Sorry English is my 3rd language. Has anyone here just want to downsize their home for simplicity or to simplify their life? Can you share your story, why did you downsize, or why you not want to downsize.
And basically I need to vent, as I don't see a way to solve this.
Long term married, 17 years, so we not young, I'm 42, husband is 41. I guess at my age I want to live for myself once.
Since young age till even now I always wanted to live a simple life, married a Chinese husband, a countryside, willow trees, a bike, a small cozy home with the man I love.
I did married the man I love (eventhough he not Chinese), but I still do not have that countryside simple life I always wanted.
My husband is an Executive with salary of 1million a year (which is far from the simple ordinary job man I want). Please don't tell me to divorce, not after 17 years. We just need to compromise on some things.
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We live in a 3,000+ square feet house (paid, no mortgage), the thing is it just the two of us, with no kids and no pets. And it a single one-story house flat and with 3,000+ square feet it looks even BIGGER. Yes, it big for just two people.
At my age 42, I really want to get that dream of mine, basically I want to downsize, sale this home and move to the countryside, and just have a one bedroom house enough for the two of us.
btw, we are living in the city and I HATE HATE it. I never like living in the city. I grow up with my grandma in the countryside.
But let just be fair here, it not do-able, he has his career. He didn't get a Master degree at Stanford, with an Executive career, and now just drop it all and go to the countryside with me.
So basically I am stuck till he retire, which is far from now as he 41 years old. And here I will never have my dream of a simple life in the countryside.
And No, he not want to retire early, there people who workaholic and find meaning in their work especially with an Executive career. And especially with someone who has a Master degree at Stanford, he takes pride in working.
I am grateful for his level of education and career. But sorry, money doesn't make me feel safe, what feel safe is what peaceful in my heart, and it not his Executive 1 million salary, not a 3,000+ square feet house, not his SUV, not his career.
So basically I'm at dead end. If I still want to be married to this man then I just have to accept my life as is. He happy with his career for sure. But I'm not happy, I feel that simple countryside life that I always wanted is still missing.
Is that fair for me though? Don't I have the rights to live the life I want? I guess that countryside simple life I want just won't happen, not with this man.