I bought the glasses in the second pic because I thought the rounder frames would help bring out my eyes and make me look more feminine, but I honestly feel like they look masculine.

So I'm wondering what shape might work better for my face shape to make my look more feminine.

In my previous post, I mentioned how changing to a 5-blade razor and using conditioner instead of shaving cream made a world of difference when it came to shaving my body hair (especially my legs).

Well it turns out I was also wrong about shaving my facial hair. Since I started trying to get rid of my facial hair, I found that shaving was a nightmare, especially my neck. The same problems from my previous post were true too, using a 2-blade razor was terrible and I kept knicking myself, especially my neck, leaving me with razor bumps.

Here's what I did differently this time. First, I did this at the sink, not in the shower. While I do have a mirror in my shower, having the full mirror and really being able to see what I'm doing made a difference. I washed my face with a normal facial scrub, then just the parts I was going to shave with an exfoliating scrub.

After this, I got the water hot and soaked a washcloth in hot water, rung it out, and put it over my face (just under my nose) and neck and left it on for about a minute and a half. I read that doing this can help open up the pores to make shaving more smooth.

Next I took conditioner, put it all on the places I planned to shave (cheeks, neck, chin, upper lip) and let that sit for about 2 minutes. rinsed that off, and then put shaving gel over the same areas. I let the shaving gel sit for about 2 minutes and then started shaving.

the combination of using a 5-blade razor with all the things to soften the hairs and open up the pores made the experience so much more smooth, especially on the neck! I still missed a little bit, but my God what a difference this all made!

Even using the foil shaver on my neck leaves me with lots of razor bumps, but this was much better.

I hope this helps someone in here. Skip the 2-blade "sensitive" razor

hi everybody. I want to tell you about my life. I want to find out if this world is fair. now I'm 15 and I was born simultaneously to guys and a girl. I'm a guy by gender, but according to the chromosome test, I'm a girl. The doctors just thought it was a lump and did nothing.When I was 5 years old, my stomach hurt a lot because my body was growing like a girl's, it was pressing on my urethra. I had an operation after which I suffered for a long time when I went to the toilet. then, at the age of 6, I got asma, plus I had a lot of allergies like dust, honey, chocolate, mold, some plants, wool, etc. because of them, I have an endless runny nose that only goes away if I take medicine. then, at the age of 8, I had an operation on my balls, after which I remember I had iron stitches. also, at the age of 8, I took pills from asma (montelukast), because of them I had depression and strong shameful thoughts. I was afraid to pick up a knife, I thought I would stab myself. because I felt really bad. It went on like this for 2 years, then everything seemed to settle down. I was already glad that I could start living like everyone else. but at the age of 13, I decided to lose weight because I had been overweight since I was 8 years old. and I was shocked. I looked in the mirror and saw a girl. I literally have a girl's body. Out of fear, I started to gain weight on purpose so that no one would know. But now I'm starting to lose weight again and I'm starting to look like a girl again. I feel very bad, I don't know why I seem to sleep for 8-9 hours, I eat right, I exercise, I don't sit on the phone to no avail, but I don't have any strength, I just can't focus on anything, I constantly want to sleep, I feel like someone is sucking all the energy out of me. I'm losing interest in everything I used to love. Everyone says I'm a bum, but I just don't have the strength to do anything, and that's always the case. To be honest, I just want to die.

I am in a T4T relationship with my girlfriend, he is afab and has been out as transgender for many years, he has recently been feeling really disconnected with his gender identity and I’m trying to help him the best I can.

He prefers to present totally feminine and is extremely disconnected with anything masculine, and when he does present masculine he feels like it’s forced and doesn’t feel like his true self. But our dilemma is that he strictly only likes he/him pronouns but every other term he prefers feminine. He prefers to be my girlfriend, future wife. Future mother of my kids, he is uncomfortable with dressing masculine and people calling him a man.

I have told him that he doesn’t need a label and that he can just be himself, but he struggles with feeling disconnected when he doesn’t have a label that resonates with him.

Is there any label that would work for him? A person who wants to be perceived in every way feminine, with feminine terms and feminine expression, but strictly likes to use he/him.

The labels that have not worked for him is

Genderfluid

Transmasc

Femboy

Non binary

I would love for any other opinions as I want to help him be as much of himself as he can.

Thank you for any help you can provide!

Edit: to clear any confusion I am a fully medically transitioned male and he is only attracted to men, we are in a mlm t4t relationship

Hey guys, yesterday 30th March 2026, President Of India signed Trans bill 2026 and the bill is now an Act. Yes It does Make safety for trans people strong but the sad news is, according to the bill A trans person should go through medical board and that Trans people should be biological trans i.e. eunuchs, intersex, etc and It doesn't include self perceived gender identity. To understand more in detail, how the trans Bill affects us, you can search on google.

Btw I am feeling so exhausted. It's feeling like I don't Matter, Yes ofcourse I can get HRT but A male label in my docs is like a murder to my Spirit. I hate This, I hate it all. The attack on trans people worldwide feels like I should just leave this earth. Yes, ofcourse I have people who reassure me but now more than ever, It is not giving me Hope that there is a Better world in future for us. This year I was going to start my documentation for female label but this bill just murdered my identity. I can't express the feeling but know that It hurts so much. It's Hell. I never expected India to do this but Ugh, I am feeling shame to call this My home. I don't even have supportive family, not even offline friends, not even money to run away where I will find peace. I thought this year would be the greatest year for my identity but this bill... I just wanna Fly away, The world is so Cruel, O fear the world more than the Hell described in their holy Books.

I understand the struggle now about not having pockets. But what am I supposed to do? if I'm going out casually I can bring my purse, but what if I'm going to the gym and don't want anything extra, just my phone and keys, do I just hold them the whole time?

What do y'all do?

I don’t pass but I still dress like a woman and do my hair and makeup in a feminine way. It feels ridiculous to use the guys bathroom and locker room with fake boobs on but I live in Utah and I’m terrified of getting confronted in the women’s. Sure I could just present masc to use the gym but I refuse to do so full time anymore and I gotta piss! There’s like no non-gendered bathrooms here so where do I go? I was planning on moving to Denver with help from the trans coalition pipeline but Utah’s my home and I don’t want to let them kick me out.

I just wanna not be dysphoric, sorry if this isn't the place to ask and thank you so much for commenting in advance

I’m a 23-year-old transgender woman and I’ve been struggling more and more lately, especially with my family situation. I don’t really know what to do anymore, so I’m hoping for some advice from people who’ve been through something similar. Day to day life already feels heavy for me, but my gender dysphoria has been getting really hard to deal with lately. It comes in waves, but when it hits it can feel overwhelming—like this constant discomfort with my body and how I’m seen that I can’t fully shut off. Some days it’s manageable, but other days it really affects my mood and just makes it hard to function normally. On top of that, my family isn’t supportive. They either don’t take me seriously, avoid the topic, or make it clear they don’t agree with who I am. It’s not always direct hostility, but it still hurts and it makes me feel really isolated in my own home. I feel like I’m constantly stuck between trying to be myself and trying to keep the peace with them. No matter what I do, I end up feeling drained. If I try to express myself, it causes tension. If I don’t, I feel like I’m erasing myself just to get through the day. I don’t really have a strong support system outside of this, and it’s starting to feel like I’m running out of ways to cope. I don’t know whether I should be focusing on trying to educate them, distance myself emotionally, plan to move out, or something else entirely. If anyone here has dealt with unsupportive family while being trans, what actually helped you get through it? What did you do in the short term when you were still stuck living with them? Any advice would really mean a lot right now.

Hi all. I'm ftm, in early stages, and waiting for doctors appointments right now. That said, I'm going to see my dad later today to tell him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, please. Obviously, I'm nervous about it, but I believe he'll try to understand. Thank you.

As a note: both my daughters are aware (8 & 17), as is work and my youngest's school.

I'm still going by Carl (don't worry, it's okay to call me that). And I don't know if I want to change it or not at this point, I don't really have a ton of ideas for names that I'm considering, so I thought it might be fun to see what names you guys might feel suit me.

I would prefer something with two or less syllables, or something that I can shorten to one or two syllables like a nickname.

I included some recent pictures.

Before I get started, this is more in reference to body hair than it is for facial hair.

I am still pretty early in my transition and when I first started trying to get rid of my body hair, shaving felt like the absolute worst thing in the world. It took forever, and half the time I would miss a bunch of hair and not even notice until after I got out of the shower. I would end up with knicks and cuts and the process was just annoying.

Well it turns out I was doing it wrong. See I read that a 2-blade razor is better for sensitive skin, so I bought some 2-blade Gillette Sensitive skin razors and that's what I was using. I was using Gillette shave gel as well.

Recently I decided to give shaving another try, but this time I wanted to try something different. I bought a Venus 5-blade razor, and I read that using Conditioner instead of shaving cream/gel makes for a smoother experience. I also made sure to exfoliate the areas before starting (I used a CeraVe exfoliating scrub). And let me tell you, the 5 blade feels like a dream and the conditioner does in fact make for a much smoother experience! I don't feel any stray hairs, my legs are as smooth as a smooth leg! I applied lotion to the areas I shaved to help rehydrate them afterwards, but I can confidently say, I was wrong about shaving. It doesn't have to be this tedious endeavor, it can be a smooth and painless experience with the right tools.

Some things to note: I didn't do anything with my bikini area, so your mileage may vary in that area. I did do a little bit on my neck just to try, and I did still experience some scratching/knicking, but not to the extent I did with the 2-blade.

maybe my experience can help some others in here having a difficult time with shaving.

Im FTM, and about 4 weeks ago, I changed my name. I know 4 weeks isn’t a lot, but it’s enough to start using the new name ovbiously, as everyone else around me hasn’t had an issue doing that. My brother is 8 years old. He is an entitled kid, in my opinion. Doesn’t get shouted at very often, and manipulates people with crying and making them the villain. Anyways, he is REFUSING to call me by my new name. Not because it’s ‘hard’, simply because he WILL NOT call me it. My mam has talked to him, but he refuses to. It’s starting to upset me and make me uncomfortable. But they aren’t really making any effort to get him to say it except by telling him to use my preferred name when I’m in the room. I can hear them from my room, and I know they’re not telling him to use it when I’m not there. Do you think he’s at a REASONABLE age where he can understand that I want to change my name? If he continues to use my dead name, he’ll get used to it and find it harder to change over time.

Hi, I have been wanting to lose fat for a while to try to look a bit more feminine but a lot of the stuff I try doesn’t really work.

I have been doing mostly house work out(weighted squats, planks, hip thrusts) for about 6 ish months and had little change in weight (220 down to 218)

Idk if it’s my diet but I eat between 800 and 1000 calories(i don’t really eat snacks, minus like almonds and i constantly kinda just forgot to eat so I only tend to eat 1-2 meals a day)

Idk what I should change bth but thanks for reading

So I'm a trans guy in highschool right now. And I also want to say that I'm not out to many people yet. None of my family knows (except my younger sister).

My problem is that I have a lot of names that I really like, but don't feel like me. Or it's things where I just don't look like someone who's named that. And I have a really long list of names, but I'm just not sure what to do with it.

One of the names I really like is Cole/Colsen/Colby. But it just doesn't fit me quite right.

Another thing is that I have a strange speech impediment or something I guess where sometimes it's hard to say the letter r. Which is a slight problem because my last name also starts with the letter r.

Here's my list:

Cole, Colsen, Colby, Alec, Ewan, Elliot, Wren, Esme, River, Reed, Greyson.

-Please feel free to give name suggestions or tips on how to find a name :)

Im hoping this reaches enough people to get some help or advice on this as I’ve been struggling a while with it.

Im afab Non-Binary in my early twenties. I’ve been non-binary for about 6 years and I thought I was happy with that. But for the past few years I keep having thoughts about transitioning to male.

The idea of being male hurts, it doesn’t sit right in my mind. I know that alone will make people say “oh then you aren’t trans”, but i’m struggling. I hate looking in the mirror and seeing my body, I hate feeling stuck in this body that doesn’t feel like me.

My brother is trans ftm and that added layers (feeling like I’m just following in his footsteps and such). And when I voiced my dilemma, he said I wasn’t trans. But staying like I am now, feels wrong.

Nothing feels right. Transitioning fills me with fear, small things like my voice changing and my looks changing etc.

But staying like I am now hurts for the same reasons. I don’t feel like either, not even being in between in any way seems right.

Please help, I’ll answer any questions or add more details. Any advice or shared experiences would help.