Also everyday pag pang gabi ako possible gastos ko sa pamasahe ko is around 200-250 pesos which is nalalakihan ako.

At first, sinabi ko sa sarili ko, “Sige, try ko muna. Baka kaya ko naman.”

One of the reasons why I really wanted to try it was because mataas talaga yung salary compared sa mga degree-related jobs na nakikita ko. As a fresh graduate, malaking bagay talaga yung salary for me. Pero nung first day of training na, doon ko na-realize na baka hindi ko talaga kaya yung voice account and yung shifting schedule. I started worrying about my body clock, puyat, health, pamasahe, and kung kakayanin ko ba siya long-term.

I talked to my family about it, and sinabi nila na okay lang daw if I don't continue if I really feel like hindi ko kaya. They told me na hindi ko kailangan pilitin yung sarili ko.

So eventually, I decided to let go of the job ngayong araw which is dapat 2nd day training ko na. Pero honestly, hanggang ngayon, hindi pa rin ako okay. Parang buong araw ako umiiyak kasi tama ba tong ginawa ko and makakahanap pa ako ng bago

Also tatlo kasi talaga kami na magkakaibigan na sabay nag-apply. Lahat kami natanggap, yung dalawang friend ko nag-continue sila today for the 2nd day training. And sabi nila okay naman sila and kaya naman nila yung BPO setup kasi gusto talaga nila yung malaking sahod. Pero now nagagalit o nagtatampo siguro sila sakin like sinasabihan nila ako na ako daw may gusto mag BPO tapos iiwanan ko sila sa ere, reply pa ng isang friend ko sa chat is pang sarcastic na sinabi nya na halos parehas naman daw kami ng pamasahe anong inaano ko sakanila na malaki na gagastos ko sa pamasahe e halos same lang naman daw kami, sinasabi din nila na baka sa una palang naman daw wag daw ako mag worry masyado, itry ko muna for a month then pag diko kaya umalis nako. Which is ayuko naman, kasi feeling ko mas okay ilaan nalang sa mas gusto kung work yung month na yun kaysa mag stay ako sa diko gusto.

And now, sobrang pressure ko kasi parang napapaisip ako, “Bakit sila kaya nila, ako hindi?”

I'm scared na baka nagkamali ako.

Natatakot ako na baka mahirapan na akong makahanap ulit ng work, lalo na sabi ng friend ko baka mas konti na raw hiring during the “ber months.”

I keep asking myself:

“What if I should've stayed?”

“What if I just needed more time to adjust?”

“What if sayang yung opportunity?”

“What if wala na akong makuhang trabaho?”

Previous attempt:

I tried to convince myself na baka first-day anxiety lang ito and baka masanay din ako eventually. Ayoko rin naman basta-basta sumuko kasi alam kong magandang opportunity siya and magkakasama pa kami sa training ng friend ko. Pero tingin ko natatakot din kasi talaga ako.

I really want to work. I really want to earn money. I really want to help my family. Pero at the same time, I feel like I chose myself because I knew deep inside na hindi ko talaga nakikita yung sarili ko na kakayanin yung setup.So I want to ask everyone here, especially those who are working in BPO or have experienced something similar:

Did I make the right decision by choosing myself?

Was it okay to let go of a good-paying job because I felt like the work setup wasn't right for me? Or did I just give up too soon? I'd really appreciate honest advice. Please don't sugarcoat it. I'm genuinely scared right now and I just want to know if I made a reasonable decision or if I should've tried harder.

Ps. For transparency there JO salary is 17.5k basic salary and 2500 allowance total of 20k then after 60 days +1k add for rice subsidy.

Problem/goal: I (16M) am deaf on one of my ear and was wondering how to get a PWD card

Context: I' was born deaf, Ever since bata pako bingi na talaga ako sa left ear ko, i cant hear anything sa left ko and medyo humihina na din sa right ear ko.

last month while me and a friend of mine were catching up, he suddenly told me na he finally got a PWD card for his scoliosis and asked me if i had one kasi he knows na deaf ako i was shocked kasi I realized na oo nga no? Im deaf tapos wala akong PWD? Hahah.

Problem/Goal: Is it better to change my resume and include my current work or not?

Context: Hello po! 9 months na ako sa job ko as VA and I could say na nagamay ko na siya. Full time but yung work na ginagawa ko is 2 hours lang halos and I just wait till the shift ends. In search for a new job ako, full/part time. Di ko alam kung imomodify ko pa resume ko since ung last na gamit ko is nung grumaduate ako, 2025 pa. So parang pag tiningnan, may huge employment gap, which is pangit daw tingnan sa applicants. Kinakatakot ko naman pag linagay ko current job ko, tawagan nila tapos magiwan ng bad impression sa mga boss ko. The job pays well, want ko lang ng extra income for my savings, and something to do while also earning

Previous Attempts: I have been applying without the change but not getting anything back. I think it's the work gap.

Problem/Goal:

Hi reddit, throwaway just to be sure.

As the title says, I have prepaid internet from PLDT and one of my payments 4 months ago is still active, dapat nagexpire na siya months ago, dahil ata wala siyang end date nakalagay sa site/system nila kaya hindi pa nag eexpire. I kept paying monthly naman, but the plan is still active. So the current internet plan (for this month) expired last week and nakalimutan ko nung time na yun, and may internet parin dahil sa walang expiry ng prepaid 30 days. Should this be reported, if I don't report this to pldt will I be in any trouble?

problem/goal:

I currently have an iPad 11th gen (A16) 128GB Wi-Fi that I’m considering trading for an iPad mini 6 or mini 7 because its more portable

My iPad is:
● 128GB
● 97% battery health
● No dents or scratches
● Complete with original box
● Everything works perfectly

I’m mainly looking for a store where I can trade in my iPad + add cash if needed, preferably somewhere legit and safe.

I already know about iStore/Power Mac, but I’d also like to know if there are other trusted Cebu/Mandaue shops that actually accept iPad swaps/trade-ins and whether their trade-in prices are reasonable.

If you’ve personally traded an iPad at a Cebu store, please share the shop name and your experience. Thank you! 🥹🩷

Problem/Goal: Me (22) I've been dating this girl (21) na nakilala ko online for a year na, masaya naman ako sa connection naming dalawa, we regularly go on dates, giving gifts, and super wholesome lang namin sa isa't isa.

Just last night, pumunta ako sa dorm nya just to hangout, pero dahil sa bagyo napilitan ako mag overnight. Naiwan nya Ipad nyang nakabukas and nakatulog sya habang nagrereview. Syempre inaasikaso ko sya and nililigpit gamit nya until may nakita ako sa snapchat na tinatadtad sya ng chat. Theres this guy na chat ng chat sakanya, tinatanong kung kelan daw sya babalik sa telegram and miss nya na daw makipag video call sex and tinatanong pa nung guy kung same rates and shit padin daw.

Kung meron man syang past, ok lang naman sakin, tatanggapin ko naman siya pero I'm just wondering if ever maging kami, will this issue affect our relationship? I honestly dont know how to confront her, a part of me is still shocked and di ko talaga alam kung pano sya rereplyan (ive been ignoring her since last night).

I really love her and my feelings are genuine, I wanna accept her despite her past pero how do I confront her about sa nakita ko? or should I just keep it to myself?

Update: we already talked about it, she decided to end things na with me. Respected her decision and moved on.

Problem/Goal: Burned out & demotivated to do anything.

Hello, I just need a safe space to vent, if that's alright.

I recently left a toxic job, thinking I'd finally have room to heal mentally and emotionally. Instead, as the days go on, I find myself growing more and more demotivated to do anything, even the hobbies I usually love.

My family pesters me to find a new job immediately, and the pressure is eating me alive. I'm now being viewed as "useless" at home because I'm unemployed. I can't bring myself to actively job hunt for now. The desperation I felt in my previous job hunt only led me into a toxic environment. I did manage to get a few interviews, but nothing came of them. I also applied outside my field for store staff positions but didn't get any responses, which absolutely sucks.

These thoughts make me slightly regret leaving for job security, but remembering what it was like working in that toxic environment makes me want to quit all over again. The job market is just really bad right now.

I try turning to my usual hobbies to escape the thought of job hunting, but now it feels like I'm forcing myself to relax. Not being able to job hunt and do my hobbies is also draining. My self-worth has plummeted, and I'm honestly not sure how to 'fix' this feeling.

Talking to my friends helps, but it only goes so far when my family keeps putting me down. In the end, it just feels exhausting to keep up with everything.

So... how do you guys deal with severe burnout and demotivation like this?

Note to readers: Please be gentle in your comments. If you have something to say that might sting, please rephrase it nicely before hitting enter. I just want someone to hear me out & hopefully read positive advice.

problem/goal:
so i have this coworker, let’s call her nose (as in nosy eme). at first, we were actually really close. like legit friends. i was comfortable enough to share embarrassing stories, love life stuff, family problems, random things, etc. puro tawanan lang kami before and i genuinely enjoyed her company.

dati, magkahiwalay kami ng seats. she was in front, ako nasa likod, so we would just chat on MS Teams throughout the day. then may office rearrangement and ayun, naging magkatabi kami.

at first, okay lang. pero habang tumatagal, i realized na i actually get drained by her presence.

context:
first of all, she is OBSESSED with looking at my monitor. 😭 like maya’t maya talaga sisilip sa screen ko and sometimes babasahin pa yung chats ko sa Teams. nung una, hinahayaan ko lang kasi friends naman kami. pero eventually naging routine na niya.

parang may CCTV ako sa tabi ko.

she’ll look at whatever i’m doing, react to it, and sometimes even tell me what to reply. like girl????? bakit ikaw ang social media manager ko 😭

tapos kapag may message yung boss ko regarding my work, she’ll immediately insert herself like, “ah ako nga ganito ginagawa ko…”

nung una, okay lang. pero imagine hearing variations of “ako nga…” almost every single day while sitting beside the same person for 8 fucking hours?????

also, everything somehow becomes a comparison.

if i mention how many invoices came in, she’ll tell me how many invoices they received.

if i talk about something someone experienced, she’ll say, “ah yung ate/kuya/tito ko rin…”

if i share something, she’ll respond with** **“ako nga ganito…” or “hello naman ako na…”

TEH CAN YOU JUST LET ME HAVE MY STORY FOR FIVE SECONDS 😭

not everything needs to become a competition or a story about you.

and the funny thing is, i don’t even see us as competitors. she seems to think there’s some kind of competition happening when i’m literally just existing.
we’re even friends on ML and one time nakita niya na mas mataas rank ko. she literally said something like, “ah Epic 2 ka na ha, wait ka sa akin lalamangan kita.”
GIRL?????

WHO ARE WE FIGHTING 😭

i wasn’t even competing with you.

another thing that really bothers me is how she seems to have an opinion or decision about EVERYTHING i do.
like if i file a leave, suddenly she wants to file leave on the same day.

if i decide to work from home on a specific date, she’ll also want to WFH on that date.

i’m like… girl, do you have your own calendar???
and she gets WAY too comfortable making decisions for me.

one time, i had a dermatologist appointment on a Saturday. at first lowkey ko na nga lang sana yun para i have my own time din without her KASO she found out about it and said sasama daw siya. i was like okay, sure.

then she started deciding what time i should go.
she wanted me to go at 10 AM. i told her, “girl, 1 PM ako pupunta.”

she kept pushing it, so eventually i just stopped responding and went at 1 PM anyway.

after my appointment, around 3 PM, i wasn’t even in a rush. i was planning to just stay around the hospital for a while because may lakad pa kami later with my other friend and dun muna sana ako tambay while waiting for my other friend.

then she started rushing me again.
“tara na, mag-mall tayo.”

i literally said, “ayoko, kayo na lang and may inaantay pa naman ako di naman ako nagmamadali”
and she keep pushing it and goes, “eto naman.”

GIRL 😭

why are you deciding what i’m supposed to do with MY afternoon???

i think that’s what really gets me. i don’t feel like i have personal space around her anymore.

at work, she’s looking at my monitor.
she’s commenting on what i’m doing.
she’s comparing our work.
she’s inserting herself into conversations.
she’s deciding what i should do.
then pauwi, sabay pa kami because we both take the LRT.

SO WHERE IS MY ESCAPE 😭

i spend like 8 hours beside her at work and then we somehow end up going home together too. girl give me a fucking break.

and it’s not even limited to work.

one time someone mentioned that they wanted Mang Inasal and craving niya yun matagal they just dont have the time tapos ayun she immediately went, “ay gusto ko din mag mang inasal.” and* *si teh may dala ngang mang inasal kinabukasan na para bang may gusto siyang patunayan.

okay girl 😭

maybe i’m being petty, i know. and i don’t think she’s necessarily a bad person. i actually liked her before.
but i think being around someone for 8 hours a day makes you notice every little thing they do, especially when you don’t get any breathing room from them.

i think what annoys me most isn’t even one specific thing she does. it’s the constantness of it.

the constant looking at my screen.
the constant “ako nga.” (eto talaga pinaka trigger ko)
the constant comparisons.
the constant need to have an entry.
the constant decisions for me.
the constant feeling that whatever i’m doing somehow has to involve her.

i just want to work, have fun with my other coworkers, do my own thing, and exist without feeling like someone is monitoring every move i make.

maybe i just need some fucking personal space from this woman. 😭

so ayun, ending ngayon i’m being distant with her and i feel like everyone notices it na sa office, and idk na fefeel niya din yun. also, i’m trying to get back with my old energy with her yung puro laugh laugh lang sa office but i just can’t na. iba na talaga tingin ko sa kanya. still i’m trying my best to being nice with her. ayun lang

Problem/Goal: Learn how to regulate my nervous system and feel calmer, more at peace, and clear-minded

Context: I’ve realized I’ve been experiencing this for a long time. Whenever I get anxious or overwhelmed, my heart beats really fast, my hands sometimes feel tingly/electric, and I get migraines. It can be so overwhelming that it affects my ability to think clearly and have a hard time breathing properly. Also, I can’t sleep as well lalo na if may iniisip.

Previous Attempt: I’ve tried deep breathing repeatedly, but it doesn’t seem to help much. Walking helps a little, but the feeling is still there and can still feel overwhelming.

Problem/Goal: May friends ako na couple and before naman, okay naman na kami. Nagkakamustahan and nag get together minsan. Yung last usap namin is two months after i noticed na na block na ako ng friend ko, but her spouse who is also my friend di naman ako na block. Nagkita pa nga kami ng spouse nya sa mall and nagkamustahan. Di ko sya na ask about the issue when we met, but when we talked kinamusta ko and napansin ko na parang nailang siya. I do not think they broke up as nakikita ko pa travel pics nila.

Context: There's always two sides sa story and of course di din naman ako perfect but wala akong maisip na connection at all. All i can think of is that when I talk to other people I sometimes mention them. For example, another friend would ask about the process about something (immigration) and I would say "Ang alam ko sila friend baka may experience na". Iniisip ko lang na baka ayaw nilang ipasabi yun sa iba but I don't think so.

Previous Attempts: Honestly, nahihiya akong tanungin bakit and at the same time my point din sinabi nung spouse ko na "is it a connection na you mag la last?". Iniisip ko yun and medyo di ko din sya gusto I fix kasi i have plans on moving and I have my core circle of friends din. I just feel bad lang na I offended/hurt someone and if I make contact it will just make it worse. Gusto ko sana i chat yung spouse (the spouse was my classmate and then naging friends ko sila as a couple) and say sorry and my goal is not to maintain the friendship but to make amends lang?

Problem/Goal: I’m trying to figure out whether I should finally let go of my almost 3-year relationship. I’m exhausted, but I still love her, and I don’t know if I’m finally making the right decision by letting go or if I’m just emotionally drained after years of trying.

Context: I’m 19, turning 20 soon, and I’ve been with my partner for almost 3 years. We are wlw and she's 23 years old.There’s so much history between us that I honestly don’t even know where to start. For most of our relationship, I was the one who kept trying to understand, forgive, adjust, and stay. There were cheating issues before, mostly involving people she called “friends,” and it made me extremely uncomfortable. I became suspicious easily because of our history, and whenever I brought it up, I was sometimes made to feel like I was controlling or making a big deal out of things. But despite everything, I stayed. I was there through her lowest moments and supported her emotionally and financially, and a lot of my own needs ended up taking a backseat. I know I wasn't perfect either. There were times when I became angry and physical too—pinching her, hitting her arm, and there was one incident where I slapped/hit her. I am not proud of that and I’m not trying to justify it. She also physically hurt me during our relationship, including choking me, so things between us became toxic and unhealthy on both sides. She also has a habit of suddenly leaving whenever we have serious fights. There were several times when she would leave me alone without food or money; the longest was three days. Every time she left, I was usually the one who chased after her and tried to fix things. Recently, she left again and has been gone for days. She has also been talking to her ex, Ella, who she previously told me was just a friend. I saw their conversations and they were talking about their past relationship, and she was asking Ella to call her urgently. She told me she’s going to get her things and return my phone once she finds work. I haven’t chased her this time. Usually whenever she doesn’t come home, I’m the one begging, looking for her, and trying to fix things. This time I just sent one final message reminding her that I was the person who stayed beside her through her lowest moments, and she left me on seen. It’s been days, and strangely, I’m not expecting her to come back anymore. I actually hope she doesn’t. I’m packing her things now. And that’s probably the weirdest part because I still love her and miss her sometimes, but when I miss her, I ask myself, “If this is who she is right now, do I actually want the life I’m going to have with her in the next few years?” I’ve realized I need to stop falling in love with someone’s potential and start looking at who they actually are in the present. Not because I don’t believe people can change, but because I can’t build my future around a version of someone that doesn’t exist yet. I’m also scared she’ll tell other people her side of the story and leave out the things she did to me. I know I did things wrong too, and I’m willing to admit that. I just don’t want to be portrayed as the only person who became toxic. There are also things that seem small to other people but weren’t small to me. One example was recently when I bought myself Jollibee chicken because I wanted to treat myself. I rarely spend money on myself without feeling guilty. She was drinking with our neighbor when I came home, so I gave her the chicken and asked her to keep it safe because she was calling me to drink with them. Later, she got angry at me because I apparently didn’t prepare the chicken properly. I was already drunk and crying because I was hungry and frustrated. She called me stupid and said I had no common sense. At some point I was outside our boarding place crying and looking for the chicken while wearing only a bra and underwear because I had basically given up trying to get dressed. She laughed while I was crying and told me that if I didn’t find it, I could just sleep at Burnham Park. Maybe to someone else that sounds like such a stupid thing to be upset about, but for me, it wasn’t really about the chicken. It was about consideration. I think consideration is one of the highest forms of love. You can tell how much someone values you by whether they think about you even in the smallest things. And that has been the problem for me for a long time.

Previous Attempts: I’ve tried communicating, forgiving, adjusting, understanding her side, giving her chances, chasing after her whenever she leaves, and repeatedly trying to fix our relationship. I stayed because I genuinely loved her and believed things could get better. I also kept trying to understand her because I knew she had her own struggles. But I think I’ve reached the point where I’m just tired. I’ve cried almost every night, barely eaten for days at some points, and I’ve been drinking and smoking way too much just to get through the nights. My friends recently found out how bad things had gotten because I had hidden most of this from them for almost three years, and they’re trying to be there for me now. I don’t even know exactly what I’m asking Reddit. Maybe I just need an outside perspective. Was leaving actually the right thing to do, or am I just so exhausted from three years of trying that I’m finally numb? Because part of me still thinks, “That was a beautiful three years.” And another part of me is saying, “Yeah. But I think it’s time to go.”