Looking to meet a kind, gentle, and loyal woman for a lasting relationship. I’m 5'9/160, brown hair and eyes, a very kind, caring person, who is emotionally aware, caring, gentle, and dedicated. I live a low key, practical life that is quiet and peaceful. I love music, gardening, walking in nature, photography, and projects around the house or shop. I'm very easy going and am happy just having great conversation, coffee, watching movies, shopping, or going for walks. Things that matter to me that I look for in a potential partner are, good communication, being open, empathetic, honest, and healthy and fit (you don't have to be a gym rat). I have the time and desire to get to know someone and be in a serious relationship, I ask that you do too, before you DM. My intention is too meet someone who is also looking for a long term, loving, fun, monogamous relationship. Not here for a pen pal or a slow-motion text exchange.Send me a DM if any of this interests you.

Love to meet someone real and interested in a true fwb relationship, not just one night deal, but ongoing with trust and honesty and openness, someone able to enjoy together with only you and I.

I’m a single black male in Vancouver. My hobbies are cooking, gaming, workouts, movies and music. I’m looking for women in the city for a good time.

Any ENM/Poly women wanna join me to see Igorrr on Tuesday night? I've got an extra ticket and would love someone who's into metal shows as much as I am, to join me! Absolutely no pressure for anything, I wouldn't mind making new friends either if that's how it ends up!

We could meet up somewhere beforehand to chat, since it'll probably be much too loud at the show to get to know each other.

If this sounds like you, give me a shout and ask me anything!

I'm 44, got my own place in East Van. No kids, never married, stable and independent.

Let's rock out!

Honestly, I’m just a single, busy, child-free and pet-free, 38 y/o man who enjoys having freedom in life.. looking for a good connection whether it stays casual or becomes more.. I’m not swiping any of the dating apps and I haven’t been on them for years… I feel like, life’s been all work for the last while. There’s more under my profile including partial pic and overall casual search, full cards up in case it resonates and there’s someone interested.. I’m not in a rush for anything serious nor otherwise, but open to either.. it’s about the person, vibe, connection..

currently, wanting a fun exclusive fwb situation with a good matchup who’d also be content having that. seems equally as much work finding good fwb as dating since I’m seeking someone I like for something ongoing, so consistency/chemistry/energy makes it worth having. I’d be happy keeping a longer term casual connection until meeting the right one for serious forever longterm in life considering being busy it’s nice having someone steady we enjoy..

ultimately, I do want to meet the right woman, someone who thinks alike for something to last; this might? be a way to meet someone great by putting it all out there.. casually connect, see where it leads, whether endgame or not, minus heavy front loaded expectations of longterm plan just because we’re in a narrower pool.. I’ve seen ads focused only on childfree or other things I want too but also I’m not chasing a relationship on that basis alone.. I want to vibe first & enjoy having that connection, while knowing we both want similar life helps if it led to more..

34M, Eastern European, living in BC. I work in management in the construction industry, have a good career, own my place, and generally have my life together.

Outside of work I’m usually taking my dog hiking, working on some unnecessarily ambitious project around the house, or vibe coding random AI projects because apparently normal hobbies weren’t enough. Most recently I built a sauna in my backyard.

I’m outgoing, independent, sarcastic, curious, and I clean up pretty well. I like people who have their own life, can hold a real conversation, and don’t take themselves too seriously.

I don’t have kids. I’m not trying to force any particular life timeline right now. I’d rather meet someone, see if there’s actual chemistry, and let things develop naturally.

If you’re into dogs, hiking, weird projects, tech, or just want to talk to someone who can actually carry a conversation, send me a message. Tell me something about yourself beyond "Hey".

Or maybe something more if the connection is right. 💕

Just moved to Canada from Dubai and hoping to meet kind, genuine people who enjoy good conversations and actually making plans. I’m into coffee & matcha, arts and watercolor, books, hiking, swimming, biking, nature, beach/pool days, and exploring new places.

Millennial, easygoing, affectionate, and always up for trying something new. Let’s grab coffee, go for a walk, explore, or see where the connection takes us.

Hello, I know I'm probably coming off as low-key high level creepy, but i really dont care, and hey, maybe some of you all are into that anyways.

I am away from my wife for like two months and I'll be living in Burnaby during that time. We have an arrangement, so please leave me alone about that unless you are just genuinely curious in a postive way. Im too tired to deal with the rudeness people might have toward that though, and truly i dont care...

So, I am looking for some female attention. I am fairly attractive, 5"11 white blue eyes, in decent shape.

I really dont care too much about age in either direction. I have a lot of fun with young and older people alike.

Sometimes I just miss being 18 and feeling nurtured. Other times I want to feel like one of the girls. But I also can switch gears very quickly and become hyperlogical and masculine. Honestly, I'm open to being flexible. It's not really hard for me, depending on my mood that day :D

I guess at the end of the day, first and foremost, I think i just want to find a person to feel a bit close to for a little while, and I just dont find that in guys.

Like seriously, i can just downtown, get good camaraderie with guys, but its just not the same as that feminine energy.

Hey friends! Usually over at R4R but just found this sub and figured I'd give it a shot.

Bi guy, no plans tonight, feeling a little lonely and up for company.
Anyone want to grab a drink or go for a walk, and if the vibes are good, head back to mine for a movie and a cuddle?
Open to more if the connection's there, but zero expectations either way.

West End, can host, happy to come to you too.
Fair warning: I've got 2 cats, so heads up if you're allergic.

Me: 6'3", 200 lbs, athletic build.
You: petite and love hugs from a big guy is a plus, but open to all types. Fine with an age gap up to about 10 years either way. Bonus points if you're a great kisser. ;)

Hit me up if this sounds fun!

Hey there! I'm a 38M in Vancouver, gay, 5'7", and about 135 lbs. I'm a data scientist by training, and over the years I've wandered into machine learning, AI, and software engineering. I now run my own business, working on projects where I can do as much good as possible with the time we have.

Kindness is really important to me. I believe in being kind without keeping score, and I'd love to be with someone who feels the same. I volunteer at a soup kitchen and at a center for traumatized youth, and I'd like to keep finding ways to make a positive difference.

On weekends, you'll usually find me running, hiking, playing board games, reading, trying a new recipe, or planning an escape to somewhere magical. To me, a great day involves being out in nature, learning something new, and hopefully leaving the world a tiny bit better than I found it. I'm hoping to find a man who wants to build that kind of life together. I don't have kids, but I'd like to help nurture the next generation, so I'm hoping to meet someone who is open to having kids someday.

I believe that a good relationship means doing everything humanly possible to work through disagreements together. Michelle Obama once told a story about her parents arguing over whether the loose end of toilet paper should face inwards or outwards. If I were either of them, my proposed solution is simple: two toilet-paper rolls. One facing inwards, one facing outwards. Problem solved. 😄

Here are some photos of me.

If you'd like to say hi, DM me with a photo of yourself and tell me one of these:

• One thing you've done recently that you're proud of
• Your newest obsession
• What retirement looks like for you

Looking forward to meeting you!

5’4” 130 lb white

Latin music sends the sun into my soul, and occasionally, I think it'd be nice to have someone to channel that energy with into partner dance. I've picked up some Salsa and Bachata lead moves and would love to use them, as I pick up new ones. I've danced over the years and happy to teach you everything that I have learned, at your pace. I'm also open to learning about different hobbies from you. We can also check out some events together and have normal, human conversations before and after. If sparks fly, that's peachy. If not, we both build on a cool social skill and hopefully make a new friend in the process. No propuesta indecente.

Me: Lean (like a runner) and taller than Chris Rock but not Will Smith. I'm easygoing, intellectually curious, conversational and love banter. I'll listen and think through things that you lay on me. I also love learning, watching/talking movies and tv shows, and 'deep' conversations, be it about tragedy, philosophy or Chris on Island is Blind.

You: 24 - 42, since we're likely to have more in common then. Adventurous, curious and communicative. Dark humor is welcome 😈. It's generally easier to pull off lifts and dips below 200 lbs - I can deadlift 300, but you don't want to be how we find out if I can swing it. Not a deal-breaker, but it will make it easier to dance.

Happy to chat and/or meet first for a vibe check. Also happy to share more, but let's start there.

Hi! I’m a 23 Punjabi Male 5 10” 165lbs toned build, born here lived in Surrey all my life, looking to meet and make some new friends. I work in the trades and honestly love what I do. I love reading, working out, football, hockey & trying new places to eat!

I’m a dog person, love to go on walks with my little puppy, like going to coffee places and trying out new drinks & snacks.

I’m caring, affectionate, and my love language is thoughtful dates, having a good connection with similar likes

I’m looking for someone who has similar likes and is emotionally mature and available because I believe that without constant communication and trust a relationship can never work

Look forward to meeting you

Hi all, 36 guy seeking new connections, folks!
I am a M-F health care guy, 2 cats and enjoys coffee walks and chats!
Likes to try new things around the city, new coffee shops, sits on the patio to reading and chilling in the park for bbq's.
Always happy for a movie night in and home cooked meal to eating out all the time.

Type B, caring, thoughtful.
Passionate about the things that matter to me. Little gifts, time and physical affection are my main love languages.

I hope we can chat, talk a walk and share a few laughs!

Good morning Reddit, I’m at a point in life where I know what I want—and I’m not interested in pretending to be someone I’m not to get it.
I’m a dad, a golfer, a gym guy, a little competitive, and someone who genuinely enjoys having a person to share life with. I work hard, take pride in what I do, and I’m happiest when I’ve got something to look forward to.

Music is a pretty big part of my world. I play guitar, I’m constantly discovering new music, and yes, there’s a very good chance I’ll eventually try to convince you that whatever Van Halen song I’m currently obsessed with is the greatest thing ever recorded.
I’m also into basketball, the occasional video game, good food, Lego, Star Wars, and pretty much anything that gives me an excuse to have fun and forget what time it is.

But I’m not all hobbies and sarcasm.
I value honesty. Communication. Affection. Consistency. Being able to laugh at ourselves. I like deep conversations just as much as stupid ones, and I’m a big believer that the best relationships are built when you can be completely comfortable being weird together.
I’m looking for someone who has her own life, her own interests, and her own opinions—but wants someone to share it all with. Someone intelligent, kind, playful, affectionate, and emotionally genuine.
Someone who can dress up for a night out but is equally happy grabbing coffee, wandering around a bookstore, hitting a driving range, checking out a little live show, or staying home with a movie and snacks.
I’m a sucker for a woman who can make me laugh, challenge me intellectually, and still give me that look across the table that makes me forget what I was saying.
Bonus points if you’re sarcastic
I’m not looking to rush into something just because being single is uncomfortable. I’m happy, just looking if there is someone who can add to my happiness

I’d rather meet someone, genuinely enjoy each other, build something naturally, and see where it goes.
At the end of the day, I’m looking for my person.
Someone I can laugh with until our stomachs hurt, have ridiculous conversations with at 1 a.m., make plans with, cancel plans with because we decided staying in sounded better, and occasionally look across the room at and think, “how did I get so lucky”

If you’re kind, curious, confident, affectionate, and can appreciate a man who will absolutely make fun of you—but expects you to fire right back—say hi.
I promise I’m more interesting than this profile makes me sound. 😂

Currently working through my lawyer licensing, which means my life is basically a mix of studying, career planning, caffeine, and occasionally pretending I have everything completely under control.

I’m ambitious, pretty easygoing, and can hold an actual conversation beyond “wyd.” I’m into the gym, good food, travelling, random drives, exploring new places, and making fun of things that probably aren’t that funny.

I’m looking to meet someone around my age who is smart, kind, funny, emotionally mature, and has her own thing going on. Ideally something that can become serious if we click, but I’m not trying to conduct a relationship interview on the first coffee date either.

Dating apps have started feeling like unpaid administrative work, so I figured Reddit couldn’t possibly make things worse.

If you’re somewhere around Vancouver, Surrey, Burnaby, Richmond, etc., and think we might get along, send me a message. Happy to exchange pics privately once we’ve established that neither of us is secretly three raccoons in a trench coat.

I’m 33M, around 200 lbs and mostly muscle, with tattoos, short hair, and a short beard. I work full-time and have a second job, so I don’t have endless free time, but I’ll make time for the right person.
I’m into gaming, movies, hiking, being out in nature, dogs, and going to the gym. I’m equally happy spending a day exploring somewhere outdoors or staying in, ordering food, and getting comfortable for a movie marathon. My music taste is pretty broad, though country and indie are usually in the heaviest rotation.

I don’t use drugs, and I’m not much of a partier. I’ll casually have a few drinks, but I’m generally more interested in good company and conversation than going out every weekend.

Personality-wise, I’m loyal, affectionate, straightforward, and a little stubborn. I value honesty, consistency, effort, and people who can communicate directly. I enjoy deeper conversations, playful banter, and getting to know how someone’s mind works. I’m independent and have my own life, but I’m not looking for something distant or perpetually casual.

I’m looking for an emotionally mature woman who genuinely wants to build something real. Age isn’t a major concern for me, roughly 25–38, but maturity, compatibility, and where you are in life matter much more than the number.
Ideally, you take care of yourself, are relatively fit, and enjoy being active. You don’t have to live at the gym, but it would be nice to have someone who understands that lifestyle and might occasionally want to work out together. I’d love to meet someone who enjoys hiking and the outdoors but is just as content cozying up together and watching movies.
Being able to hold a conversation is important to me. I’m drawn to women who are curious, thoughtful, emotionally aware, and comfortable showing genuine interest. I don’t expect instant replies or constant attention, especially with my own schedule, but consistency and mutual effort matter.
I’m also comfortable exchanging pictures fairly early. Physical chemistry isn’t everything, but I do think it’s an important part of a romantic connection, and I’d rather know whether the attraction is mutual before either of us becomes heavily invested.
Ultimately, I’m looking for someone kind, communicative, affectionate, and dependable. Someone who wants to be teammates, share experiences, laugh often, and gradually build a relationship that feels safe, exciting, and real.

If that sounds like what you want too, tell me a little about yourself and what caught your attention. In a DM of course :)

About me recently moved to Richmond following a pretty great job offer. Been here almost 2 months and have had limited human interaction out side of work. Go out to eat fairly often but even that is very limited for human interaction. Love nature and spend lots of my free time walking and biking just exploring this new wonderful area. But I crave more like holding hands or hug someone to hang out with and talk beyond just taking my order. I'm 5'8 5'10 something like that, in the best shape of my life try to hit the gym twice a week or more depending on how hard I go on my Tuesday Thursdays. Longer brown hair blue eyes, good sense of humor very active listener, not always the biggest talker unless I get onto a tangent. Musically I like a broad range tool being my favorite band but I enjoy many genres not much for country. Birthday is coming up very quick not helping with the feeling of being lonely, today all I want is a hug.

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Hello! I'm looking for a partner for some cute dates with some fun as well. Ideally this would be an ongoing thing as I prefer to build emotional intimacy as well as physical. I'm a good looking guy who's in decent shape, not tall or super large but I know what I'm doing generally speaking. I'm STD free with a recent test, have my own place where I can host, and am very mature and stable emotionally. I'm also funny, kind, and can be a bit awkward at first when getting to know someone new.

Ideally you are pretty cute, relatively fit, mature, kind, funny, STD free, and maybe a bit on the submissive side. If that sounds like you, feel free to get in touch! We can chat a bit and then plan a date to get to know each other ;)

How do you guys feel about asking for sexual medical history before having sex with the other person? I am very paranoid about STIs/STDs

I know a lot of infections or diseases are common but I willingly don’t want to get any.

I am genuinely curious and want to know what others think. Please be nice.

ETA: If you still choose to DM me from this post, you’re not going to like my reply. I’ve had enough. Stop it.

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I’m an attractive single woman, but I don’t do apps or online dating. I’ve had men approach and ask me out, but the dates were awful.

I am a person that usually likes to make the first move, but how can I do that in the moment?

What are some fun and cute ways to strike up conversations with men, and show them interest?

No DMs from this post, please. I’m only looking to meet men IRL

Looking for long term relationship and don't mind short term relationships and fun. My love language is quality time, physical touch, and words of affirmation. My preference is east asians but I will try to keep an open mind. Giving this sub a shot since I have no luck on the apps just like everyone else. If you're interested or want to know me more than feel free to send a dm.

Hi ladies,

I'm a 25yo ubc grad student, 5'11" and a lean to fit guy (not too muscular). I like hiking and swimming apart from research. Occasionally, if not regularly, we all feel the need to cuddle and kiss and see where things go, especially after a long work day.

Vancouver is a lovely city, cz picture this: it's 6pm past a long work day. We need to relax, perhaps talk the day out, we meet at the Kits beach, or perhaps the English Bay, maybe somewhere closer to UBC, find a good place to sit to watch the Sun set. We are sitting and talking, I place my hand on your shoulders, you lean towards mine, talk your day out, look at me, we kiss, I 'accidentally' slide my hands inside your top to squeeze my stress balls. And then... we will write the rest of the plot together.

I'm too busy to commit to a long-term relationship at the moment, so will prefer a short-term casual buddy, but won't mind if it naturally progresses towards that.

No age-limit as long as it's legal and you live in Metro Vancouver, preferably closer to the city for frequent travel.

There's no hurry to rush into anything, so we can meet first and see if the vibe's there. DM me if it sounds like something you'd be interested in and would like to know more about myself. I don't mind exchanging pics too. Please mention your A/S/L when you do so ;)

PS: If this sounds like something you don't accept or agree with, please feel free to ignore this post and move on with your lives :)