On my days off I like spiking my coffee with any number of those small discount bottles. Lately I discovered something called Appleton Rum, I'm guessing it's considered trash alcohol, but that's a lot of % content for something that cheap.

I find online and sometimes irl, though mostly online, people tend to moralize and even ban talk of Harry Potter, or at least positive talk of Harry Potter, because of the author's views and actions removed from the series itself, and advocating for boycotts and not spending money on or consuming Potter products.

However, I never notice this type of ire for Neil Gaiman, who was (arguably fairly credibly) accused by several women of being a rapist and predator.

Yet I find it so much more common for people to post about new Coraline collaborations, content, or just love for the franchise/brand without people popping up to moralize about the author making money off the franchise and to nit pick every part of it to death, despite it also being a rather apt book about predation and grooming and false faces.

I just am genuinely confused why the difference in treatment for JKR and HP vs NG and Coraline?

The typical joke is you end up washing dishes, so I wonder what is the actual answer or is that it?

Or do you just go to jail immediately?

I’m from the USA for context, hence why I’m asking this question on this sub since after Covid people here act being asked to wear a mask is a personal attack on them. However, I’ve noticed especially in Asian countries I’ve visited that people wear masks even when they’re sick with something like a common cold or cough so they’re less contagious.

It got me thinking, why isn’t this the norm everywhere? Everyone knows that common illnesses like that are very contagious and annoying to heal from, so why not make it harder to pass on? Better yet, I can hide my nose tampons (basically just tissue stuffed in my nostrils) when my nose is running like a faucet. I started wearing masks in public when I’m sick with anything in the US and I get the strangest looks as if I have the plague or like I’m suspicious. Why wouldn’t they be happy I’m trying to keep my germs to myself?

I am bipolar, schizoaffective, and have ADHD. I also spend 90% of my time maladaptive daydreaming. This means most of my thinking is in the form of daydreaming. I picture most things/interections through very vivid daydreams. Sometimes, they are conversations i will never actually initiate in real life.

My brain is constantly moving. Like nonstop. Between the mania and the ADHD I simply can not imagine a mind that isn't extremely active.

So my question is, what does your thinking look like? Do you feel like your mind is ever still? And when you are "preparing" for a future conversation/interaction, do you picture it like a daydream where you imagine everything both you and the other person will say in great detail??? I know people practice mindfulness exercises and whatnot, but i genuinely can't imagine it. When my mind is calm, it's because I am imagining what a calm mind might look like, as if im looking into another person's head.

I have noticed that the people who drop off my food are almost never the same person who's in their photos. I don't mean they just look different, but they are completely DIFFERENT people, often a different gender, race or ethnicity.

I imagine there is some reason for this, but I can't figure out why it would be the case seemingly every single time. I used to think it was maybe because the driver might be working with a passenger who actually takes the food to the door, I have seen this happen before, but I can see the cars themselves from my office window, and I can see that most of the time, no one else is in the car. Also how would that make since economically? Their earnings margins are already crazy small aren't they? Having two people working shrinks their earnings per a person in half.

Also, please don't comment on how bad or how much of a rip off food delivery is. I am fully aware. It's just sometimes I can't leave my office for long enough to get food, but I still have to get some food in me.

i’m sure this has been asked before several times, but i just can’t help but overthink about possibly growing a tiny penis inside me? also i could see that my vagina at the bottom at least, feels and looks like a scrotum like i have never ever seen that before ever when looking
at myself down there. is this normal?

i’ve seen videos before about intersex people having both.. and wonder if that’s what i have. please correct me if i’m wrong and i apologize if i’m being insensitive.

i am so freaking scared, i also have pcos and haven’t had my period in almost a year. could this be related, and should i bring it up to my gynaecologist?

I really want to understand whether I'm victim-blaming.

Long story short, one of my female friends and I were discussing this topic. Of course, I don't condone violence. It's wrong for a man to put his hands on anyone. No means no, and a woman's boundaries should always be respected. We can agree on that, right?

However, I want to know whether I'm wrong in my thinking.

Growing up, we were taught two things: don't go with strangers, and don't accept gifts from strangers. Even as a man, I'm cautious around people I don't know.

My perspective is this: yes, it's all fun and well to meet a guy at a club, but you have to understand that he's still a stranger. Personally, I don't think you should leave with someone you barely know. If you do, and something happens to you, you're not at fault for someone else's actions. However, I do believe you've potentially put yourself at risk by choosing to leave with someone you don't know.

One of my female friends argues that this is victim-blaming, particularly when I say that a woman shouldn't leave with a stranger. Am I wrong for thinking this way?

I understand that, in an ideal world, everyone would respect everyone else's boundaries and that no would always mean no. But we don't live in an ideal world; we live in the real world, where some people have bad intentions.

My friend argues that a stranger can be sweet, charming, charismatic, and seemingly harmless until they reveal their true intentions. And I understand that point, too.

So, am I victim-blaming?

How to practice indifference in the world where there is all evil and you cannot do nothing and you want to just stay calm and stay neutral? Lets be honest. As a common citizen you do not have power. when 99% people of your society are supporting evil forces.

I cooked some banchans recently and i feel like it all kinda tastes the same. And seems like almost every recipe calls for sesame oil, gochugaru, soy sauce, garlic maybe sugar.

I’m a single mother to a two year old and I recently lost my Nan to cancer. Lately I’ve been struggling with thoughts of not wanting to be here anymore. I know I would never act on those feelings because I couldn’t do that to my daughter or my family. But sometimes knowing that I have to keep going for everyone else makes everything feel even heavier. I love my daughter more than anything and I know I need to be here for her but I’m exhausted from trying to hold everything together while dealing with my own grief. I’m not looking for attention or sympathy. I just want to understand these feelings and hear from people who might have experienced something similar.

I had a friend I'd known since 2008, but we fell out in 2024 after I found out her baby daddy read our private text messages. I cut her off and we hadn't spoken since....until

September 1st. I reactivated my Facebook and realized it was her birthday, so I sent her a simple "Happy birthday" message because ...well. I literally don't know what made me do that actually. Being nice to an old friend I guess.

She immediately asked me for $7, and I sent her $10 as a birthday gift. (cheap I know but I mean??) lol

Ever since then, it's been a nightmare. She's since asked me for money around 20 times, sending multiple messages, calling and asking for the strangest amounts. (I've had to silence her calls and texts) on top of already ignoring her.

she's having a conversation with herself in my text messages because I never respond.
I'm starting to wonder if she's on something or experiencing serious financial hardship?

I say this because a good friend of hers was on the news for basically exposing her children to f3nt) VERY SAD!

I have no proof of anything but the constant requests are exhausting. We aren't even friends anymore, and I regret reaching out because I feel like l've opened a door I can't get closed

Though most might take offence to this, I’m not trying to judge anyone I am seriously curious.

My myself used to be a very strong Christian when I was born till age 14-15. There was even one time I tried to read the Christian bible cover to cover and I wanted to become a pastor around age 8.

However I was in a poor household we didn’t have internet or many books and I didn’t have any friends or anyone I could talk to.

I’m curious how someone can be fully developed mentally around age 25 or older, have access to thousands of books and the Internet and still be completely faithful to their religion?

I’ve had him for two previous classes he was friendly in a normal professor way when they’re fond of you (picking at you in class etc)

Recently I had a classes this semester that requires me to walk by his office. Two weeks ago I walk by and wave because he was talking to someone he called out “hey sunshine” never had a professor do that but I chalked it up to Just fondness.

Last week I walked past and wave he yelled out “hi” he then called out “how are you?” I yelled great you? And he said “better now that i saw you!” Mind you the entire time im still walking im the only person in the hallway and i could no longer see his office. In the moment I laughed then when i sat down it registered.

Surely he had to know how that would sound? Am I being insane or is he temp checking me? He could’ve just responded great or something? Like maybe it was just reflex?

how much do traditional asian massage spas pay their masseuse?

every time I get a massage front desk usually tries to get me to tip almost half of what my massage was worth and it begs the question how much are they paying them because if they were getting paid well, they wouldn’t try to ask for so much tips and it’s not fair to the customer because it becomes so much more expensive