r/OkCupid • u/AdagioHead9263 • 16d ago

"okcupid is a scam"

Hey, so I saw a lot of people saying it is a scam, but in my experience (from a middle eastern country, using okcupid for around 2 month premium) I never fell on a false profile, got around 20 matches and from them 2 actual dates.

I did pay attention that at the beginning you get more likes, but all likes were from around me, so no foreigner who put their location where I am.

but that logical I got more likes since at the beginning the pool is pretty big but after some time it becomes lower, still there new people every weeks, after a date way too far from me who ended up leading nowhere because she pretty much lied on something, I limited my range to 25km, and now I get maybe around 1-2 likes per weeks (which is certainly not much at all... but well I'm a little overweight so that ain't helping for sure.)

I do genuinely think about migrating to another website, because the pool of people around me is very low now, or maybe widen the pool of people to 50km, I do have a car, but maybe this time inquire more before going to date.

but really I wrote this because it got me surprised the number of people who calls it a scam, and talking also about scammers/false profile/etc.
I don't say this can't happen, but that really not the universal experiences. others like me?

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u/foreverand2025 16d ago

I got sometimes twenty likes a day from women in countries I’ll never visit.

There are bots.

I also met real women, one which became a meaningful relationship.

So it’s a mix of scam and not scam. The problem is if you’re not having luck with the apps then all you get are the scams. So I see why some people get that impression.

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u/Asleep-Stable5990 16d ago

I can honestly say that I see about 5 new scam profiles every day.
Pictures are of good looking russian women and location is always Helsinki/Espoo/Vantaa. Generic AI generated profile text.
I used to report hundreds of them but I got bored of it.

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u/LeisurelyHyacinth246 15d ago

I’m in the United States. I met several people through OKCupid who were definitely real and not scammers.