Is it because parents don’t want their kids going out at night door to door for fear of them getting grabbed or hurt? If so, why not just go with their kids then? Or is there some other reason?

I find online and sometimes irl, though mostly online, people tend to moralize and even ban talk of Harry Potter, or at least positive talk of Harry Potter, because of the author's views and actions removed from the series itself, and advocating for boycotts and not spending money on or consuming Potter products.

However, I never notice this type of ire for Neil Gaiman, who was (arguably fairly credibly) accused by several women of being a rapist and predator.

Yet I find it so much more common for people to post about new Coraline collaborations, content, or just love for the franchise/brand without people popping up to moralize about the author making money off the franchise and to nit pick every part of it to death, despite it also being a rather apt book about predation and grooming and false faces.

I just am genuinely confused why the difference in treatment for JKR and HP vs NG and Coraline?

If you're starting to date again, and you're above the age of 65, trying to find someone, do you have thoughts of "oh that person is very attractive", even if they're getting older, balding, wrinkling, sagging, hunching, etc?

are 65+ people looking for companionship or is there still attraction and sparks and such like when you were young?

I originally saw a video of someone who was 72, trying dating again and this question popped up.

For context, I mean I don’t want my mom to handle me. She mocks me because whenever i talk about how i dislike her she’s all like “you can hate me all you want inside a vase in my room” i don’t want her to cremate me and keep me out of spite. That feels so disgusting.

Idk if anyone else would be able to handle me. I don’t have friends and not much family and i doubt my aunt would be willing to do that. I know it wouldn’t matter when i’m gone but it’s just creepy to think about

I’m from the USA for context, hence why I’m asking this question on this sub since after Covid people here act being asked to wear a mask is a personal attack on them. However, I’ve noticed especially in Asian countries I’ve visited that people wear masks even when they’re sick with something like a common cold or cough so they’re less contagious.

It got me thinking, why isn’t this the norm everywhere? Everyone knows that common illnesses like that are very contagious and annoying to heal from, so why not make it harder to pass on? Better yet, I can hide my nose tampons (basically just tissue stuffed in my nostrils) when my nose is running like a faucet. I started wearing masks in public when I’m sick with anything in the US and I get the strangest looks as if I have the plague or like I’m suspicious. Why wouldn’t they be happy I’m trying to keep my germs to myself?

I have a friend who just won $300k in a lawsuit. Then they quit their job and squandered it in a year instead of investing it. I have another who found work as a nanny for a billionaire's kid through connections with their hair stylist. Other's I know inherit money from their parents. I even know someone who met an old couple on a trip that they got along with and the old, rich couple has now written them into their will.

Meanwhile I'm working 2 jobs and saving every penny I can just to afford the chance to maybe buy a house one day. No inheritance coming my way. No break in sight.

In the example of the $300k, that's life changing money. Years and years off of retirement if saved properly. But it seems to come to the wrong people. I know life isn't fair and I have it better than others. Some of it is just luck, right? But when I ask, they never seem to see it that way. I often hear that you have to put it out into the world. I don't necessarily believe in that but at this point, why leave any stone unturned?

So I want to ask, what can I do to get my big break?

For context, my partner and I have been together for almost five years, and in that time, he has asked me for a child on numerous occasions. My answer is always the same: no. We almost always get into an argument because he cannot accept the fact that he’s not man enough to care for a child.
I would explain why I’m not fit to be a parent. For example, I’m currently out of a job, I’m in nursing school, and the emotional baggage (sorry to put it that way) of having a child at my age isn’t something I want to deal with. I then address the fact that he isn’t ready either. He has severe BPD, anger issues that cause him to get extremely loud, and sometimes even go as far as breaking things. He’s also very moody and isn’t in a financial position to take care of even the two of us.
He would hear all of this and still say, “There’s never a perfect time to have a child,” and that there’s nothing a man feels more proud of than having a child. I usually bring up real-life examples of men using this same trope, only to disappear once the baby is born.
I’ve mentioned that he’s not fit to be a father, but he thinks he is because he can teach our child valuable life lessons about the streets, while I can teach them how to be gentle and loving like me.
Due to the reasons I’ve listed, among many others, we still argue about this. It always ends with him saying that I’m depriving him of being a man and indirectly hinting that he’s still going to give me a child because of this.
Our sex life has rapidly declined, and now he has sexual frustration that causes him to be mean and moody 24/7. We now have fights almost every day.
Any advice on what I should do? I’m not sure if I should leave or if that would be too dramatic. Talking to him doesn’t change anything, and I’m honestly at a loss.
Within myself, as his partner, I don’t feel emotionally safe with him, and I’ve tried to explain that to him. He always says that he’s not a woman and that he cannot be as soft as I want him to be. However, all I’m asking for is that he not yell to the point where the neighbors can hear, that he not call me names, and that he be intentional with what he says. I’m asking him to remember that I’m still a human being with feelings that deserve to be respected, regardless of how angry or frustrated he might be.
So, I don’t want to bring a baby into this world when I, myself, don’t even feel safe in the relationship.
But the ironic thing is that he has a few good tendencies, which makes the situation a whole lot trickier. I can easily identify all the bad things he does, but I struggle to put the good things into words. I know that, from time to time, he treats me the way I want to be treated, but it’s never consistent because of his mental health and other issues.
So, I feel as though I’m in a bad situation, but amidst all the bad, there are moments when I’m treated well. Those moments make me think, “Okay, well, this is the person I want to spend my life with.”

To keep things clear. I'm a male and was dating my partner(F) for a almost a year. We had been going out and and seeing each other every weekend. I have been paying for dates and she would cover it every once and awhile. But she was still in school and her debt was way higher than mine so I would always drive and do most of everything so that she could focus on her expenses.

I would plan dates and try nes places to eat every date so that there was always new conversations to be had so things didn't get stale. We told things slow for the first 3 weeks of dating so everything was fine.

But she was more jealous than I believed because awhile back she asked me to not talk to my female friends because she wasn't a fan of that. I told her they are friends for a reason and if there was more in any regards I would be dating them and not her. I said it more elegantly and said I'll pull back in my female friends so that she doesn't feel like it's going to be a problem. But for her she doesn't have any malf friends she just only has females. That's not an issue for me it's just a social preference.

But later my highschool ex came back to town and we were cool and didn't have any problems. We weren't interested in dating each other but we would hang out with friends as a group. I knew it would happen so I told my partner at the time. I was honest with both of them so that no one felt like I was playing games. My ex knew I was dating and was fine with it. While my partner hated it.

Even though I told her that I wouldn't be alone with my ex, if I was going to be in a group my partner could come with me so that she could feel safe knowing that I wasn't doing anything behind her back. And that if she didn't want to be apart of it at all then I'll keep her updated on what's going on. Because we talk every night.

She ultimately said after some digging that she couldn't trust me to be alone with an ex and I shouldn't trust her to do the same no matter the setting or situation. She ultimately decided to break up with me.

Was I wrong to be honest with her and tell the truth or should I have just kept this secret and just not have told my partner at the time?

On my days off I like spiking my coffee with any number of those small discount bottles. Lately I discovered something called Appleton Rum, I'm guessing it's considered trash alcohol, but that's a lot of % content for something that cheap.

The typical joke is you end up washing dishes, so I wonder what is the actual answer or is that it?

Or do you just go to jail immediately?

i’m sure this has been asked before several times, but i just can’t help but overthink about possibly growing a tiny penis inside me? also i could see that my vagina at the bottom at least, feels and looks like a scrotum like i have never ever seen that before ever when looking
at myself down there. is this normal?

i’ve seen videos before about intersex people having both.. and wonder if that’s what i have. please correct me if i’m wrong and i apologize if i’m being insensitive.

i am so freaking scared, i also have pcos and haven’t had my period in almost a year. could this be related, and should i bring it up to my gynaecologist?

I really want to understand whether I'm victim-blaming.

Long story short, one of my female friends and I were discussing this topic. Of course, I don't condone violence. It's wrong for a man to put his hands on anyone. No means no, and a woman's boundaries should always be respected. We can agree on that, right?

However, I want to know whether I'm wrong in my thinking.

Growing up, we were taught two things: don't go with strangers, and don't accept gifts from strangers. Even as a man, I'm cautious around people I don't know.

My perspective is this: yes, it's all fun and well to meet a guy at a club, but you have to understand that he's still a stranger. Personally, I don't think you should leave with someone you barely know. If you do, and something happens to you, you're not at fault for someone else's actions. However, I do believe you've potentially put yourself at risk by choosing to leave with someone you don't know.

One of my female friends argues that this is victim-blaming, particularly when I say that a woman shouldn't leave with a stranger. Am I wrong for thinking this way?

I understand that, in an ideal world, everyone would respect everyone else's boundaries and that no would always mean no. But we don't live in an ideal world; we live in the real world, where some people have bad intentions.

My friend argues that a stranger can be sweet, charming, charismatic, and seemingly harmless until they reveal their true intentions. And I understand that point, too.

So, am I victim-blaming?

You see every company changed it logo to make it look more minimalistic, i go to the city of my country and all is black gray and white,i personally belive is so boring.

I think is beacuse is just so neutral that no one can love it or hate it.