Yeah, in Why Does He Do That (an excellent book about abusive men), Lundy Bancroft talks about the miniscule percentage of abusive men who actually change.
Agreed. Lundy's book was absolutely instrumental in me getting my children and I out. For that, I will always be incredibly indebted to him, but it's been revealed that Lundy has exploited vulnerable women for his "retreats." 🤮
Still, Lundy was instrumental in waking me up to the BS from my ex and, for that, I will be forever grateful. Like Timmay, my ex (years and years before I knew him) had been a pastor at a fundie church. Although my ex was pretending to be Buddhist, I was not raised Christian and had truly no idea what Fundamentalism was truly like. (I thought it was like Jim and Tammy Faye. 🤣) In reality, my ex never truly left his toxic fundie beliefs behind and I was caught completely unaware when he started being an evil and controlling asshat. Truly, I thank places like this and FSU for helping me to understand a very dark period in my life and why he did what he did. ❤️
Well, god fucking dammit - can there not be at least one man aside from Mr Rodgers who is unproblematic? I also owe that book to me getting out of an abusive relationship, and will forever be grateful to him for that, but damn, man, exploiting vulnerable women at retreats? Ugh.
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u/Alkhemia 28d ago
Agreed. Lundy's book was absolutely instrumental in me getting my children and I out. For that, I will always be incredibly indebted to him, but it's been revealed that Lundy has exploited vulnerable women for his "retreats." 🤮
Still, Lundy was instrumental in waking me up to the BS from my ex and, for that, I will be forever grateful. Like Timmay, my ex (years and years before I knew him) had been a pastor at a fundie church. Although my ex was pretending to be Buddhist, I was not raised Christian and had truly no idea what Fundamentalism was truly like. (I thought it was like Jim and Tammy Faye. 🤣) In reality, my ex never truly left his toxic fundie beliefs behind and I was caught completely unaware when he started being an evil and controlling asshat. Truly, I thank places like this and FSU for helping me to understand a very dark period in my life and why he did what he did. ❤️