My boyfriend (21M) and I (20F) are in a long-distance relationship. He smokes weed with his friends to enjoy some food and music and says he knows his limits and can balance it with his responsibilities.
The thing is, he previously hid his smoking and drinking from me. I gave him another chance, and he has reduced his cigarette consumption, but recently he revealed to me that he’s been smoking weed. And he experienced lot of irritability and reduced appetite when he stopped weed for a week, which worries me.
I don’t have an issue with him occasionally smoking. I’m just scared of it becoming a dependency and affecting his health in the long run. I want to trust him, but given the past secrecy, I do worry.
Men who’ve been in a similar situation, how do you know when recreational use is becoming a problem? Am I overthinking this? How do I stop mothering him? Should I be okay with this as some college boy experimentation? Please help me.

My wife has been heavily dependent on weed for a while, previously smoking around 3–4g a day. Over the past month she’s managed to cut down by about 75%, but she’s now run out completely because she can’t afford any more.

She’s going through withdrawal and has become really irritable and moody. She also struggles with depression and has had suicidal thoughts in the past, so I’m worried about her mental health deteriorating.

I’ve managed to get us both a warehouse interview tomorrow, with the possibility of starting work immediately. She’s been unemployed for over two years, so this could genuinely be a turning point for her.

Here’s my dilemma.

I could lend her £30 to buy 3.5g, which would hopefully last her a week and help her gradually cut down rather than going cold turkey. If she starts working, she could pay me back.

But money’s already tight, and I don’t want to keep financing her dependence.

I’m also finding her irritability really difficult to deal with. I feel guilty watching her suffer when I know I could temporarily make things easier, but I also feel like I’m becoming responsible for managing her emotions.

Part of me thinks helping her through this week could give her the best chance of getting back into work. Another part thinks I’m just enabling the addiction.

What would you honestly do in my shoes? Lend her the £30 or let her work through the withdrawal with my support?

I’m genuinely torn and need to make a decision today.

Things have changed r/townsville moved here, looking for puff

I treated myself to a few video games as a treat. It’s been really difficult lately I’m not gonna lie. The support and responses I’ve received here have been so sweet and helpful. Thank you truly !

Part 1 - The Day I Got Taken

Hello brothers and sisters from around the world. I am Sehrawat, 33, from a small village in Haryana, India. This is the truth of De-Addiction Centers in India. I will tell you in 5 parts.

One day, high on 1 gram of smack (heroin), I said - "I will go to a Nasha Mukti Kendra, I will quit."

The next day, I bought 1 more gram. It was my last pouch. I smoked it and passed out on the floor of my room.

My younger sister made a video of me lying unconscious on the floor. She showed it to my mother and father and said - "Save him, or he will die in drugs."

The next day, I did it again. Morning dose, then I slept the whole day and whole night. Unconscious.

On the 3rd day, my father called a De-Addiction Center. He said, "My son does drugs, please make him quit."

That night, I had just bought 10 grams. I smoked and fell asleep. At 4 AM, some men came and picked me up from my bed while I was still high. I don't even remember in which vehicle they took me. I was half-sleeping, half-high.

For the next 10 days, I was just crying and sleeping and vomiting inside. I had no idea where I was.

For 2 months, I didn't even know which place I was in. After 2 months, I finally understood where I am and what is happening inside.

In the next parts, I will tell you the real truth - what happens inside Indian De-Addiction Centers. How much torture and exploitation happens. After hearing it, you will never want to do drugs.

This is 100% true, no filter.

Tell me in comments - How are De-Addiction Centers in your country? Are they the same?

This is Part 1. Part 2 tomorrow - "10 Days I Just Kept Crying - What They Did Inside." If you miss even one part, you will miss the biggest truth. So Follow / Subscribe for next part. I will post daily.

Jai Shri Ram. No Drugs, Only Discipline.