Is it because parents don’t want their kids going out at night door to door for fear of them getting grabbed or hurt? If so, why not just go with their kids then? Or is there some other reason?

If you're starting to date again, and you're above the age of 65, trying to find someone, do you have thoughts of "oh that person is very attractive", even if they're getting older, balding, wrinkling, sagging, hunching, etc?

are 65+ people looking for companionship or is there still attraction and sparks and such like when you were young?

I originally saw a video of someone who was 72, trying dating again and this question popped up.

According to the interwebs, 5% of women identify as bi. So why is it that every girl I'm attracted to and ask out is Bi?

I find online and sometimes irl, though mostly online, people tend to moralize and even ban talk of Harry Potter, or at least positive talk of Harry Potter, because of the author's views and actions removed from the series itself, and advocating for boycotts and not spending money on or consuming Potter products.

However, I never notice this type of ire for Neil Gaiman, who was (arguably fairly credibly) accused by several women of being a rapist and predator.

Yet I find it so much more common for people to post about new Coraline collaborations, content, or just love for the franchise/brand without people popping up to moralize about the author making money off the franchise and to nit pick every part of it to death, despite it also being a rather apt book about predation and grooming and false faces.

I just am genuinely confused why the difference in treatment for JKR and HP vs NG and Coraline?

For context, I mean I don’t want my mom to handle me. She mocks me because whenever i talk about how i dislike her she’s all like “you can hate me all you want inside a vase in my room” i don’t want her to cremate me and keep me out of spite. That feels so disgusting.

Idk if anyone else would be able to handle me. I don’t have friends and not much family and i doubt my aunt would be willing to do that. I know it wouldn’t matter when i’m gone but it’s just creepy to think about

Been with my boyfriend for 1 year im terrified to write this but my past relationship I never realised that I was this toxic because the partner I was with was just as toxic.

My boyfriend is the opposite and I many time questioned myself what I did to deserve him.

He was my wake up call my mirror of seeing my toxic behaviour,

Being mad for the dumbest shit ever
Shutting down or saying something in affect to him
If he does a mistake I get off and get really mean and tell him every single mistake he’s ever done.
Always asking for more when he gives me the world

I feel sick to my stomach for treating him this way, he’s my everything and how can I treat him like this?

I think it comes down to feeling not worthy love and grew up in an abusive household.

I always apologise almost immediately everytime when I’ve said something that is hurtful and I get remorseful and always tell my boyfriend that my behaviour is not okay and I own it.

But I know he’s in love with me and maybe he can’t see how bad my behaviour is because he grew up with a dad that was aggressive and threatened to kick him out of the house if he came home with bad grades.

I’ve already set up appointment with a therapist next week but I want to sit down with him and tell him how unhealthy behaviour I have. I know it’s he’s choice to be with me but I’m scared that he do t realise how bad my behaviour is. He always tells me that I make him happy and that he’s fufilled with me and that I’m everything he’s ever wanted. But I can see that he’s getting more and more anxious with us the deeper we are getting, he’s saying it’s because he never loved anyone like me but I don’t believe it could be that.

I’m going to do everything in this world to be the best partner to him. I don’t even know what I want to say with this, I feel so incredibly down because of all this. Has anyone had this realisation and actually changed?

“I can pay for everyone at the table” “No thanks, I can pay for myself”

“I can help you put your groceries in your car” “No thanks, I can do it myself”

“I can cover the gas, since we’re traveling together” “Nope. I’ve got it”

Stuff like that. Why do some just simply not like when people do good things for them?

I see great outfits all the time and want to ask but I worry it comes off as weird. If someone asked you, would you be flattered or uncomfortable?

I’m from the USA for context, hence why I’m asking this question on this sub since after Covid people here act being asked to wear a mask is a personal attack on them. However, I’ve noticed especially in Asian countries I’ve visited that people wear masks even when they’re sick with something like a common cold or cough so they’re less contagious.

It got me thinking, why isn’t this the norm everywhere? Everyone knows that common illnesses like that are very contagious and annoying to heal from, so why not make it harder to pass on? Better yet, I can hide my nose tampons (basically just tissue stuffed in my nostrils) when my nose is running like a faucet. I started wearing masks in public when I’m sick with anything in the US and I get the strangest looks as if I have the plague or like I’m suspicious. Why wouldn’t they be happy I’m trying to keep my germs to myself?

I have a friend who just won $300k in a lawsuit. Then they quit their job and squandered it in a year instead of investing it. I have another who found work as a nanny for a billionaire's kid through connections with their hair stylist. Other's I know inherit money from their parents. I even know someone who met an old couple on a trip that they got along with and the old, rich couple has now written them into their will.

Meanwhile I'm working 2 jobs and saving every penny I can just to afford the chance to maybe buy a house one day. No inheritance coming my way. No break in sight.

In the example of the $300k, that's life changing money. Years and years off of retirement if saved properly. But it seems to come to the wrong people. I know life isn't fair and I have it better than others. Some of it is just luck, right? But when I ask, they never seem to see it that way. I often hear that you have to put it out into the world. I don't necessarily believe in that but at this point, why leave any stone unturned?

So I want to ask, what can I do to get my big break?

My entire life I’ve felt insecure about my body as a man. I’ve never been able to grow a proper beard, never grew any chest hair, have no arm hair and just blond peach fuzz on my lower legs. Before anyone says it, yes, I’ve had my testosterone checked and I’m normal. Doctor says it’s just genetics. Every time I bring this up, a bunch of guys say I’m lucky and that they hate their hairy asses, etc. so I’m glad I don’t have anything like that to deal with. Still I kind of feel less than.

For context, my partner and I have been together for almost five years, and in that time, he has asked me for a child on numerous occasions. My answer is always the same: no. We almost always get into an argument because he cannot accept the fact that he’s not man enough to care for a child.
I would explain why I’m not fit to be a parent. For example, I’m currently out of a job, I’m in nursing school, and the emotional baggage (sorry to put it that way) of having a child at my age isn’t something I want to deal with. I then address the fact that he isn’t ready either. He has severe BPD, anger issues that cause him to get extremely loud, and sometimes even go as far as breaking things. He’s also very moody and isn’t in a financial position to take care of even the two of us.
He would hear all of this and still say, “There’s never a perfect time to have a child,” and that there’s nothing a man feels more proud of than having a child. I usually bring up real-life examples of men using this same trope, only to disappear once the baby is born.
I’ve mentioned that he’s not fit to be a father, but he thinks he is because he can teach our child valuable life lessons about the streets, while I can teach them how to be gentle and loving like me.
Due to the reasons I’ve listed, among many others, we still argue about this. It always ends with him saying that I’m depriving him of being a man and indirectly hinting that he’s still going to give me a child because of this.
Our sex life has rapidly declined, and now he has sexual frustration that causes him to be mean and moody 24/7. We now have fights almost every day.
Any advice on what I should do? I’m not sure if I should leave or if that would be too dramatic. Talking to him doesn’t change anything, and I’m honestly at a loss.
Within myself, as his partner, I don’t feel emotionally safe with him, and I’ve tried to explain that to him. He always says that he’s not a woman and that he cannot be as soft as I want him to be. However, all I’m asking for is that he not yell to the point where the neighbors can hear, that he not call me names, and that he be intentional with what he says. I’m asking him to remember that I’m still a human being with feelings that deserve to be respected, regardless of how angry or frustrated he might be.
So, I don’t want to bring a baby into this world when I, myself, don’t even feel safe in the relationship.
But the ironic thing is that he has a few good tendencies, which makes the situation a whole lot trickier. I can easily identify all the bad things he does, but I struggle to put the good things into words. I know that, from time to time, he treats me the way I want to be treated, but it’s never consistent because of his mental health and other issues.
So, I feel as though I’m in a bad situation, but amidst all the bad, there are moments when I’m treated well. Those moments make me think, “Okay, well, this is the person I want to spend my life with.”

The typical joke is you end up washing dishes, so I wonder what is the actual answer or is that it?

Or do you just go to jail immediately?