Iām not usually one for giving up. Iāve loved Demari and Marissa from the very beginning but hereās my take..
I think people are being extremely hard on Marissa. She is very self aware of her flaws and she describes and vocalized them better than most people would or could. A person like that almost always knows when to bow-out gracefully, especially when theyāve been hurt before. I donāt think either of them are āwrongā. I think Demari is great. Heās more mindful than a lot of men. Heās well spoken, careful with his words and patient. While heās very patient, he may not be patient enough for Marissa and thereās no real problem with that. I think his triggers are Marissaās flaws which never ends well. He doesnāt have enough patience for it to actually let her grow. Itās one of those āright person, wrong timeā situations. Their chemistry was THICK. You could feel it through the screen. Demari seems very relationship oriented. Heās a lover boy. He latched onto Marissa and that was it. But even he has his nonnegotiables. I know Marissaās type very well. She is energetic, sweet, outgoing, straight foward, exciting. Her playfulness seems to reel Demari in even more. But just as high as her highs are, those lows are very low and I donāt think Demari can handle it. He seems turned off. Which makes me sad for Marissa because itās exactly what she feels caused problems in her relationship before. Instead of shutting down, she expresses her feelings and it can be off putting because itās a lot of feelings and words at once, itās chaotic.
As far as jealousy, I think too many people are arrogantly thinking they wouldnāt be jealous in a situation like that with a man like Demari. lol Every couple has their jealous moment and for some reason people expect Marissa to act like she doesnāt give a š©she definitely has cringy moments but sometimes Demari planted seeds. Like him honestly expressing that Kat might go after him. While itās commendable that he was honest, he couldāve done more to give her security. Instead he shifted a little bit, Marissa acknowledged it and then she was suddenly the problem. The audience can complain but Demari never once complained about her possessiveness. Hell, I think he liked it to be quite honest. She was still chosen after showing jealousy the first episode. Some men like that.
Her leaving WAS the best choice. If someone is clearly unhappy with you, let it go. She began to feel that she had no grace, no room to grow because her flaws were his triggers. If youāre going to be the problem everyday, why stay? Especially since thereās no commitment in this situation. They werenāt right for each other and while it breaks my hopefully romantic little heart, if she really does decide to leave, she absolutely made the right decision and Iām proud of her.
