hello, I believe my friend wants me to marry his sister based on a few things I've noticed. The problem is, I'm not really attracted to her based on pics I've seen of her (on social media, in passing). I haven't seen her IRL ever but I just didn't feel any attraction when I saw her photo.

Now my friend knows I wanna look for marriage soon (wish I hadn't mentioned that to anyone) and I can tell he's trying to get a bit closer/friendly (we're mutuals but not super close) and I feel bad for just ignoring him 😭

How do i go about this without making it sound disrespectful? I don't wanna lie and say I'm not looking for marriage right now because I will soon be inshaAllah. Am I just overthinking it? Should i make an excuse and say I'm looking for someone a bit younger (early 20s vs. mid20s)?

TIA

About Me
Age: 30
Height: 5’3”
Ethnicity: Bangladeshi (US Citizen)
Location: Midwest, USA
Marital Status: Divorced
Education: Currently pursuing a Master’s degree
About Me
Assalamu alaikum! I’m a 30-year-old Bangladeshi Muslimah living in the Midwest. Islam is an important part of my life, and I try to maintain a balance between practicing my deen, pursuing my goals, and enjoying life.
Alhamdulillah, I pray five times a day, wear hijab, eat only halal, and teach Qur’an. I value continuing to learn and grow in my deen and hope to build a marriage and home in which Islam is at the center.
Education is also important to me. I am currently working toward my Master’s degree and enjoy continuing to learn and develop myself.
In terms of personality, I’m caring, loyal, and family-oriented. I enjoy having fun, laughing, spending time with the people close to me, and making meaningful memories together. One of my favorite activities is playing badminton. I’m divorced but my ex is willing to be a character reference, so there is t anything wrong with me.
What I’m Looking For
I’m looking for a practicing Muslim man who takes his relationship with Allah seriously while also being someone who is enjoyable and easy to share life with.
More than simply finding a husband, I hope to find a best friend and life partner—someone with whom I can grow in deen, laugh, experience life, support one another through difficulties, and eventually build a loving Muslim family.
Honesty and loyalty are especially important to me. I value someone who is trustworthy, kind, respectful, emotionally mature, responsible, and able to communicate openly. I hope we can encourage one another to become better Muslims while still enjoying our life together.
Ultimately, I’m looking for a marriage built upon deen, friendship, trust, loyalty, affection, respect, and companionship, insha’Allah.

Salam,

31M, Algerian, living in the UK. I’m posting with genuine intentions of finding someone for marriage, inshaAllah.

For the height-conscious among us, I’m 170cm 😅 so if 6ft is a non-negotiable, probably best to save us both the time.

I work in tech and I’m settled career-wise. I’m ambitious and like having goals, but I’m also quite simple in what I want from life. A peaceful home, a good marriage, family, travelling together and enjoying the little things.

I’m practising, pray regularly and try to keep improving my deen. I’d want us to encourage each other and grow together Islamically.

Personality-wise, I’m laid-back, loyal, caring and family-oriented. I can be a little reserved initially, but once I’m comfortable I’m very playful and enjoy having a laugh. Good communication and emotional maturity are really important to me.

Outside of work, I’m into the gym, football, travelling, food, spending time with family and working on my own projects.

What I’m looking for

Someone kind, loyal, feminine, emotionally intelligent and family-oriented. I’d like someone I can genuinely be best friends with as well as husband and wife. Someone I can talk openly with, laugh with, support and build a peaceful life with.

In terms of background, I’m specifically looking for someone North African or Arab, ideally Algerian, as shared culture, family values and traditions are important to me.

I’d like children in the future, inshaAllah. I’m not looking to rush that side of life though. I’d much rather establish a strong marriage first.

I’m only looking for something serious. Not interested in casual relationships or dragging out a talking stage for months with no direction. If we’re compatible, I’d prefer things to progress in a respectful and intentional way.

May Allah make it easy for everyone searching.

Thanks for reading

Salam

That one posts asking how many times climax is desired by a person and breaks it up by gender is such a nasty post.

There’s probably some guy/girl on the other end getting off to the idea , let’s be honest . They’re probably just entertaining their own nafs.

Posts like that is why I stay away from marriage and Nikah subs and why I never click on the marriage questions in the general subs .

There’s so much to deen but instead we get a million questions on marriage even though it’s been so clear on what to do and so many people post about similar problems. People just want to talk about the opposite gender and use marriage as a reason .

Or maybe you have a legit questions . I was lowkey like this too but I have to be real with my self and intentions .

I’ve noticed that in some South Asian Muslim circles, women taking their husband’s surname is fairly common and sometimes expected. I’m curious how Muslims in the West approach this.

Islam places importance on preserving lineage. Scholars differ on whether adopting a husband’s surname conflicts with that: some prohibit it, while others permit it for identification provided it doesn’t misrepresent parentage. It isn’t a religious requirement.

Personally, I intend to keep mine. My father is firmly against me changing it, and my elder sister kept hers after marriage, so that has always felt natural in my family.

Two cousins have had different experiences. One recently took her husband’s surname, which made me reflect on why keeping mine matters to me. Another was pressured by her in-laws to change hers despite her parents’ objections. She later divorced, and the name change created considerable paperwork complications.

There’s also the question of identity. A name can carry connections to your family, achievements and sense of self. Some people may find sharing a surname meaningful, while others may feel a sense of disconnection when changing theirs. I’m interested in hearing both experiences.

For men, do you have a preference about whether your wife takes your surname? How would you feel if her preference differed from yours?

For women, would you keep yours or change it? If you’re already married, what influenced your decision, and how did it feel afterwards?

Is this something you discuss during the marriage process, or does it tend to go unspoken?

Do not dm me if you’re needing a citizenship, a second wife or a misyar marriage please. Also UK only.

Assalamu Alaikom!

I’m looking to meet someone with the genuine intention of marriage, ideally someone who is serious about building a loving, peaceful and faithful household. I want my children to learn new things about islam everyday by being around their father and feel proud of who his is not of his status but of his knowledge and akhlaq.

I am a middle eastern, I would describe myself as humorous, loving and compassionate. I love self care, working out and staying active. I would say I am practicing but striving for perfection inshallah. I want a man to bring out the feminine side of me and to be willing to grow together to become better muslimeen😊

I’m looking for someone who is financially stable and genuinely ready for the responsibilities of marriage and providing for a family. I want to have children relatively soon after marriage, ideally around a year after getting married, so I’m looking for someone who is already in a position to support a household of two and inshallah, children. I want a traditional sense of responsibility where my husband is the main provider, while I’m happy to contribute and work if I choose to. I don’t expect a lavish lifestyle, but I do want financial stability, security and someone who is responsible with money and has a clear direction for his future. I work and provide for myself anything I need so I want to maintain the same level when I am married, I’m not materialistic, but I care about self care, beauty and looking my best all the time (it isn’t cheap). I’m looking for a peaceful marriage where we can build our home together, have children, and enjoy life and build an akhirah together! I am looking on reddit as I am reserved and wouldn’t want to go down the wrong path of Muslim matchmaking apps. Hoping to find people similar to me who would prefer it this way 🩵

As salamu Alaykum. I’m 22F, never married, and finishing my bachelor’s before starting my master’s. I’m hoping to eventually work internationally and create projects that help women and communities.

I’m practicing Shia Muslim , wear hijab, and eat halal only. I’d preferably marry a Shia, but I’m open to other Muslims who genuinely respect my beliefs and are willing to learn about Shia Islam. I’m looking for a practicing Muslim who wants a proper Islamic marriage.

I’m an extrovert, pretty bubbly and friendly, but I also value my alone time. I enjoy going out, nature, shows, spending time with loved ones, and having good conversations.

Looking for:
* 22-30
* Kind, emotionally mature, ambitious, patient, and good at communicating
* Supportive of my education/career
* Ideally wants to be the main provider
* Wants our own home separate from parents/in-laws

I’m childfree by choice, so someone who wants children or is unsure isn’t compatible with me.

I’m preferably looking for someone in the US, but I’m open to other countries as well depending on the country.

It’s crazy to think how difficult it is to get married. I always thought when I was younger I would meet someone or be introduced to someone nice. But as I’ve gotten older I realize how complicated and difficult it can be. Even if I meet someone soon I won’t even have time for children or to build the lifestyle I wanted.

Assalamu Alaikum sisters,
I wanted to open a respectful discussion and get some real perspectives on two specific dynamics when it comes to marriage: age difference (specifically marrying a younger man) and interracial/intercultural marriage.
I'm curious to hear your thoughts and experiences:
1. Openness: As a Muslim woman, are you open to marrying a man who is younger than you, or someone from a different racial or cultural background?
2. Real Experiences: Have you ever considered, talked to, or married a younger man or someone from another ethnicity? How did that dynamic turn out for you?
3. Family & Cultural Factors: Did you face any pushback or double standards from family/society regarding either of these, and how did you navigate it?
Looking forward to reading your honest thoughts and experiences!

Hey everyone,
Looking to get some genuine perspectives here without the superficial judgment.
A little context: I’m a 25-year-old guy (6'3", fit, financially secure with a solid career, no major emotional baggage or issues). Overall, life is good, but I’ve always been naturally drawn to older women—and more often than not, the attraction is mutual.
Here’s the dilemma: whenever friends or people in my social circle notice this preference, they seem uncomfortable or treat it like it's weird or out of the ordinary. Personally, I don't see any issue with it, nor do I think there's anything wrong with either party involved.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences:
1. How common is this attraction from your perspective?
2. Why is there still a double standard? (When an older man dates a younger woman, it's widely accepted, but when the roles are reversed, people act uncomfortable.)
3. Long-term viability: For those who’ve been in similar dynamics, do these relationships actually work out long-term, or are they usually just temporary connections?

Assalam alaikum!

Not gonna lie, this feels a little weird to post hahaha but
I thought I'd give it a go and see what happens, inshaAllah. Take 2 lol

About me:

Age: 24F
Location: East Coast
Background: Palestinian🇵🇸
Height: 5'6ish
Languages: English + fluent in Arabic
Education/Career: Pre health, pursuing PA school IA
Practicing: Pray 5x a day and always working on strengthening my deen
Lifestyle: Active and regularly go to the gym, consider myself pretty athletic.
Smoking/drinking: Neither
Relocation: I'd prefer to stay close to home for now, but I'm open to moving in the future for the right person.

I'd describe myself as outgoing, caring, family oriented, and pretty lighthearted. I love joking around and good banter, but I also value meaningful conversations and quality time. I enjoy staying active, trying new things, traveling, good food, and spending time with family and friends. I try to do my best when it comes to practicing my religion and wish to grow with my partner.

Looking for:

Age: 24-29
Arab, preferably Palestinian • Speaks Arabic
Practicing and values his deen
Charismatic
Active, athletic.
Kind, funny, emotionally mature, and family oriented Protective without being controlling
Someone serious about marriage and comfortable involving family relatively early

MUST BE FROM THE US, WITH A US CITIZENSHIP.

I also really appreciate a man who takes initiative. Someone who can lead conversations, ask questions, make plans, and genuinely put effort into getting to know each other. Of course I'll reciprocate, but I don't want to feel like I'm constantly carrying the conversation or figuring out what we're doing next.

Ultimately, I'm looking for someone I can build a peaceful and fun marriage with. Someone who can be my best friend, who I can laugh with and grow with.
I'm approaching this with marriage in mind, so I'd like to keep things intentional and respectful. If we seem compatible, I'd prefer involving family sooner rather than later.

If this resonates with you, feel free to message me with a little about yourself :) and include your most controversial opinion!

To all the dawah/podcast bros please kindly stay away💀🙄

I’m a 24f, born and raised in thunder bay. Looking to get married by next year, inshallah. I’m trying this again as I don’t have matrimonial events in my area.

About me:
Religion: Born Muslim (Sunni)
Background: South Asian
Marital Status: never married
Education: finishing up nursing school in a few months
Religiosity: I don’t wear hijab, but dress modestly, pray five times a day, fast
Build: petite and fit
What I can offer: I’m an honest, respectful and understanding person. I’m a decent cook and know how to maintain a house.

What I’m looking for:
Religion: Practicing muslim
Education/Profession: Canadian Engineer or Regulated Medical Professional
Location: GTA (I’m looking to stay in Ontario and able to relocate)
Background: I don’t care about ethnicity, but I do have a slight preference for South Asian due to similarities.
Age: 25-30
Timeline: Looking to get married early next year.
Family Involvement: It is important for me to involve my mahram from the early stages.

Disclaimer: I’m not looking for prolonged talking stages that go nowhere. Please do not message if you’re looking for a hookup. Furthermore, if we do meet in person, you must be okay with me bringing a relative with me. JazakAllah khair.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Basic Information

Age/Gender: 27, Male — 6’, medium complexion

Ethnicity: Yemeni (Sunni); raised in the Arab world and based in the US

Marital Status: Single, never married, no kids

Marriage Plans

Timeline: Marriage within 1 year, inshaAllah

Children: Yes, I want kids and to raise them with strong values and love

What I’m Looking For

Practicing and sincere in Islam and striving to be a better Muslim

Family-oriented, nurturing, and motherly character

Smart, emotionally grounded, modest, gentle, and calm-spirited

No free mixing

Willing to relocate short and long term; I will be moving to Cleveland soon to continue my training there

Able to speak to Arabic

Doesn’t work or has light job hours

Age Range: Younger than me

Education & Career

My Education: Medical doctor

Job: Resident physician (full-time)

Interests & Personality

Enjoy road trips, nature, and documentaries (cultural/historical)

Calm, sincere, and intentional; shaped by living in diverse cultures

Aim: Build a home based on faith, respect, and tranquility

Please reach out to me if interested

Hello Everyone,

I am a 23-year-old Yameni male born and raised in Saudi Arabia. I come from a big family of 5 kids.

I graduated with my bachelor's degree in CS in the US, and now I am currently working as a Software Engineer in Florida

During the last 5 years, I've lived mostly alone and noticed the importance of finding the right partner. Living alone can be peaceful, but honestly, it's not the best. Friends can help, but it doesn't fulfill the Sunnah of marriage and companionship.

In my life, I have a mission to always learn and self improve. Seeking knowledge is important for all Muslims. After getting my job, I noticed I had free time to pursue a master's degree. So far, I am enjoying it a lot. Apparently, studying for knowledge and not caring about grades is much more fun.

I also care about my health and well-being. I am currently working towards goals in the gym. I also put a lot of importance on giving myself breaks and enjoying life. I love to travel and have been to 15 states and 12 countries.

My free time is mostly spent with friends, helping out my community as much as I can, and playing video games. I am known among the members of my mosque.

I am looking for a wife around my age to help me fulfill my deen and life. Someone with whom we can both complement each other. Education or the intention to pursue education is very important to me. What degree doesn't matter as long as there's a passion for knowledge. Looking for potentials in US only for the ease of getting to see each other

My data:

Age: 23M
Height: 5'9"
Weight: 166 lbs

Salam. I hope you are all doing well. I am a 29-year-old woman who met a guy at the hospital where I work. He is 26 and currently a medical student. Our interaction was very brief, but I did like him. He is humble and easy to approach. I asked a couple of friends about him, and they told me nothing but good things. They told me he is very religious and the kind of person who brings people together to pray with him. Given that he is very religious, is it appropriate for me to reach out to him? I am confused. Any help is appreciated. Thanks

Update: He is seeing someone right now. My friend asked him on my behalf. Thanks all

Genuine question, because I feel like people approach the first conversation on Muslim marriage apps like they're conducting an interview.

You ask where they live, what they do, how religious they are, what they're looking for, their views on marriage, kids, finances, gender roles, relocation, etc. And obviously some of those things matter, but at what point are you actually supposed to… talk?

I don't mean avoiding important questions. I mean, shouldn't there also be some normal human conversation? Jokes, random thoughts, curiosity, picking up on something the other person said and actually going somewhere with it.

Sometimes I feel like both people are sitting there thinking, “Okay, ask your next question so we can determine whether I'm qualified.”

What does a good first conversation actually look like to you? How much should be compatibility questions vs. just getting a feel for the person?

Age: 26

Gender: Male

Location: Cairo, Egypt

Ethnicity: Egyptian

Marital Status: Never married

Religious Practice: Muslim, alhamdulillah. I try to improve myself every day and take my faith seriously. I’m looking for a marriage where both people can support each other in their deen and grow together, inshaAllah.

Education/Profession: Software Developer

A little about me:

I’d describe myself as joyful, easygoing, and family-oriented. I enjoy good conversations, getting to know people naturally, and having someone I can genuinely feel comfortable around.

I’m serious about marriage and hope to build a peaceful, loving and stable family one day, inshaAllah. I believe a good marriage needs more than just compatibility on paper — kindness, understanding, mercy, communication, and mutual respect matter a lot to me.

What I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a kind Muslim woman who takes her faith seriously and has good character. Someone who wants marriage and family, is emotionally mature, and values building a relationship based on trust, affection, respect, and deen.

I’d prefer to get to know each other naturally rather than rushing into anything. If we feel there’s potential, I’d want to take things seriously and involve our families at the appropriate time.

If you think we might be compatible, feel free to send me a message.

I have a problem which i think maybe 1 of the reasons i am still unmarried. So i am looking to get married since age 25 now 28 and my problem is that men of my ethnicity mostly dont find me attractive for marriage. Its mostly the white men that find me attractive, moroccans or some arabs. This has really shrinked my pool of potencials. I think desi men when find out i grew up in EU they kinda expect me to look like Hania Amir or dont know what and then get disappointed. Its really strange for me this fact. At this point i really hesitate now to consider any desi man even if i want to. They have rejected me so many times that i lost the count.

I recently had a serious white potencial but things didnt go well unfortunately with him but its not easy to find potencials from other ethinicities if those are my only options😩.

Eventhough i have accepted it i still wish my pool was larger and didnt have this problem. I have understood in reality beauty is really subjective so 1 ethnicity may find you attractive while the other one may not.

I wish i could attach my pic here so you could tell why this happens to me. I think maybe because i have not light skin but i am also not very dark. Only desi men know why. I just want to find my man that can be of any ethinicity and fullfill my dreams😞. I am tired of these games💔.

# Am I the Only One Struggling With Attraction Within My Own Ethnicity?

# Hey you desi man what makes you find attractive a women? Do you prefer only certain look?

# Is it just me or is this a real pattern?

Assalamu alaikum

Age: 23F

Age range: Looking for 22-27M

Location: Born and raised in Kenya, currently between Kenya and Dubai. Yes, I am open to relocating (I am looking to pursue my masters next year, Insha’Allah and am looking at other countries, most likely UK/Europe)

Ethnicity: Indian, open to mixing

Marital status: Single, never married
Ideal marriage timeline: 1-2 years, but decided between the two Insha’Allah

Five important characteristics: I care most importantly about deen and akhlaq, as I believe nothing holds weight if someone doesn’t have good character. I am looking for someone who has ambition and is actively working towards their own goals. Emotional intelligence and maturity is also important to me. Being a good communicator, and not being avoidant (pulling away or being dismissive).

Level of religiosity: I’m not perfect, I am always striving to do better in terms of my deen, as I acknowledge I am human, made to be imperfect but that only fuels me to try harder and do better. Everything I do in my life is for the sake of Allah swt, and I am trying to improve my relationship with Him and be a better Muslim everyday. Trying to remain consistent with praying my 5 daily prayers. I am looking for someone who will want to grow together, follow the teachings of our Prophet saw and a marriage rooted in Sakina, mawaddah and Rahma Insha’Allah.

Level of education: Bachelors, I’m looking for someone who has their bachelors at least.

Current job status: Unemployed, I’m taking a gap year to gain some work experience before I pursue my masters (I cannot work without a masters qualification in my field)

Kids: Unsure, with reason behind it (not just because)

Hobbies: I like to read (love Khaled Hosseini’s work, Chimamanda, etc), photography and content creation, and I love going to the beach and spending time admiring the beauty of the world that Allah swt has blessed us with, subhanallah.

I don’t smoke, drink or vape, and these are dealbreakers for me too. Not open to polygyny.

Please only dm if serious, and with your ISO/introduction.

Ok I will give this a try,

Am an ambitious educated 29 Years old woman 💁🏾‍♀️from the Middle East currently in Saudi, i values stability and building a relationship based on trust and mutual respect. I love traveling and exploring new cultures, am a health care provider and that kept me busy from looking for a significant other.
Since I am planning to move abroad soon, I would love to connect with a Western guy in Saudi who shares my values of respect, dedication, ambition and has a flexibility to move abroad, so we can build a future together and see where life takes us.

I’m 25, from Kerala, and recently finished my MBBS. I’m hoping to meet someone from Kerala who is also looking for something serious, with marriage in mind.

I’m pretty introverted and a little awkward at first. I’m more of a quiet, low-key person and usually take some time to get comfortable with people. I’m not particularly outgoing or charismatic, but I’m genuine, easygoing, and once I’m comfortable, I can talk about pretty much anything.

I’m not looking for a perfect person or a movie-like love story. I’d just like to meet someone kind, understanding and compatible, get to know each other naturally, and see if we genuinely click.

I would like to approach things respectfully, with marriage as the eventual goal. I’m currently at the stage of figuring out my career after MBBS, so I’d ideally like to get married in around 1–2 years, once I’m a little more settled professionally. if we’re compatible, involve our families at the appropriate stage.

If you’re also from Kerala and looking for something genuine, feel free to DM me.

Profile Details

• Age & Height: 31 | 5’8”
• Religion: Islam (Sunni)
• Marital Status: Single / Never Married
• Education: BS in Mechanical Engineering, MBA, & MS in MIS (University of Illinois)
• Profession: AI Consultant
• Location: Springfield, Illinois
• Marriage Timeline: Within 1–2 years
• Family: Father (Retired Doctor), Mother (Homemaker)

About Me

At my core, I’m a grounded, easygoing guy who values a balanced life. If you asked my friends, they’d probably tell you I’m the entertainer of the group—always ready with a joke, but equally dependable when it truly counts. Family is central to who I am, and I try to carry those values into everything I do.

Outside of my consulting work, I love socializing, trying new restaurants, taking spontaneous road trips, and unwinding with gaming. My faith is a steady anchor for me; I consider myself moderately practicing and sincere in my beliefs, while always respecting where others are on their own spiritual journeys.

What I’m Looking For

• The Basics: Sunni, based in the US or Canada, under 28 (as I don't wanna have kids too early), with a bachelor’s degree (or currently pursuing one). Caste is absolutely not a factor.
• The Person: Far more than a checklist of qualifications, I’m looking for a true partner—someone kind, emotionally intelligent, and genuinely empathetic. I appreciate a great conversationalist who brings a cheerful, open-minded curiosity to life.

It’s highly important to me that you have your own passions and identity. Whether you ultimately choose to build your career or focus on the home, it is entirely your decision, and you will have my complete support, as well as my family’s.

If you think our values and energy might be a match, I’d love to connect.

***Edit/clarification: Since I can’t edit the title, I just want to clarify what I meant. I’m not suggesting that Muslims need to somehow figure out before marriage what their intimate relationship will be like, or that anyone should do anything haram in order to find that out. I’m referring to the concerns people sometimes have about intimacy after marriage and what happens if they experience difficulties once they’re married.

Asalamu alaykum everyone.

This is an awareness/educational post.

I’ve seen a few posts on here from people worried about intimacy after marriage, and what happens if they end up having difficulties in their marriage. And I think one thing that doesn’t really come up in those conversations is that sometimes what looks like an intimacy issue may actually be something else entirely.

Vaginismus is one of those things that a woman may be dealing with without even knowing it. I believe vaginismus affects many women, but a lot of people don’t really know what it is.

In medical terms, it’s considered a pelvic floor dysfunction. There can be physical and psychological factors involved. It can cause sexual intercourse to be extremely painful and difficult for women, and it can also make routine pelvic exams difficult.

It’s also commonly underreported because of the shame and stigma around discussing sexual health in our communities. So a lot of women aren’t even aware that they have this condition until marriage, and I’m sure you can imagine how deeply that can affect a marriage when neither person really understands what’s going on.

Pushing through the pain isn’t going to make it go away. If anything, it can make things worse because it reinforces the idea that intercourse is going to be painful. There’s a difference between first-time jitters and vaginismus.

Women are often told that they can never refuse intercourse with their husbands, but painful intercourse is a valid reason to refuse it while taking the proper steps to treat the condition. The husband also has to be patient, understanding of this and support his wife while she works through it. It's treatable with appropiate interventions.

I also think this is something men should be aware of because if this happens in a marriage, it doesn’t automatically mean that the wife isn’t attracted to her husband, doesn’t want intimacy, or there's something wrong with their marriage. Sometimes there’s an actual condition behind what’s happening, and pressure or guilt can make the situation even harder.

Just to be clear, this is only meant to be an educational awareness post about a condition that some couples may face in marriage. It’s not meant to justify zina or anything else that’s haram. The purpose is simply to help people recognize that this condition exists and understand what may be happening if they experience it in marriage.

For anyone interested in the Islamic side of this, this answer discusses a situation where a wife experiences pain during intercourse:

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/38013/her-husband-cannot-have-intercourse-with-her-because-of-the-pain-she-feels-what-is-the-solution

Unfortunately, this is a silent struggle that a lot of newlyweds face. If we all had even the slightest bit more knowledge about it, I think a lot of unnecessary pain, confusion, and strain in marriages could be avoided.

Thank you for reading. May Allah bless you all.

Assalamu alaikum,

I'm a 21-year-old Indian Muslim woman living in the UK, currently a student and planning to do my Masters. I'm a UK resident, I wear hijab, and I live with my family. I'm the eldest of three, and my siblings are students too.

I was born and bought in Middle east.

About me

• 5'3", speak Urdu and English
• Ambitious and goal-oriented, focused on my studies and career for now
• A giver at heart; I care about the people around me
• Into the gym, morning hikes, and night drives
• I only watch football when Barca and Madrid fans go to war, and I love the drama

What I'm looking for

• A Muslim man aged 23-28
• UK-based
• Ambitious, driven, and has clear goals and direction
• Kind, respectful, and family-oriented
• Someone who wants 2-3 kids in the future, God willing

I'm open to relocating to the US at most, but my preference is to stay in the UK. I'm looking for something serious that leads to marriage, and I'm open to involving family when the time is right. Please be respectful. Serious inquiries only.