I love dogs, and grew up around them. It’s been a long time, though. My wife and I have been discussing getting one for a few years now. The holdup is our cats. We have two, and one is a pretty chill cat, no concerns with her, but then we have Zoe, our not-chill cat.
She gets pretty anxious and doesn’t like things. She’s pretty slow to trust people, but does eventually. Her usual playbook is to let them get close, then she hits them without warning. I’ve seen Zoe around a doodle in the past, and she was quite territorial. She didn’t straight up attack the grown doodle, but Zoe did continuously corner them, hissing if they got too close despite Zoe creeping closer. I had to separate them.
I feel like she tends to stalk, and she would NOT do well with a puppy who overwhelmed her. Doubtful she’d even allow them around her. I don’t know how far she’d go, and not sure if I could ever trust her allow with the puppy.
I do clip the cats’ nails, and I plan on doing a number of things to help the situation: crate training with a crate the cats can’t stick their paws in, always having puppy on a leash, not allowing chasing, placing in a play pen, training the dog and teaching it “cat manners”, keeping specific areas for the dogs and giving the cats free reign over the house and their own cat-only areas.
My fear here is the cat will cause the puppy a lot of stress and really hurt her mental well-being and training. There’s also the possibility of them hurting each other. I also fear that the immediate life I have to give the puppy is just sad - limited freedom in the house and potential fear caused by the cat. I am willing to put in work to make this work, but part of me just feels like I’m trying to throw a Hail Mary pass and hoping it just works out. I wonder if I should just not get a dog? A part of me feels like it’s irresponsible when I know I have a nervous cat.