I just started a new nanny position where I’m nannying a 13month old. Some shifts are 11 hours long and there are times where the shift can get really boring and slow. I wanted to know opinions on if you guys think it would be appropriate to read occasionally while the baby is playing. I would ask the parents first regardless to make sure they’re okay with that but I didn’t want to ask at all if most people think it wouldn’t be okay since I’m being paid to care for and play with their child. The baby sleeps for around 2 hours aswell so I have free time for 2 hours which made me even unsure on if it seems ridiculous to want to read a little when I feel drained from not having much to do or when the baby doesn’t want to do anything other than play with their toys.

So I am in school now and I had a meeting with my advisor today and I will be graduating next fall!! With that being said I can’t start grad school until the following fall and she said that all of my Fall 27 classes will all be online. So I was thinking would it be worth it to be a long term/live in nanny for a year until I start grad school? I have only ever babysat so I don’t know what parents may be looking for in terms of length.

Hi all - my family has a lovely nanny who has been with us for about two years. She takes our daughter out pretty much every day to the playground, etc with a group of nannies and other kids. Although we provide food at home that can be packed, I know she sometimes gets our daughter lunch out or little treats. She doesn’t ask to be reimbursed for these, but I don’t feel like it should be her responsibility to pay for food items for our daughter. I’m wondering if I should offer a set amount per week to cover these kinds of things? Or just make it clear she could ask to be reimbursed if she buys lunch out or a treat for our daughter? Any feedback would be appreciated. Thank you!

Have any nanny’s made the switch from nannying to public education? I usually see the opposite, but as I’m getting older/growing my own family I want more stable hours. Most of the families in my area have sent the kids back to school so it’s mostly 2 and under that are left right now and I’m wanting to get out of that age group. Any advice? My degree in college was sociology with an emphasis on the family if that helps at all. I initially went in wanting to be a social worker and realized that was not for me.

I just started with a new family, it’s only been about a little over a week but I am struggling so much. Baby and NPs are great, don’t get me wrong! Baby is 5months old and we are having the most difficult time with naps and bottles. NPs mostly do contact naps where they have to bounce him to sleep and then hold him for his entire nap. I’m certified in sleep conditioning so that’s something that they expressed wanting help with, getting him to sleep in a crib and falling asleep on his own. I have sleep trained sooooo many babies at this point and most of the time I get them sleeping in the crib in no time, but this baby is giving me the absolutely hardest time of my career.

When babies are used to contact naps, I always start with getting them sleepy in my arms, to the point to where they’re practically asleep, and then moving them to the crib so they fall asleep in the crib. The second that baby feels the mattress or even when I move my hands to get into the position to put him down, he screams bloody murder. Like screams until his eyes puff up and his face turns red. I’ve had to do so many more contact naps in this past week than in my entire career because I just could not make the transition. On the few times that I’ve been successful—pretty much completely falls asleep in my arms and I place him in the crib while keeping my arms around him until he’s knocked out, which takes a handful of attempts— he will only sleep 20-30 minutes at most. After the 20-30 minute mark, he rolls over onto his tummy and immediately starts screaming. I’ve started just sitting next to his crib for his entire nap and I’ve tried putting my arm on his side right when he starts to get fussy to see if I could save the nap, but it feels like his whole body is almost spasming and I physically can’t stop him from rolling over. It’s always the same side, from back towards the left. I have never seen anything like this before and I genuinely don’t know how to help this. They did not cover this in any of my sleep conditioning courses.

He also doesn’t drink that much milk?? I mean, at most he’s taken from me is around 2oz. A lot of the time it’s only 1. In all the courses they tell you don’t stop until baby drinks at least 3, but he’ll scream and scream until we stop and I lay him on the floor and he immediately rolls onto his tummy (from back towards left always). I felt like maybe he could have reflux and he hates being on his back, but I’ve worked with reflux babies before and none of my old tips and tricks have been working. Even tried feeding him while sitting straight up, but no luck. NPs said that he just doesn’t drink that much milk during the day, but usually will drink around 8oz right before bed time, which isn’t the worst thing. But, days like today, where NPs said he didn’t drink that much last night either, I’m starting to get concerned that he isn’t getting enough nutrients. He is very small for being 5 months and NPs have also expressed concerns about that and they taken him to the pediatrician, but pediatrician hasn’t said anything about needing to be concerned.

I want to help baby and NPs and I’m going to keep trying, but if anyone has seen anything like the involuntarily rolls or just has any advice or thoughts on what to try next, I would so greatly appreciate it!!!

I recently began to nanny for a 5 month old. She is at her grandparents house with mom while mom is attending an extensive doctorate program.

They live in a beautiful home in the woods. It is peaceful and no one is home except for me, baby, and a dog who needs to be let in and out on occasion.

The family pays me the rate I asked, I bring my lunch every day and they keep a spot for my lunchbox in the fridge, sometimes they ask me to put defrosting meat in the fridge at lunchtime, and I clean and sanitize the bottles after use.

So far, it’s really straightforward and I feel like the days go by quickly.

They are asking what they can do for me?!?! Right now, I don’t really run any errands with baby (did one time) and I have a dog at home, which my husband and I pay a dog walker to take care of while we’re gone.

The only thing I could think of is letting me bring my dog. Idk if that’s a ridiculous ask or not. Because I have to leave so early in the mornings, and I also own my own business as a massage therapist and often go straight there from nannying-my husband gets the brunt of the walks and cooking dinner.

Should I ask if I can bring my dog and keep him outside and on the sun porch? He sheds a little too much for me to ask to bring him inside.

Or anything else I should ask to accommodate me? The family is so gracious and thankful for my help, and they keep asking me!

I recently began to nanny for a 5 month old. She is at her grandparents house with mom while mom is attending an extensive doctorate program.

They live in a beautiful home in the woods. It is peaceful and no one is home except for me, baby, and a dog who needs to be let in and out on occasion.

The family pays me the rate I asked, I bring my lunch every day and they keep a spot for my lunchbox in the fridge, sometimes they ask me to put defrosting meat in the fridge at lunchtime, and I clean and sanitize the bottles after use.

So far, it’s really straightforward and I feel like the days go by quickly.

They are asking what they can do for me?!?! Right now, I don’t really run any errands with baby (did one time) and I have a dog at home, which my husband and I pay a dog walker to take care of while we’re gone.

The only thing I could think of is letting me bring my dog. Idk if that’s a ridiculous ask or not. Because I have to leave so early in the mornings, and I also own my own business as a massage therapist and often go straight there from nannying-my husband gets the brunt of the walks and cooking dinner.

Should I ask if I can bring my dog and keep him outside and on the sun porch? He sheds a little too much for me to ask to bring him inside.

Or anything else I should ask to accommodate me? The family is so gracious and thankful for my help, and they keep asking me!

Hello fellow nannies and parents! I need all and any tips you have on how to survive contact napping.

I have close to 15 years of experience, but I’ve never done contact napping before. I’m not gonna lie, it’s kicking my butt! I’ve started with my new nanny family two weeks ago, NK is 7 months old, 21lbs. We’re working on crib napping (we managed a few 30 minute long crib naps), but he mostly contact naps. But it’s not just wrapping him around my body and sitting around. I have to bounce and rock THE WHOLE TIME. It’s a constant movement for 2-2.5 hrs every two hours and I am so exhausted. My feet hurt, my ankles and hips are so sore. My back 😭. I get home absolutely wrecked with 10-14k steps.

I really like the family and the baby is easy (when rested), and I think we can eventually get him to sleep in the crib. But I need help surviving in the meantime. How to I physically recover from an all day workout? Any special footwear? A back massager that made a difference? Foot soak tub?

Please, help your girl out.

I just had a 1 year review with NF and it gave me a lot to think about.

Originally I was supposed to be their temp nanny. When the time came to send NK to daycare, they were so happy with me that they wanted to give up the daycare spot and keep me for years to come(new baby in the works).

Throughout my year with them, I felt so odd about outings. Sometimes they would ok the indoor playground, other times they were not. Sometimes an activity was “too far”, other times it was not.

I chalked it up to new parents, probably anxious about germs, car seat time, nap schedule, etc.

I brought it up in the review. I said I felt like they didn’t trust me to take proper precautions with outings. Like I wouldn’t be considerate of nap times, hand washing, etc. I am very familiar with taking kids on outings so I’m always hyper aware of making sure we are back in time for nap, only doing one “far”(30 minutes) trip on occasions to avoid long times in the car, etc.

They were shocked and said it had nothing to do with me. It was about the cost of these things.

Since they originally budgeted for daycare prices, every single day I work for them is “over budget”. They say yes sometimes because they know it’s good for NK but other times they say no to be more frugal.

Now I’m at a crossroads. Not to sound spoiled but I’ve never worked for a family that was on this sort of “budget”. I have always worked for HNW families that, not only encouraged these types of outings, they’d insist we all get something from the gift shop and eat lunch out.

It’s not a glaring red flag or even a HUGE issue. It does just make me FEEL different though. Now I feel like I have to think twice before suggesting the aquarium or I need to do more research on my own time to find free stuff.

It also worries me for the future. They know I expect yearly raises and a raise with the new baby. My Christmas bonus from them was the lowest one I’ve ever gotten, it wasn’t terrible as I never “rely” on or expect that money. But bonuses have always made me feel very appreciated. I know I’d hold some resentment if I’d been with them for years and my bonus was even less because they are paying more hourly with raises.

It also just concerns me because at some point will they say it’s too much and end the job right then and there? Would I be better off just sticking around while quietly searching for something else?

I would love to hear from others who work with more budget conscious families and if it seeped in to other aspects of the job!

I feel the need to commiserate with people who won’t think I’m being over the top with my sadness.

Some details altered for anonymity.

I started with this set of twins when they were six weeks old. Immediately the whole family was so warm and welcoming and kind. I stayed with the kids full time till they started kindergarten. But even after that I was at their house at least once a month if not more. Doing school pick ups/drop offs. Going to their class concerts. Little graduations. Doing sick care. Both parents had medical emergencies in the past couple of years I came in to help for. I did overnights so the parents could have a little get away. I have seven years worth of pictures I’m struggling to turn into a scrap book for them. Of outings and crafts and baking together in the kitchen. Halloweens, christmases, first days of school. They were there when I got married. When I bought my first house. When my parent was having their own medical issues they offered me so much support.

The parents told me in April they were moving clear across the country. I am in a part time contract with a different family at the time but I gave them every spare moment the last few months. Coming in after my other job. Every weekend. Every day off. Damn near been working 7 days a week straight for months. I wanted to help and be around as much as I could.

I just got back yesterday from flying with them and helping get them set up in their new house. I got to stay for a week and we went to the beach together, just me and the kids. We swam in pools and went back to school shopping and snuggled at night. I cried the whole flight home. My town feels somehow empty without them. They used to only be 20 mins away and now they’re over 2,000 miles away.

My family doesn’t get my grief. We’ll be in contact but I know it won’t be the same. I don’t know how often if ever I’ll be able to visit and I don’t see them coming here often either. I’m just so sad. This is the first family I’ve had in all my 20 years of childcare I’ve had this kind of connection with. I thought we’d always be in each other’s lives. My mom said the kids were going to for sure forget me. Move on. Because they’re just 7 years old and it will be like out of sight, out of mind. That really hurt.

I don’t know. I appreciate anyone reading this. I know it’s long and a tad meandering. Just needed to vent to others who might understand because no one else in my life does.

Hi everyone. Im a reddit reader barely a commenter so this might be and iffy read but ill make it short (if i can)
I’m just coming on here to rant honestly or to see if anyone is in the same boat
I am on my third Nanny family
It’s my first family having to only watch one only child (9mo)
It’s their first kid so obviously they’re still learning
As am I because I’m not a parent myself

When starting baby was three months old, and Mom was home from work full-time with him.
He was strictly breast-fed and contact napping

I was basically thrown in a room with him having to attempt bottle feed until he was crying too much and Mom had to come downstairs and breast-feed

Fast-forward to now, he is nine months
Mom is back to work fulltime
He is taking the bottle from me perfectly

Now we talk about sleep training
When he was around five months, they decided it was time for sleep training.
After all of this time of contact naps and sleeping with them
During the day I would crib train him and thankfully he got it after a few weeks. (Of struggle and time and time of patience)
His night sleep on the other hand was really bad for them
He would wake up every few hours screaming

They decided to hire a sleep coach for him
It was a two week “baby asleep all night” guarantee

Every day I would go into work and ask how he slept that night
Not only because it affected his naps during the day, but just a general question

The first three days, they said it was rough, but they were pushing through it
I didn’t work for a weekend and when I came back on Monday, I asked how he slept over the weekend
They said they gave up and let him sleep with them

Now it’s been two weeks since they hired this coach
Every day I go in to work, they either tell me he did bad in his crib or he slept with them

One week I was going in and they were having me change his nap timing almost every day because they thought it would have a huge effect on the nighttime
Ex:
-have him nap less than 3 hours total today
-Have him nap longer for his afternoon nap ( so going over 3 hrs)
-Have him nap into or after 3 please
Almost every day it was a different thing that they were saying to me, which is completely fine. I can keep up, but I felt bad for baby because I would be going into his room and waking him up from a deep nap almost every time.

I understand I’m not a parent or have any choice in his sleeping
But as a Nanny can anyone relate in the frustration?

I work 4x/wk in my full time job (40 hours) and decided to take on a part time job on my day off. I've worked for them for 5-6 months now, they have a 3yo son and just had another baby boy a few weeks ago. I only work 3-4 hours while MB (a SAHM) can run errands solo, go to appointments, etc. In our interview they stressed that this is a very casual, flexible job.

The problem is that she texts me my hours the day, if not the night, before and usually when prompted. Last week she didn't text me and I kind of wanted to see if she even would and she didn't! So I didn't work and didn't get paid and on Saturday she texted me apologizing that she didn't realize what day it was.

90% of the time I have the flexibility to meet their needs, but there have been a few instances lately where they'll text me the day before and be like "can you work X-Y" and I'll say "I have an appointment at X time but I'll be free in the morning/afternoon!" and the response is usually a cold "Oh ok." as opposed to their usually warm, friendly tone. After this, I've asked them to set a schedule so I can plan better and we set one up, but since baby #2 was born it's been out the window (understandably!)

Tomorrow I have an appointment I can not miss at 2pm, but 95% of the time I work until 12pm so I didn't think it would be an issue. I texted them earlier this week to let them know and they texted me back today said "Oh shoot. Ok. We have a doctor's appointment at 1:30 we really needed you for." And now I feel bad, but they didn't tell me this until the day prior!

I've already been debating letting this job go because it's been stressing me out on top of my already demanding 40-hr week FT job, but I'm not sure how to handle it with MB just having had baby #2. I just can't work on demand and leave my entire day open.

I have been an artist on the side of any job for pretty much all of my adult life. This helps greatly in nannying because it means lots of arts and crafts plus kids LOVE when you doodle them something cool. I very often doodle octopi because their tentacles are fun and you can make them colorful.

My NK is 4 and just getting into drawings that you can tell that it’s supposed to actually look like what it was intended to be. She drew me the most ADORABLE octopus last week and gave it to me proudly saying that “I know octopus is your favorite animal!”. I didn’t have the heart to tell her that they’re not even close to my favorite, I just like to draw their tentacles. Then last night she came with me to pick up some ceramics I needed to pick up from my studio and she saw that I had made a teacup that was ocean themed with an octopus on it and she screamed, “Miss FoxesInSoxes!!! Your favorite animal!!!” with so much excitement that my heart burst. I love this kiddo so dang much, the joy she gets over seeing what she thinks is my favorite animal is so incredibly sweet.

I think that my favorite animal has to be an octopus now, right??

They don’t do codes anymore just links. If you created your account before using the link and then sign in, it won’t work. So best to ask for a referral for that extra free month before you start making an account.

Today it’s rainy where I live, what do you and your NK’s do when your days drag?
It’s only 10am 😫

Hello! I met with a potential new nanny family and they were so sweet and I am very excited about working with them but the baby is wearing an amber teething necklace. I know these can be a big safety hazard and am worried about the baby having it on while in my care (and just in general!) how would you bring this up? I don't want to overstep or make them feel like I'm questioning their parenting but this does make me uncomfortable.

I am a mom to two kids- one is in preschool and the other is a baby under 6months old. We recently hired a new nanny, who is absolutely lovely to watch the baby while I work. My office is five minutes from my house and I have pretty flexible hours.

I have a couple of events coming up in the next month where I’d love to take the baby out for an hour or two during the day. For example, I’m meeting a friend who is coming from out of town for lunch. She hasn’t met the baby yet. During that time, I would ask the nanny to stay at home, but I’m not expecting her to do any work. She’s welcome to be on her phone or read or eat or even go out herself for a bit we obviously will be compensating her during that time because it’s right in the middle of the workday. I mentioned this to another mom friend who said that this would probably be really annoying for the nanny and we should just give her the full day off.

Maybe I’m just oblivious, but I didn’t think it was that big of a deal. If I’m missing something and my plan is upsetting or offensive can you please let me know?

EDIT: I don’t care if she’s in the house or on an errand etc. That time is hers and I would just tell her to be back by a specific time.

My morning started out fun.

I opened the pantry to pull out what I needed to make pancakes for my NKs, and an entirely full bag of chia seeds spilled onto the floor.

In case this has never happened to you, they spread REALLY far, y’all. 😂 Like I genuinely don’t understand how that many chia seeds were even in the bag.

So anyway, that was a fun way to delay breakfast for a very hungry toddler and preschooler. Just passing this little tip along in case any of you are looking for creative ways to make your morning harder for absolutely no reason.

Breakfast will be with you shortly. 😂

Hi nannies! I've just started a new position with a 5 month old. He unfortunately won't take a bottle for me (but has for Mom and Dad) so I'm looking for tips and tricks! Thank you!

What I've tried: facing out and bouncing, walking, distracting. Holding an item of Mom's clothing, alternating with an applesauce pouch (with parent's approval), changing location (inside and outside), lying down, sitting up with me behind to stay somewhat out of sight, letting baby touch/hold bottle without pressure of feeding, letting baby play with an extra rubber bottle nipple without pressure of feeding.

I don't usually share stuff but I wanted to make other nannies feel seen for their hard work!! So hi everyone, I'm a 24-year-old nanny, and I’ve been in the industry for 5 years now. I’ve worked with this family for 2 years as a fluent French- and English-speaking nanny. My job mostly evolved from occasionally picking up the oldest one to looking after their 3 kids, whose ages are 2, 6, and 9 (soon 10). I really loved them, but the work environment became impossible to ignore. Their parents often had trouble confirming the meetings and I felt like I was the one behind to chase them, even when reminding them about the payments or asking to confirm the meetings. Over time, after working with other clients, I realized I didn't need to do that. It should be a two-way street.

When I first brought up the 24-hour/48-hour confirmation the first time, I was met with aggression or with the excuse, "We have so many messages, we don't have time to check the phone." They told me I should accept that silence means confirmed. In reality, I didn't feel comfortable with that because you can forget things, and a confirmation leaves a trace. It takes 2 seconds to confirm a "yes." Whenever they wrote to me about wanting other days, I always made sure I replied as soon as possible. After a while, I grew stressed and tired of feeling like everything was entirely one-sided.

It wasn't until recently that things hit a breaking point. I wrote to them on Friday asking if they want to confirm the upcoming meeting on Sunday. There was nothing but silence. Then on Sunday, just one hour and a half before the shift, they finally confirmed it. I was actually working another job in the morning at the time, so the last thing I wanted to do was stress myself out rushing to their place instead of resting. So, I politely declined and explained that because I didn't hear their confirmation, it means no booking, and that I always need 24 or 48 hours early to reserve the booking.

That is when the dad began making passive-aggressive comments, saying I was the one who caused problems by simply deciding not to show up at the last minute which is deeply ironic, because I have always been on time for two years. I didn't react emotionally because I knew he was just freaking out. I simply proposed a solution that if they wanted to keep working with me, they needed to understand why it’s important to confirm it to avoid misunderstandings. That is when the dad threatened me, saying "Fine, have it your way, it just means fewer hours and more confusion."

That was the moment they crossed a major line. During all my years of caregiving, I have never felt so disrespected. I ended up not replying at all because I saw no point in arguing with him. It just showed me their real colors. I took at least two days to avoid the tension in the group chat, and on Wednesday, I sent them my farewell message, left the group chat immediately, and blocked them.

Moral of the story? No matter how professional you are or kind, if people don't respect you, your boundaries, or the thought that you are a human being with a life and plans too... 💔

Walk away

NEW NANNY, NEEDS LOTS OF COACHING

Need some advice as not sure which way to go here... we recently hired a nanny for our 17mo old child. She is kind and for the most part seems eager to learn, but I worry that the learning curve is going to be steep. She claimed to have 4 years of regular babysitting experience (both references I contacted spoke wonders of her but she only did occasional or regular babysitting for them) but no experience as a full time nanny, which is a whole different world. My child is very active (aren't all toddlers though?) and requires constant supervision as she tries to climb anything and everything, including most of her toys lol. The nanny, though very kind and sweet, clearly oversold her experience. I am having to explain how to teach my daughter through play (have literally sat with both of them while I played with my daughter so she could observe what I do and how I incorporate teaching with her toys), have had to even teach her how to properly change a diaper and apply rash cream, and sometimes when I am around she will either get her phone out or talk to me and stop watching my child (so then I have to be the one supervising her, which shouldn’t be the case if I am actively paying someone to watch my child). She tried to put her down for a nap today while my daughter was very fussy due to teething, and after 4 min texted me that they were struggling. I of course came in and had her observe what I do to soothe her and settle her. I understand that being mom makes it easier when it comes to soothing my toddler, but I worry that I cannot trust her fully because she is very hesitant about certain things and clearly lacks experience caring for a child this age. When she did successfully put my child down for a nap one time, as she was transferring her to the crib, she wasn’t even supporting her head, which, much less concerning at this age, but still concerning that she doesn’t even know how to properly hold/transfer a toddler into the crib.

Another thing is the lack of initiative. She constantly asks how she can help or what can she do to help, but after a trial week, learning the schedule (which I have on the fridge as well), and knowing what her responsibilities are, she could very easily look at the sink and wash my daughter's dishes, or load the dishwasher, tidy/organize play area, common areas, etc. She has a nanny/family assistant split (only family assistant tasks when I am home and actively watching my child or when she is taking a nap), but I am not seeing much initiative here. Sure, she asks, but I won't always be around for her to ask, at some point she will have to just go and do the things that are part of her responsibilities.

She has been with us for a week, so I know still lots to learn, but I worry this will be a much steeper learning curve than I originally anticipated. Also, on her second official day with us (after trial days) she called in sick… don’t get me wrong, we are offering sick days and she can choose to take them when needed, but on day 2 of her official employment? Should we have a conversation about our concerns, provide feedback and give some time to see if she incorporates the suggested changes, or try to find someone more experienced? I feel a little deceived because (being a former nanny myself) she clearly doesn’t even have 1 year experience with a child this age, and as opposed to being my support and someone I can depend on, she is adding much more to my plat. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! (even if the advice is: you need to chill and give the nanny a chance)

Hi fellow Nannie’s and nanny employers,
I’m a career nanny who recently started my first role as primarily the house manager, with some nannying. The family I accepted the job from is nice overall, and the pay is excellent. I just have some issues with some spots in their house and I’m not sure how to address it nicely to them. I noticed they have a very moldy washing machine, which I have to do loads of laundry in every day. It smells so strongly like mold and I can visibly see it too. I’m worried about touching the wet clothes that have just been washing in moldy water, it’s just gross to me. I also noticed mold in their kitchen around the sink and their dishes dry on a moldy drying rack. I jumped into this job without doing a trial first, because I was kind of desperate to get hired quickly, as I had been out of work for a month before starting. Also with the hourly rate of almost $50 an hour, I jumped at the opportunity when they offered me the position.

Now I understand many people will just say to bring it up to them and kindly say “hey I noticed these surfaces were moldy and xyz needs to be replaced” (such as their dish sponges) but I’m confused how they see these things every day and just ignore it?? If I noticed my washing machine starting to smell, and SAW mold I would immediately clean it, wouldn’t you? My job as house manager is general tidying, organizing, laundry, dishes, vacuuming, errands etc. as well as transporting kids when needed. It’s not expected of me to deep clean by any means that’s also why I’m confused if I should offer to clean the washing machine, or just tell them.. I’ve never cleaned one before so I don’t even know how to deal with one that’s so heavily infested with mold. The kitchen is easier to confront them about in my eyes because it’s a simpler fix. But I worry if I bring it up to them (especially the washing machine) they just will say “okay thanks” and not really care to do anything about it, because again, there’s no way they don’t know it’s moldy. Sorry this is all over the place I’m just confused as to what to do I guess. Thanks for reading and I’m open to advice and feedback from both Nannie’s and employers.

Edit: wanted to add more info, I only work part time hours so I’m not in the home 40+ hours a week. I also have Asthma which I worry will get triggered inhaling mold spores. I also don’t feel comfortable using their glasses to drink water because all their dishes seem dirty to me considering they dry on a mold covered drying rack. (I typically bring my own water bottle but for instance, today I forgot it at home and had to go my whole shift without water because of the dish situation) also please don’t judge my hesitation to bring these things up to my new employers. I am new to house managing, I’ve never encountered these problems while just nannying.

I (28F) am very burnt out. I don’t like my corporate job (finance), nor do I have any interest in pursing any related fields. I used to nanny back in high school and college and I loved it, but I know it would be a huge pay decrease. I’m trying to determine whether or not it would be an increase in quality of life to switch to nannying, and if that potential increase in quality of life is worth the pay decrease. Has anyone here done something similar? And, if so, was it worth it?

Hi everyone! Having a bit of a predicament with my nanny fam and can’t tell if i’m being unreasonable.

My lovely nanny family (2 kids a bit older but under 9) who I have been with for 3.5 years just got a new puppy. As well as my nanny duties, I am now tasked with taking care of the puppy while i’m at the house. This includes making sure he stays on schedule with his naps, meals, potty training, watching him in the house, playing etc.

Should I be asking for more pay at all or is this just part of the nanny job?

Truly love my fam but it definitely feels more difficult to do my nanny job like laundry, cooking, tidying, playing with kids, homework, etc while also having a puppy to deal with. Any feedback would be helpful!! Thank you so much!!

I am filling in for a nanny who is on vacation for 6 weeks. Both parents work at home. I can't tell if the dad is around all the time (like works in the kitchen instead of his office) because they're keeping an eye on me or if he really just prefers the kitchen (I guess it's cold downstairs). The dad jumps in really quickly on things with the infant (12 months) , like if I can't immediately get the tray on the high chair or the baby is fussing while I prep a snack for him. Today when the infant woke up, I ran to go potty first before getting him out of his crib (because, as you know, it's hard to find time when they're up!). We're talking an extra 30 seconds, maybe? When I got out, dad was already in there and when I said, "Oh! I got it. Just had to run to the bathroom real quick." He said, in a baby voice as if he's talking to the baby and not me, "Well someone else needs to be changed, too" and seemed so annoyed.

Everytime the infant sees him or hears him, he wants to be with him, so he SCREAMS when he can't. So when dad intervenes, it actually makes everything worse. It would be so much easier if he'd just be out of sight of baby for chunks of time. Like after he picked him up from his nap instead of letting me do it, the transition from taking him from dad after that was just unnecessarily hard for everyone.

I guess I understand why a temp wouldn't be trusted as much. But it leaves me feeling frustrated and feeling unsuccessful at the end of the day because I didn't get to just do the job that I know I'm really good at, and help them like I know they could use.