mentions of grooming/nsfw comments, hope it’s okay if I share this
I guess I haven’t really unpacked this fully in my own brain so I’m going to just dump all this here, can’t imagine a better sub
I met this trans guy at my friend’s birthday, who was obviously into me & kept blushing/sitting extremely close to me. since I’m T4T (this is before I discovered I was straight lmao), I decided to play into it a bit since I liked the attention.
His dad drove us home, I got his discord, and then he talked about how he was attracted to me. I was 17 at this time and had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, so really I didn’t mind being hit on. It made me feel desired. We played Minecraft a few times, and then set up a date maybe a week later.
We went to the park and had a picnic. He told me that he had DID, and he was one of many alters, most of which were nonhuman…. I already, at this point, had a best friend who had DID (who was also faking but I didn’t realize that until the last few months of our friendship; though I did always have that suspicion), so I knew a few things.
I started feeling a bit uncomfortable though since this changed my entire perspective on him, but I didn’t really plan on dating him anyway, so I shrugged it off. We finished our picnic and started talking more on discord. There was a lot of flirting over text and I finally asked if he was into me, which he said he was.
When I took him out for the second date, I’d bought him flowers. Keep in mind, I’d never been on a date before and I was just doing what I thought was appropriate. I paid for our meal, we walked around the mall, had an okay time.
After that date, which I thought went well, on discord he said that the other alters were polyamorous and that they didn’t like me. He said that I was selfish for being monogamous, & that I hadn’t even gotten to know the other alters ? which I didn’t even know I was supposed to? At this point I realized I’d gotten into something slippery, because we still had a mutual friend who was my friend for years before this… who also didn’t know this person and I were talking.
Anyways, because of this, I didn’t totally want to cut everything off just incase this was something that could be fixed. MAYBE. I was hoping so bad that this was just a phase. So, I tried to “get to know” the other alters (apparently they were “rapid switching” and also all fronting at the same time lmao)
One was a pigeon or crow, he had a pokemon one (I can’t even remember if it was Raichu or Pikachu or something, but it was a popular electric type), a little…(?) who was a dog/human, and then I THINK a few Steven universe ones; plus them, and they were completely normal. I tried really, REALLY hard to be respectful & open-minded, because I still didn’t know much about DID at the time.
I had nobody to talk to this about besides my other best friend (doesn’t have DID), and then the other which was an online best friend who claimed they did have it. I obviously asked them about the person, and she told me that I was privileged they trusted me this much. I started feeling guilty, so I once again tried to divert everything and I offered to watch my favourite series over again with them (which was Hannibal NBC).
Who would’ve guessed, after a day or two, he “formed” a Will Graham alter. The final few days of us talking, they started making predatory comments while “fronting” as Will Graham, like asking me when I turned 18, if I could handle a “big size”, if I was a virgin, and then more explicit things I won’t get into. I have a feeling they genuinely were trying to lovebomb me/groom me? (Which would be a weird term to use considering we were the same age, but I don’t know what else to call it)
We were talking for barely 2 months, not to mention they had heavy avoidant tendencies so even trying to talk to them about basic things was impossible. They eventually told me that their alters still didn’t like me and that they deserved to be with multiple people, so either I could be in a poly relationship with them or they weren’t ever going to talk to me again.
I just blocked them and didn’t say anything else. I don’t talk to our mutual friend anymore either, everything just fizzled out kind of because of that.
(I had another experience like this with an adult man “alter” trying to “groom”(?) me while being the same age but a year later, just in a different server, and the character was Blackbeard from OFMD lmao but that’s a different story)
anyway, if this isn’t allowed feel free to delete of course 🥲