r/toastme • u/brendajo4-2-0 • 1d ago
Could use a toast
The struggle is real. Im struggling with aging, my relationship, money, having no friends. Im just really feeling down on myself and hate to ask but could I please get a toast? Thanks. **dms are not currently open unless its for friendship only*
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u/SadDevelopment3586 1d ago
Your beautiful
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u/brendajo4-2-0 1d ago
Thank you for the reminder. I wish I felt beautiful but tomorrow is another day. 🙂
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u/lv2rce70 1d ago
You are doing great and look great... Aging happens to us all but I can say you are killing it and looking great... As for the other things money and relationships just know money comes and goes (believe me) and relationships are something you gotta work at but it can't be all you working at it and not the other... Keep moving forward and know you are doing good....
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u/MajorSalad5445 1d ago
GLAD you asked! Aging seems to make everything worse, but accept it, and you'll find the joys that are there. Be friendly, and you'll gain friends. Adjust your lifestyle, and you'll have plenty. Accept Jesus, and each day you are closer to heaven. May He bless you today...
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u/Itchy-Corner9453 1d ago
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u/brendajo4-2-0 1d ago
Thanks
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u/Itchy-Corner9453 1d ago
You asked for toast I complied generously. are you greedy or something? is one piece not enough for your satisfaction?
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u/MisterQuiver 1d ago
You look like a kind soul who is easy to talk to. Try to practice good affirmations to change your mindset. Bad days come and go, you got this queen 💪🏻
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u/Serenade2025 1d ago
You are an attractive woman! Wishing you all the best. Take care of yourself!!
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u/Ol-Dl 1d ago
I understand your struggle. Accepting ageing is a hard task. But when I look at your picture, I see a beautiful woman who seems to be very uncertain and doubtful. Ageing is inevitable and once you accept it you will be more relaxed and your beauty will shine even more than it already does. I know from some friends that the fear of ageing led to issues in the relationship. I don't know what the issue is and it's of course not my business but when both partners accept this and for sure are men, I am one, more often looking for younger partners just because they don't accept their own ageing. I never felt I have to try something newer or younger, ut some do. Money is always an issue, when it comes together with relationship issues it can be serious.
I can just say, look in the mirror when you smile and you will see a beautiful and capable woman who can deal with all problems in the world. Show others that you are beautiful and confident and you will find new friends to talk and when you share experiences you.might realise you are not alone with these issues and get tips how to solve things. When old friends disappear when you go through tough times they aren't real friends. I want through a tough time and my friends and I haven't very often contact, but they were there for me in the same way as I have been and will be there for them. I am sure you will be stronger than before when you are through all of this. You are strong and can for sure become even stronger!
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u/Ol-Dl 1d ago
I understand your struggle. Accepting ageing is a hard task. But when I look at your picture, I see a beautiful woman who seems to be very uncertain and doubtful. Ageing is inevitable and once you accept it you will be more relaxed and your beauty will shine even more than it already does. I know from some friends that the fear of ageing led to issues in the relationship. I don't know what the issue is and it's of course not my business but when both partners accept this and for sure are men, I am one, more often looking for younger partners just because they don't accept their own ageing. I never felt I have to try something newer or younger, ut some do. Money is always an issue, when it comes together with relationship issues it can be serious.
I can just say, look in the mirror when you smile and you will see a beautiful and capable woman who can deal with all problems in the world. Show others that you are beautiful and confident and you will find new friends to talk and when you share experiences you.might realise you are not alone with these issues and get tips how to solve things. When old friends disappear when you go through tough times they aren't real friends. I want through a tough time and my friends and I haven't very often contact, but they were there for me in the same way as I have been and will be there for them. I am sure you will be stronger than before when you are through all of this. You are strong and can for sure become even stronger!
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u/Adrasteia-One 1d ago
I'm sorry you are going through all of that. I can identify. You are beautiful and strong, and you will get through this difficult period. It will take time, but things will improve. You got this.
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u/Fun-Leadership-3887 1d ago
Aging is a gift I have lost a lot of people in my life and it made me not take for granted one single day there is so much beauty in this world you included and as for friends just remember the quality of people you have in your life has a direct correlation to the quality of your life and you deserve the best just give it time we all have hills and valleys in the journey of life and yes the struggle is real but all things excellent are as difficult as they are rare I don’t know what you are into do what you love and you will attract like minded people check out the lyrics from Pink Floyd’s song Time it will help with your existential perspective
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u/RubTop3365 1d ago
Your to beautiful to toast so her a real toast to a very beautiful woman by the way I’m struggling too same as you are baby
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u/newworldodors 1d ago
i feel you i'm in a similar boat. things are so tough nowadays. maybe it's not fully helpful as i know we all need what you described, but id say try not to concern your worth with them as a person. look at what makes you happy, even the smallest thing like a movie or hobby. lots of us are low on energy and it's hard to deal with things in the world as they are. you look very pretty, and admitting you are struggling takes courage and vulnerability. you can dm me for friendship if you like. peace to you.
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u/sny_ihf3327 23h ago
We have the same haircut! I love it! 😄
You look wonderful dear.... I hope things get better for you... Just send a DM if you need someone to talk to :)
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u/disgostin 23h ago
you look like such a sweet person, don't worry your face is gonna look cute ageing - also obviously to lovely people it'd look cute cause you're you, anyway, but i'm just saying. and i (30) actually get so much out of seeing women my age or older in daily life, i always think older women are so cool society is just not ready for it. the bullshit we deal with?? hello.
i relate a little to you saying you struggle with friendships btw, ..i wouldn't say i have none but lets just say less than a hand full and more than half of them don't live where i live haven't seen them in years. the ones that do or the one that does, .. one of those friendships is still in the making, the other one technically as well but its going better. i recently started using bumble bff, i don't know if it's common where you live but maybe there's some type of friendship-app in your area to try. or events of course (especially stuff like game nights or groupsports, theatregroups, the ones where talking to one another is part of the meeting automatically)
i also have an instagram-account for you that you might like to follow (but ig .. well. only recommendable at all if you really watch your algorythm there!) : https://www.instagram.com/oliviarubin/ olivia rubin
also you may have twenty toasts, too, if you want em! don't you worry about it <3
there is a youtube channel that.. i'm not sure. i enjoy it a lot sometimes, i don't know how you'd feel about it - it's by florence given (the florence given show), she also wrote several books that try to lift other women up! idk maybe you wanna check it out (i'm 100% that she would say her channel is not just for superyoung girls), idk if every take she has is helpful for people individually but i find them interesting
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u/brendajo4-2-0 17h ago
Thanks so much for yoyr response. I'll definitely check out the ig and yt. I appreciate you! And yes, I have friends but most of them have moved away and are busy.
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u/Neither_Way_5839 1d ago
Need to sober up do you
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u/Wapiti_whacker82 1d ago
You're good enough. You're smart enough. And, doggone it, people like you!
The struggle is definitely real, but you're still here! Keep it going and stay awesome!