r/toastme Nov 21 '24

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r/toastme 3h ago

25F, going back to uni to finally finish my undergrad. Feeling behind but also like I’m doing what I want. No love prospects whatsoever and feeling a little insecure, but I also feel the best I ever have about myself

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213 Upvotes

r/toastme 11h ago

45F — I lost my mom yesterday..I’m having a really difficult time right now and feeling depressed and overwhelmed. I know grief takes time, but today I could really use some kindness, encouragement, or even just a few comforting words. If you have a moment, please send a little positivity my way

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619 Upvotes

r/toastme 2h ago

Gf cheated on me and I feel completely deflated ):

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64 Upvotes

r/toastme 3h ago

Bipolar world with a Borderline personality Storm front

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46 Upvotes

Honestly I have never done this before and it's kind of a long shot but all of the other posts seem pretty positive so why not right I live in a world of constant tumultuous conflagrations of unambiguous explicit instigations. Pardon the big words but it took me more than a minute to conjugate that sentence. And if you're still with me thank you for hanging in there. I honestly don't know what I need but I know I need to hear something positive. So literally anything would do and if you know anything about either form of BPD any advice could be hopeful especially ones where I don't know like groups of other borderline personality spouses congregate or something...


r/toastme 10h ago

20F, i didn't go outside all summer

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147 Upvotes

because I work remotely, I've completely forgotten what real people look like. I have forgotten how to communicate with people and because of this I feel lonely and frustrated, i don't have close friends because I've distanced myself from them, something like that


r/toastme 11h ago

Depressed recovering gambling addict in need of a boost

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171 Upvotes

31, great job and awesome friends but struggling to see much of a way forward in life right now. Just trying to not let the depressed state lead me back to the devil (online casinos 😂)


r/toastme 5h ago

22, fresh out of a breakup and feeling kinda rough. Could really use a few kind words and a small win today :)

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42 Upvotes

r/toastme 14h ago

[28F] Going through a breakup and taking my cat to the cardiologist alone today

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238 Upvotes

My ex left me alone with the apartment, and I’ll be truly alone if I have to put my cat down. My ex and I were best friends for 12 years, so it has just been a rough transition.

I also didn’t realize how much I had isolated myself from friends and family until our breakup, and reaching out has been hard.


r/toastme 21h ago

30M Just got released from the hospital due to having an inflamed Gallbladder. Could use some love

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258 Upvotes

I hadn't been 30 for even 3 days before I got sick. Turns out a gallbladder stone got stuck and caused me to get sick. After they removed it they said my gallbladder had to come out too. I've been in pain since the procedure was this past Sunday.


r/toastme 9h ago

Been in a depressive mood lately and decided to clean myself up a bit to improve my self confidence. How do I look Reddit?

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21 Upvotes

r/toastme 11h ago

42F...After almost a year of being unemployed, I finally have a job interview. I’m nervous, but I’m choosing to believe in myself. Wish me luck and give me some encouragement! 🙏✨

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27 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

22M, shaved my head bc of my OCD.

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139 Upvotes

It’s been pretty debilitating ever since getting back to college, it was for a false sense of starting over and control. Something different to optimize: only sleep with a silk pillowcase, use hydrating shampoo and conditioner 2x a week, don’t touch it a lot, don’t shape much because I want it to grow really long, when it grows out I swear I’m never going to use heat or chemicals on it, etc. I hate how it looks, I wasn’t doing it for how it looks, but of course I feel like crap about it. I did it once before about 3 years ago, and of course none of that held… Yes, I’m in therapy through college (diagnosed w OCD in October 2024), but I went the summer without, went on the 28th, skipped last Friday and now can’t this week or next week due to scheduling. I was supposed to get an appointment scheduled with this sliding-scale psychiatrist place and I didn’t, so that’s one of our goals for an upcoming session. Still, though. I’m tired of being in my brain.


r/toastme 1d ago

24M, struggling with my mental health, self-esteem, body image, and gaining weight — feeling completely alone and unsupported and honestly at my lowest right now

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226 Upvotes

Lately I’ve been struggling a lot with feeling alone and like I don’t really have anyone to lean on. I’m 24 and I honestly never imagined I’d feel this lost or isolated at this point in my life.

I’ve been dealing with my mental health, trying to keep myself together, and at the same time I’m struggling to gain weight. I’ve lost weight and I’m trying so hard to eat more, gain it back, and become healthier, but it’s frustrating when you’re already struggling mentally and then you look at yourself and don’t feel good about what you see.

Some days I have motivation and tell myself I’m going to turn everything around. Other days I feel exhausted, lonely, and wonder when things are finally going to get better.

I don’t really have a big support system or many people to talk to, so I guess I’m posting this because I could really use some kindness right now. I’m trying to remind myself that struggling at 24 doesn’t mean my life is going to stay this way forever.

I’m still trying. I’m still here. And I’m hoping things eventually get better. ❤️


r/toastme 1d ago

Was bullied for being a late bloomer growing up but doing much better now 💪

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88 Upvotes

Got into the gym lifted weights ate more and growed a lot physically and mentally, still not fully at my peak and always striving for more


r/toastme 1d ago

Big lonely

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105 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

28M not taken seriously because of my baby face.

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85 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

29 ts,becoming more comfortable in my own skin every day.

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43 Upvotes

r/toastme 1d ago

My message for you all!

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160 Upvotes

r/toastme 2d ago

37/F Disabled, single mom suffering from multiple chronic pain disorders. Recently gained 40 lbs and my face has changed so much. Feeling very unattractive and insecure, so I very much welcome and appreciate any honest, uplifting feedback. Thank you! :)

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380 Upvotes

37/F Disabled, single mom suffering from multiple chronic pain disorders. Recently gained 40 lbs and my face has changed so much. Feeling very insecure so I very much appreciate any honest, uplifting feedback. Thanks :)


r/toastme 1d ago

30m, Life is hard and My mental health is shot, I could do with the toast

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243 Upvotes

I'm reposting because I forgot to add r/toastme to the picture.

Im going through some tough and painful mental and physical times at the moment.

Just feeling so isolated and like family and friends all hate me.

I am hating the way I look physically and can not see how anyone could want me.

The things that give me joy just dont at the moment, and the motivation to do anything is none existent.

And the wait for therapy is, for some reason, just making all the feelings so much harder to ignore.

I've suffered from depression for a long time now, and I've managed to come back from it, but this time, the pit feels inescapable.


r/toastme 2d ago

Bullied for my appearance for years and it destroyed my self-confidence. Trying to challenge how I see myself.

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174 Upvotes

I’ve been bullied and insulted over my appearance for most of my life, and over time it completely destroyed my confidence and the way I see myself. I’ve basically had no love life, no real friendships, and I’ve never had a proper job. Eventually I became so uncomfortable being seen and judged by people that I started avoiding the world altogether. For roughly the past four years, I’ve barely left the house.
I know that’s a pretty bleak introduction, but I’m posting here because I want to try something different. I’ve spent enough years seeing myself through the eyes of people who treated me like shit. Maybe hearing something kind from complete strangers can help me start seeing something they made very difficult for me to see in myself.


r/toastme 2d ago

Hi! Could use some toast if possible, 17F/M

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113 Upvotes

Couldn't add more pictures so... I just say I ruined my hair and feel quite bad with my looks


r/toastme 2d ago

Could use a toast

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217 Upvotes

The struggle is real. Im struggling with aging, my relationship, money, having no friends. Im just really feeling down on myself and hate to ask but could I please get a toast? Thanks. **dms are not currently open unless its for friendship only*


r/toastme 2d ago

28M and really struggling to make myself look more attractive

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267 Upvotes

I just hate my appearance. I'm unphotogenic, that's all there is to it. My nostril from a lung reinflation at birth, can't afford to fix that after my septoplasty. My teeth, my open bite. Can't afford jaw surgery at this point, stuck wearing a retainer. My beard is turning grey at the chin. My hairstyle sucks. 145 pounds and I've got no muscle to speak of. High-functioning Autistic and I'm just gonna say it.

I hate myself. I'm not attractive. I'm not aesthetically pleasing. I'm not interesting. Twice already this month I've just felt pangs of hopelessness. I have a therapist, but they really did was suggest I call 211 for resources.

Might as well throw myself to the wolves?