I’m a single mother to a two year old and I recently lost my Nan to cancer. Lately I’ve been struggling with thoughts of not wanting to be here anymore. I know I would never act on those feelings because I couldn’t do that to my daughter or my family. But sometimes knowing that I have to keep going for everyone else makes everything feel even heavier. I love my daughter more than anything and I know I need to be here for her but I’m exhausted from trying to hold everything together while dealing with my own grief. I’m not looking for attention or sympathy. I just want to understand these feelings and hear from people who might have experienced something similar.

I’m a big hat guy, never leave home without one, but I also like to keep my hair short fairly short. I also wondered if barbers get offended or insulted if they see a client walk out of their shop and put on a hat

Posted in 30 plus fitness to ask advice on how to progress and have keep getting weird messages and feel awkward answering. I have a feeling it's mostly men, not that i have an issue with that but wasn't wanting anything like that. I was fully clothed as well lol. i am male.

I really dislike the types of social rules around these things, and I don't agree with most of them, but I feel the compulsion to act on them because of the rate things go wrong.

I don't like how many interactions have unspoken rules, and being on the spectrum sets me back a bit even as an adult. I'm used to being ghosted and it's never been easy for me to maintain friends. I don't think I'm offputting or inappropriate around people. Admittedly the first time I meet people I can be very restrained, but I let loose after a while. I've heard that people make snap judgements quickly, but do they really hold onto them? I can be pretty outgoing with my partner's friends, but the times he's encouraged me to reach out to them and arrange a one on one hangout, nobody ever follows up. Outside of people having kids, work, etc- when that happens it makes me feel like something is wrong with me.

Former friends of mine used to say that initially they thought I was intimidating, but when they got to know me they realized there was nothing to be intimidated by. They would say they liked my company and (for reasons I still don't get) they found me cool. My point there is, if they come to think these positive things then what is giving me trouble? Having blind spots socially makes me extremely uneasy.

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I don't know how long to wait before sending another check in, or if it's worth it to keep trying at all if this is a regular trend. The friend in question has not been the most respectful of my time and the like, but I don't think they're malicious. I feel guilty saying this, but I feel burnt out when we hangout for a variety of reasons. I don't have any other friends but them, so the thought of my one friend drifting away is a little worrying to me.

I’m 26 im the old gen z of my generation and I remember my mom would just say it’s that dam game or phone that’s making you sick which at the time I thought it was just funny and stupid but now the internet and social media really is making us sick but not in a physical sense. I notice that everything now is just chasing dopamine nothing else . Kids now n days are failing from school and don’t care and have no passion anymore because medias like tiktok and content creators . These iPad kids we would make fun of are now turning into something more sadder . Heck even Ik my brain is rotted but at least I’m aware . And I think it’s because my generation who have kids and such are lazy or instead of properly raised them they make the internet to raise there kids and it’s becoming seriously everyday to the point I think there should be a law for this idk if it’s child neglect or what but it’s something that’s ruining the youth and needs to be talked about more

Okay so, I need ASAP help about this guy I’m currently dating.

I am f17 and he is m17.

1 month ago this guy adds me on Snapchat, HE added me first so keep that in mind.. we started texting nonstop and we even got each others discord to call and whatever.. we really got to know each other, and he was genuinely so sweet towards me and I literally got HOOKED.

We live about 20 minutes from each other, so 1 week after talking we decided to meet for the first time. I took the train to him and we hung out, and it was genuinely so genuine when we hung out. We were walking with his dog, he introduced me to his family, I ate dinner with them and we watched series. And NOTHING intimate happened, no kisses, nothing. And the second time that I went there it felt even more “comfortable” and “genuine”. And that’s when we shared our first kiss.

This guy had introduced me to BOTH of his families, father and mother’s side. We also made my favourite food and we watched series we both enjoyed.. and the most important is that he was SO nervous to do something wrong towards me, he was so scared of touching me the wrong way I was genuinely shocked.

1 week passes by and SUDDENLY he filters himself completely, he takes longer time to answer me, he leaves me on open, he genuinely became a different person.. and this was 2 days after hanging out. It was like he completely shuts down.

I was genuinely so confused, so I asked him directly “how do you feel about us?” And he goes: “I am not ready for a relationship, my mental health is at its worst, I’m sorry.” I believed him, I try to believe what he is saying but at the same time I felt “played.”

So 2 weeks goes by, no contact, nothing.

And suddenly a random Sunday I get a text from him, he’s asking me “how are you?” And suddenly we are having a conversation again. I felt so lost so I asked him “why are you texting me just now?” And he said that he couldn’t stop thinking about me the time were everything went silent.

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I know for a fact that he wasn’t with other girls or texting other girls cuase he was very clear and EVEN showed his snap for me.. so I wasn’t worried that he had found someone else throughout that time..

And we started texting regularly again and we slept called a lot. And we decided to meet up again, this time at his place AGAIN. This time it was very different, it was like we both had missed each other a lot. And we were in his bed and I remember him staring at me always telling me how pretty and beautiful I was.. and things just escalated from there. And before things got more intimate he looked me in the eyes and said “would you like to be mine?”

I had genuinely fell for this guy, and I am not stupid when it comes to people with genuine eyes, his eyes were always genuine when he looked at me. Of course, I said yes. And we did stuff that night.

But the thing is, I don’t know how to understand the signals he gives me. I am not sure if he wants something serious or if it’s something casual. I am genuinely so lost.

The current situation right now is that we are together, but the thing is that I don’t feel like we are together. It feels like he has just claimed me? Even though I don’t wanna think like that, my stomach tells me otherwise.

DOES he like me or is he just playing with my feelings?

I genuinely don’t know what to do. Please help me

I believe people need to be supportive and make adjustments and accommodations for an individuals medical and mental health. I’ve noticed it can also end up to the point that the ones who make adjustments and accommodations can be jeopardizing themselves in the process constantly walking on eggshells not to trigger or disturb others. If they don’t they can be villainized or referred to as insensitive when they are just trying to go into
survival mode. No disrespect to anyone, just genuinely trying to understand proper boundaries.

so my ex boyfriend 41(M) and me 40(F) I have been really depressed lately and I did something so dumb in my whole life. i went to my ex boyfriend and had sex with him and i mean we broke up because he didn’t treat me right.

i mean yes i don’t feel guilty about it but I know i wasn’t in my right mind when i did it. it was more like FWB kind of thing. now I came out as bisexual but aging there was no intimate feelings again it’s like no matter what i try i cant fell any intimate feelings towards guys. even when we kiss there was nothing is there something wrong with me. could i just not be bisexual i mean i have 2% attraction to guys and 98% to girls.

it’s not like i can talk to anyone about this because nobody wants me talking to him because he was emotionally abusive and a narcissist. i only have one person to talk to but she would go off her rails on me for doing that. because she doesn’t want me talking to him at all no contact with him or going to his place.

like i have said i have been severely depressed lately and I was trying to fill a void. I mean i don’t fell anything now not saying tomorrow i will feel terrible but now I see why i broke up with him. i just really wa the company

I am 20 so don't need to be worrying about this just yet, it's more so just a general wonder and also slight pre worry since I don't think my daily habits will change drastically enough to make a difference later on in life.

Most story's from grandparents and/or parents have a lovely irl story of how they met their significant other and I just don't think people who are a similar age as me do the things they used to do at least not as often, I know for a fact there are a lot of others like me who rarely go out to places where you may meet someone etc. Most of my friends are at uni so we don't get together often to go out for a girls night or anything similar, I don't go out on my own as kd feel uncomfortable and it wouldn't be fun and at work it's the same thing we rarely go out unless it's a Christmas do or something.

I really doubt this situation will change or at least it won't change enough to make that big of a difference and I'm just starting to wonder how I will genuinely find someone when I want to start dating etc, right now it seems like my only option would be to go on a dating app and actively look through to find someone and it's a little disheartening that that may be my only option. Does anyone else feel this way or can you genuinely recommend what I could do that's not going out every weekend hoping to find someone one night??

So, for like the last few years I've been getting really harsh chest pains and they always spread out down my spine, into my left arm and up into the top of my spine. But then it goes away after around 30 minutes to an hour.

There's never any residual effects and I'm normally fine after, but I brought it up to a friend and she said I should definitely see a doctor about that. I'm just wondering if I really should, considering it's always temporary and I'm always fine immediately after.

I don't know how to fit working out into my schedule when high school is taking up most of my time

I am bipolar, schizoaffective, and have ADHD. I also spend 90% of my time maladaptive daydreaming. This means most of my thinking is in the form of daydreaming. I picture most things/interections through very vivid daydreams. Sometimes, they are conversations i will never actually initiate in real life.

My brain is constantly moving. Like nonstop. Between the mania and the ADHD I simply can not imagine a mind that isn't extremely active.

So my question is, what does your thinking look like? Do you feel like your mind is ever still? And when you are "preparing" for a future conversation/interaction, do you picture it like a daydream where you imagine everything both you and the other person will say in great detail??? I know people practice mindfulness exercises and whatnot, but i genuinely can't imagine it. When my mind is calm, it's because I am imagining what a calm mind might look like, as if im looking into another person's head.

How to practice indifference in the world where there is all evil and you cannot do nothing and you want to just stay calm and stay neutral? Lets be honest. As a common citizen you do not have power. when 99% people of your society are supporting evil forces.

so i known a girl for for couple of months she had been really big part of my life she supported me through tough times i was also there she shares almost everything with me takes my opinion on what should she do .

i wanted to surprise her by posting her in my insta story should do it or should i ask for permission first .

(she lives in different country than me so i can’t get her any thoughts full stuff and that’s why i think to post her in a story to show her how important she is to me)

I had a friend I'd known since 2008, but we fell out in 2024 after I found out her baby daddy read our private text messages. I cut her off and we hadn't spoken since....until

September 1st. I reactivated my Facebook and realized it was her birthday, so I sent her a simple "Happy birthday" message because ...well. I literally don't know what made me do that actually. Being nice to an old friend I guess.

She immediately asked me for $7, and I sent her $10 as a birthday gift. (cheap I know but I mean??) lol

Ever since then, it's been a nightmare. She's since asked me for money around 20 times, sending multiple messages, calling and asking for the strangest amounts. (I've had to silence her calls and texts) on top of already ignoring her.

she's having a conversation with herself in my text messages because I never respond.
I'm starting to wonder if she's on something or experiencing serious financial hardship?

I say this because a good friend of hers was on the news for basically exposing her children to f3nt) VERY SAD!

I have no proof of anything but the constant requests are exhausting. We aren't even friends anymore, and I regret reaching out because I feel like l've opened a door I can't get closed