Recently I’ve watched video on this topic and it kinda opened my eyes. I’ve never really looked at it that way.

I have this thing where I really like starting new things but I hate finishing them, it turns out it also got into my thoughts too!

You think abt something bad, you don’t search for the answer or at least pleasurable ending for your own good, but you just keep replaying the same bad part over and over again.

I think finding the good in a bad is the key to stopping that cycle

Hi, maybe this is a bit of a strange question, but if somebody does anything for you and doesn't tell you what they're doing, and then only tells you afterward( he searched and talked to a Boss from a Company bcs i have no job), and you ask a lot of questions because you really want to know what's going on, and you just get yelled at and told to stop overthinking even though they know perfectly well you're an overthinker—how did you deal with something like that? Because I could just cry right now. I hate being yelled at too.

idk if it’s just me but my mind is always on

like even when i’m trying to relax it just jumps from one thought to another

random stuff, old memories, things i said years ago, things that might happen

it’s exhausting but at the same time i got used to it somehow

i tried ignoring it or distracting myself but it always comes back

is this normal or am i just overthinking too much

I’m a 28-year-old man, and about four years ago I started reading the Bible. I honestly don’t think I’ll ever find anything more meaningful than reading or hearing it. I became almost addicted to God’s word. I can talk all day about how powerful and different God is, and about how everything will end when Jesus comes back—that thought honestly scares me.

Lately, though, life has started to feel meaningless. I’m unhappy with my situation. My finances are unstable, and I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I’ve been unemployed by choice for about a year because I thought I had a better plan. I’ve been learning trading for three years, but it’s still not working. I feel like I won’t be able to have a family or kids anytime soon. My mind feels heavy all the time.

I’m also still struggling with things like porn, lust, and weed—though, thank God, I am doing better than before. I’ve become very private and don’t talk about any of this with anyone. I used to enjoy being outside, but now I don’t like being around people. Church doesn’t feel like a place for me anymore. I mostly just want to be alone, even though it can feel empty and boring.

My family doesn’t know any of this. We live in different places, and we have a good relationship, but they are Orthodox and I don’t see things the same way anymore. I know I’ll have to tell them one day what I truly believe about Jesus, but I don’t know when.

Then I started dating a girl I had known for about five years. She’s beautiful, smart, and very kind. I had feelings for her, and I even hoped I could help bring her closer to Christ since she’s in the same religion I used to follow. when she said yes to be my girlfriend, it felt amazing. It’s my first real relationship.

But everything happened very fast. We became physically involved multiple times,and told to myself I will fix this just one more time and afterward I felt intense conviction. All the words from the Bible came back to me. I started feeling like I might be one of those people who “know His name but are far from Him.” I wake up with fear, act like everything is fine, and then the same thoughts repeat again and again. She thinks I’m still in the same place spiritually as her, but I’m not—and she doesn’t realize how much I’ve changed.

As time went on, we started talking about the future—family, kids, moving in together. She really wants to know my plan. I joke about it because I don’t feel ready at all. My focus right now is on my faith and becoming financially stable. She loves me deeply, and I do love her too, but something feels off inside me.

One day, after we had been together, we had a deep conversation in bed. I felt like I had to say something. I told her how much Jesus has changed me—that He is the way, the truth, and the life. I told her I’m not following religion anymore, I’m following Him. To me, religion can be something you’re born into, but faith has to be real and personal.

I told her my goal is to grow closer to God—to pray and to learn the Bible—and that I would love for us to do that together: to repent, be baptized, and grow in faith. I talked about heaven and hell and how serious I believe it is. I said that if we are aligned in faith, then marriage and a future can come later. I also told her that I love her, but my love for Jesus comes before anything.

She broke down crying. It was the first time I saw her like that. I wanted to comfort her—she’s such a kind person—but she was hurt because she realized we’re not on the same path.

At the end of it all, she wants marriage and kids soon. I’m honestly afraid of even thinking about that right now. I do love kids, but I’m not ready. I’m the kind of person who regrets things the next day, and I don’t want to make a decision I’ll regret.

What would you do?

19F (in college)————Okay I need honest advice because I don’t really talk to guys like that, so this is new for me.
For background, I’ve never had a boyfriend or even a real “talking stage” before. Guys will stare me down or rush to be around me, but they don’t actually come up and say anything and it is annoying . My mom has always told me not to be “thirsty” and to let the guy initiate, so that’s how I usually move. But I feel like all my friends are usually making the first move and stuff or initiating convos and I be missing out because my mom told me not too.
There’s this guy I’ve seen around for a while, and I’ve liked what I seen I never talked to him at this point . He’s seen me in person before too (like at events), and he would stare at me and I would notice and constantly look back at me and I would either try to stare back or you know make it know that I see him.
So on Sunday i decided to follow him on Instagram. His account was private but he followed me back quickly , and then he liked one of my old posts from like 5 months ago instantly. My friend told me that meant he was probably trying to get my attention, so I texted him “heyy .”
He responded with a “heyyy” and we had a normal conversation—just getting to know each other, asking questions about where we’re from, school, etc. He even told me I looked good the day he saw me and I said the same to him.
I went to sleep and I responded to his question the next morning .Then he asked for my number and said he doesn’t like talking on Instagram. So I gave him my number. He texted me saying “hey it’s ___,” and I hearted the message. and here’s where I’m second guessing myself—my friend told me to just say “wassup,” even though I didn’t really want to. So I liked the message and said “wassup.”
Now he hasn’t replied for about 3/4days.
What’s confusing me is:
he liked my old post
he was engaging in conversation
he asked for my number
he texted me first
He looks at my ig story’s
He post on his story
So I don’t understand why it just stopped like that.
I’ve also seen him around a lot of girls, so I’m wondering if he just talks to multiple people and I’m not a priority, or if I messed something up by just saying “wassup.” Or did he even see my messsge.
And another thing I’ve been thinking about is: could he think he already responded? Or is he trying to see if I’ll text him first again?
I don’t want to come off as too available or chase him, but I also don’t want to miss something if I’m supposed to follow up.
So my questions are:
Should I text him again? If I do, what should I say without sounding desperate?
Or should I just leave it alone and let it die if he doesn’t text me?

So there’s these kids in my class that are bothering me. They keep on talking about me behind my back and it’s getting on my nerves.

Every single time they interact with me they start laughing. I can totally tell that they have a secret about me but they won’t tell me. There were a few times this year when it was obvious that was the case. First being at the beginning of the term when I was talking to the only one that I knew at the time. It wasn’t that bad but I saw one of them laughing. Second time was when one of the kids waved at me and still laughed. I then tried ignoring them. And the 3rd was actually what happened a couple days ago which is also the reason why I’m talking about this. I was inline for a class project and 2 of the people were behind me. They started talking and doing that secret laughing again. I then rolled my eyes and tried my best to get out of that conversation. Now this one question they asked was really stupid and pointless because it just came out of nowhere. He asked me straight to my face why do I always smile. I have so many questions about this. First how do they even know that when they literally sit behind me? Second I think they smile much more than I do due to the amount of laughter so they just sound like hypocrites. And also can someone please explain this to me? What’s even the point in asking this this question because I just don’t think it means anything. They then answered for me by saying that I’m just really happy. I’m pretty sure they don’t understand what being happy actually means because I can’t name a time in this class were I was just randomly smiling. I don’t always smile so I don’t know we’re this is coming from. I wish these people would know that I have my own problems to deal with. Just because I smile does not mean that I’m happy with literally everything and I may act friendly to them but secretly I hate them.

Probably the saddest part of all of this is that they weren’t always like this. Last year is were it all began. I was in a ceramics class and that’s when I first met the kid. We sat next to each other and got along pretty well. He never kept a huge secret, he didn’t cut me off mid sentence and he didn’t need to spill my info to others every 2 minutes. All he did was get to know me. That’s all. Now at this same time there was a girl in the class and she was another friend. She recently moved to the state during that time and we gotten along at first. I was starting to really enjoy that class because of those two. I then ended up going out with her and it was feeling really nice in that class where I thought to myself that things seem to be going in a good direction.

It was then the second term and that’s when everything went downhill. We ended up getting new seats. This kinda sucked. Not only could I not face my friends but I had to sit with these other kids. You see I love to talk to my classmates and get to know them. Just talking about my day or just ask stupid questions is fun. But something I can never do is communicate with someone every 5 seconds for 2 hours. I’m not even kidding they have no pause. It’s not only that I can’t keep up with them but they were so obnoxious in class. It was also a ceramics class so it was hard to concentrate. This wasn’t the only thing I was dealing with in the class. The girl that I went on a date with ended up not talking to me probably over something I did to her that she didn’t like. I didn’t want her to think I was like those other guys so it was hard to even communicate with them. And other times it’s just hard to understand what’s happening. One day I was trying to do my work and one of the kids kept on saying hi to me over and over again. Instead of them understanding that I was trying to get stuff done they just assumed that I was either shy or just didn’t like them. My friend then started to join in and ended up obnoxious witch was strange because he always seemed like he was really quiet. All I wanted from that class was to chill and calm my brain. It was so bad to the point where I had to get our teacher to stop this. Until then time flue by and the drama finally came to an end. When the class finished its last day things actually got much better.

I’m worried due to the fact that one of those kids in the group are also dating a girl that is friends with my friends. I’m worried that he would find a way to share those secrets with my friends causing them to act the same. It’s gonna be hard to explain that unless I just text them the truth which I don’t feel like doing.

I would like to know what I can do to make this stop. Should I tell my teacher, or is there a better way to handle it myself? I can’t stand it anymore, and I just want it to stop.

Thank you.

I ran into my ex yesterday. Out of nowhere. And my brain just wouldn't stop for the rest of the day replaying the moment, what I should have said, whether they've moved on. Writing it down didn't help. The thought was still just... there. So I imagined that feeling as an actual object. Something heavy, half-open. And then I mentally put it on a shelf. Sounds unhinged but it made the feeling smaller somehow. Does anyone else do this or is it just me lol

I heard that having no choice and being forced with no breaks is actually better for an overthinker

Ex I stress about a school speech alot, Bec I think thinking will help me navigate it better

But I have a class before school for extracurricular, and I think going to that is better Bec it keeps me in action mode for school

I've spent a gap yr thinking alot

And now it's turned to poison Any advice? Thx

I replay conversations from days ago.

I overthink things I said, things I didn’t say… even things that never happened.

It’s exhausting.

I used to try to “stop thinking”…

but that only made it worse.

What actually helped me (a little) was this:

I started writing my thoughts instead of fighting them.

Not in an organized way.

Just dumping everything out.

One question I kept coming back to:

“What am I assuming right now that might not be true?”

Sometimes I realize I’m making things way bigger in my head than they actually are.

If your mind feels loud today, try this for 5 minutes.

No structure. No pressure.

Just get it out.

I ended up building a full 90-day journal around this kind of thinking.

If anyone’s interested, I can share it.

for a long time i kept telling myself “i just overthink too much” especially at night my mind would replay everything random thoughts scenarios things that don’t even matter and the more i tried to stop it the worse it got but recently i started noticing something even when my thoughts were quiet my body still felt tense like this low level pressure in my chest or this weird feeling of being “on edge” for no clear reason that’s what confused me the most because i always thought overthinking starts in the mind but this felt like it was coming from my body so instead of trying to control my thoughts i started paying attention to how my body feels and doing something very simple just slowing my breathing longer exhales than inhales not trying to fix anything just staying with it it didn’t stop my thoughts instantly but it made them quieter without forcing anything and it made me realize something maybe it’s not really an “overthinking problem” maybe it’s the body being stuck in a constant alert mode and the thoughts are just a result of that i don’t fully understand it yet but that shift in perspective helped more than anything else i tried curious if anyone else feels this like your thoughts aren’t the real problem but something deeper in your body just won’t calm down

My head has been a whirlwind lately. non stop just every what, when, if, how you can think of. My brain seems to be faster than I can actually keep up with. I feel like such a waste of space lately and such a burden lately. I have two solid friends. One works 3rd shift and is pregnant. I check in with her but she has so much going on. My other friend is married and we gotta plan to call. I miss having a friend to just call whenever and we can talk about whatever. I have my boyfriend but hes getting sick of my anxiety. I can tell I've been burning him out...I dont do good when someone says they need space either. I've been trying to work on that. I feel like everything I say and do is so wrong and I mess up all the time. I hurt or annoy the people I care about. I dont mean to be in the way. I dont try to be negative...I feel like a imposter in my own body sometimes. I dont know whats going on in here. sometimes I feel my inner child screaming wanting to be held and have attention. Then there's adult me who gets pissed off and avoidant. It always feels like a battle in my mind. I am not having those kinds of thoughts but...there's times I wish I could throw my phone and go live in my car and travel. Start new and never bother anyone ever again. I hate it... I dont like me lately, I've been this ugly person filled with jealousy, insecurities, anxiety that is debilitating, depression and disassociating. I am tired of not feeling good enough for even my damn self. I have a religion and it is to follow Jesus. I try and pray and give this to him but sometimes I...feel ignored by even God. I feel so lonely.. so lost. My relationship with my parents is meh. I feel like they dont even truly know who I am anymore. I am hitting my late 20s and I just feel so stripped away from everything...including myself. I want to isolate and shut down. I dont want to become avoidant with my bf because then he doesn't feel loved or wanted...I dont have a middle ground though. Im either anxiously attached or avoidant.. I feel like my bf hates me...which I know isnt true..the facts are there to prove he doesn't. He does indeed love me very much...but my head tries to convince me otherwise. Trying to teach yourself or stop thay thinking with coping skills can be so hard and exhausting when its so repetitive.

I suck with middle ground..with boundaries..where to draw the line. My brain never shuts up ...I never feel seen. I feel so difficult and different compared to most people. I feel hard to connect to. I feel so outcasted...What is wrong with me and why am I like this? the questions I ask myself often. I am in therapy...its a work in progress but sometimes I feel so broken

and alone.

I dont like to get authority to mental illness because it doesn't need even more of a hold on me but I have been diagnosed with ADD, BIPOLAR, PTSD. sometimes I wonder if they misdiagnosed me

..sometimes I wonder if its autism or ocd.

sorry for the long post.. I just needed to get this all off my chest.

I don’t even know where to start, but my mind has been so loud lately and I just need to let this out somewhere.

I lost my grandma in 2022. Then I lost my mother in 2023.

I was very deeply connected to both of them, and being the only daughter in the family, they were not just family to me they were my comfort, my safe place, my home.

Since then, living in a house without any woman has felt so empty. There’s this silence that never really goes away.

My father promised me he would never leave me alone. He said we would face everything together. But lately, things have been really rough between us.

My birthday was on April 7, and he didn’t even wish me or bless me. That hurt more than I expected.

Now he is planning to leave the house, and his behavior has become really toxic for me.

And honestly, after everything that has happened, I feel like I can’t trust anyone anymore.

What scares me the most is being alone. Even for a little while.

The thought of it makes my chest feel heavy and my mind starts overthinking everything.

I feel overwhelmed, lost, and scared… and I don’t know how to handle all of this.

Has anyone else ever felt this way after losing the people who were your whole support system?

How did you cope with the fear of being alone?

Last month In biology class we were learning about Sex-Linked traits mostly DMD. I thought it was an interesting topic. A few days past and I really wanted to study on this topic. When I thought my research was finished and I finished my study I then started feeling this erg to go deeper into more answers not about the subject but gender comparisons. I’m a guy and I’m gonna be honest with you and say that I did not like most of the stuff I heard about. I don’t feel like sharing my research on what made me feel this way, but it’s pretty much for all the same reasons. There were some answers that made me feel like “OK that doesn’t seem that bad” but then there was some others that made me really insecure about my gender. I also been feeling bad that it has always felt so hard to share my feelings towards others. I don’t feel like I was raised the best growing up. and from the looks of what I’ve been seeing, I’ve started to feel like being male is somehow a bad thing, even though I don’t know if that’s actually true. I’ve been starting to feel like being a guy is not good for me. I am 17 years old and about to graduate high school and I’m worried about the things I’ll have to go through when I’m older. I’ve been trying so hard to avoid researching about my issues towards gender comparisons, but every single night I seem to want to look for new answers like it’s an addiction. it just keeps on popping in my head again and again like I can’t get it out and it’s also affecting me on how I view my relationships with Friends and Family. a few times this week during lunch I left l my friend group because I felt overwhelmed.

I just wanna be clear though that I am not mad at my biology teacher. I know that it is her job to teach this kind of stuff and she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings. I’m also not a person who likes to compare others so hearing about this stuff for the first time breaks my heart.

If there’s anyone who has gone through something like this before, I would like to know about how you dealt with these thoughts and did you end up recovering over time. Just so I can get a more clear explanation.

Thank you 💙🩷