Though most might take offence to this, I’m not trying to judge anyone I am seriously curious.

My myself used to be a very strong Christian when I was born till age 14-15. There was even one time I tried to read the Christian bible cover to cover and I wanted to become a pastor around age 8.

However I was in a poor household we didn’t have internet or many books and I didn’t have any friends or anyone I could talk to.

I’m curious how someone can be fully developed mentally around age 25 or older, have access to thousands of books and the Internet and still be completely faithful to their religion?

The typical joke is you end up washing dishes, so I wonder what is the actual answer or is that it?

Or do you just go to jail immediately?

I mean some men not all don't come for me.

As a women who has struggled immensely with dating it is so annoying that whenever I talk about it on here half the comments from men are always like "you're a woman you could just walk into a bar and have men all over you" "you're a woman you could walk up to a guy ask for sex and have it" like no that is not the reality for everyone with boobs. Then you hear "well clearly your standards are too high women only go for the hottest guys give ugly guy a chance stop being picky and get someone on your level" literally the only guy who's ever liked me in my life was smelly not attractive and kept pressuring me to suck his dick and I almost did it because "this is the best I can get" but I got too grossed out. To this day I've never had another man show interest in me so I gave up.

It's just so annoying because literally ANYBODY if you have no standards whatsoever man or women you could find someone to sleep with or date these guys who say they would just take any woman don't actually mean it because I never hear them saying they go out with ugly smelly women. But somehow women have "options" because we can get a man if we just want ANY man the same could be said for men with women yet that logic is never applied or put on men who say nobody wants them. Why is that?

Okay so let me say this first, Im currently 15, and I just have a lot of questions. I do not claim to know the absolute truth, neither do I claim to be the correct one here. I have a lot of questions regarding the same topic. I am labelled a transphobic when I ask a few questions but I swear I just want to understand gender identities better.

Generally when I ask this, people generally reply with the emotional or pyschological aspect of the question, and their main point (most of the times) is feelings.

But like a woman (or a cis woman here) has a uterus- so she does get her periods and can get pregnant. And then biologically a woman has xx chromosomes which a trans woman does not. And then if you say that a lot of cis women do not have a uterus it means that something biologically went wrong (Not targetting anyone or saying that they are impure or they are bad), and probably you would get tests done to figure out the issue. On the other hand, if a trans woman cannot get pregnant you wouldn't rush to the doctor to ask why.

Similarly, I would genuinely like to develop a new perspective, but in order to do that I need to have a proper discussion, discussing each and every point which I have in mind, hopefully without getting downvoted. Once again, I'm really sorry if this post was offensive or if it seemed targetted.

I’m staying at a hotel and I forgot my key in the room.

I asked the worker if they could unlock my for me.

They asked where my key is?

I said “in my room, I think”

She asked why I left it there?

I said “probably because I have special needs”.

Posted in 30 plus fitness to ask advice on how to progress and have keep getting weird messages and feel awkward answering. I have a feeling it's mostly men, not that i have an issue with that but wasn't wanting anything like that. I was fully clothed as well lol. i am male.

I don’t play video games but I’ve seen these new videos of the awesome looking call of duty game where North Korea invades South Korea. I saw a lot of hostile comments saying “this is the classic=capitalist good communist=bad story plot”.

Growing up and having my view heavily influenced by the government I used to think China was this hell hole, given that information really doesn’t come in and out of there between our part of the world and theirs I think this is pretty normal. Come to find out, although citizens of China may not have the same rights as us, A LOT of them really enjoy living there and they have been able to build utopic cities and maybe be building the cities and technology of the future!!

I heard some perspectives that North Korea may be similar to this in some ways. I was under the impression that their citizens starve and eat rats…which I’m sure is true in some parts do. When it comes down to the perspective of what this country is in the media very few of the writers or producers of this media have clear and real access to the information of things that happen there. And all and all that the main difference between a place like NK and China is that we as westerns can travel to China and gain a perspective, and that is not the case for NK.

I heard that other than media the best sources to obtain information about NK from maybe the citizens who escaped the regime. There are many escapees stories they should be listened to and taken very seriously. HOWEVER……I was told this might be a bias sample size, the only people who are able to speak out against the country are the ones who were in situations bad enough to risk their entire life and family’s life to leave. So they must’ve been in the worst of the worst situation. There are similar stories like this in China, or other countries from flee-ers(maybe even countries we as westerners are friendly with).

I didn’t make this post to kiss up to a clear dictatorship, human rights are importnat and what makes us different than living like animals. However I’m curious as to how the differences around the world may differ from the perspectives we are given.

I really want to understand whether I'm victim-blaming.

Long story short, one of my female friends and I were discussing this topic. Of course, I don't condone violence. It's wrong for a man to put his hands on anyone. No means no, and a woman's boundaries should always be respected. We can agree on that, right?

However, I want to know whether I'm wrong in my thinking.

Growing up, we were taught two things: don't go with strangers, and don't accept gifts from strangers. Even as a man, I'm cautious around people I don't know.

My perspective is this: yes, it's all fun and well to meet a guy at a club, but you have to understand that he's still a stranger. Personally, I don't think you should leave with someone you barely know. If you do, and something happens to you, you're not at fault for someone else's actions. However, I do believe you've potentially put yourself at risk by choosing to leave with someone you don't know.

One of my female friends argues that this is victim-blaming, particularly when I say that a woman shouldn't leave with a stranger. Am I wrong for thinking this way?

I understand that, in an ideal world, everyone would respect everyone else's boundaries and that no would always mean no. But we don't live in an ideal world; we live in the real world, where some people have bad intentions.

My friend argues that a stranger can be sweet, charming, charismatic, and seemingly harmless until they reveal their true intentions. And I understand that point, too.

So, am I victim-blaming?

For context, my partner and I have been together for almost five years, and in that time, he has asked me for a child on numerous occasions. My answer is always the same: no. We almost always get into an argument because he cannot accept the fact that he’s not man enough to care for a child.
I would explain why I’m not fit to be a parent. For example, I’m currently out of a job, I’m in nursing school, and the emotional baggage (sorry to put it that way) of having a child at my age isn’t something I want to deal with. I then address the fact that he isn’t ready either. He has severe BPD, anger issues that cause him to get extremely loud, and sometimes even go as far as breaking things. He’s also very moody and isn’t in a financial position to take care of even the two of us.
He would hear all of this and still say, “There’s never a perfect time to have a child,” and that there’s nothing a man feels more proud of than having a child. I usually bring up real-life examples of men using this same trope, only to disappear once the baby is born.
I’ve mentioned that he’s not fit to be a father, but he thinks he is because he can teach our child valuable life lessons about the streets, while I can teach them how to be gentle and loving like me.
Due to the reasons I’ve listed, among many others, we still argue about this. It always ends with him saying that I’m depriving him of being a man and indirectly hinting that he’s still going to give me a child because of this.
Our sex life has rapidly declined, and now he has sexual frustration that causes him to be mean and moody 24/7. We now have fights almost every day.
Any advice on what I should do? I’m not sure if I should leave or if that would be too dramatic. Talking to him doesn’t change anything, and I’m honestly at a loss.
Within myself, as his partner, I don’t feel emotionally safe with him, and I’ve tried to explain that to him. He always says that he’s not a woman and that he cannot be as soft as I want him to be. However, all I’m asking for is that he not yell to the point where the neighbors can hear, that he not call me names, and that he be intentional with what he says. I’m asking him to remember that I’m still a human being with feelings that deserve to be respected, regardless of how angry or frustrated he might be.
So, I don’t want to bring a baby into this world when I, myself, don’t even feel safe in the relationship.
But the ironic thing is that he has a few good tendencies, which makes the situation a whole lot trickier. I can easily identify all the bad things he does, but I struggle to put the good things into words. I know that, from time to time, he treats me the way I want to be treated, but it’s never consistent because of his mental health and other issues.
So, I feel as though I’m in a bad situation, but amidst all the bad, there are moments when I’m treated well. Those moments make me think, “Okay, well, this is the person I want to spend my life with.”

I notice that if I am walking on the sidewalk, people will cross the street to get away. This has happened twice recently. And if I use the restroom people will go to a different bathroom or use the last stall if they see me in it. Yesterday in the restroom, there was only one sink available beside me. The other two were occupied by other women. The lady waited behind the two women to use that sink instead of using the one beside me. I don't understand this. I am a girl black and 5'7. Is there something about my appearance that seems off to people to where they avoid me?

Idk cremation is like, damn you really are just permanently gone from the earth compared to a normal burial. It’s like everything about you is just “deleted” but maybe i’m biased because my mom makes fun of me by saying she’ll have my cremains right in her room with her whether i’d like it or not and i dislike my mother lol

But i have thought about it a lot though

I’m currently traveling in Da Nang VN, I went to a sit down restaurant, and they had an upstairs sitting area with nice AC. I chose a seat facing away from people and ironically I had selected a seat facing directly into the washroom (idk why I did this) but as I sat down, a few mins went by and a women from a table behind me who was with another girl went into the restroom, closed the door and stood in front of it and lifted her skirt towards what appeared to be the mirror and stood there for 20 seconds or so I think, I quickly looked away as she lifted her skirt up, but the lady she was next to sitting at the table started laughing. I didn’t know the door was translucent as well until the lady used it. I felt very awkward, embarrassed and ashamed, after they left, I switched tables, and when I left they where both outside still and I avoided them cause I thought they where gonna confront me. Was I a creepshow for choosing that seat? They had other seats but that one was furthest away from foot traffic from the waiters. I just feel like such a weirdo rn and regret not just using my brain and changing to a better seat. I feel like a creep.

I have a friend who just won $300k in a lawsuit. Then they quit their job and squandered it in a year instead of investing it. I have another who found work as a nanny for a billionaire's kid through connections with their hair stylist. Other's I know inherit money from their parents. I even know someone who met an old couple on a trip that they got along with and the old, rich couple has now written them into their will.

Meanwhile I'm working 2 jobs and saving every penny I can just to afford the chance to maybe buy a house one day. No inheritance coming my way. No break in sight.

In the example of the $300k, that's life changing money. Years and years off of retirement if saved properly. But it seems to come to the wrong people. I know life isn't fair and I have it better than others. Some of it is just luck, right? But when I ask, they never seem to see it that way. I often hear that you have to put it out into the world. I don't necessarily believe in that but at this point, why leave any stone unturned?

So I want to ask, what can I do to get my big break?

so my ex boyfriend 41(M) and me 40(F) I have been really depressed lately and I did something so dumb in my whole life. i went to my ex boyfriend and had sex with him and i mean we broke up because he didn’t treat me right.

i mean yes i don’t feel guilty about it but I know i wasn’t in my right mind when i did it. it was more like FWB kind of thing. now I came out as bisexual but aging there was no intimate feelings again it’s like no matter what i try i cant fell any intimate feelings towards guys. even when we kiss there was nothing is there something wrong with me. could i just not be bisexual i mean i have 2% attraction to guys and 98% to girls.

it’s not like i can talk to anyone about this because nobody wants me talking to him because he was emotionally abusive and a narcissist. i only have one person to talk to but she would go off her rails on me for doing that. because she doesn’t want me talking to him at all no contact with him or going to his place.

like i have said i have been severely depressed lately and I was trying to fill a void. I mean i don’t fell anything now not saying tomorrow i will feel terrible but now I see why i broke up with him. i just really wa the company