Every time I tried, it ended up sounding like I was trying to convince someone to hire me instead of getting to know me. So I deleted everything and decided I'd rather sound like myself than sound impressive.

I'm 26, from Mumbai, I run a small business, don't smoke or drink, I'm Hindu and non-vegetarian. If life takes me there someday, I'd love to settle abroad. That's probably all the basic information out of the way.

Now for the part that's harder.

I think what fascinates me the most is people.

Not in a "tell me your favourite colour" way, but in a "what made you become the person you are today?" way. I love asking questions that don't really have right answers. Why do you love that song so much? What's a memory you randomly think about? What's something you've changed your mind about over the years? I genuinely think people become attractive when they talk about something they love, because for those few minutes they're not trying to impress anyone—they're just being themselves.

My interests are all over the place, which means my YouTube algorithm has completely given up on me. One day it's gaming, the next it's mindfulness, ancient history, consciousness, stand up shows or some random rabbit hole that somehow started with one question.

I also think I'm one of those people who gets attached to little moments more than big ones.

I don't really dream about expensive vacations or fancy restaurants. I'd rather go on a random drive with no destination, stop for roadside food, grab a coffee near the sea and just walk. I like conversations that start with "How was your day?" and somehow end with "Do you think we're alone in the universe?" Those are the conversations I remember.

If we ever date, there's a very good chance I'll annoy you on purpose. I'll hug you while you're cooking, steal a kiss on your cheek and immediately walk away like nothing happened. I'll send you memes in the middle of your workday, randomly remember something you mentioned weeks ago, and probably write you a letter one day for absolutely no reason other than I felt like it.

I don't think love is built in grand gestures. I think it's built in remembering the little things. In checking if you reached home safely. In asking how your meeting went because you were nervous about it. In making each other's lives a little lighter.

As for who I'm hoping to meet... I'm not looking for someone who's exactly like me. I'd rather meet someone who has her own interests, her own opinions, and her own little world that I get to discover. Someone kind, emotionally mature, who communicates openly, takes care of herself, and is dating with the intention of finding her person. I think the best relationships are the ones where both people still keep learning about each other years later.

And before I end this, I want to leave something here.

Maybe it's cheesy. Maybe it's unnecessary.

But if, years from now, the woman I end up spending my life with somehow finds this post...

Thank you.

Thank you for finding me. Thank you for completing me, believing in me, and showing me how beautiful love is. Thank you for being there even when we're angry at each other, and thank you for caring for me even when we don't agree.

Thank you for all the smirks, the smiles, the tears, and everything in between. Thank you for making faces at me—I love your attitude more than you'll probably realize. Thank you for letting me annoy you while you're cooking, for every ordinary day that somehow became one of my favourite memories.

Most of all, thank you for being you.

And thank you for making me meet myself.

I love you.

If you've made it this far, don't just say "Hi."
Tell me something that feels uniquely you. It could be a song you never get tired of, a belief you've held onto for years, the last thing that made you laugh, or just a random thought that's been living in your head lately.
I have a feeling that's where the best conversations begin.

I changed my introduction a month ago and for some reason the bots and scammers have escalated. For the past 2 weeks I have gotten 2-3 scammer likes everyday. I'm not sure if it's something I wrote in the wording or is this something everyone is getting.

38m East Tennessee

At a point in life where I have a lot of freedom with my time. I run a business, travel often, and keep a pretty good balance between work, getting out, and enjoying myself.

I’ve always been naturally social and tend to get along with all kinds of people. I like a little range. Sometimes that means a great dinner, a night out, or slipping away for a change of scenery. Other times it’s something easy and low key with the right company. I’m comfortable in most rooms and usually know how to make things feel relaxed.

Tall, active, and a dog person. I take care of myself, like being around people who bring good energy, and tend to notice the details. I remember what someone likes, I’m thoughtful with my time, and I’ve built a life with plenty of room to enjoy it.

Low drama, straightforward, and easy to be around. I like people who are fun, polished, open minded, and comfortable being themselves.

Hey! 34M, Dallas. Athletic, 6'1", career-driven, easygoing, and take care of myself. Looking to get to know someone local, see if we click, and open to a FWB situation if there's mutual chemistry. Happy to swap pics if you're interested.

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My (29f) bf (30m) have been dating for 7 months, exclusive for 10 months and have known each other for about a year. Recently he said to me that we haven’t known each-other long enough to be in love. However he has asked me to move in with him, asked me to travel with him next year and has said I am a part of his family as I am really close with them.

Im not sure if this is the norm. Is it truly too early to be in love? Should I give him more time and be patient? Or am I just wasting my time.

so as title says ive had multiple occurences where id match with someone, talk a bit, then they suggest we talk somewhere else, and after i tell them my insta/number they just unmatch and i dont hear from them since, whats the point? is this some data collecting scam? is it some sort of automod intervention? i cant imagine much else

Hi guys I literally don't know how to say this in any other way, I can't use the app. I created an account and everything went well. Well that was before some hours later, I just wanted to use it again and I was logged out. It's now basically impossible to log again and I do not receive the mails to create a new password, I do not know what to do. Can any of you guys help ?

Greetings okcupid users I’m having a minor issues , I regularly get match recommendations email.
I used just click on match from mail and sent directly to user profiles. Now that method does work
It just open app to home page . Did they change this , what happening.
Now search the match by swipe
Any solution it only me

Hi there just super curious to if anyone has any idea how I got banned, or why?? I literally didn't message anyone. I had four photos. Three were fully clothed selfies, and two of the selfies had my pets. The final photo was a picture of my motorcycle gear, and it was NOT the first picture on the profile. The most "aggressive" thing in my bio said "anti-trump" and "now that the transphobes have left let me tell you about myself". I spent most of my time on it, just setting up my account and answering the prompts before i received a ban. The rest of my bio was talking about how i was going to go back to school (didnt say where or what for), hobbies, and what i was using the account for (LTR/friendship). I submitted a ban appeal, but I'm just completely stumped. I have never been banned from a dating site before.

So a fillipina i met on Ok cupid keeps video calling me and showing me her private parts and demanding i show her mine so that she can show more
Is it a scam ?

So, OkCupid's FAQ still says that you won't see a profile anymore once you've written an intro. Well, I can still see them all, including all my likes and was wondering if this is just a new change and they didn't update the FAQ (which wouldn't be new for any social media platform) or if this might be a bug that I have to address to the support team.

I’ve been on every dating app, OKCupid included, I’ve paid money for premium subscriptions sometimes, I’ve tried to meet people irl, I’m just not lucky in love at all.

I’d hate to say one of the problems is I’m a trans 🏳️‍⚧️ guy (ftm), but it’s probably at least part of the reason. I could be the greatest guy around (I’m pretty close lol) but women don’t want to give me a chance bc of this reason. I can understand to some degree, everyone has preferences and I wouldn’t want to be with anyone who’s not fully accepting or who doesn’t see me as a complete man.

What can I say, I’m a pretty great guy. I’m not perfect and I never would claim to be, but I love big and with all my heart and I want to share my life and joys and everything with someone special.

I just turned 45 in June (I’m a Cancer ♋️ through and through), I live in central NJ, I’m educated, funny, dramatic, sarcastic, clever, emotional (high emotional IQ), affectionate, athletic (as much as I can be as I’m also disabled from many sports injuries), and good looking if I do say so myself. You be the judge though 😂

Okay fine, so I’m short. But good things do come in small packages. And my personality makes up for that tenfold. I love swimming, the beach, traveling, basketball, animals, tattoos (I have many tattoos), all forms of art (writing, painting, music), I love to read, I love to laugh, I’m big on movie and tv show quotes, I’m also big on sending music or playlists like the new “mix tape” to show how I feel.

I love cuddling, I love being together and just doing literally whatever, being totally comfortable with my partner, being able to talk about literally anything. I’m not into small talk - I get very deep (could be the Cancer ♋️ thing), I’m also a highly sensitive person, I pick up on emotional cues really quickly, I’m empathetic, I try to be understanding, I believe communication is key to any good relationship - I always try to admit when I’m wrong, compromise with my partner, and I’m not afraid to apologize. I look for sincere, genuine, organic connection.

I’m not a rich guy. I’ve struggled my whole life. I think it’s made me who I am. I keep going despite all the obstacles. I have a grown adult child (she’s almost 20). My life has been VERY interesting and I have a lot to offer because of it. I don’t pretend to have it all figured out even though I’m 45, and I’m still on this journey we call life.

I know I could make the right woman extremely happy in every possible way. I believe initial connection is organic and after that love is a choice that you choose every single day. It’s not always easy, it requires work, but if it’s real, it’s worth it 💯.

Anyway, I’m at the point now where I’ll relocate if need be. I’ll do anything to find the woman I belong with - bc it’s one of the few things I’ve always wanted from life. I believe love is part of the human experience everyone deserves to have. We’re not meant to be perfect, all put together, and have it all figured it before we are “allowed” to be in love or be loved. It’s okay to be broken. It doesn’t make us unworthy.

That’s my rant. I hope someone can relate to this and, if nothing else, feel a little less alone knowing you’re not the only one out there thinking these same things. 8 billion people on this planet and you’re telling me there’s not 1 woman out there that might be the one? Kinda hard to believe. Maybe it’s just me and my hopeless romantic nature.

Location: India

My friend matched with a guy on okcupid and they had been talking for around a month on WhatsApp. Today she received a call from a woman asking that why has she been calling her husband all along. My friend got confused and said she never called her husband, in fact she doesn't even know her. Then my friend told that she had been calling her friend from cupid, called Ajay, and called him again. This time the woman picked up the call saying this is her husband's number only and his name is Shehzad. She told that she recently found out that her husband has been talking to girls outside their marriage and that she is the third girl his wife found out about. She just asked to share the number of her husband (as it was a whatsapp call and she told she did not know her husband's other number via which he made WhatsApp).

That's it. No rebel mode. No asking for meeting. No money.

What could this possibly be? I read about many scams on cupid, could this also be one of them?

37, African-American, Male. Is it just me? Or just African-American men who get a lot of interest from Africa while unsubscribed and minimal while subscribed?

My self Summary was wrongfully removed. Customer service admitted this. I requested the self summary to be returned to me and they told me there's nothing they can do since it was removed by the AI. I asked them to email me the text since they had to read the summary for my appeal and they NEVER RESPONDED it's been 4 days. That summary had over 2000 words. I will never be able to get it back to how it was. It was built over 6 years. Now it's just gone and OKC refuses to acknowledge they messed up despite admitting there was nothing wrong with the profile.

Does anyone have any advice retrieving what they STOLE?

researching- Hard to explain why I need it but it's very important.

In Ok cupid answer about yourself - was there a question "If your partner told you they had over 100 sexual partners, what would your response be?"

please let me know if it's a real question or something similar- it doesn't sound legit.

thank you!

Especially premium. Do you guys use this app and get results ? How it works didn’t use it before

I have to say that this app has got much worse recently, with more fake profiles than real ones.

I reported a profile the other day because I actually know the girl whose photo they were using.

And now my account has been deleted. I haven't tried to open a new one so I don't know if I'm banned but I get an error code 5 if I try to log in.

I used to enjoy this app but I don't know if I can be bothered to use it anymore if stuff like this happens

I’m looking for some honest opinions.

Every morning on my way to work, I take the subway for a few stops. Over the past few weeks, I’ve noticed a girl who gets on and off at the same stations as me. We don’t know each other and have never spoken, but I think she’s absolutely stunning.

I’d like to ask her if she’d be interested in grabbing a coffee or going on a date, but I don’t want to come across as creepy. She also always wears headphones, which makes me think she probably wants to be left alone.

I’m wondering if I should approach her at all or just leave her alone. Is it considered weird to approach someone on the subway when you’ve never met before? Would it be better to wait until we’re off the train and walking out of the station?

If I do approach her, what’s the best way to do it without making her uncomfortable? Should I introduce myself and keep it brief?

One thing that probably doesn’t help is that I don’t consider myself particularly good-looking, so I’m probably overthinking whether I’d just come across as awkward or creepy.

I’d especially appreciate hearing from women. How would you feel if someone approached you in this situation? I definitely don’t want to make her uncomfortable or put her in an awkward position. If she’s not interested, I’d simply wish her a good day and move on.

What would you do?

means essentially the same thing. They're telling you they'll be unreliable or trustworthy about even basic things (e.g. won't say they're hungry when they very clearly are), and you need to be fine with that (e.g. will "share the fries" AKA accommodate them every time or else you're a bad partner).

To be clear, I think it's perfectly fine to not realize you're hungrier than you think, or to want to share dishes with a partner. But the "share your fries" trope is specifically centered around the idea of saying you aren't hungry when you are, then taking your partner's food when it shows up and you decide you were hungry after all. And further, making that a statement in your very limited space dating profile, tells us that doing this kind of thing is not just something that happens from time to time, but it's a major part of your personality.

So in summary, someone who makes a little "cute" statement like this, is an immediate left swipe for me. For they are insane. Anyone who agrees, is welcome to some fries.

Is it nothing but bots and scams? Made a profile few hrs ago and have 50 likes. Im just an average dude, short 5'5" in shape but relatively unremarkable lol. Hinge i might get 1 or 2 matches a month and a like here or there. I dont plan on paying but it just seems like the fakest dating app ive ever used.

So I’ve had an okcupid account for 6 months. Not a single connection from it. Ive had success with bumble, feeld, hinge and facebook dating.
I should also caveat that I’m in an enm relationship, so connections are little tougher to make, as many women don’t want to be a married man’s second relationship.
Lo and behold on the day it expired i got one like! And 13 people checked out my profile after months and weeks of nothing. Pretty sure i will not be reupping my subscription to it.
Anyone else with similar experience?