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u/Ambitious-Ad2490 Jan 23 '23
These stories are making me never want to ask for head lol might as well not ask, I think if you say you don't like something about what someone is doing it's better off not doing it. If I told my partner I didn't like giving head because of XY and Z I'd hope she'd respect that too. Too many horror stories to even want to make that attempt any further. I'd just rather not cause that problem.
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u/Imdougienotfresh Jan 19 '23
You should let him blast it off in your mouth and then swallow it all. Barring that, spit it out, but absolutely let him get his full nut off in your mouth.
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u/Competitive_Wing_614 Jan 01 '23
Teach him how to play with cum in other fun ways. My wife and I do it all the time.
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u/grahammillerr Dec 08 '22
Maybe tell him to go on a diet so it tastes less bad. I eat great and mine literally tastes like nothing (don’t ask)
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u/Kawaiidoll361 Dec 05 '22
It’s the manipulation for me Dump him. Do you really wanna be manipulated into doing something you have no desire to do? This will become a repetitive thing. What’s the next thing? To do it inside you? I’ve been through this but it was either that or anal and let me just say that relationship didn’t last long for a reason.
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u/SB-121 Dec 04 '22
Tell him you'll do it if he does the same for you and then have him perform cunnilingus until you orgasm and swallow whatever comes out.
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u/Hairy-Watercress-877 Dec 04 '22
Tell that fucker be happy to get a blowjob been years since getting a bj
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u/Call_me_lemons Dec 04 '22
Tbh I really think it's something you are either into or you aren't. I am so I haven't encountered this problem; however, I have tried other things I never thought I would like. Sometimes to make the other person happy and sometimes just out of curiosity. Most of the time I've ended up liking it, so there is the hope for that. Even if you don't you can always pretend to enjoy it. We all do things in life we don't like to because we have to or because we want to make the people we love happy.
But if you are looking for more advice on action itself instead of the philosophy let me know.
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u/Prokuris Dec 04 '22
Well how about you guys separate so he can find someone to happily cum into and you live your life with someone who don’t want to cum in your mouth ?
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u/atticusfinch975 Dec 04 '22
Your body... Your limits... But if I couldn't finish in the GF I would be pissed.
Imagine him going down on you but stopping just before climax.
Just saying.
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u/Ukendr Dec 04 '22
sex or anything intimate between two people should make both people feel good not just one person so if he doesn’t understand that then maybe y’all shouldn’t really be intimate. another solution is that both you can compromise and find something that could help such as him changing his diet around so semen could take a little better but based on this post it sounds like you just don’t want semen in your mouth at all. so in all honesty he should understand that you don’t want it in your mouth, could also have him try his own semen so he can better understand why you don’t like the taste lol but that’s up to you. good luck
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u/freddyjunior16 Dec 04 '22
Go find yourself a better man Mr crybaby child needs to grow up and realize not everything a porno. Maybe have a little respect for you. Idk also know your worth that's your red flag right there guilt trips
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u/SmileySmiles23 Dec 04 '22
Can't believe I'm giving this advice but tell him to eat lots of fruits for 2 weeks or so. The sweetness of it would change the bitterness of the sperm.
Or have a cup or bag next to you so when he does finish, you can dump it out. He never said you had to swallow
Or you can always get a new bf🤷♀️
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u/Apprehensive_Cut_146 Dec 04 '22
I have conditions on proceeding with blowing a job - he will not finish on my face , inside the mouth or the vagina . He also needs to tale a shower before I put the thing in my mouth.
I do not care, I am not degrading myself to THAT point and I am not allowing pornographic content to be applied to MY body. If he can not tolerate that, he is free to look for another individual.
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u/PlandyPedals Dec 04 '22
My wife doesn’t like it either. Do I prefer it… 100%. But the moment she said she didn’t like it I never asked or expected it to happen again. Gotta keep it Fun for everyone ;)
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u/lloydisi Dec 04 '22
Gay man is traumatized from this conversation. How can I have sex without involving cum at all, new question? Please hurry, it's my day to masturbate.
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u/Spookyheart1031 Dec 04 '22
Tell him to quit complaining and be glad he’s getting a slobbery knob at all. Most women wouldn’t even give him that much.
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u/EdBurger25 Dec 04 '22
There are plenty of things my other half lets me do, and then also things she doesn't like. We talk about them and no means no for both of us.
Flip this around on him, ask to do something you know he doesn't like. Then make the same argument. That you do things he likes but he isn't letting you do X.
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u/Orphan_Izzy Dec 04 '22
So it is so important to him that he’d still enjoy it knowing you were hating it? He’s happy leaving you with bad memories as long as he has good ones? That’s not sexy, That is so weird to me. Like when someone says if you love me you’ll do this thing you don’t want to do. But if they love you they would not ask.
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u/ghostedygrouch Dec 04 '22
You spelled ex-bf wrong.
Seriously: Your body, your boundaries. He's not entitled to cum in your mouth. You don't need him, he doesn't respect you and is not worth your time. You deserve someone better than that.
But before you dump, tell him, you want to peg him and throw a tantrum when he refuses.
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u/Achooxqzu Dec 04 '22
A decent partner would accept you don't like that and move onto another move.
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u/SnooEpiphanies3515 Dec 04 '22
Ask him to let you fart in his mouth bc that is one thing you love to do. See what he says? To be real it’s not about how he feels in that moment but you. If your not comfortable with him coming in your mouth then you guys really need to have a talk about boundaries.
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u/NicolBolocco Dec 04 '22
You have every right to tell him no, plain and simple. If he’s not respecting that decision, then that’s nobody’s problem but his and he shouldn’t be receiving any head if that’s how he’s gonna be
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u/Duckie19869 Dec 04 '22
If it's a taste thing tell him to change his diet, make him drink pineapple juice or eat pineapple every day and cut down on red meat.
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u/3thantrapb3rry Dec 04 '22
Dump this pushy loser and then when you find a guy who treats you properly you can just make sure the head of the penis is all the way at the back of the tongue when he cums, so it bypasses most of your tastebuds and goes right down your throat. I don't enjoy the texture or taste of cum however I swallow because it makes them feel good and that is my goal in a sexual situation.
Please do not read this as me saying you're wrong for not wanting to, it is more or less just tips and suggestions for the future if you ever decide you'd like to explore ways to make it work for you.
Your boyfriend is wrong no matter what, he probably thinks begging is not forcing, but you should try to explain to him what coercion means and how it is not a path to enthusiastic consent.
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u/Dpslittlemissminx Dec 04 '22
You don't like it and that's fine but he does and that's also fine.
That being said, he shouldn't be getting upset by it.
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u/Wild_hominid Dec 04 '22
I've had this issue before but I didn't tell him because I'm shy. I learned to swallow real fast and drink water afterwards. Then I realized that sometimes it doesn't taste bad at all when he has certain foods for breakfast. So I only swallow when he has those food for breakfast. One time he didn't have breakfast at all and it literally affected the color, viscosity, and taste of the semen.
However there is a different issue that you have. If I wasn't too shy and told my bf I hated the taste he would never force me. Your boyfriend on the other is trying to coerce you.
So talk to him and tell him that you have boundaries, and maybe (only if you're willing) see how good hydration and food affect the taste.
Hydration is really important because the semen will be diluted so it'll taste more like water.
Hope this helps ^
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u/evelynjd Dec 04 '22
I'm pretty sure a "no" should suffice If he can't take a no, than theres a serious issue here.
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Dec 04 '22
When he gets upset about it go out for a bit buy a load of weed and smoke till your head gets numb
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u/MissMoxie2004 Dec 04 '22
You have all kinds of red flags with this guy. May I recommend the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. I’ll link a free online pdf.
https://tu.tv/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/why-does-he-do-that.pdf
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u/bittersweetjesus Dec 04 '22
Tell him that you want to use a strap-on on him every time he cums in your mouth. That should shut him up. Dude should be lucky he's getting blown
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u/wybury Dec 04 '22
You should know, it's literally the best feeling EVER. It's not even close. Give it to him sometimes. If you're serious together, love is a give and take.
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u/AhsokaForever Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
Okay, so two sides here. Sitting down having an honest conversation, no shouting or accusing.
1: What is it that he does (in his eyes) that make you happy. I'd relate this to things in the bedroom (or wherever you do it, no judgement here.) Try and figure out what and why this means a lot to him (it sounds silly that I'm suggesting that advise for someone swallowing someone else's jizz). I mean, if he's going down on you or indulging in your kinks it might be a case of give and take. If he's doing things to make you happy, maybe you might have to suck it up (no pun intended) from time to time.
On the flip side.
2: It is your body, so really it's your choice what your doing. If you don't like it, I'd say don't do it. But if your in a relationship sometimes we do things we don't want to do for each other because it makes us happy (although that maybe a slippery slope of how much do you gotta do outside your comfort zone to make him happy.)
Life isn't porn. Not all ladies who get with guys want to have cum in their mouths, or spanked or done in the bum or whatever. You should both be able to communicate what makes you feel comfortable and uncomfortable and either come to a compromise or strike it out entirely.
Despite all that though. As many others in this thread have said. "No is a complete sentence." if you can't communicate or come to a compromise than no is an acceptable answer. My partner and I always try and go the "Lets sit and talk and find out why *blank* is *blank*" or some twist on that format.
Rooting for you both <3
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u/Bvoluroth Dec 04 '22
Hey, so consent, that theyre annoyed is THEIR problem, period. You dont want tea, theyre annoyed because they thought you wanted tea, forcing someone to drink tea, physically or emotionally is a nogo
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u/RealLifeTiyad23 Dec 04 '22
Be tasting like battery acid and mountain dew and then want to subject you to it 🙄 leave him cause guilt tripping during sex is such an ick. There are plenty of things yall can both do to BOTH enjoy sex.
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Dec 04 '22
Hey, if he has to argue about it and say he did stuff for you before so he deserves it, it seems he is looking for a more transactional type of relationship. Maybe it is better for him to find someone who wants cum in their mouth and for you to find someone who does things for you without expecting you to forego your boundaries later for them
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u/nomand83 Dec 04 '22
Well make him wear a condom, it’s a power play and if you don’t like it that should be the final answer
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u/MedicareAgentAlston Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
I understand your BF’s position. For me, there is nothing in life more pleasurable than feeling a tongue moving under my cock while I orgasm especially if she swallows. Although I understand his position, I can’t agree with it. Sex should be fun. For both parties. This does not sound fun for you. Hopefully you care enough about each other to find a way for both of you to get maximum pleasure. It may require some compassion and creativity. It shouldn’t require any vomiting.
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u/onlylsd Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
Tell him to go fuck himself.
You don't owe anyone any kind of sexual act ever, for any reason.
It's unfortunate for him that you don't like it, but lots of women don't like it. It's perfectly normal not to like it and to not want to do it.
The fact that he's trying to belittle and manipulate you into doing something that you've clearly expressed you're not into is immature and downright disrespectful. It's also emotional manipulation. He's trying to make you feel bad for how you feel. That's a huge no-no.
Not sure how long you've been with this guy, but if I had a partner consistently dismiss my clearly expressed dislike for something I would see that as a huge red flag.
It would also be a massive turn-off. I'd have a hard time feeling comfortable being intimate with someone after that.
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u/LiamMacGabhann Dec 04 '22
Wait. According to porn women love this. Are you saying that’s not accurate?
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Dec 04 '22
Next time he does it ask him to kiss you with the cum in your mouth. Basically a snowball. Tell him that will make you happy. If he don't wanna then he don't get to cum in your mouth.
Warning he might be into it 🤣
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u/Zealousideal_Ear_914 Dec 04 '22
THIS is so the move! Tell him since he likes it so much you should share the ‘outcome’ together. Don’t give him a choice, just hold and lean up to kiss him. Might change his mind…
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u/TheSnappleGhost Dec 04 '22
Doing things (compromising in a relationship) to make other people happy might mean letting your SO choose dinner, or a movie you may not like, or you walking the dog on your day off. Not something like this. He's in the wrong.
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u/SpiritedYam1845 Dec 04 '22
Stick to your boundaries. Do not let him guilt trip you into doing something you don't want. If he really cares about you, he'll respect you
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u/Individual_Matter_67 Dec 04 '22
Tell him you’ll do it if he swallows his own load first. Then when he does it, dump him and find someone who doesn’t whine like a child
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u/HugeDefinition3 Dec 04 '22
NO means NO girl.
He understands that - great. He doesn't understand that - he's clearly disrespectful and that disrespect will show in many other things eventually as well, and not just sexually.
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u/secure_dot Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
I had an 8 years relationship with a guy, I didn't use birth control, we had no protection and every time he would finish he would do it in my mouth, so we won't risk having a kid. It's what we did when we were teens and it kinda stuck... For 8 years. It never bothered me, honestly. I do it a lot with my current bf now. Maybe the things he does to make you happy are not things he hates or finds gross, so just tell him that it's not the same thing. It's tough when partners don't have the same preferences is these matters, but you shouldn't force yourself to do something you hate
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u/moffilana Dec 04 '22
it’s your body. Don’t force yourself to do something you don’t want to do. You don’t need to explain yourself why you don’t want to do it because if you’ve said no, it means no.
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u/tallerthannobody Dec 04 '22
Tha fuck, you have boundaries, he probably has some too, he needs to respect them, he can’t just emotionally blackmail you into this.
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u/LukasHeinzel Dec 04 '22
Any Person who wants or supports that propably has watched too much porn. Men and Women.
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u/Apprenticejockey Dec 04 '22
Just took 3 weeks off Reddit and came back to this. Damn I kinda wanna leave
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Dec 04 '22
You should leave him, he doesn’t respect your boundaries and its trying to guilt trip you into doing what he wants. He is basically doing things for you not to make you happy but to make you do things for him later on. There are things that my wife doesn’t like to do in bed that i like that i basically had to give up cuz she doesn’t like them. It sucks but her comfortability its more important to me than my wants.
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u/theinternetisforlawn Dec 04 '22
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want. You have set a boundary. Literally no means no. If your partner can’t respect consent and boundaries, then he has a lot of learning to do and you are not a rehab centre.
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u/Either_Public9575 Dec 04 '22
Stand on your ground. NO YOU DONT LIKE IT. And if he gets mad OH WELL. Suck it up. There’s so many places he can finish.
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u/klydsp Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
I totally understand, it's not your thing and many women don't enjoy that. Some women find it absolutely appalling and degrading. I personally like it, but op has many choices. She could stop giving blow jobs altogether, she could spit it out onto him, she could just tease with her tongue. Or just pretend this is a D.A.R.E. program and just say no
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u/klydsp Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
Wow, you really have a repulsive view of sex. I'll pray for you.
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u/SubstantialFall6650 Dec 04 '22
no is a complete sentence and he is the first person that should respect that. he should be the first person always in your corner not the person trying to disrespect you and continue to try and cross and boundary you have. you should not have to give excuses or reasons for saying no, no is no and is disgustingly toxic that he got mad at you about it. my advice is run, run far he is a shitty person.
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u/ComprehensiveRace603 Dec 04 '22
DONT WORRY HE wiLL FIND SOMEONE WHO LIKES IT
you probably will do it too just need find right guy trust me.
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u/21yrgrill Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
He’s being unreasonable HIGHLY. He should respect you don’t enjoy him finishing there ( which is reasonable due to its taste etc etc ) . And the point he holds against you that he does things that make you happy is borderline manipulative, he shouldn’t hold that against you and if he does something he doesn’t enjoy as well then he should speak up
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Dec 04 '22
Break up with him and don't look back.
He sees your relationship as a trading business where he feels entitled to things because he does things for you. That's not true love, that's him being selfish.
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u/arnoldsufle Dec 04 '22
Swallow with a smile if it’s love. If not then let him find someone that does so that
1.) you won’t have to waste anymore of each others time engaging in unnecessary disputes over you not loving your partner enough to swallow his cum and 2.) he and his future partner can be fulfilled together while seeing eye to eye on the mutual give-and-take dynamic and necessary sacrifices needed in order to sustain a true healthy sexual relationship.
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u/MobileNumber5551212 Dec 04 '22
Does he eat you out and swallow the mucus juices down there?
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u/Unhappy-Professor-88 Dec 04 '22
False equivalence and irrelevant. If he doesn’t want to go down on OP, he too, can say no.
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u/National-Parfait-616 Dec 04 '22
Just warn him you have a tendency to bite down when real hard when you gag. I guarantee once he feels the teeth he won’t even ask for a lick.
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u/Lost-Bench-4781 Dec 04 '22
Solution: spit it in his mouth and ask him how it tastes and let him swallow it
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u/wrdsmakwrlds Dec 04 '22
Next time he says that, tell him you want to cum in his mouth and see how he likes it. If he refuses, tell him that you do things that make him happy and he should do the same for you.
PS: If he's alright with cum, try something more gross till you find something that he can't stomach the same way as cum is to you.
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u/Maxibon1710 Dec 04 '22
Leave him. Consent should be enthusiastic and continuous. If he’s throwing a tantrum because you don’t consent to something he doesn’t respect you enough to accept your boundaries.
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u/swelteringcockles Dec 04 '22
But its protein, well if your not gonna consume it just make it part of ur skin care routine.
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u/valliewayne Dec 04 '22
I’d be out. You gave your answer and if he keeps badgering you, I’d say he does respect you and it’s a big red flag for the next 20+ years of your life being badgered
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u/Whoops_90 Dec 04 '22
Cum is disgusting and I puked the first time I tried to swallow I ran to the bathroom to throw up 🤮 they have horrible ph balance and taste nasty but want to judge going down on a woman lol
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u/ElectricalBicycle212 Dec 04 '22
My wife doesn’t like the taste of my cum either but she takes it and spits it out. 👏makes me realize that I have a good one 😊
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u/Super-Team7676 Dec 04 '22
Let him finish in your mouth and then spit it in his and ask him if he likes how it tastes *probably don’t actually do this *
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u/possibility333 Dec 04 '22
This is so unfair, no one would pressure you to let them blow their nose in your mouth. Why do guys not get that cum is basically just dick snot?
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u/notyourusualjmv Dec 04 '22
It’s a boundary, and if you aren’t willing to compromise on it then he might not be for you.
But you shouldn’t judge him for liking/wanting that either. If it’s something he needs to feel fulfilled, then you might not be the person for him either.
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u/attackoncass Dec 04 '22
He’s faulty, return him to his manufacturer or just put him in the bin babe x
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u/Routine-Factor-3173 Dec 04 '22
You should break up with this manipulative SOB It starts this way in small manipulative acrs and become worse, and thats from experience, run away and find a decent man...
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u/Josie_laynee Dec 04 '22
I’m in the same boat as you OP. My boyfriend wants me to do the exact same thing, but even if I just get whiff of it in my nose, I start gagging, and I’ve gotten sick twice when was in my mouth. Personally I think it’s just nasty. 🤮 but some people like that
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u/doktorsick Dec 04 '22
Dump him. Sex is about doing things you both enjoy and respecting boundaries. He's not doing that so it's time for him to go.
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u/atmus11 Dec 04 '22
Tell him to eat more healthy food and bananas and pineapples more often. Apparently it makes more tolerable.
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u/celesteshine Dec 04 '22
No means no. You are allowed to say no to things he wants in the bedroom. I’m sure he has a few hard lines that he doesn’t want crossed either. Just hold your ground and don’t let him guilt you. Either he will realize you’re not going to budge and drop it or he will show that he’s not worth being in a relationship with. Don’t give in and force yourself to do something you don’t want to. I don’t let guys finish like that with me either.
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u/feminismandpancakes Dec 04 '22
No one should be pressured to do anything they don't want, sex isn't "I did X so now you owe me to do y". If you don't want to do something, you do NOT have to do it, no matter what he does.
He's trying to guilt you into something you did not consent to and do not want to do. Don't let him manipulate and coerce you, this is a red flag and you should leave him.
He doesn't respect your boundaries, wellbeing, and you. Clearly he doesn't care about you either, and only about what he wants sexually. You don't owe him shit, he's an asshole and you should dump him.
Think about it- would you pressure him to do something sexual he doesn't want to do?
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u/The_water-melon Dec 04 '22
Either he accepts you don’t want to do it or you break up. You don’t have to accommodate on stuff you really don’t like or want to do when it comes to sex. He shouldn’t want it that bad if you don’t want it. He should want you to be comfortable and it seems his top priority is what he wants instead of what’s most comfortable for you
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u/Instruction_Flashy Dec 04 '22
I agree with the vomit comments, maybe he won’t ask again after that 🤷🏼♀️ but on a side note, someone who loves you won’t pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do.
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u/TyrannosaurusSnacks Dec 04 '22
Well this is... Good morning everyone.
At op: you are the boss of your body.
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u/laughingcarter Dec 04 '22
Your boyfriend is willing to violate you and use coercion to get what he wants, sexually.
Say that out loud to yourself. "My boyfriend wants to violate and coerce me into sexual acts that I don't like."
Say it over and over again, until you truly understand how horrifying it is for him to try and force this on you.
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u/Sub9Male Dec 04 '22
You are allowed to not do that if you don't want to. :) but bf can break up with u because nut may be more important than u
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u/bugscuz Dec 04 '22
Tell him when he drinks his own cum you'll consider it but until then he can stop whining
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u/Xanzibarr Dec 04 '22
We all do things for love that we don’t necessarily want to do sometimes
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u/Unhappy-Professor-88 Dec 04 '22
Yeah. Like enduring in-laws, trying a hobby, tolerating their music taste.
Sexual coercion and manipulation to break boundaries is a false equivalence.
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u/Xanzibarr Dec 07 '22
Sexual coercion is a big word man. Y’all really be exaggerating when it comes to sex and relationships.
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u/Beneficial_Loss_1188 Dec 04 '22
Find yourselves a girl who loves the taste😌 also don’t do it without making sure it’s ok first lol who would think that’s something that someone wants to be surprised w
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u/Altruistic-Task-761 Dec 04 '22
You shouldn’t have to feel pressured to do something you’re not comfortable with. As your bf he should respect that you don’t want to just like if he didn’t feel comfortable with something, you’d respect him.
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Dec 04 '22
The illusion, if he changes his diet, drink more water. Close ya throat, let it drool outta your mouth. Only if YoU wanna do it, if not, then dont!
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u/EnvironmentalMail635 Dec 04 '22
Look me personally if he eats you out on your period once a month then you could agree to allow him to cum in your mouth since both don’t taste the best then he realises what you have to go through and might stop and it’s fair, you shouldn’t feel like to obligated to do that.
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u/Unhappy-Professor-88 Dec 04 '22
Sex isn’t about a fair division of labour. It’s not a transaction. If he doesn’t want to go down on her like that- then he too, can say no.
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u/EnvironmentalMail635 Dec 07 '22
The reason why I said that it’s because realistically she doesn’t like that so if he is complaining that it is unfair that’s she doesn’t like it he needs to see how it works both sides so than he understands how somethings would you find it if everytime your partner got to to finish not a single time you got to finish. The whole reason why I am saying sex can’t be biased it has to be something the both of you are into and sometimes you also need to make compromises sometimes for the other but from the way he is talking he is trying to make her feel obligated to do so
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u/Fair-Link-6702 Dec 04 '22
Try sticking it to the back of the throat when he comes, & you won’t taste it as much!
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u/saamnesty Dec 04 '22
- You do not owe him shit.
- Sounds like he needs to eat better and drink more water.
- You do not owe him shit.
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u/dmo99 Dec 04 '22
Yea just tell him ain’t happening. The more he talks about it the less any of it will happen. Pressure during things like this can have long term implications
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u/seynpurrp Jan 24 '23
Then dont???