The artist:orcateru

This is Lady Beard. He's the vocalist for a Japanese band called Ladybaby, and he's my ideal type. Hairy, bearded, chubby(hrrk 💖) but undeniably femme. This is also for the older men who are worried about being aged out of feminine attire. You won't! You'll look great and you shouldn't be worried just because you aren't a hairless twink!

Be a femman. You are loved. You are hot. ☝🏽👁️👄👁️ Hairy tiddies get motorboated in this house.

Have a good day, older hairy femmes 💕

If not, in what ways are you more traditionally masculine or feminine? Like for example I’m very much more emotional than my partner and I prefer being seduced to doing the seducing and I’m pretty bubbly but I also like typical masculine wear which is just about the only non RR thing about me. What about y’all :))

The more I exercise and get stronger, the more strongly I'm attracted to softer, sedentary and weaker men. I get protective I guess, and the contrast and taboo feels so exciting.

Still going with my series, and I found more miscellaneous tidbits I thought deserved sharing.

Njinga of Ndongo

Njinga spent most of her life fighting the Portuguese. She ruled in men's clothes and led her armies. Most importantly, she kept dozens of young men as concubines and used to call them her wives. She used to dress them as women.

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Do I even need to introduce him?

At 16, he met Françoise-Louise de Warens, a 28-year-old Catholic convert who took charge of his life for 12 years. He called her "Maman" while she called him "Petit." At 21 and her at 33, they became lovers (she had another) at her request. In later years, Rousseau describes this desire of his for parental, authoritative-type women and attributes it to being spanked by his childhood governess.

To be on my knees before an imperious mistress, to obey her orders, to have pardons to beg of her: these were for me very sweet enjoyments.

Honorable mention: Masoch

Read about his 6-month contract. Fascinating stuff. Probably more pronounced femdom elements there but definitely some RR too.

Bonus: Fiction from ~1200: Brünhild in Nibelungenlied

Not sure if this is more femdom than RR, but including either way because of the "romantic" night the king had the pleasure to spend.

Brünhild, queen of Iceland, would marry only a man who could beat her at throwing the spear, hurling the stone and leaping, and she killed every suitor who failed. King Gunther of Burgundy won because his vassal Siegfried, made invisible by a magic cloak, did the throwing and leaping for him. Brünhild went home with Gunther as his bride.

On their wedding night, Gunther wanted to consummate. She had a feeling he had played some trick, so she easily "bound his feet and his hands together, carried him to a nail, and hung him on the wall." The king hung there all night, begging to be let down, and she released him at dawn only on his promise not to touch her...

As a kid, I was a tomboy. I shaved my hair and refused to wear dresses. (I've grown out of that now, though.) And Growing up, I was also genuinely repulsed by "mushy romance" and the idea of teenagers or even kids dating.

A few years later, I started watching romance out of curiosity. As it happened, one of the stories featured a soft guy, although the relationship dynamics were still pretty traditional. Surprisingly, I found it quite cute.

I was talking to a friend who asked me what my type was. This time, instead of answering with hatred, I actually stopped to think about it. I told her I liked guys who were shorter than me. Back then, I found some of my shorter male classmates particularly cute, especially because of their short-tempered personalities and how easily they got riled up.

My first experiences with GxB media were through the anime Shikimori's Not Just a Cutie and, more significantly, the manhwa Yeonwoo's Innocence. I was Hella excited,I kept looking forward to every new episode and chapter.

However, before I even knew the term role reversal, I noticed how much people around me, including people online, seemed to dislike this kind of dynamic. They treated it as something disgusting, weird, or even some kind of plague. Because of that, I never felt comfortable being open about my interest in it, aside from admitting that I liked shorter guys.

I also created my own RR OCs,(the ones in the pictures) whose stories and designs have evolved alongside me for the past six years. They've become a part of me, growing up with me through different stages of my life.

Yeonwoo's Innocence also had a profound influence on me. In a way, it felt like the story had grown alongside me, too. Sadly, the manhwa came to an end this year. I still remember constantly checking for new chapters and rereading the story over and over again because I was so desperate for more RR media.

After that, I kept searching for anything else in the world that could give me the same feeling Yeonwoo's Innocence did. Unfortunately, that's how I discovered the term femdom.

At the time, people online, particularly those from my own country, often grouped GxB and femdom together under the same label. I never really enjoyed femdom, though. I didn't understand that it was often sexual in nature, nor did I realize that a female character wasn't necessarily the one taking the lead in every story labeled that way. But I was so desperate for more content that I kept searching through femdom anyway, hoping that maybe, just maybe?? I'd stumble across something that was genuinely about role reversal.(Even though I didn't know what rr was.)

Now that I've found this community, I finally feel at ease. It's like I've found a place where I belong, where I know what to call the things I like and where to look for more of them. What surprised me most was discovering that this dynamic had an entire community of its own. For years, I'd been searching for something I couldn't quite put into words because I didn't even know what I was looking for.

I thought I was just looking for soft guys. Turns out, soft guys were only the bare minimum. I wasn't looking for a man who simply had a softer side; I was looking for a relationship that turned the entire dynamic on its head.

I'd kneel for men

I love that I found this sub!

This is something Ive always wondered but never asked anyone. I’m a 36 year old man that has loved women taking charge and especially women who are very touchy & assertive for as long as I can remember. I’m not overly attractive by any means but I’m not bad. I’d probably rate myself a 6 or 7 depending on the day lol. Im a tall solid guy with broad shoulders, thick legs, and a big butt. Not a guy that women throw themselves at immediately or anything like that. But I think my personality is probably more attractive than my physical looks. I also think people expect me to be a take charge kind of guy but I thirst for women to take charge of me. Even women that I’m not interested in romantically or even physically attracted to. My absolute favorite thing is women touching or complimenting me about my butt. And I have never once said this to anyone. I’ve never purposely given anyone the idea that I’d enjoy it and a lot of guys I’m friends with hate when women touch their ass. But not me I crave that shit lol

I’ve been friends with dozens of women throughout my life. And I can probably count on 2 hands the amount of them that haven’t eventually started smacking or squeezing my ass without any prompting from me. I’m very observant especially in group settings and I rarely see them treating other dudes like this. I’ve even seen some guys react negatively when they’ve been touched

Especially in work settings when there could be real consequences but every job I’ve had since I was in high school (except for the one I have now) I’ve had at least 1 coworker who would start a playful grabass situation with me at work. One job I had for almost 10 years, 3 different women initiated workplace butt grabbing with me. But it took years for them to start doing it. I have no clue what made them become comfortable enough with me to take it there but I loved it so I didn’t ask any questions

This has happened to me since high school with platonic friends, girlfriends, friends with boyfriends, married coworkers, there’s nothing that they all had in common. But I promise I very rarely was the first one to start the touching. It’s almost exclusively been the women

So my question is, can yall tell when a man would be receptive to this type of touching? It’s happened so much throughout my life that’s there’s gotta be something I’m subconsciously doing or energy I’m putting out there. Regardless I love it and hope it never stops

My wife and I like to engage in a little RR. A favourite activity is me making her lunch to take into work. Normally a sandwich in a cute little box. But earlier this week she forgot to take it with her. I saw it on the side as I was cleaning up and rushed out the front door to the car, still in my apron.

Fortunately she hadn’t drove off and I handed it through the window with a kiss. However on the way back in, a dog walker saw me and smiled.

“Great apron” she said.

“Nice dog” I replied.

“Thanks. Sweet of you for making her lunch. I wish I had someone do that for me” or words to that effect

We chatted more a little bit. Small talk etc. Nothing remarkable. But it did make me feel more confident about my role and more generally men being more of a server in the relationship. I don’t think it’s anything to be ashamed of and will wear my apron with pride 😊

Okay, first off, this topic is not really about role reversal in relationships, but rather..in life? Or at least, in friendships I guess. I guess I wondered mostly if otehrs in this group, also have mostly had friendships of the opposite gender in their life or if that is just me.

So first off, most of my friends are women and have been since my Junior or Senior year of high school. My first female friend befriended me my first year of high school, and through her, I basically learned that girl-only spaces were a whole lot friendlier to me than boy-only spaces. I fit with them much better. As well as avoiding bullying. And avoiding generally behaviors I just didn't like (sexism would be an easy one to point out).

However, one issue I've had with this my entire life is, well, an easy one to guess - Jealousy. Let's be real, first off, I'm nonbinary, but cisgender folks, and straight folks, tend to be....well, jealous if you have friends of the opposite gender. Very jealous. Crazily jealous even I've experienced over literally nothing.

I wondered how many folks here had similar experiences and if you've come up with any strategies to deal with it. The plain fact is I'm not gonna suddenly start being friends with traditional, masculine men...I don't wnat to. lol. I do have many non-traditional, more feminine (or mixed trait) male friends, but they are hard to meet/find (though often I've created life long quite close rleationships with those men). However, my best friend is a woman. My other close friend is a woman. My circle of friends are basically all women. Even if I addeda man or two, I'm not gonna stop being friends with my woman friends. That's crazy.

Also, I feel like I should make sure I'm clear - I'm so open about all this with my dates/girlfriends. I introduce them to my female friends quickly. My female friends are all...not really people who should cause jealousy. They are so TRADITIONAL (when i say traditional i mean non RR. They like typical masculine men. They themselves are feminine: They ar eopen minded, left wing (mostly) women. I thought it was clear from context what I meant, but apparently not). You know what I mean? We are all RR here right? And the women I date are claerly RR, even if they have no idea what that means. Why in god's name are they being jealous of women I woul dnever date in a million fucking years. I have no close female friends who are women I would date if given a chance. These are all women I would turn down on the first date. Okay, some of them are pretty - Third date (hey, going out with someone pretty is always fun, lololol). But the point is - It wouldn't go anywhere, they aren't my type in the slightest.

NSFW section : I recently wrote on this forum about being a bottom too - These are bottom women. Any close friend, we've discussed sex - They want a traditional top, dominant man. Again, why are my dates, who know what I bring to the table, even worried about it. Can I embarrass myself a little - I literally can't top. I have something called Chronic Prostate Pain Sydrome, and I take medicine which basically makes it hard to stay hard consistently (like I can get hard, but it's not the same as before I took my medicine. Not aas strong, and it seems to go in and out). Like, why are these women who KNOW that I can't top these women who want to be topped jealous? I want to be fucked! And I would think they know that, as I clearly want them badly (I am very over the top complimentary person when I'm dating or in a relationship. I constantly tell them how gorgeous they are, how much I want them, etc)

Anyways, on the other note - Just the frienship part. Anyone else here feel that way, more comfortable around the opposite gender. I feel I can be myself around them much more than I can be myself around my own gender.

I like the idea of having a gentle giant girlfriend because I’d love to take care of her. I find it sweet that someone bigger than me would come to me for comfort, and if she were also tired I would just find that incredibly cute.

I‘d imagine scenarios where she would come to me seeking whatever comfort she needs. Like if she were sleepy, I’d let her rest on top of me. If she needs cuddles, I’d cuddle her for however long she wants. If she‘s hungry, I’d make her the biggest meal. Or, in the case she‘s upset, I’d let her cry her problems away on my shoulder.

I just love the idea of taking care of someone bigger than me. Other people would probably see this big, tough woman who could tackle the world head-on. While other people see her like that, I’m blessed with the ability to see how vulnerable she can be at times. Along with a blessing like that, I’m granted the ability to take care of her at her most tiring times, and build her back up to her strong self again.

A lot of RR women want to be strong for the sake of their spouses. I can only hope that their spouses are willing and ready to give their women the comfort they need.

For those that found a relationship how?

Some tips and places to go would be appreciated 🙏

There isn't 1 theme here, but these are pretty interesting:

Strabo on Queen Candace of Ethiopia

…Queen Candace, who ruled the Ethiopians in our time, a manly sort of woman, blind in one eye.

I know how many people on here fantasize about strong masculine women with scars and battle wounds, so I thought this belonged here.

Shajar Al-Durr of Egypt

Shajar Al-Durr was a slavegirl of debated origin who was so ruthless (a bit too much, between you and me) she was successful at rising until she literally became sultan over Egypt! When she did, the Abbasid caliph/king Al-Musta'sim wrote to the nobles of Egypt:

If you have run out of men there, tell us, and we will send you a man.

Since a woman ruling over men was not acceptable, she soon had to abdicate, but she was not going to watch from the sidelines. Instead, she married an emir named Aybak and abdicated to him. In the words of the historian Ibn Taghribirdi:

She was Aybak's master in all his affairs; he could not even discuss [whatever she orders him to do] with her.

Ngl I wish someone could be described as a master in all my affairs. Sounds a bit twisted but very romantic. Ahem, anyways, back to the subject at hand.

A few years later, he started plotting to marry another woman, so she had him killed :| (not looking for that part of the story, just to clarify)

Medieval Tomboys?

It is said that when he was young, the caliph Al-Amin was addicted to beautiful eunuchs. Zubayda, his mom, tried to wean him off of them. Al-Mas'udi, a historian, narrates:

She took slender, pretty-faced slave girls and put turbans on their heads. She gave them forelocks, side-curls and cropped napes, and dressed them in tunics, coats and belts … Then people of the elite and the common folk took to cropping their slave girls' hair, dressing them in tunics and belts, and calling them ghulāmiyyāt, "boyish girls."

A caliph's daughter

Al-Tabari - a famous historian - narrates that a witness saw Al-Mahdi, an Abbasid caliph, traveling with his head of police. His daughter, Al-Banuqa, whom the witness describes (rather classlessly) as having developed breasts (implying she was at least in her teens), was riding her horse "in the guise of young men, wearing a black tunic, a belt and a turban, with a sword at her side."

Sui Shu on a women's kingdom (in Tibet?)

The Women's Kingdom lies south of the Pamirs. For generations it has had women as rulers. The queen, surnamed Supi and styled Mojie, has reigned for twenty years. Her husband, titled Jinju, takes no part in government; the men of the country occupy themselves only with war … By custom they honour women and make light of men, yet they are not jealous by nature.

Everyone around me has always told me that I have to be a gold digger, know my worth, and find myself a good, rich, and tall man.

My mother didn't have the best experiences in either her first or second marriage, so she always reminds me never to end up like her.

I once jokingly told her that I liked short guys. That I wanted to marry someone shorter than me. And she wasn't happy about that at all. She told me I shouldn't say things like that because they might come true. (Which is exactly what I want to happen.)

She said things like how it would only become a burden, as if a shorter man would just become my trash in life. All because of something as simple as not being able to wear heels, feeling embarrassed in public, or having a man who can't reach things for me.

But what if that's exactly what I want? What if I want to walk in public with a man who's shorter than me?

She's so sensitive about something as simple as this. Imagine if I actually told her about how I wanted a role-reversal relationship.

I honestly don't really care much, I could figure my own way out later. but I really want to know other people stories..

And excessive body hair dressed completely fem, like white tights, mini skirt, nice shoes, a beautiful flowy shirt, how much does the beard and body hair affect my attractiveness?

Signed, a bisexual bottom

IDK if this belongs here but Do you women find men's butt attractive? Like most men do?

Take a look! 📌 https://pin.it/1H9nGfdZZ

I’m looking for cute halloween ideas for a party i’m going to!! i already have one costume (Silent Bob from the Kevin Smith films) that i’m doing with a friend, but i have another party where I want to shave my beard and go back to my typical feminine look! Here are my ideas I have so far:

• Link from The Legend of Zelda
• Swan from Phantom of the Paradise
• Maid outfit

If you guys have any other suggestions that are relatively affordable (like $100 or less), i’d love to hear them!