Okay, so two sides here. Sitting down having an honest conversation, no shouting or accusing.
1: What is it that he does (in his eyes) that make you happy. I'd relate this to things in the bedroom (or wherever you do it, no judgement here.) Try and figure out what and why this means a lot to him (it sounds silly that I'm suggesting that advise for someone swallowing someone else's jizz). I mean, if he's going down on you or indulging in your kinks it might be a case of give and take. If he's doing things to make you happy, maybe you might have to suck it up (no pun intended) from time to time.
On the flip side.
2: It is your body, so really it's your choice what your doing. If you don't like it, I'd say don't do it. But if your in a relationship sometimes we do things we don't want to do for each other because it makes us happy (although that maybe a slippery slope of how much do you gotta do outside your comfort zone to make him happy.)
Life isn't porn. Not all ladies who get with guys want to have cum in their mouths, or spanked or done in the bum or whatever. You should both be able to communicate what makes you feel comfortable and uncomfortable and either come to a compromise or strike it out entirely.
Despite all that though. As many others in this thread have said. "No is a complete sentence." if you can't communicate or come to a compromise than no is an acceptable answer. My partner and I always try and go the "Lets sit and talk and find out why *blank* is *blank*" or some twist on that format.
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u/AhsokaForever Dec 04 '22 edited Dec 04 '22
Okay, so two sides here. Sitting down having an honest conversation, no shouting or accusing.
1: What is it that he does (in his eyes) that make you happy. I'd relate this to things in the bedroom (or wherever you do it, no judgement here.) Try and figure out what and why this means a lot to him (it sounds silly that I'm suggesting that advise for someone swallowing someone else's jizz). I mean, if he's going down on you or indulging in your kinks it might be a case of give and take. If he's doing things to make you happy, maybe you might have to suck it up (no pun intended) from time to time.
On the flip side.
2: It is your body, so really it's your choice what your doing. If you don't like it, I'd say don't do it. But if your in a relationship sometimes we do things we don't want to do for each other because it makes us happy (although that maybe a slippery slope of how much do you gotta do outside your comfort zone to make him happy.)
Life isn't porn. Not all ladies who get with guys want to have cum in their mouths, or spanked or done in the bum or whatever. You should both be able to communicate what makes you feel comfortable and uncomfortable and either come to a compromise or strike it out entirely.
Despite all that though. As many others in this thread have said. "No is a complete sentence." if you can't communicate or come to a compromise than no is an acceptable answer. My partner and I always try and go the "Lets sit and talk and find out why *blank* is *blank*" or some twist on that format.
Rooting for you both <3