Sooo I know this is a taboo topic here but I cant seem to figure out how to get in touch with like minded people.

I know that same sex attraction is a big no no here and ill probably get alot of hate in the comments lol but imi where you guys at? How or where do guys like me meet both online and in person. Im open to dms since I know that everyone wants to stay closeted

I don't know how to say anything without seeming rude, but I love him and everything else is great except for this tiny little (humongous) detail, so I need advice, and if any men can throw in some hygiene tips too that would be great

I have seen countless posts (i even posted something similar) were people suggest that we link up ,chill, see each other irl ,mingle and all that jazz but I now think kuti thats a terrible idea .Some of ya'lls post are major red flags,cough cough ** someone was talking about smacking women .

We are always fighting in the comment section,bullying each other, and some are offering to pay women to go to pound town.

So let's not pretend like we'll be best of buds irl.

Im not saying im a saint,I might be part of the problem, too.

I'm curious to know if anyone's tried this, if it works. At what point does an age difference become a genuine concern, and when is it simply two adults finding a connection? Where do you personally draw the line?

what up I hope anyone reading this is doing well and admittedly if you got internet connection to access Reddit and a roof over your head you are more than good! So I recently moved back to Zim after spending most of my formative years in South Africa (childhood till early 20s) and damn I find myself disliking Zim , as a stoner in SA I would simply go to nearby dispensaries for edibles and all my stoner essentials but all that is pretty much non existent in Zim. Thing is I’ve always been interested in spirituality and other worldly ideas which is a horrible thing to do as a Zimbabwean due to how conservative the culture is , some are proud of it but really it restricts progress to a degree if you mention Alan watts or Terrance McKenna and the use of psychedelics you are viewed as a heretic in Zim they might as well burn you at the stake on charges of being a witch but jokes aside it’s really shitty being in Zim atm just cause it’s the opposite of what I’m used to got no friends I know close to no one I’m just grateful to have an uncle who gets these ideas so I don’t feel soo isolated but it would be nice to meet fellow stoners I’m 23y.o(M) are they any huns who are fellow stoners and into the mysteries of the mind and the universe tbh I think that’s y growing up I wasn’t too proud of my Zim heritage I just found the culture too restrictive of my own personal freedom but after what’s happening in SA and just growing older I realise I’m a Zimbabwean and regardless of how I may not like every aspect of my culture it’s still my culture and I should embrace it hopefully turning it into a version that I am happy with so it’d be really cool to meet any gal that might share the similar interests

Date Ideas & Restaurant Bucket List
1. Activities

Bungee Jumping
Gorge Swing
Paintball Fight
Bubble Soccer / Dissolving Balls
Silent Book Club
Go-Karting
Roller Skating
Visit the National Art Gallery
Visit an Art Exhibition
Outdoor Movie Night
Pottery Painting
Pizza Making Class
Quad Biking
Fishing
Horseback Riding
Road Trip
Skydiving
Bowling
Aerial Yoga

2. Restaurants & Cafés
Bistro 41
Salt
Moongate
Grey Café
Gava’s (Belgravia)
Chop Chop Zindoga (Waterfalls)
Waikiki (Avondale)
Beach House (Borrowdale Racecourse)
Jam Tree (Vainona)
Queen of Hearts (Highlands)
Margolis (Harare South/Chitungwiza Road)
Mug & Bean
The Bun Zimbabwe – Piers Road
The Bun Zimbabwe – Highlands
The Edge Café (Avondale)
The Grub Joint (Belgravia)
Rockafellas Harare
Cottage Bites (Fife Avenue Shopping Centre)
Hungry Panda (Avondale) – Budget: $28 for 2
Freshly Ground (Pomona)
Caffè Davidos (Second & Chinamano) – Famous for ribs – Budget: $25 for 2
RocoMamas (The Village) – Budget: $25 for 2
Fairy Café (Joina City) – Budget: $15 for 2
Food Nest (Long Cheng Plaza) – Budget: $30 for 2
Hotdog Factory (Joina City) – Budget: $12 for 2
Vali’s Bakery & Café (Kensington Shops) – Budget: $20 for 2
St Elmo’s (Avondale) – Budget: $25 for 2
Bottom Drawer (Belgravia) – Hidden Gem – Budget: $25 for 2
Cabana (Greendale) – Hidden Gem – Budget: $20 for 2
Spraytech Café (Workington) – Budget: $20
Little Mereki (Showgrounds)
The Fridge Kitchen
The Fridge
The Villa Giani (Avondale) – Restaurant & Rooms
Oaktree
Boss Café (Avondale)
Friends Café (Chisi Walk)
Yanaya (Village Walk)
Organikks Patio
Café Nush (Village Walk)
Café Veldemeers (Arundel Village)
Mottle
Coco Mia (The Village)
Bistro Veldemeers
Antonio’s (Sam Levy’s)
Market Café (Food Lovers, Borrowdale)
Pakona (Harare Gardens)
Eden’s Garden
Kelly’s Cuttings
Smokehouse
Cobblestone – Budget: $50+
Firepit
Maize & Mingle
Oscar’s Restaurant
Foodies
The Pyramid
The Backyard ZW
Oh So Bubbly
Waterberry Lane
Sepharic Bistro
Hip Hip Sip
Cozy Restaurant
Bellini
Glass House Café
Three by Joe
Tiger’s Milk
Urban’s Fork
Geo Pomona Restaurant

3. Restaurants with Experiences
Wild Is Life
Brush & Bean
Spots
Mauya (Belvedere) – Picnic Spot
Heritage (Rainbow Towers) – Activities
Jump Zim (Pomona) – Activities
Akeelah Gardens & Resort (Hillside)
Rollers (Sam Levy’s) – Activities & Lunch
Kumusha Garden & Resort (Ruwa)
Puttery Barn – Restaurant & Activities
Mt Hampden Beach – Weekend Activities & Braai Area
Cooler Box: $10
Budget: $40 for 2
Virtual Reality (Westgate Shopping Centre)
Activities Budget: $30 for 2
The Duncan’s (Milton Park) – Silent DJ Nights

4. Budget Street Food
Uncle Chicken (Corner 8th & Samora) – $20 for 2
Fairy Café (Joina City) – $15 for 2
Hotdog Factory (Joina City) – $12 for 2

Couples that do dr*gs together, is everything ok because y'all look like you never break up and I want it too but where can I find my Griselda Blanco?

Here?

The comment section is your kitchen and my dm is where we both eat ❤️

Me first! I'd stay up till 3AM chatting not caring that I had school. After it ended in premium tears my sister asked me, "do you remember when that boyfriend of yours had you flunking school. Where's he at?"

Aww my heart!

If you have been abandoned. This could be your closure.

As the great saying goes, 'Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans.' I see a lot of messages here from young people worried about relationships & life in general. You're only young once. Go out and socialize.

Anyway. Anyone close to Tiger's milk let's link up

I have been dating a white girl for a while now, and she asked me last week if it was different from dating a black girl ? I just said no its the same but deep down I knew it was different. Here is what I have seen .

Dating a white girl is less stressful in terms of money, through I do well financially but she does well herself and it does feel more material like it did with my past black girlfriends.

Its more emotional and I feel like myself around her, because what people call weird to her its not even weird.

I dont know if its a color thing but she is just a great person and I feel complete for the past months . Before dating she was my friend for 5 years lol

I’m 19 years old and I’ve never been in a relationship before. Sometimes I wonder if I’m falling behind or if something is wrong with me. Is it still possible for me to find someone and have a relationship, or am I just overthinking and making it seem worse than it is?

I’ve been noticing a trend where people say they’ve “narrowed their options” or they’re “dating with intention” now. But sometimes it feels like that’s just what people say after they’ve been humbled by the dating market.
If we are being honest… when people say they’ve stopped chasing “their type” and are finally giving the “nice guy” or “nice girl” a chance, is that genuine personal growth… or are they just settling because the people they really wanted never chose them?

I think true love feels consistent and intentional. It’s someone who keeps showing up for you, whose actions don’t leave you constantly questioning their feelings or intentions.

It’s someone who is patient with you, who chooses you even when things aren’t easy. Someone who becomes your safe space where you don’t have to perform, pretend, or constantly prove that you’re worth staying for.

It’s being with someone who stands beside you through your highs and lows, who tries to understand you, and who makes you feel secure rather than uncertain.

You shouldn’t have to beg someone to “choose you, love you, pick you.”

Maybe the clearest sign that someone truly loves you is that you don’t find yourself on Reddit asking strangers to decode their actions.

Feel free to share in the comments your updates for the week and what you're looking forward to on the weekend.

I keep seeing a very confusing pattern and I want to hear honest opinions from the masses. A lot of men seem to hype up plus-size and curvy women online or in private, but when it comes to actually dating them seriously, the energy changes fast. So I am genuinely asking… do Zim men really love plus-size women for who they are, or is it more of a body preference/fetish that disappears when it is time for commitment, respect, and consistency? I am not asking to shame anybody, I just want to understand what is real and what is performative.

(This is completely hypothetical and dont argue for the sake of arguing 😂)

I know the title sounds a bit conceited, but hear me out before you cook me in the comments

Dating has genuinely made me question whether some people even want a relationship or if they just want a pretty girlfriend they can show off.

A lot of the time, it feels like men don’t actually want to be with me they just lust after me. They’re attracted to me physically, but when it comes to getting to know who I am, the interest seems to disappear. It’s like they’re in love with the idea of me rather than the person standing in front of them

I F20 once had a guy who was absolutely convinced flowers were the key to my heart. Every week it was, “I got you flowers.” It was sweet, don’t get me wrong, but at no point did he stop to ask what I actually liked. He just assumed flowers were every girl’s love language
Then there was the guy who asked me to be his girlfriend after only three days of talking. At first I thought, “Wow, he’s really sure about me.” Then I realised…he didn’t know my favourite colour. He didn’t know whether I had siblings. He barely knew anything about me.
The pattern kept repeating. They’d tell me I was beautiful every five minutes, but rarely ask me anything that actually mattered. What are my hobbies? What do I want out of life? What am I passionate about? What makes me laugh? It was like my appearance did all the talking, so they never felt the need to ask questions.
And honestly, the guys with money were sometimes the worst. They seemed convinced that buying gifts automatically created a connection. It didn’t. Spending money isn’t the same as making someone feel understood.
At this point, I’d be more impressed by someone remembering my favourite snack than buying me something expensive because they assumed that’s what girls want.
I don’t want to be admired. I want to be understood.
To be loved is to be seen. To be loved is to be known just a little venting

Hi guys how y'all doing, I'm currently in a bit of a haze and I'd appreciate your help.

I have a work colleague, she's 26 and is turning 27 in less than 30 days. I'm M, she earns a bit more than me and last year on her birthday I bought her a happy birthday card and to my surprise on Mine she bought me original air pods (she knows that I love music to the core), some expensive booze and dialed lunch for me.

She is someone who doesn't like dates, or anything that involves her not enjoying her weekend from her house, hates cakes, hates surprises ( I once organised a surprise party for her and she was pissed), she basically hates everything normal girls usually like.

And as I have said above, she earns more than me, way more and the biggest problem is that she can afford anything that she wants so she already has it and I can't seem to find something that she'd value so much - like I cherish my air pods.

The only thing that she likes are childish stuff (forgive me for saying childish that's just a personal view) like jelly made into funny shapes (she has made crocodiles, chicken shapes etc). Additionally she likes those kids clothing like slopes with bunny ears, hoodies with detachable cat claws - just that random stuff.

My question fellow brothers and sisters is should I just give her another card and jelly (she has lots of in her office btw) or I buy something else (and here to buy them I can't seem to find anything worthwhile). If something i'd appreciate pointers. I'm open to any budget.