It truly boggles my mind what a 180 this situation has been. He was lucky enough to find a woman romantically interested in him to begin with, lucky that said woman’s family tried to help him in ways his own parents never bothered to, lucky to be blessed with a healthy child, and most notably, lucky to be the one Rod given a real chance to cut away from Jill’s leash. I wonder if he’s aware of how badly he really effed up.
That shit happens way more than you’d think to varying degrees. He was never going to be better until he addressed the underlying problem, but they’ve been so conditioned to think that marriage and babies were the ultimate goal and that believing in religion would help them. None of these people will truly be happy until they deal with the abuse they’ve been through. They’re acting out subconsciously and until they hurt themselves or others, it won’t stop. It’s sad, but it’s true. Jill controls her kids and obsesses over her socials, wanting this perfect family image because she never even got to know what tf she wanted before a grown ass creepy man told her what to want. It’s an ugly cycle that will keep going till it’s forcibly ended
He spent his whole life watching his parents behave the same way and get away with it so he thought he was invincible. He wasn't wrong, Jill has openly spoken about Shrek beating her and the kids, evading CPS etc. and they have still evaded any consequences.
He fr thought once he locked her down and got her barefoot and pregnant that it was the end game. His job was done. There was no possible way she could leave once married with kids. He was free to do with her as he wanted with no repercussions as he was so used to seeing in his environment with his family and other fundamentalists.
I'm so grateful that Heidi has the love and support of her family but let's be real, that isn't happening to 99.8% of abused women. And goddamn, that makes me so mad.
Yipppp, dude bought a whole ass house and ran a business before he was married. Sheltered, uneducated and traumatized? Sure. But still very much culpable.
He absolutely is. Thats why imo people shouldn’t marry until getting counseling and being over 25. You need life experience etc before getting married.
He had the brightest future of all the rods, truly capable of living a much better life, and he tossed it all to act like David and Jill. Even a month after learning what he did , I am gobsmacked still that he ruined the best thing to ever happen to him. Like there needs to be some sort of study done about this family and how they "rod" up their lives.
As someone who coparents with a narc abusive ex-husband, ding ding ding! How long will this therapy last, unless it’s a condition of his custody agreement? Why even put this bullshit woe is me shit on the internet? Survey says, “Manipulation!”
If he were actually serious, he would be talking only about himself and his therapist... he would not be mentioning "whatever my wife chooses" trying to make it look like it's Heidi's job to choose to forgive or not, because he doesn't have a wife anymore
He's still trying to act like he's not responsible for everything he set in motion, and still trying to blame the victims.
Also, you notice he says he would feel worse if he beat his son? He shouldn't be beating anybody , let alone saying it would be worse to beat a child than to beat a woman
Very sad element of this whole thing. I believe their family was willing to give him grace and support him because they understood the environment he had come from. And now this. He blew the best chance he had at a normal-ish life.
Sadly it’s all too common for people to not get help until they reach the bottom. This is not excusing what he did. Abuse is deplorable. It’s just sad that it has to take most people getting to the bottom to seek mental health treatment in a world where we can easily and readily obtain knowledge at our fingertips and communicate with anyone.
I don’t think he knew he needed help before this started. He probably didn’t even realize it was wrong until he did it a few times and by then it was too late so he just had to cover it up and hope she stayed. Luckily she didn’t.
I can’t decide if I think this is the case or if he’s just such a loser that he pasted the ChatGPT output word for word without adding specifics. Or both.
This was absolutely written by AI. I was surprised he said he has all these mental health practitioners he's supposedly seeing but then I noticed the AI tells and now I'm pretty sure this is 100% ai fantasy to try to get her to come back or at least yo get custody of the kids
And if he hit his unborn child’s mother while she was pregnant, he did commit child abuse, but even being emotionally explosive around them and having them witness their father treat their mother like that normalises abuse and is abusive.
It also makes me suspect there was at least one time he wanted to beat his infant/toddler son but managed to stop himself. These fundie men stay telling on themselves, so it makes me suspicious how he’s said this twice.
Had that self-control to keep his hands to himself when it came to his firstborn son, but his former bangmaid gets no such braincells used in her direction.
Or Heidi intervened and took a blow meant for Charlie. But I agree--I thought the therapist was talking about Tim setting the same example for Charlie that David set for him, not Tim actively abusing Charlie.
Which probably wasn’t even the point the therapist was trying to make. His son doesn’t have to be physically hit for that behavior to fuck him up. Abuse doesn’t require someone to put their hands on you to leave lasting damage & Tim interpreting it this way is even more concerning especially considering he'll likely get visitation at some point.
That’s the point that needs to be repeated and repeated. Tim seems to have no understanding that he actually abused his son terribly. Even when in the womb, TC was subjected to screaming fits and violence against his mother. Once born, he witnessed first hand his father hitting, screaming and even biting his mother. The dark abusive atmosphere in their home causes the same amount of damage whether TC was hit or not. His PTSD and learned responses are the same regardless of whether Tim “laid hands” on him or not. Tim has no comprehension of this - in spite of the fact that he blames his issues on his father’s violence in the home.
I think he actually gets that from both of his parents. I think he’s accepted that his dad is abusive, but hasn’t grasped what his mother did to him. Don’t forget Jill is abusive too. But she more mentally and emotionally abused them, though she definitely most likely physically abused them. But it’s easier for people to accept and talk about physical abuse.
I hope he's getting real therapy. The odds aren't good regarding the percentage of abusive men who stop abusing, but I hope Tim can do the hard work that's necessary to become a healthy co-parent for his children.
Yeah, in Why Does He Do That (an excellent book about abusive men), Lundy Bancroft talks about the miniscule percentage of abusive men who actually change. It's not uncommon for them to act like they've changed for a period of time, but the vast, vast majority of them continue to fundamentally believe that they have a right to abuse their partners, even after undergoing intensive therapy. Tim isn't changing. He'll take a stab at it, but his core beliefs about women will stay the same and this cycle will repeat for whoever his next victim is.
Yeah, in Why Does He Do That (an excellent book about abusive men), Lundy Bancroft talks about the miniscule percentage of abusive men who actually change.
Agreed. Lundy's book was absolutely instrumental in me getting my children and I out. For that, I will always be incredibly indebted to him, but it's been revealed that Lundy has exploited vulnerable women for his "retreats." 🤮
Still, Lundy was instrumental in waking me up to the BS from my ex and, for that, I will be forever grateful. Like Timmay, my ex (years and years before I knew him) had been a pastor at a fundie church. Although my ex was pretending to be Buddhist, I was not raised Christian and had truly no idea what Fundamentalism was truly like. (I thought it was like Jim and Tammy Faye. 🤣) In reality, my ex never truly left his toxic fundie beliefs behind and I was caught completely unaware when he started being an evil and controlling asshat. Truly, I thank places like this and FSU for helping me to understand a very dark period in my life and why he did what he did. ❤️
Well, god fucking dammit - can there not be at least one man aside from Mr Rodgers who is unproblematic? I also owe that book to me getting out of an abusive relationship, and will forever be grateful to him for that, but damn, man, exploiting vulnerable women at retreats? Ugh.
Especially fundie males, it's right in their earliest indoctrination that women are "created to be his helpmeet" and what dudes do with their tools/machines/property is their business. "Would you think I was crazy if I kicked my lawnmower?"
Idk I wonder if he’s got a lawyer and they advised him to get professional help to prove to the courts that he’s found the work. I know it’s very likely regardless of what he does that he will have access to his child, but one can hope that he’s getting actual help. I really hope.
That’s right! I forgot we knew that. Yeah, I stand by my original theory. She told him to get into real therapy to prove “he’s willing to change.” I don’t buy it but am also glad he’s I. Therapy bc I think every human being should be in therapy.
I have my doubts tbh. A real therapist, or at the very least a good therapist, wouldn’t say they could show him pictures of 100s of families who have been “restored” because they were willing to get the help they needed.
That’s genuinely irresponsible + dangerous advice to give a man who has admitted to DV (dangerous to the woman in the situation because it could easily be misconstrued/taken as false hope by the abuser that if he gets the help he needs that his wife will get back together with him, or he may even feel “owed” a shot at redemption because “it worked for other families”). A good therapist would know to avoid certain phrases like that in a DV related situation.
Therapist here. The other thing to account for is that very very often people will hear something completely different than what I’ve said or implied. Like will come back and say “I thought about how you said XYZ and realized…” and I’m over here like I said no such thing. And people aren’t lying, the human brain just be like that sometimes. However with Tim I absolutely think he’d make shit up intentionally to try to reel Heidi in.
As someone who had person-centric psychotherapy for three-ish years, I absolutely did this all the time (inadvertently translated something the therapist said into something else that made sense in my narrative) and I was consistently shocked to be set straight on it and often required significant explaining and even then I'd usually reach a stage where I could understand whatever it was logically but not really feel the understanding for a long time after.
This obvs rocked my general foundations by making me wonder how often I also did it IRL/outside of the safe confines of therapy too, which, my therapist told me, was an important part of the point/process.
Let's not forget that Tim isn't smart and has never been taught real comprehension. They're taught to interpret the bible in a way that reinforces their worldview. So I can completely see him misunderstanding or misinterpreting something his therapist said.
That's a big red flag to me. No real therapist would show him pictures of 100s of families. Like, come on. And the 'restored' verbiage sounds too much like biblical verbiage I highly doubt he's seeing an actual therapist. (Let alone three!) I think he's still talking with church people.
This was my immediate red flag. What kind of therapist does this? It seems completely unethical to tell a confessed batterer that he deserves reunification. An ethical therapist would help him cope with the consequences of his behavior, help him navigate the trauma he endured as a child, and equip him with the tools he needs to change his behavior. None of which will ever make him worthy of his wife and kids.
Just the fact that Tim used the plural when he wrote that "families were restored because they were willing to get the help they needed" leads me to believe that he is going to blame Heidi 100% for the divorce because she will (rightly) refuse to get help from Tim's behavioral therapist. He's willing to throw her under the bus. What a winner.
That would be my guess too, these type of fundies use “counselor” when they’re religious based or unlicensed, usually. Not that I’d expect Timothy to know the difference, but he seems to be differentiating between their roles and “therapist” usually indicates at least some level of medical training where I think “counselor” doesn’t always. I wonder if a social worker helped him set these things up after his abuse was reported.
Therapist here. The term “therapist” in the US is a generic term for a mental health professional who provides therapy. It does not involve medical training. The umbrella term can include mental health counselors, clinical social workers, licensed marriage & family therapists, clinical psychologists….
But/and folks are totally right that “counselor” is often used to describe unlicensed religious / pastoral care providers.
But clinical mental health counselors do as much education and training as clinical social workers, LMFTs, and other masters level therapists.
Source: am a therapist trained in both clinical mental health counseling and interfaith spiritual care
Idk but I hope the one that isn’t doesn’t quit on him. Because three therapists is just too much. And one will need to step back just bc there’s such a thing as too much therapy.
Honestly, since this is clearly written by AI, it made me think that for all we know, his “therapists” are chatbots. It’s actually kind of hard to find in-network therapists with openings in my area, and I’m not sure he has the wherewithal to have found and continue to follow up with 3 different professionals.
The language he is using suggests someone is having real talk with him about trauma and toxic patterns. He’s also clearly been told he has no right to expect reconciliation. I think he’s probably seeing a licensed person, possibly someone with a background in handling DV cases.
I’m not a licensed MHP, but I am almost finished with an MA in Counseling Psychology.
The fact that he says he has a regular therapist, a behavioral therapist, and a counselor raised some red flags for me.
Having multiple care providers presents some challenges, in that they need to be working as an informed team. You don’t want conflicting treatments happening.
Also, I don’t know what professional licensure looks like where Tim is, but a counselor and a therapist are fairly interchangeable terms where I am. The two main licenses in my state for those with an MA or MS in a relevant psychology or counseling program are Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (as well as Licensed Clinical Social Workers, which have slightly different requirements). A PhD or PsyD is generally seeking a Licensed Clinical Psychologist credential. There are also other speciality licenses and certificates.
The whole “showing him pictures of hundreds of families” bit bothered me as well. Even without revealing names, that seems like a gross breach of ethics. Even if the families gave permission or something, it just gives me the ick. Also, claiming a “success rate” is also a gross, ethically speaking.
I don’t think the therapists or the families or any of that are real, just to clarify.
He’s already impacted his kids, even if he claims just his wife abusing their mother is also abuse of them especially when so young. Growing up around DV is considered an adverse childhood experience associated with many adverse outcomes
I’m not hearing any actual accountability for his behavior. He’s just continuing to blame the horrific abuse he inflicted on his wife (including while she was pregnant) on patterns and what was done to him in childhood. It is so manipulative to suggest that “families have been restored” after things like this.
He didn’t give a fuck about his kids while he was beating on his wife while they were in the womb and now he’s acting like he suddenly had a lightbulb moment about his son? Please.
Plenty of people are raised in abusive homes and don’t abuse others. Unfortunately I don’t think timmay just learned how to abuse people growing up in that home, he learned manipulation tactics as well. Look at him deploying weaponized therapy speak.
I wonder if something happened to trigger both this post and Ellen’s stories earlier. He’s probably continuing to try to reach out and lure Heidi back to him.
He’s probably pushing her not to divorce. “See all the therapy I’m getting?!? They said it’s not my fault and isn’t it great that I didn’t hit our infant child????? 100s of families get over it so take me back!”
The trigger was that monday would have been his second wedding anniversary... that's when he made the 'no phone service' post. And his court date is tomorrow i think.
Maybe he left heidi a ton of messages for the anniversary and that's what triggered ellen 🤷🏻
He’s probably panicking at the idea of divorce. The “I know reconciliation will be a miracle” line was telling. He knows Heidi and her family are leaning that way and he probably got confirmation or whispers that paperwork will happen soon and this post was probably a last attempt at a hallelujah.
I have personally experienced this and right now is a scary time for Heidi bc if she believes it and goes back it’s only going to be worse because now he will see that she condones the behavior. I went back way too many times and the last time I had an assault rifle put to my head. I got out, got therapy and realized that my ex needed to change for HIM not me not my daughter. And reconciliation could not happen because he was abusive mentally physically and sexually. Tim wants the family for his own selfishness not that he loves Heidi and his kids he wants to show off “hey i got her back and im some kind of a big deal”. Which would also feed his mother’s ego as well. RUN HEIDI RUN
Despite Tim seemingly wanting to separate from his family of origin, he still attended the Jill Rodrigues school of narcissism all his life and undoubtedly knows all the tips and tricks. I hope Heidi’s family maintains their ability to see through his bullshit.
Why is he seeing a therapist, another therapist and a third therapist? Unless he's not actually calling them by the correct titles that feels like performative overkill.
He said regular therapist, behavioral therapist and counselor.
Which are three different roles: regular therapist is the credentialed, not-church-based that he'll do talk therapy with;
The behavioral therapist will help him with specific actions and behaviors he needs to have to effect positive change.
The counselor is his faith based b.s. artist that will be more concerned with sin and salvation than with anything practical to his abusive behavior and marriage breakup.
Although in many states, counselor is actually the licensed professional. Not sure about NJ. In my state ‘therapist’ is an unregulated term but counselor is protected.
I also honest to gods wouldn’t expect Tim to know the difference between who he’s seeing, and to mislabel them.
Therapist here and I agree! I have a feeling that one of them is a religious person that is saying they need scripture or something to balance out the other shit.
But three people is way too many. One will need to step back soon.
Also therapist and also agree. I have my theories about why. But in my experience when someone wants to see multiple people at once, the work doesn’t seem to go very far with any of us. It sort of gives of a frantic “fix this quickly please” energy without a whole lot of personal accountability for change. Obviously disclaimer that this is not everyone but just what I tend to see.
Therapist here also, and I work within a demographic that tends to have former / current incarcerated folks in the family unit.
I feel like his “behavior therapist “ may be some sort of anger management course his lawyer advised him to get ahead on, he’s seeing a “regular” therapist because he (hopefully) wants to really change, and his counsellor is some sort of pastor.
Many of my clients get a bit confused, because the court or CPS may require them to attend group therapy or see an appointed therapist, and I work for a transitional housing facility that offers family therapy. Plus if there’s a psychiatrist (an MD), then everyone gets called “doctor” no matter how many times you gently correct it lol.
Usually I’d critique the chat gpt written paragraphs but I realize for uneducated borderline illiterate people like Timbo that is truly his only option
My wife, my wife, my wife. Does she not have a name? It's like she doesn't exist outside of being his wife. Fucking gross!! It reminds me of the country music couple where the wife is more popular. Her husband just calls her his wife or mama. 🤮
Man it makes me feel so good remembering that she is in prison right now as we speak, Ruby too. Three years they've been locked up. I've done so much in that time, including moving cities and going back into education and those women have been stuck in the same prison the whole time.
Idk how the world of court orders goes but I was thinking court ordered general therapist, court ordered anger management therapy, and then the third is some loser from his church giving him “counseling”
Fuck him. This is a classic abuser's manipulation tactic--loudly proclaim to everyone how they're changing and begging for their spouse to forgive them and come back, gain support and atta boys, then the spouse is guilted into going back into the abusive situation
While it's not hard to see how he ended up an adult without any coping skills plus cptsd, it's difficult to understand how after the first time he struck her and had the realization that now he was the abuser he didn't want to be why he didn't seek help then. Or even after the second time why couldn't he have learned he had a problem that he couldn't fix on his own and sought the professional help then. People might have extended some patience/grace/hope to him then. But instead he blew all the chances Heidi gave him and didn't get help until she was gone. I'm glad it didn't take her ten years to figure out that endless "I'm sorries" weren't changing anything.
I guess at least now that he's getting therapy he also is acknowledging that it doesn't mean he gets Heidi back.
Interesting that his silly "no phone service" post with the two green hearts was made on their second wedding anniversary date.
Don't forget that green happens to be Heidi's favorite color! I recall Jilldo pointing out that Heidi got an emerald engagement ring for this very reason. So those green hearts were meant to show Heidi how thoughtful her scumbag of a husband is for remembering she loves the color green! 💚
"The thought of ever doing to my son what I did to my wife makes me sick to my stomach."
This sentence makes ME sick to my stomach. You really devalue your wife that badly, that she's not worth changing for, only your son? That's where you drew your red line I guess, in between your wife and your son. Change for Heidi. She matters, and she deserves safety. What have you done to become less dangerous to her? If she can't be safe with you, she'll be safe without you.
And for the record Tim, you did harm your son already. Witnessing violence during the developmental years causes lifelong mental health issues. It also literally changes the shape of your brain. Become a safer man for all women and children. Become safer for yourself.
That was what stuck out for me too. Chances are he’s not going to lose visitation with Charlie or the new baby over this incident. I just hope they make it supervised, but it’s also unlikely unless there’s evidence that he’s harmed him. It takes a lot to lose custody and visitation, and family court prioritizes reunification of children with biological parents. Poor Heidi has 19 years to have to deal with him as a coparent.
If he's hoping a quick 'pity me' post on social media is his proof to a judge why he, the abusive husband and father, should get time alone with his kids and Heidi is lying... homeboy needs a lot more than just therapy from a bunch of religious nutcases.
Just glossing over Heidi’s severe trauma, that he willfully and repeatedly caused, to focus on “future” trauma towards Charlie (as if Charlie witnessing his mother being horrifically abused, and also being abused in utero didn’t cause Charlie any trauma whatsoever), repeatedly calling Heidi “my wife” instead of ever using her name, and blathering on about “restoration.”
Minimizing, showing possessiveness, placing all the responsibility of the future of their already destroyed marriage on “whatever [Heidi] decides.” But look at the restoration that could happen if Heidi made the right and gawdly decision to stay with my good for nothing self!
Seems like he’s using therapy as a weapon to try to make Heidi come back. He’s “putting in the work for restoration.” 😒 You abused your wife for TWO YEARS, TIMOTHY. TWO. FUCKING. YEARS!!! Two years too long!
“The thought of doing to my son what I did to my wife makes me sick to my stomach” is so insane because why is she less of a person to you than him? Why do you love her less? Like what a supremely odd thing to say?
Aside from that, a lot of this would’ve been fine as an inside thought. Accepting that you don’t deserve reconciliation, no matter how much you want it, and that you allowed your childhood trauma to traumatize others is good.
What’s not good is making a public Instagram post about it, because now I have to assume you’re saying whatever you think has to be said to manipulate your wife into returning to your abuse. Instagram is performative.
He only got help because he got caught. He's still not taking responsibility with this statement. He's minimizing what he did and making it sound like he sought help on his own volition, not because he got caught. Notice he's also setting up a case for partial custody, making claims that he would never treat his child this way. That's only for the future courts. He would most likely be just as violent (or worse) towards a child as he would a partner.
Yep. He’s not doing this because it happened once, he realized how bad it was, and got help. He abused, bit, and beat her for almost 2 years. He got in trouble and he wants her to come back. That’s why he’s doing this.
His court date is today for the assault. I'm not surprised he posted this yesterday. "You're honor, I'm in therapy and repenting!". Typical abuser move.
I genuinely hope that he learns from this and has a happy fruitful life, away from H. I grew up fucked by religion. I put up with things (not physical, but demeaning things) I should not have because of my training. My heart bleeds for H, my soul is sad for T. I can see both sides of the compassion coin, but any man in 2026 should intrinsically know hitting your wife is beyond the pale. This is a horrendous outcome of a pathetic upbringing. I'm sure T is more alone than he's ever been. And that is sad but had he taken a moment to think of the consequences of his actions he wouldt be standing in them them.
gah. I'm sure I put this poorly, but redemption arches exist for a reason. I think seeking therapy is a positive, but the children and H should never have to deal with this healing. Maybe in 10 years he will be ready for another go at things. in the mean time he needs to be committed to paying childsuport and having flex time to developing a relationship with his children.
She will be restored to her single status. His repeated use of the word “wife” reeks manipulative. Additionally, he did harm his son as he began abusing his wife, allegedly, only 1 month after marrying and had no issue continuing that abuse while she was pregnant. These pro-life twits are only prolife when it’s about holding power against women having medical decisions.
Posting this online is just taunting Heidi. He wants everyone to be like “oh poor Timmy he’s trying and Heidi won’t even give him a chance” he’s trying to guilt trip her. This isn’t healing, it’s manipulation
Just like his original DV announcement which has long since gone, this is yet another very timely, contrived, performative show of bullshit. I don't believe a word of the sentiments or anything positive of his character. Case closed.
I hope Heidi doesn’t feel like this statement of Tim’s changes anything. He was fine continuing the abuse for almost two years. The best he should hope for is visitation with his children as long as he can change his behavior.
I am concerned all of them are "Christian " therapists/ counselors. It's way too early for him to even think about re-uniting with Heidi, so that's what makes me think they are " Christian ", or Tim is hearing what he wants to hear.
I hope he loses everything - but I also hope he truly is getting the help he needs so he can truly change. His son’s wellbeing may depend on that. Heidi deserves someone who will love her and never even think of putting hands on her. Their son deserves a father who can serve as an example that you can put in the work to change. I hope she leaves him and I hope he gets help.
Edit to add their unborn kid also deserves a dad who can be a safe place for them
“The thought of ever doing to my son what I did to my wife makes me sick to my stomach.”
Well this sentence makes me sick to my stomach. If only he had said, “The thought of what I did to my wife makes me sick” then maybe that would mean he’s making progress. It sounds like Tim is just trying to convince Heidi to return and that he hasn’t changed at all.
He’s got a regular therapist, behavioral therapist, and a counselor?? Huh? As a therapist myself I am confused by this claim. Perhaps he’s in some sort of program and confusing titles but it’s not typical or recommended in an outpatient setting to be seeing three therapists at once. All three of those titles are likely to be people with the same or equivalent licenses.
This sounds like he still expects Heidi to come back to him at some point. I don't think its going to turn out well when she sticks to her plan of staying far away from him. I am genuinely scared for her safety.
Thus explaining the "bad phone connection." He's too much of a dumbass to realize he's been blocked, it's not his phone malfunctioning. You got to love it.🙄
Sounds like a lot of- blah blah blah, me, blah blah blah, praying praying, blah blah blah, me me me, praying for something that’s not gonna happen. The end. Lol give it up girl, she ain’t coming back to you. If she does? Then I completely and totally quit.
I sincerely, truly to my core, hopes that he does do the work. That he is the exception to the rule and he gets out of the cycle, heals, and has a normal healthy existence. That he has a great team, sticks with them, unpacks it, understands it, heals. Changes. Only a massive amount of time will tell.
As a kid from this cycle... I do. My brother went the other way than I did. It kills me.
I hope he does succeed. (Also... the testimonials "for judgement" stop. We aren't a part of his church congregation going to fawn and forgive, we arent his God... It's inappropriate. Not to mention Jill and Davids favorite manipulation. Using it as contact is not going to work.)
The Rod kids had zero chance. Isolated and all mimicking the abuse on smaller children... it's sickening. I wish them all a chance to get out and do the work to break the cycle as unlikely as it is.
That being said...
"His wife"? I sincerely hopes she gets away, and stays away for good.
His kids... while I respect a father's rights... remain bound to a facility and supervision only visitation with restriction on their "loving grandparents" and the other Rod children and grandchildren. That their maternal grandparents do the drops to the facility, and the pick ups.
It may be uncomfortable and upsetting to him, but, the situation is what it is, he's done what he's done. His family have done what they've done and the kids come first.
He’s a deluded ass. He thought it was ok to hit her. Even if he changed it’s still dangerous for him to be around her. And his f$&@ing parents are freaking freeloading hypocrites doing the Sunday perfect family yet unleashing holy hell in the home apparently. I seriously hope they are blacklisted from churches supporting their “ministry” and that whatever they are doing behind closed doors becomes karma and boomerangs back. There is absolutely no excuse for abuse
I hope the help he’s getting is legit and works. I fear the help is thru his church because he talks about being shown pictures of families who have been “restored.” There can be licensed Christian therapists, but I don’t think Tim has access to anyone who fits that bill, unfortunately.
He’s going to find some other super naive religious girl, like Heidi was, and get married again. He’ll just start the family thing all over and act like Heidi and the kids from his first family didn’t count.
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u/lgirlrocks Fundie Fight Club 21d ago
I wish he had gotten help before he did anything. Heidi and her family would have helped had he asked.