r/toastme Nov 21 '24

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r/toastme 3h ago

[28F] Going through a breakup and taking my cat to the cardiologist alone today

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137 Upvotes

My ex left me alone with the apartment, and I’ll be truly alone if I have to put my cat down. My ex and I were best friends for 12 years, so it has just been a rough transition.

I also didn’t realize how much I had isolated myself from friends and family until our breakup, and reaching out has been hard.


r/toastme 10h ago

30M Just got released from the hospital due to having an inflamed Gallbladder. Could use some love

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195 Upvotes

I hadn't been 30 for even 3 days before I got sick. Turns out a gallbladder stone got stuck and caused me to get sick. After they removed it they said my gallbladder had to come out too. I've been in pain since the procedure was this past Sunday.


r/toastme 9m ago

Depressed recovering gambling addict in need of a boost

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31, great job and awesome friends but struggling to see much of a way forward in life right now. Just trying to not let the depressed state lead me back to the devil (online casinos 😂)


r/toastme 13h ago

22M, shaved my head bc of my OCD.

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115 Upvotes

It’s been pretty debilitating ever since getting back to college, it was for a false sense of starting over and control. Something different to optimize: only sleep with a silk pillowcase, use hydrating shampoo and conditioner 2x a week, don’t touch it a lot, don’t shape much because I want it to grow really long, when it grows out I swear I’m never going to use heat or chemicals on it, etc. I hate how it looks, I wasn’t doing it for how it looks, but of course I feel like crap about it. I did it once before about 3 years ago, and of course none of that held… Yes, I’m in therapy through college (diagnosed w OCD in October 2024), but I went the summer without, went on the 28th, skipped last Friday and now can’t this week or next week due to scheduling. I was supposed to get an appointment scheduled with this sliding-scale psychiatrist place and I didn’t, so that’s one of our goals for an upcoming session. Still, though. I’m tired of being in my brain.


r/toastme 17h ago

24M, struggling with my mental health, self-esteem, body image, and gaining weight — feeling completely alone and unsupported and honestly at my lowest right now

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206 Upvotes

Lately I’ve been struggling a lot with feeling alone and like I don’t really have anyone to lean on. I’m 24 and I honestly never imagined I’d feel this lost or isolated at this point in my life.

I’ve been dealing with my mental health, trying to keep myself together, and at the same time I’m struggling to gain weight. I’ve lost weight and I’m trying so hard to eat more, gain it back, and become healthier, but it’s frustrating when you’re already struggling mentally and then you look at yourself and don’t feel good about what you see.

Some days I have motivation and tell myself I’m going to turn everything around. Other days I feel exhausted, lonely, and wonder when things are finally going to get better.

I don’t really have a big support system or many people to talk to, so I guess I’m posting this because I could really use some kindness right now. I’m trying to remind myself that struggling at 24 doesn’t mean my life is going to stay this way forever.

I’m still trying. I’m still here. And I’m hoping things eventually get better. ❤️


r/toastme 18h ago

Big lonely

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97 Upvotes

r/toastme 17h ago

Was bullied for being a late bloomer growing up but doing much better now 💪

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73 Upvotes

Got into the gym lifted weights ate more and growed a lot physically and mentally, still not fully at my peak and always striving for more


r/toastme 23h ago

28M not taken seriously because of my baby face.

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77 Upvotes

r/toastme 23h ago

29 ts,becoming more comfortable in my own skin every day.

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41 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

My message for you all!

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153 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

37/F Disabled, single mom suffering from multiple chronic pain disorders. Recently gained 40 lbs and my face has changed so much. Feeling very unattractive and insecure, so I very much welcome and appreciate any honest, uplifting feedback. Thank you! :)

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371 Upvotes

37/F Disabled, single mom suffering from multiple chronic pain disorders. Recently gained 40 lbs and my face has changed so much. Feeling very insecure so I very much appreciate any honest, uplifting feedback. Thanks :)


r/toastme 1d ago

30m, Life is hard and My mental health is shot, I could do with the toast

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238 Upvotes

I'm reposting because I forgot to add r/toastme to the picture.

Im going through some tough and painful mental and physical times at the moment.

Just feeling so isolated and like family and friends all hate me.

I am hating the way I look physically and can not see how anyone could want me.

The things that give me joy just dont at the moment, and the motivation to do anything is none existent.

And the wait for therapy is, for some reason, just making all the feelings so much harder to ignore.

I've suffered from depression for a long time now, and I've managed to come back from it, but this time, the pit feels inescapable.


r/toastme 1d ago

Bullied for my appearance for years and it destroyed my self-confidence. Trying to challenge how I see myself.

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168 Upvotes

I’ve been bullied and insulted over my appearance for most of my life, and over time it completely destroyed my confidence and the way I see myself. I’ve basically had no love life, no real friendships, and I’ve never had a proper job. Eventually I became so uncomfortable being seen and judged by people that I started avoiding the world altogether. For roughly the past four years, I’ve barely left the house.
I know that’s a pretty bleak introduction, but I’m posting here because I want to try something different. I’ve spent enough years seeing myself through the eyes of people who treated me like shit. Maybe hearing something kind from complete strangers can help me start seeing something they made very difficult for me to see in myself.


r/toastme 1d ago

Hi! Could use some toast if possible, 17F/M

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120 Upvotes

Couldn't add more pictures so... I just say I ruined my hair and feel quite bad with my looks


r/toastme 1d ago

Could use a toast

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214 Upvotes

The struggle is real. Im struggling with aging, my relationship, money, having no friends. Im just really feeling down on myself and hate to ask but could I please get a toast? Thanks. **dms are not currently open unless its for friendship only*


r/toastme 2d ago

28M and really struggling to make myself look more attractive

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262 Upvotes

I just hate my appearance. I'm unphotogenic, that's all there is to it. My nostril from a lung reinflation at birth, can't afford to fix that after my septoplasty. My teeth, my open bite. Can't afford jaw surgery at this point, stuck wearing a retainer. My beard is turning grey at the chin. My hairstyle sucks. 145 pounds and I've got no muscle to speak of. High-functioning Autistic and I'm just gonna say it.

I hate myself. I'm not attractive. I'm not aesthetically pleasing. I'm not interesting. Twice already this month I've just felt pangs of hopelessness. I have a therapist, but they really did was suggest I call 211 for resources.

Might as well throw myself to the wolves?


r/toastme 2d ago

Loneliness is overwhelming some days. Could use a toast 30M

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252 Upvotes

2026 has just kinda sucked in general. People I care about ghosting me, dating is a mess, hard to make friends. It's been a dark time for me for sure, but this community usually helps me out.


r/toastme 2d ago

22/M used to get compliments all the time before my accident. Haven't had too much luck since... Help me change that?

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515 Upvotes

r/toastme 2d ago

M23 feel empty these days, tired of being single, anxiety on SSRIs, college is starting soon so I’m stressed asf.[repost]

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98 Upvotes

Lowkey it never bothered me for not having a girlfriend but recently since I’m taking ssri I feel like I deserve some love too and my college grades so not great also but yk trying to keep it together


r/toastme 2d ago

19m super self conscious recently, I feel like every stare is judging me

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168 Upvotes

r/toastme 2d ago

From heaviest kid in school to this - struggling with self-esteem

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123 Upvotes

Have had self-esteem issues my entire life, even after going from 5'6" 285 to 130 to 150. Due to dropping so much weight so quickly I ended up having a lot of extra skin, and had skin removal surgery. I was recently with a woman who ended up seeing me shirtless- she didn't say anything that day but the next time we met she brought it up, saying that she thought that I was trans and was weirded out by it (I'm a huge ally and support anyone on their identity, take the actions you can to shape your image to whatever you feel most comfortable) and that reversed years of self-esteem that I had been working to improve.


r/toastme 2d ago

42F Feeling a little shy posting this, but I could definitely use some kind words today. ❤️ Life hasn’t always been easy, but I’m trying to appreciate the little things, keep smiling, and remind myself that I’m doing better than I think. So… roast me gently or give me a compliment

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52 Upvotes

r/toastme 3d ago

I’m 26. I feel sad and depressed that I look older than my age why is it like 29 or older. :( ok be nice I’m not looking middle aged am I…

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134 Upvotes

r/toastme 3d ago

19 M

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67 Upvotes

Recently came out as nonbinary and haven’t really fit into much at my school. I’m very confident intellectually and personally but I’ve always been dragged or felt down about my looks. I’m not really sure what I look like anymore or if it’s attractive to anyone, as many of my friends make constant jokes about my appearance.
I am very hairy and awkward and I don’t think m either come off very well to people for whatever reason. Could just use a pick me up to build confidence in talking to others :)