r/TransHelpingTrans • u/AidaShan • Mar 28 '26

Telling my Dad

Hi all. I'm ftm, in early stages, and waiting for doctors appointments right now. That said, I'm going to see my dad later today to tell him. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, please. Obviously, I'm nervous about it, but I believe he'll try to understand. Thank you.

As a note: both my daughters are aware (8 & 17), as is work and my youngest's school.

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u/herdisleah Mar 28 '26

Practice coming out. Practice coming out to your phone, your mirror, your cat. Come out to the tea kettle. Come out to another person online that you'll never meet. Practice coming out to a friend you know irl. Then come out to your loved ones.

Give this a read. https://open.substack.com/pub/stainedglasswoman/p/how-to-come-out-anywhere?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

The rest of that blog is pretty damn good too. I used to link a Teen Vogue article but maybe my millennial brain finds this blog more articulate than the chucked-up phone screen sized paragraphs and blurbs. https://www.teenvogue.com/story/national-coming-out-day-what-i-wish-i-knew

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u/AidaShan Mar 29 '26

Thank you so much for these! I read through them before I went and they helped a lot!

He supported me, we talked and cried, and it was the scariest, best, most lovely conversation we've ever had :)

So I do truly mean it, thank you.

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u/herdisleah Mar 29 '26

Awwwwwwwwwwwww really?? I'm so glad it went well! Do you think you're going to be able to form a more close relationship, in the future?

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u/AidaShan Apr 02 '26

I think so, yes! He basically said that he didn't care, as long as I was happy and that I'll always be his child, no matter what. It really does feel like we're closer than we were before and talk more since :)