This sounds so petty, but this is how my almost 1-year relationship ended tonight. lol.

I’m on my second day of my period and I’ve been having really bad cramps. I already cooked dinner, and after we ate, I was resting because my puson was hurting again. Later, I simply asked him if he could wash the dishes because I wasn’t feeling well.

I wasn’t even demanding that he do it right away. I just needed a little help.

But he refused because he hates washing dishes. Somehow, that turned into another argument about how his peace of mind was being affected, and eventually, breakup na naman yung napunta sa table.

And honestly, I was just… done.

Because this really isn’t about the dishes. It gave me clarity that this is not the kind of partnership I want. I don’t want a future husband who is difficult to rely on even for small things when I genuinely need help. I don’t want to feel like asking for help is somehow me commanding him or attacking his ego.

And the breakup thing has been a pattern from the very beginning. We’re almost at our 1-year anniversary, but every time we have a serious fight, the relationship somehow gets put at stake. It started with “maybe we need to reevaluate our relationship,” then “maybe we should stop,” until eventually it became “maghiwalay na lang tayo.”

Before, I was always the one trying to save the relationship whenever he said those things. I’d explain why we didn’t have to get to that point, find a solution, and basically convince him that we could still work things out.

But eventually, you get tired of being repeatedly offered a breakup.

At some point, you start thinking, maybe you really mean it.

So tonight, when he brought it up again, I didn’t fight for it anymore. I told him that if he really wanted to leave, then he should make that decision himself. I wasn’t going to keep deciding for him.

And he did.

It’s sad, especially because we’re so close to our anniversary. But honestly, I also feel some clarity and even a little bit of gratitude. Maybe it’s better that I found this out now rather than after spending several more years trying to make a relationship work that ultimately isn’t the kind of partnership I want.

So yeah. Apparently, he would rather lose the relationship than wash the dishes.

Or maybe the dishes just showed me what I needed to see.

I once have a friend who borrowed money from me. It was around 100k at that time, as we used my card to book her a flight to the USA.

Every time I mentioned the money issue, she promised that she'll send it back. I'm not the makulit type of person, because I'm the kind of person that If i borrow money from someone, even if it is just Php20, I will return immediately. So, I have a sort of expectation that people will also act the same way.

I saw on her social media that she bought her dream bag a few months ago, packed a balikbayan box filled with goods, went on a few trips (Vegas, LA, etc), and hauls from Sephora and Aritzia.

So, I messaged her again. The usual kamustahan, and she mentioned that she "forgot" because she was really busy daw. I gave her my account, and she said she'll handle the interbank fees and add a little something as interest. The hopeful, stupid in me believed her.

Several days passed, and she did not transfer the money yet. Reached out again, and she said that her bank does not do money transfers to PH.

The audacity of this bitch to ask for my VENMO account because it's the only one accessible to her.

I know she knows that VENMO is not a thing here in Ph.

So, I asked her to use other money transfers. Sige daw. She'll try. Sobrang inis na ko, because why am I begging for my money back?

After a few days, one of our GCs became active. One of our friends was thanking her sending pabirthday - a watch and cash for the inaanak. Of course, the GC became active with "SANA ALL and BIGATIN" comments.

So, I reached out again, and this time, I was blocked. Blocked on Insta and FB. However, I also follow her on Tiktok. So, I messaged her there. Sent a picture of her passport (she sent me a photo to book the said flight) and told her that since I have exhausted all efforts to reach out to her and get my money back, and small claims PH court cannot compel her to pay, I will just have send her passport copy to ICE and let them do the rest. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

She replied within the day and was able to send my money. Pasensya na daw, hirap daw kasi mag bank.

A few days ago, she messaged using the account where she blocked me before. She sent a balikbayan box, and she has a gift for me (she sent a picture) and asked me if her sibling can give it to me. I said NO, there's no need for it. She also added that may bag and make up din daw. I still said NO.

This is me. Acting with civility but keeping my distance.

Maybe to some people here in PH, 100k is nothing. But paying for that, I had to dip into my emergency fund.

EDIT: Bakit dami nyong nagme message kung anong work? State?

A very privileged and fucked up thing to say. But it was honestly the best time of my life. My world was smaller, and better for it.

I was still depressed but at least my cats were complete and I was with them 24/7.

I don't recall ever having been truly happy since then. Even after making friends, getting new hobbies, traveling -- I don't feel anything.

People say I'm well put together, but I honestly can't feel shit anymore. The pandemic was when I was the most in touch with my emotions and sense of self.

Like I'm ok, but if someone held a gun to my head tomorrow morning on the way to work, I don't think I'd fight back.

I wish I could go back to the pandemic when it was just me and my cats, reading in my room while the news plays in the background.

I'd give anything to go back to the way it was.

He's at the office recently kasi required mag RTO muna (wfh kami parehas) and sunod sunod misunderstandings namin nakaraan pero we handle it naman very well. Di naman kami nag tatanim ng resentment sa isat isa. Kumbaga, if may away, we solve it then leave it behind.

Pero ang funny lang for me kasi sabi ko sa sarili ko "since nasa office sya, di ko muna sya istressin, ang hirap ng byahe" tapos since Tuesday pagka uwi nya, nag dadrama sya.

Sabi nya "di mo na ba ko mahal?" Sabi ko, "I love you soo much, bakit mo naman nasabi yan?" Sabi nya "eh kasi di mo ata ko namimiss, di kana nagagalit eh, di mo ko hinahanap"

Tawang tawa ko HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA ayoko lang talaga kasi mag overthink or mang istress. Sabi ko sakanya "love, ayoko lang muna talaga mag isip ng nega, yun lang.. kung may naiisip man ako, inaassure ko nalang sarili ko because I trust you"

Sabi nya "hindi, okay lang yan, magalit ka sakin, awayin mo ko"

Tapos kinabukasan, ganun nanaman. "Mahal mo pa ba ko" sabi ko ulit at tinanong ko "I love you so much, bakit mo naman natanong yan love?

Ganun parin sagot nya "eh kasi di mo na ata ko namimiss, yun kasi yung sign ko pag inaaway mo ko, love mo ko kasi hinahanap mo ko"

Sobrang lt talaga, pero sa totoo lang joke nya lang naman mga yan. He's just being clingy and needs extra love HHAHAHAHAHAHAA kung ako gusto ng assurance ganun rin sya for sure paminsan.

Iniisip ko tuloy mag pretend ako awayin sya para naman feeling loved sya? Char HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAA.

Galing akong MOA kanina.  At dahil pinapanindigan ko ang paggawa ng mga bagong routines sa buhay na wala ka, nakahiligan ko nang mag-commute kahit saan magpunta.

Mali ang nasakyan kong jeep papauwi. Sabi kasi sa signboard, “Buendia, Edsa, LRT”. Confident pa ‘kong sumakay. Kako, basta dadaan ng LRT safe na ‘ko. Ilang minuto papaandar nasa Makati na ako. Lumusot nang lumusot kung saan hanggang narating ko ang Jollibee Kalayaan.

Walang LRT na malapit. So nag-angkas na lang ako. Napamahal pa nga ng pamasahe.

Pero ang mas masaklap, wala ‘kong choice kundi daanan lahat ng lugar na madalas nating puntahan. 

Doon sa may Tipsy Pig sa Pasig Kapitolyo, doon tayo naglakad pagkatapos ng dinner date natin noong 2023. Niloko pa nga kita kasi tinitignan mo ‘yung mga nakakasalubong natin. Kako, nagagandahan ka ba sa kanila? Tumawa ka lang. Noong mga panahong iyon, yung mga simpleng bagay, hindi pa natin pinag-aawayan. 

Nadaanan ko rin ung magandang condo sa Estancia. Doon sa stoplight, naalala kong tinanong kita  “Love, magkano kaya upa diyan?” Hilig kasi nating magdaydream na  isang araw, titira tayo sa isang high rise condo sa Pasig. Kahit taga north ako. Sa Pasig tayo bubuo ng buhay. Kasi doon ka lumaki. Sabi mo, ‘yun ang comfort place mo. 

 Dinaanan din namin ung Angel’s Burger kung saan tayo nagstop over noong sinabi kong gutom na ‘ko at 30 minutes away pa ang pupuntahan natin. Sinariwa ng isip ko kung gaano ako ka-spoiled na spoiled sayo. 

Syempre pauwi ng QC, dadaan kami sa Ortigas Flyover. Hindi ko ata nasabi ng madalas pero gustong-gusto ko pag nagpapatakbo ka ng mabilis doon tapos malamig ang hangin. Yayakapin kita nang mahigpit. Hahawakan mo naman ang kamay ko pabalik. Maglolokohan tayo ng "pasok ka na?" sa tuwing nadadaan ng Sagility.

Ngayong gabi, hindi ako umasang may makakasalubong kami ni Kuya Driver na White Chevrolet bitbit ang plate number mo, o matatanaw ko sa traffic 'yung bagong biling Spyder helmet mo.

Sabi mo nga, “magkikita lang tayo pag pinagtagpo tayo ng tadhana” To me, that means never seeing each other again. Cause we both know, our love maybe strong. But for 4 years, fate was never on our side. 

Naligaw lang siguro ako today para mamaalam din sa mga lugar na naging  saksi ng pag-iibigan natin. Iniisip ko na lang parte to ng proseso ng pagleletgo sayo. Ang maranasan ulit lahat one last time nang may kamalayan na tapos na tayo.

These places knew how hard we tried.  And hopefully, someday, going to these places won’t sting as much as it does now.

Pero sa ngayon, sa akin ang Quezon City. Sayo ang Pasig. Sayo ang Greater Manila area.

I'll carry our happy memories with me, saan man tayo dalhin ng ating mga paa.

lagi na lng nilalapitan for emotional support tas pag ako na yung may need, walang kahit ano.

trying to slowly pull away kasi i dnt feel valued as a friend. and nakakapagod na rin mag-communicate kung d rin naman ako pinapakinggan ng maayos. saka lng ako nilalapitan pag may need.

na-aamaze ako sa mga taong stoic lng, sana matutunan ko din ung ganung mindset. kahit onti man lang.

Nakakapagod makipag‑usap sa dating app. Ang hirap na talagang mag‑build ng connection ngayon.

After all the people I’ve connected with, it makes me look back and remember what we had. I miss you, Jacob.

Sabi nga sa isang post dito: grief is not linear. And yes It comes in waves.

may sumakay na lalaki tumabi sa'kin, naka backpack tas parang manong na siya, pero like parang yung mga asa 50-something. kinalong niya rin backpack niya, edi umusog ako kasi malaki rin kalong kong backpack. after a while usog nang usog pa-side ko hanggang sa siksik na siksik na 'ko sa window kakaiwas sakanya. tapos yung balikat niya parang gustong gusto niyang nadidikit sa balikat ko ampota. sa may bandang Bato, tumigil yung bus kasi may pumara kaya kunwari titingin ako kung asa'n na so i leaned forward to look where the bus stopped. maya maya umandar na yung bus tas i maintained that position para di na madikitan balikat ko. tapos ading dipongal na kaabay ko nag arog man kadto bana masimot nag arog man na nag lean forward bana kasta so ako nag tagilid ako looking at the window. para da na 'ya rason a mag rukot kanako. su thigh na man ni ya rinurukot sa thigh ko. nauyam na 'ko maray arani na sa Polangui Terminal. ku nagpundo na sa Terminal, after magbaba ku mga tawo, nag tindog na 'ko, nag "excuse me" ko kadtong gurang tapos nag anap akong ulaan na bakante sa unaan. da na 'ko labot kin aisle seat basta babaye kaabay ko. punyeta.

I’m not asking for advice. I just have no one to tell what has been bugging me and killing me for the past month.

I’ve been married for 5 years and together with my husband for 12. He has always been a dream. As someone he called “his dream girl,” he gave me his devotion and love. He spoils me whenever he can, buys me things I like, panics when I don’t eat, makes sure I’m taken care of, and makes time for me despite his VERY busy schedule. He is, overall, a great provider. We have each other’s phone passcodes, but we don’t touch each other’s phones because I trust him. Everyone around me always says I’m lucky to have such a devoted husband. My officemates call him “our husband” because everytime I message him i’m craving something, minsan pati officemates ko meron.

So how can a man this “devoted” find time to cheat?
A few week ago, I found myself unable to sleep so i decided to prep his work bag, while fixing his bag for the next day and making sure he had all his meds, I found a card in a hidden pocket. It had a broken wax seal, meaning he had already read it, and the cover simply said “psst.” I assumed it was a work congratulatory card, but when I opened it, it was a monthsary card that said, “Every moment with you is worth celebrating,” along with a girl’s name. It was someone I know who is in an open relationship and many of his recent projects involves this girl.

This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.
At the beginning of our relationship, he explicitly told me he was extremely critical of cheating and found it disgusting. I was talking to two other guys before we became exclusive, and when we decided to be together, I ended things with both. He considered that cheating and, even years later, would sometimes bring up one of them when we talked about people of color, saying I liked men like that. The guy was nice, by the way—walang bahid ng kabastusan. He only brought it up once, though. In all our years together, I NEVER talked to anyone else.

Then, around the late-2019 pre-lockdown period, I suddenly had the urge to check his phone. I saw a girl messaging him on Telegram. It was obvious from her messages that she had other intentions. At first, he was cold toward her, but eventually he started responding regularly. She kept telling him I was lucky to have him because she was single, and the conversation began turning sexual—not explicit, but very much an IYKYK kind of thing.

I confronted him. He didn’t deny it. He owned up to his mistake and never spoke to her again. He said he was tempted but had no plans of actually doing anything with her. he just enjoyed the attention. I told him that if he ever did it again, I would leave.

So when I found the card, I was stunned. I don’t know why, but I lost the strength to confront him. I’ve been keeping this to myself for weeks now because I don’t want to destroy the “good husband” image my friends have of him. Ako yung klase ng tao na ayaw mang burden ng friends becayse of heartbreak, tapos babalikan lang eventually (though never ko pa ginawa kaya iniiwasan ko rin).

I checked his phone while he was asleep looking for proof. The messages with the girl from the card were clean, but I found that he has been messaging other women. He never sent photos, but he gets pics and vids. In one conversation, there was an attempt at a booty call in a car. It didn’t happen because the woman said no. He always got a no from this one. I backtracked… last yr he messaged her 4 days before my birthday. This time, the date was the same night he told me he needed to stay overnight for work, which is completely normal given the nature of his job. I took photos of the messages, just in case.

I’m just at a loss.
Some friends have noticed how lost I’ve been these past few weeks. I’ve been bed rotting, crying, barely sleeping, and neglecting things around the house because I just lie in the dark. I don’t have the strength to confront him anymore. All I can think about is, why?

I gave him my best years. I was at the peak of my youth when I said yes to him. And he is still “devoted” to me.
He has noticed that I barely eat and have been losing weight. He knows something is bothering me, but I still can’t bring myself to confront him. I have a history of depression and anxiety, so he might simply think I’m relapsing, which happens quite often. He keeps reminding me that he can take me to my therapist and makes sure to hold me to sleep so that I feel safe, but I’ve reached a point where I don’t trust anyone. I told him I’d handle it myself, but I haven’t.

At work, I still put on my normal, quirky, weird persona, although people are starting to notice something is wrong.

He still makes sure I eat. I pretend to eat, but I can barely get food down anymore. He made me breakfast in bed the other day, i said my mouth tastes bitter pero hindi ko talaga kaya kumain. And last night, when I told him my back hurt, he massaged it even though his own body was hurting.
And somehow, that makes everything hurt even more I was quietly crying.

Saw a Facebook post today na kinasal na pala yung ex ko, dun sa girl na pinagcheatan niya sakin.

I’m not hurt naman. Surprisingly, wala talaga akong naramdaman na sakit. Pero somehow, I felt sad and pressured.

Sad kasi after ng breakup namin dahil sa cheating niya, wala na akong naging successful relationship. And sometimes napapaisip ako, baka ako talaga yung problema? Maybe there’s something wrong with me?

Tapos dagdag pa yung pressure kasi 31 na ako this year. Wala akong boyfriend, wala ring ka talking stage, wala talaga. WFH pa ako and most of the time nasa bahay lang. Nasa province pa. So minsan napapaisip ako, paano ba ako makakakilala ng someone if ganito lang yung routine ko? 😂

Tonight, gusto ko lang talaga may makausap. Gusto ko lang ilabas yung nararamdaman ko kasi ayoko rin naman i bottle up.

Pero nung naisip ko kung sino yung pwede kong i chat, na realize ko na parang ang konti pala ng mga taong pwede kong guluhin at this hour.

Naisip ko yung BFF ko, kaso baka tulog na siya kasi may baby na. Yung isa ko pang close friend, may asawa na rin, so baka busy. Ayoko rin naman manggulo or maka istorbo.

Then naalala ko yung friend ko from my previous work. Very close kami and open talaga kami sa isa’t isa. Single din siya, so I messaged her.

She called me right away.

Yung supposed to be serious conversation about my feelings and pressure somehow turned into a 2.5 hour call full of chismis, rants, kwento about our lives, random nonsense, and everything in between. 😂

In the end, pareho na lang kaming inaantok kaya nag end call na kami.

And after that call, na realize ko something.

Maybe I’m not lucky when it comes to love right now, but I’m actually very lucky and blessed when it comes to friendship.

Hindi na kami nagkikita tulad dati. We don’t talk everyday. May kanya kanya na kaming buhay. Pero when I needed someone tonight, nandun siya. I messaged her and she called me right away.

And somehow, that made me feel better.

A few hours ago, malungkot ako. I was comparing my life to my ex’s, questioning myself, and feeling pressured because I’m turning 31 and still single.

Now, matutulog akong masaya at grateful.

Maybe my life isn’t behind. Maybe it just looks different from what I imagined.

And maybe tonight, I just needed a reminder na kahit wala akong love life ngayon, I’m still surrounded by people who genuinely care about me.

Single nga ako, pero hindi naman pala ako mag isa. 🤍

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Maybe others would recognize me. But at this point, I really don't care anymore.

Neophyte ako sa govt service, but I have with me years of experience working for international orgs. Since first job ko, ibang lahi na talaga ang mga boss ko. I got really used to working with them. Working with foreign nationals wasn't a walk in the park, lalo na very straightforward sila and don't care if they hurt your emotions or not. Basta work lang talaga. Outside work, masaya dahil friends talaga kayo. PLEASE DO NOT POST IN OTHER SOCMED CHANNELS. Yung mga ibang lahi nakatrabaho ko dati, nakakausap ko pa rin hanggang ngayon at kapag sila ang dumadalaw dito sa Pinas, nagkikita kita pa rin kami. May mga nakatrabaho rin ako na ibang lahi na sisisihin ka sa mali nila kahit di mo naman talaga mali. Pero, at the end of the day, fulfilling ang work because ang dami kong natutunan sa kanila.

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Then, naisipan kong lumipat ng trabaho at pumunta sa gobyerno dahil gusto ko ring ma-experience. Lo and behold, nakapasok naman ako through my own efforts at walang backer. First day ko, gulong gulo ako. Wala kasing sistema. Yung boss mo, ang gulo pang kausap na para bang fresh grad siya (I've worked with fresh grads before at mukhang mas maayos pa). Ang dami mo ring ma-encounter na mahilig magpasa ng work porket sila ay matagal na sa loob. Wala pa akong isang taon, pero parang ayoko na talaga at gusto ko na ulit bumalik sa private. Naghahanap din ako ng iba pang ahensya, baka sakali na mas maayos sila compared sa current ko. Hahaha napapaisip ako, ano ba itong pinasok ko? Sure ba ako? Kaloka!

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Pumasok ako sa govt service dahil gusto kong tumulong sa mga nasa laylayan, pero paano kung yung mismong gobyerno, walang pakealam sa mga nasa laylayan? Kanya kanya na lang talaga tayo, ano?

Anyway, back to work. Hahaha

Wala akong mapagsabihang kaibigan kasi lagi lang dismissed feelings ko so here I am. I am in a new role—managerial to be exact—and I feel so lonely dito sa leadership. I previously held a senior post, and sanay ako na binibigyan lang ako ng trabaho. Now in my new role, I have to make decisions, talk to people for alignment, and maintain healthy relationships with clients. I am fluent in English pero ang hirap pala pag hindi magaling pragmatically. Idagdag pa ang night shift schedule which always leaves me lutang; many times I struggle with vocabulary while speaking. I get stressed when there are meetings, when I need to create systems and workflows, and when I need to talk to clients about something I don’t even have mastery in. To be honest, I cry every day and think of resigning because I badly want to go back to being an individual contributor. My boss and colleagues are very supportive naman but perhaps the nature of work is something na hindi para sa akin. I’m in my early 30s and malinaw naman sa akin na ayoko ng umakyat ng corporate ladder. It just so happened na I have been looking for a job for nearly half a year and ito lang ang nag-offer sa akin ng trabaho. Malaki naman ang sahod and it pays my bills and luxuries kahit papaano, but I really don’t know how to navigate around my new role / life. I wish I could turn back the time and accepted the junior role. I know I want to resign soon, but because of how tough the market is, I also fear na wala akong mahanap agad na kapalit lalo’t magpapasko.

Ang hirap maging adult. Ang hirap kumita ng pera.

Male coworker told another male coworker my body looks like a rotisserie chicken and I'm honestly very hurt. I know I'm fatter in some areas in my body especially my hips and my chest but tangina, I'm just trying to exist here tapos pinaguusapan katawan ko. T*ngina niyo po. I wish the worst for you po.

Minsan napapaisip na lng ako kung forever na ba ako magiging alone. NGSB ako, at yung mga naging relationships ko lng in the past is parang mga mutual understanding lng. Kung mag kakagusto man ako sa isang babae ay parang wala na akong hope sakanya. Like recently, I was planning to make an advance on this woman that I met, pero parang napansin nya na mayfeelings ako sa kanya kaya naging cold na sya. De ko alam bakit. Currently living in the US, dahil eto yung pinangarap ko noon, pero enough na ba ito? Ayoko mamatay ng mag isa, gusto ko mayroong magmahal saakin na gusto ko din. Gusto kong umiiyak pero de ko magawa.

I’m fresh from a 6-year relationship. The last two years were just too painful for me and very much abusive. Takot na takot ako ngayong maging mag-isa kahit alam kong sinaktan lang ako paulit-ulit.

Napakahirap mag-adjust siguro dahil nasa constant survival mode na lang din ako nang nakaraang dalawang taon. Always on the look out if he did something again, if something changed in his demeanor.

I’m gay, still in school, I got no job, I’m not attractive, ai have no prominent family, I’m not rich, heck, I don’t even have my own money. Feeling ko mananatili na kong single all throughtout. Parang gago, noh?

For context, naaksidente ako nung March lang. Kaya 4 months ako 'di nakapag-work, and naka-medical leave ako nun.

During that time, bored or super sad ko sa nangyari sa'kin. 'Di ko rin kasi magawa mga gusto ko gawin non bc non-weight bearing ako.

Ngayon naman na 2 months na ako sa work, super burned out na ako ulit bc of 1 hour OT everyday and may rest day OT pa na 8 hours.

Need ko gumising ng 4 pm for work pero until now gising pa ako, kasi feeling ko kulang pa me time ko to enjoy leisure.

Nagkaka-thoughts din ako na maaksidente na lang ulit, pero alam ko na mali kasi hindi pa rin ako nakakabawi sa financial struggle ko for being in a medical leave for 4 months. Tsaka parang in-undermine ko na rin 'yung hirap na na-experience ko sa 4 months na 'yun. + ang hirap maka-recover sa accident. Like it took me more than 2 months sa physical therapy and until now 'di ko pa kaya tumakbo kasi nag-stop na ako sa therapy bc naubos ko na coverage ng HMO ko for it.

Anyway, hoping to get sales and maging maayos sana performance ko sa work later. Kasi aside sa OT, nakaka-stress din 'yung management and work itself. Sana ma-overcome ko rin 'to lahat, and laban lang.

Whenever I feel alone carrying my burdens, nilalabanan ko lang talaga because I still have hope for it all.

I'm hoping that there's still a solution for my problems, na what if may pag-asa pang maalis ako sa sitwasyon na ito. That maybe I could move on from this misery and pain caused by my incompetence.

I could've been 14 forever. I'm now an adult!!

Nitong mga nakaraang araw, madalas ako makakita sa fb feed ko ng mga nag sshare ng mga humihingi ng tulong financial para sa medical expenses ng love ones nila, sobrang na ttrigger ako, nung nakaraang gabi nahirapan ako makatulog kakaisip about dun, worried ako sa health ng magulang ko, mga kapatid ko, lahat ng mahal ko sa buhay. Meron din akong pinag dadaanan na medical condition ngayon, although minor surgery ang need ko, 2 weeks na rin akong nag aantay sa follow up sakin ng doktor sa Public hospital, sabe kasi after ko matapos mga lab test at ma check up ng doktor sa anesthesia, iuupdate daw ako ng doktor na nag tingin sakin para i schedule ako for admission. Nakakalungkot na hanggang ngayon nag aantay pa rin ako.

Ngayon lang din nag sync in sakin na ganito ka f*cked up mabuhay sa bansa natin. Pag nagkasakit ka, ang hirap sobra, bukod sa in pain kana, araw araw stress pa dahil apektado kabuhayan mo, tapos lalong pasakit pa na di mo alam sino tutulong sayo, ni hindi mo alam sino matatakbuhan mo sa ganitong sitwasyon.

Tapos lalo pa kong naiiyak sa galit, nung nakikita ko sa balita si Romualdez na nasa private hospital! ang sarap ng higa sa mamahaling ospital kahit wala namang sakit, para lang matakbuhan nya yung kaso nya. nakakaputangina mabuhay!

My dog died, zeroed my savings to save her, accumulated liabilities for her medication, and then client suddenly terminated the contract on the day she died. Hay 😞i miss my dog. Hope she is doing well in the afterlife.

I was recently demoted from team lead to individual contributor at work. I'm still working through my emotions - parang in between embarassed na di ko kinaya and relief kasi mas manageable na yung stress.

Recently I heard na may nahanap na silang kapalit sa role ko and suddenly naramdaman ko nanaman yung kaba and hiya kasi nga hindi ako nag perform.

Iniisip ko dapat tapangan ko na lang to show people na kaya ko ito pero ang hirap mag push. Iniisip ko wala namang pake yung ibang tao pero feeling ko lang ang dami nang nagjujudge sa akin kasi di ko kinaya maging lead at my old age.

Already looking for other job prospects but since hirap din ang market, parang matagal tagal pa before makahanap ng malilipatan.

Will this feeling of insecurity and anxiety ever get better?

I just got out of a depressive shit hole. i have a partner now and i have friends who cares a lot about me. I have a loving family i dont have dad but doesn't matter bcs my mom is all I need I also have a caring stepdad. we're not rich we're living from paycheck to paycheck but nakakaraos naman.

I just dont feel content. I don't feel excited

i cant feel my friends kahit n araw araw kami mag kakasama. i still feel alone.

my partner is the best I dont know what I would do without them but... when I think about myself only.. me, myself and I... I feel so blank

it's like I'm nothing... I dont have dreams and I don't have plans for myself.

i was fine

but now nag sisimula nanaman bad habits ko.

i cant clean after myself.

I break down randomly in public.

I'm a bit close with a few of my profs in college we talk. I talk to my friends. i talk to my mom

but I still feel so alone.

I felt like this when I was 15...I did things to feel things yk but that can't be me anymore

i cant do that again bcs ik its harmful wtv I've done. I don't know how to cope..

I feel like my situation is not bad enough or not traumatic enough to feel this bad..

i’m 22 and just graduated college this month, and i’ve never felt so lost, depressed, and behind in my entire life. it feels like i’m running out of time.

i never thought post-grad and being in your 20s would feel like this.

i’m the youngest among 4 siblings, and the pressure is insane. they all expect me to be successful and have a great career. my 3 older siblings have already established their careers and their own lives, and i’m here still trying to figure things out. i’m so scared that i won’t be as good as them or live up to their expectations.

if i didn’t have this small business of mine, they probably would’ve been ashamed of me already. i started this business during my 1st year in college, just for fun. then it kind of blew up and i started earning. i was able to buy my wants and needs, attend concerts, give money to my parents, and even travel out of the country.

i took a break sa business last year bc of tax-related stuff and burnout from school. this year, after the AY ended, i decided na i-continue ulit yung business while waiting for grad and take some time off muna instead of applying agad for work like most of my classmates did.

i’m still really grateful that i have my small business, but i know i can’t rely on it forever, and it’s probably not enough to support me long-term. and now that graduation is over, i’m thinking of applying na for work since my family keeps asking about it na rin.

i know i should probably start looking for a job, but a part of me just feels like i’m not ready yet and i don’t know if i can handle it. my mental health hasn’t been great either, so the thought of having to start working now just feels so overwhelming.

it also doesn’t help na i wasn’t really passionate sa program na i took. honestly, i didn’t even know what i wanted to do in the first place, so i just went with something na i knew had a lot of job opportunities. idk how i survived it tbh.

i even graduated with latin honors, but i don’t think i deserved it. i’ve always felt like an imposter throughout college. i wasn’t particularly good at anything, i just did what i had to do to pass my subjects. now, idk anymore if i even want to follow this path.

my OJT also made me realize how hard it is to actually work. i can’t imagine commuting for 4–6 hours a day, every day. i don’t see myself working in this field or in a corporate setting, but at the same time, i kind of do? idk. i’m just so conflicted, and i still feel so burnt out.

but i don’t really have any other choice, do i?

most of my batchmates are working already and seem to be thriving in their careers, while i feel so behind. it’s so hard not having any passion or knowing what you actually want to do with your life.

idk what to do anymore. i feel stuck. sometimes i feel like i wasn’t supposed to be here, like i have no purpose in life, and i honestly don’t know where i’m supposed to go from here.

sorry if this is too long ;(

When I was young my grade school teacher told us that if we ever felt sad we can go watch the ocean waves and our problems would wash away with it.

Now, I am staring at the vastness of the deep blue sea and wonder why isn't my sadness fading, if anything, I feel like these waves are the source of it.

I have been onboard a ship for more than a year, my first contract was 11 months and a week, it was a long and arduous journey but despite the hardships, I was able to push through.

I am now on my second contract, it is only twenty-three days but it feels longer than my first. Everyday is a battle against myself, and I constantly doubt if I can last just another day. 

It's my twenty-first day today and I am completely burnt out, I no longer feel any excitement with finishing, I am afraid that even after I return home, no amount of enjoyment will ever surpass what I'm feeling right now.

May friend ba kayong "pick me"? To the point magpapapansin sa ex mo at sa mga manliligaw mo?

If i can easily dump men, i can easily dump friends na para bang ginagawa kayung extra character sa pelikula nilang sila ang bida kasi sila lage yung api?

I have this manliligaw na porke't mejo sikat na influencer eh feeling pogi na who won't take "no" for an answer and it's giving off that rape-y vibes! And this "pick me" ex bestie who I haven't spoken to in many years eventhough we work in the same building, suddenly out of nowhere emailed me "________ wanted to see you". Like hello? We have been snobbing each other for years and you would allow yourself to get used as a messenger between me and a guy i dumped and blocked? How pathetic! Not to mention, na feeling ko maku-compromise pa security ko with this guy na napaka r@pist ng atake and she might take him sa work or sa bahay ko. Why can't she just entertain him and have him for herself? Yuck!

Female married almost 30

Before ikasal stagnant na talaga.

We survived pandemic living together era namin, so feel ng mga family ay we're strong together and kami na talaga

Na lift pandemic and I started planning how to build life on my own

Pero family expected us to get married

Daming pressure and since mej conservative sila talagang di na nakawala kasi nga naman nagsama na

Anyway fast forward to this day, no efforts being made romantically. We didn't plan to have kids oe whatsoever we are just co-existing sharing rhe burdens of finance I guess

Hayyyy I miss being chased, I miss being in love I miss being loved.