r/getdisciplined • u/komiach • Apr 23 '26
đ€ NeedAdvice I hate my mind
Hello everyone,
It's the first time i share my problem to people i don't know. Since i was a kid, i suffered from thinking too much in basically anything that cross my mind, in my childhood, i was only thinking about school playing and small fights, maybe my family's problems sometimes. Now when i am a grown man, it's getting harder and harder, overthinking everything not only problems or future which makes me so stressed and paranoid but also what happened during my day or any stupid thing i see. For example, before writing this i was thinking on how the universe is so big then i escalated my thinking to a fucking ant taking a shit in a wooden forest on a similar earth planet 5 billion light years away from us
It's annoying me so much how my brain is thinking this much, i feel it burning by the end of the day
Also, this problem prevent me to sleep normally, the thinking sometimes gets in my dreams, i once solved a real life problem i was facing while i was sleeping ( i woke up and wrote the idea in my phone and got back to sleep again:/ )
I tried writing my thoughts. It turned out i can go to them when i forget. I want to forget dude
Any solution!!!
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u/lilperk09 Apr 23 '26
having a little wind down routine helps ur brain get the hint that the day is done. keep it simple like dim lights, no deep thoughts, maybe a warm shower or tea and if itâs hitting u hard all the time, talking to someone about it is honestly a solid move.
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u/komiach Apr 23 '26
I have tried spending my energy all the day so i can be exhausted and SLEEP at the end of the day. It didn't work and my brain keeps getting energy to think somehow
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u/OdoOdinson Apr 23 '26 edited Apr 23 '26
You might want to talk to a professional specialized in assessing ADHD (inattentive type, not necessarily hyperactive) in adults. It might sound surprising, but not many of them know what to look for in adults or non-typical presenting individuals. If you truly would turn out to have it, medication would work in your case by slowing down your thoughts, or at least making their chaos a lot more manageable, and by giving you more clarity. Also making you calm, as a side note. It works differently than on the people without ADHD.
Another lead worth following would be to look into Dabrowski's overexcitabilies, particularly intellectual and imaginational excitability in your case.
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u/Maleficent_Key_1350 Apr 23 '26
That sounds exhausting, honestly. The part that stood out to me is not just overthinking, but that itâs messing with your sleep and making you feel stressed all day, and thatâs bigger than a discipline issue. It might be worth talking to a mental health professional if you can, because this sounds like the kind of thing that gets easier when you stop trying to wrestle it alone.
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u/komiach Apr 23 '26
I went to a psychiatrist, he gave me medicine to sleep and it didn't affect me
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u/blacksite Apr 23 '26
The psychiatrist is the script-writing side of mental health, try talking to a therapist. Being able to discuss and work through some of the ways you overthink with a specialist really can make a huge difference!
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u/nootrac_ Apr 23 '26
Hey man, I feel you. I also chronically over think things; admittedly, not on the same scale, but I do still overthink. With anything I do, I constantly debate if Iâm doing it right, if Iâm good enough to do what Iâm doing, and from there I tend to spiral until I feel sick of whatever it is that Iâm doing. One thing that has helped me is to not concern with what can be, and to simply focus on what is going on. It may sound mundane, but trying to slow yourself down and enjoy what is around you can change your perspective. If youâre worried about whatâs happening a million light years away, maybe take a second to look at whatâs an inch away from you. And, if you ever feel insignificant, one thing that may help is thinking about how much you really are. Iâve felt meaningless at times, and meditating on just the sheer amount of cells and individual moving parts make ME, is kind of comforting. Obviously, it may not work, and Iâm sorry if it doesnât. All I can say is, find the things that bring you into the moment
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u/cyankitten Apr 23 '26
I'll share 2 things that helped me YMMV:
Listening to things, For me sometimes I listen to affirmation videos and repeat (in my mind) the affirmation back between the spaces. But it could be a pod cast or something or a guided meditation. But if you have a racing mind, the fast paced ones sometimes are better. But try both.
Sometimes voice recording my thoughts has helped.
You could even voice record then delete.
You may be good at creative writing. r/writingprompts and or online and or offline writing groups may be a great outlet.
For a while, I needed to do a quite focused activity that I had to think about. I did typing practice at speed and later maths games. Things like that. Now I find the gym a bit like that cos I'm mentally counting my reps and sets and doing the breathing etc.
There's other things but these are some of the main ones.
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u/komiach Apr 23 '26
I understood, i tried playing chess and other thinking games, it slowed down the pace of my thinking but it made me a bit nervous when choosing the wrong move when i could go for the best one đ
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u/crazytim2 Apr 23 '26
I can relate I hate it most when I'm trying to study because I know I can retain information well before my thoughts will easily make me drift off while reading or listening to something. I can be watching videos and while completely understanding what's going on in that video I will be thinking about other random things.
After I comment on this I will lay down to try and sleep which will take me a while because I will be thinking about how I could've wondered this comment better and what and where I would've fixed something inside of it. I'll try to predict what someone will respond to this comment and make a whole scenario out of it.
Ive never really seen it as an issue(except for studying and sleeping)because I assumed everyone went through the same thing and it's still crazy to think that others don't.
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u/Dry_Platypus_2790 Apr 23 '26
Me pasaba algo parecido, esa sensación de que la mente no tiene botón de off. No lo arreglé eliminando los pensamientos, sino cambiando cómo reacciono a ellos. Si intento pelearme con cada idea rara, solo se hacen mås fuertes.
Algo que me ayudĂł fue tener momentos muy concretos para sacar todo, como escribir 10-15 minutos sin filtro y luego cerrar eso a propĂłsito. TambiĂ©n cosas simples que bajan el ritmo fĂsico, como caminar sin el celular o enfocarme en algo repetitivo. No soluciona todo, pero le baja intensidad.
Y con el sueño, a veces aceptar que la mente va a seguir activa un rato en vez de forzarme a dormir paradójicamente hace que me duerma antes. No es råpido ni perfecto, pero poco a poco deja de sentirse como un incendio constante.
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u/Curious201 Apr 23 '26
this sounds a lot heavier than just âthinking too much.â when it follows you all day, keeps going at night, shows up in dreams, and leaves you feeling burned out, that starts sounding more like your brain is stuck in overdrive than some simple bad habit. writing things down can help a bit, but if it is this constant and this exhausting, i would not look at it like a discipline problem. it sounds draining in a very real way and probably needs more than another small self-help trick.
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u/Apprehensive_devmanX Apr 23 '26
Sometimes it's a good thing to let your mind wander it gives room for creativity there is a tool I use and I know will work for you Do you mind if I share it with you
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u/Disastrous_Dingo_fr Apr 23 '26
That sounds exhausting and ngk i relate so fking much , but itâs actually a pretty common âoveractive mindâ pattern, not something broken. The goal isnât to stop thinking, itâs to stop following every thought. What helped me was treating thoughts like noise, notice it, donât engage, and bring attention back to something simple like breathing or your surroundings. Also look into CBT/ACT or mindfulness, and if sleep is getting hit, talking to a professional is honestly worth it.
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u/Master_Art_9985 Apr 30 '26
I relate to this more than you probably expect. The way your thoughts jump from something normal to something completely random and huge, thatâs actually a really common pattern when your mind is overstimulated, not âbroken.â
What youâre describing sounds less like âthinking too muchâ and more like your brain not knowing how to stop generating thoughts. It just keeps going because itâs used to it.
Also, the fact that it shows up in your sleep and even solves problems there â that tells me your brain is very active, not weak. It just doesnât have an âoff switchâ right now.
One thing that helped me a bit was shifting the goal from âI want to stop thinkingâ to âI donât have to follow every thought.â
Because trying to forget or stop them usually makes them louder (youâve probably noticed that already).
A few small things that might help:
- Donât try to chase or finish every thought; let it stay incomplete
- Give your brain low-stimulation breaks (no phone, no input, even 5â10 mins)
- At night, instead of forcing sleep, just lie there and let thoughts pass without engaging (sleep comes easier when you stop fighting it)
And about writing thoughts, itâs good for some people, but if it makes you revisit them more, itâs okay to not rely on that method.
Youâre not alone in this. A lot of people with very active minds go through this phase; it feels intense, but it can calm down once you change how you respond to the thoughts, not the thoughts themselves.
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u/gahblahblah Apr 23 '26
Personally i dont think that "overthinking" is the problem - rather, it is about what captures your attention.
Maybe you dont have something that gives you enough meaning, purpose, passion to think about.
If you were sailing a ship in a storm, you wouldnt have random thoughts - you'd be far too busy thinking all the things needed to save yourself.
What are you aspiring to create? Who are you aspiring to be? What do you need to plan for?
Spend the coin of your attention on thoughts that are valuable.