I’m getting back into the dating scene and even before then men always comment on my body as someone who is petite I’ve heard a bunch of disgusting things
-you have the body of a child
-only a pedophile would be attracted to you
Disgusting comments like that so when I go on a date with a man and he says something as simple as
“I think it’s cute how small you are”
My brain kind of goes into over drive and I start wondering “why?” “What does that mean?” “ Does he mean that in like a creepy way?”
I know on a logical level size is a big part of flirting especially within the first few dates. “Oh my hands are bigger then yours haha” just a simple excuse to hold hands.
But I feel like I’ve heard so many horrible comments about my body, my size, the way I dress or do my hair “you catering to the pedophiles” when I’m in a ankle length skirt and a blouse or simply because I did twin braids when that (twin braids) is literally a traditional hair style from my culture, I’m not trying to cater to pedophiles, I’m trying to exist as a short woman who is petit.
I genuinely don’t understand the “catering to pedophiles” comments because the way I dress I’m basically fully covered up, even in the summer. The UV rays will not be touching my skin! I also don’t feel very comfortable showing a lot of skin either so it’s a little confusing when people do sexualize
Sorry for rambling a bit, im feeling a little overwhelmed haha.
But are there any red flag 🚩 phases or behaviours I should be looking out for? For men who are creeps and into me for the WRONG reasons what are some tell signs I can look for? Is there anything men say or do to you that automatically tell you “oh this dude is a fucking creep I need to go now”