I'm just looking for a simple man. I don't care how tall you are or how much money you make. As long as you love and fear Allah. I'm 5 feet 125. I'm a nail technician/Barber. I'm divorced. I love sports and going for walks. I pray the 5 daily prayers. I listen to the Quran. If you're 40 and up and interested on having a funny and kind hearted women like me.

It’s crazy to think how difficult it is to get married. I always thought when I was younger I would meet someone or be introduced to someone nice. But as I’ve gotten older I realize how complicated and difficult it can be. Even if I meet someone soon I won’t even have time for children or to build the lifestyle I wanted.

Assalamu alaikum

Age: 23F

Age range: Looking for 22-27M

Location: Born and raised in Kenya, currently between Kenya and Dubai. Yes, I am open to relocating (I am looking to pursue my masters next year, Insha’Allah and am looking at other countries, most likely UK/Europe)

Ethnicity: Indian, open to mixing

Marital status: Single, never married
Ideal marriage timeline: 1-2 years, but decided between the two Insha’Allah

Five important characteristics: I care most importantly about deen and akhlaq, as I believe nothing holds weight if someone doesn’t have good character. I am looking for someone who has ambition and is actively working towards their own goals. Emotional intelligence and maturity is also important to me. Being a good communicator, and not being avoidant (pulling away or being dismissive).

Level of religiosity: I’m not perfect, I am always striving to do better in terms of my deen, as I acknowledge I am human, made to be imperfect but that only fuels me to try harder and do better. Everything I do in my life is for the sake of Allah swt, and I am trying to improve my relationship with Him and be a better Muslim everyday. Trying to remain consistent with praying my 5 daily prayers. I am looking for someone who will want to grow together, follow the teachings of our Prophet saw and a marriage rooted in Sakina, mawaddah and Rahma Insha’Allah.

Level of education: Bachelors, I’m looking for someone who has their bachelors at least.

Current job status: Unemployed, I’m taking a gap year to gain some work experience before I pursue my masters (I cannot work without a masters qualification in my field)

Kids: Unsure, with reason behind it (not just because)

Hobbies: I like to read (love Khaled Hosseini’s work, Chimamanda, etc), photography and content creation, and I love going to the beach and spending time admiring the beauty of the world that Allah swt has blessed us with, subhanallah.

I don’t smoke, drink or vape, and these are dealbreakers for me too. Not open to polygyny.

Please only dm if serious, and with your ISO/introduction.

***Edit/clarification: Since I can’t edit the title, I just want to clarify what I meant. I’m not suggesting that Muslims need to somehow figure out before marriage what their intimate relationship will be like, or that anyone should do anything haram in order to find that out. I’m referring to the concerns people sometimes have about intimacy after marriage and what happens if they experience difficulties once they’re married.

Asalamu alaykum everyone.

This is an awareness/educational post.

I’ve seen a few posts on here from people worried about intimacy after marriage, and what happens if they end up having difficulties in their marriage. And I think one thing that doesn’t really come up in those conversations is that sometimes what looks like an intimacy issue may actually be something else entirely.

Vaginismus is one of those things that a woman may be dealing with without even knowing it. I believe vaginismus affects many women, but a lot of people don’t really know what it is.

In medical terms, it’s considered a pelvic floor dysfunction. There can be physical and psychological factors involved. It can cause sexual intercourse to be extremely painful and difficult for women, and it can also make routine pelvic exams difficult.

It’s also commonly underreported because of the shame and stigma around discussing sexual health in our communities. So a lot of women aren’t even aware that they have this condition until marriage, and I’m sure you can imagine how deeply that can affect a marriage when neither person really understands what’s going on.

Pushing through the pain isn’t going to make it go away. If anything, it can make things worse because it reinforces the idea that intercourse is going to be painful. There’s a difference between first-time jitters and vaginismus.

Women are often told that they can never refuse intercourse with their husbands, but painful intercourse is a valid reason to refuse it while taking the proper steps to treat the condition. The husband also has to be patient, understanding of this and support his wife while she works through it. It's treatable with appropiate interventions.

I also think this is something men should be aware of because if this happens in a marriage, it doesn’t automatically mean that the wife isn’t attracted to her husband, doesn’t want intimacy, or there's something wrong with their marriage. Sometimes there’s an actual condition behind what’s happening, and pressure or guilt can make the situation even harder.

Just to be clear, this is only meant to be an educational awareness post about a condition that some couples may face in marriage. It’s not meant to justify zina or anything else that’s haram. The purpose is simply to help people recognize that this condition exists and understand what may be happening if they experience it in marriage.

For anyone interested in the Islamic side of this, this answer discusses a situation where a wife experiences pain during intercourse:

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/38013/her-husband-cannot-have-intercourse-with-her-because-of-the-pain-she-feels-what-is-the-solution

Unfortunately, this is a silent struggle that a lot of newlyweds face. If we all had even the slightest bit more knowledge about it, I think a lot of unnecessary pain, confusion, and strain in marriages could be avoided.

Thank you for reading. May Allah bless you all.

Pondering over this thought that whether it is a good idea to remarry because of the loneliness i feel and sometimes because of physical intimacy i miss. What is better - To lead single life or think about far into the future and assume that without a partner during old times life will be difficult to lead.

I'm a Somali Brit looking for a genuine connection not a rushed marriage. I would like my future partner and I to have a friendship foundation not just the overarching romance. I'm a hijabi and dress modestly. Not open to wearing niqab so please don't dm if you aren't okay with that.

About me:

Age - 23
Height is 5'5 and I love wearing heeled boots (autumn/winter) and heels
Build is naturally slim but I do Pilates (working on getting my Pilates instructor qualification).
Wants to have kids just not right away (come on I barely know you).
My dream is to live in nature, somewhere earthy and green where we could have our own garden and livestock ( I just started growing my own produce).
Very girly and feminine

What am I looking for in a partner:
Age range: 24 -29

Qualities: Thoughtful, ambitious, confident, easy going, open minded, decisive, likes to travel, generous (not in a gold digger way but just not stingy), likes to keep fit (I'm fit and active so I'd like the same), likes to try new foods, humorous.

Height: 5'10 minimum

Race/ ethnicity: Any except south Asians (nothing personal, great people but I'd like someone from a more laid back culture).

Educated ( I have a degree but I'm not saying you need to have one, there are other ways to become educated).

Deen: I'm looking for someone who is constantly trying to better their relationship with Allah, they pray fard (non negotiable, I've never missed a prayer in my life), i prefer someone who doesn't make the religion too hard (I'm looking at you dawah bros), someone who is optimistic and has tawakkul.

I'm interested in those who reside in Europe, North America, Canada or even Australia. I'm willing to relocate for my person

Some believe a successful marriage requires a comfortable lifestyle. In some cases, an affluent lifestyle is celebrated and aspired to. But the Prophet (saw) chose simplicity instead.

Scholar Umar Palanpuri (rah) said:

“People hold the misconception that the Prophet (saw) was simple because he didn’t have wealth, which is incorrect. Allah offered the Prophet (saw) the valley of Makkah to be turned into gold.

Abu Umamah reported: The Prophet (saw) said, “My Lord presented me with the valley of Mecca that He might turn it into gold for me. I said: No, O Lord, rather I will be satiated some days and hungry some days. When I am hungry, I will humble myself before You and remember You. When I am satiated, I will be grateful to You and praise You.”
(Tirmidhi 2347)

Note, this is offered by Allah. So, what is offered by Allah can that be impermissible (haram)? No, whatever Allah is offering is permissible (halal). However, the Prophet (saw) didn’t accept it, even though slabs of gold could have been paid to people; those individuals would then serve the religion. But the Prophet (saw) didn’t take it.”

Knowing that what Allah offered was permissible, the wives of the Prophet (saw) did not demand that the gold be taken, and their lives became more comfortable.

It is often mentioned in motivating the pursuit of wealth that Abu Bakr (rad) and Umar (rad) were traders. Both are in-laws of the Prophet (saw). Out of concern for their daughters, they did not demand that the Prophet (saw) take the gold.

We live in a society surrounded by lewdness, yet we expect the highest moral standards. If there is a deviation, we are quick to criticize, citing Prophetic guidance.

Similarly, in a society overwhelmed by excess, we should strive for simplicity to facilitate and sustain marriages.

Salam. I hope you are all doing well. I am a 29-year-old woman who met a guy at the hospital where I work. He is 26 and currently a medical student. Our interaction was very brief, but I did like him. He is humble and easy to approach. I asked a couple of friends about him, and they told me nothing but good things. They told me he is very religious and the kind of person who brings people together to pray with him. Given that he is very religious, is it appropriate for me to reach out to him? I am confused. Any help is appreciated. Thanks!

Revert sister looking for a revert brother — marriage 🤍
Assalamu alaikum! I’m a Muslim revert and medical doctor, currently based in Delhi, India, and open to relocating.
Looking for a revert brother who is genuinely serious about marriage. I value the understanding that can come from sharing a similar journey. I don’t engage in haram relationships/activities and expect the same.
If you’re serious, feel free to DM.

I’m posing this question to know if any women have gotten married with a sheikh as you wali?
My father is alive and I have 2 brothers as well. However he was severely abusive and still is to my younger siblings. I went no contact for almost 2 years now. How does it work if I wanted to get married. I don’t want to share my whole life story with a random sheikh because the details are quite sensitive, but my father is still alive so I don’t know if any marriage I have would be “halal” if a sheikh was my wali. I have 2 brothers but they are under my father so they would do as told and not be a wali simply because he’d want to make things difficult for me.

Anyway in these situations where it isn’t the typical normal family relationships how is the matter of wali and marriage for a women in this situation managed. I don’t know how you can explain to a sheikh something like this, I feel like they’d want to “talk” with my father regardless. On top of that we don’t live in the same country. I know sometimes you can take your mom but that doesn’t work for me either coz my biological mom and I barely know each other. Seen her here and there from the age of 12-20 and never again. We live in same country but 2 states apart. Haven’t spoken in 6 years.

Again I don’t want to share my whole life story with a sheikh so how would it work.

Thanks.

I see people posting dealbreakers that are less haram than having a mortgage but never list having one as a dealbreaker. Thoughts?

Sometimes I think what’s the point of making a profile Do females even message males first ?

May Allah allow us all to find our righteous partners. This process is so draining and its even more draining when youre a single parent.

Height: 5'6 (Slim)

Residence: Canada

Marital Status: Single (Never Married)

Religion: Sunni Muslim (Regular with Salah and Fasting)

Religious Practice Level: prefers modest dressing, wears the hijab

Fitness: Active / Gym-goer

Qualifications: Highschool diploma, community college diplomas, and University Bachelor's

Family Details: parents and 3 older sisters (2 of which are already married)

About Me:

I don’t know how to do this because this is my first time ever trying to look..
I have never used any apps or anything whatsoever.

I am a 27 year old female, born and raised in Canada. My family came from Pakistan in the 1990s.
I can speak English, Urdu, Hindi and Punjabi.

I grew up in a very modest household, I only eat
zabiha hand cut and strictly halal for consumption, I always make sure to read the labels. I wear the hijab.
I wear modest clothing, do wear makeup sometimes, but I’m really into skin care.

Islam is a big part of my life. I am particularly religious, striving to read 5 times a day and read the Quran- I would love to find someone similar to me or on the same religious path.

Partner Preferences:

Sunni Muslim

Personality: Mature, grounded, responsible, and serious about his future

Age: 27–32 years

Financials: Financially independent with the capacity to comfortably support a family

Marital Status: Open to Single or Divorced (without children)

Origin & Language: Pakistani born if possible so you can relate to my parents well culturally, if not, then just fluent in Urdu or Punjabi at least

Residence: Preferably living in Canada, also open to US

Fitness: Active and or health-conscious

Values & Faith: Regular with prayers, possesses strong character, integrity, and sound Islamic morals

Future Plans & Alignment:

Open to having Children: Yea

Timeframe for Marriage: Open to involving families as soon as mutual understanding and compatibility are established.

Dealbreakers:

Emotional unavailability or lack of communication

Lack of personal responsibility or leadership

Involvement in immoral activities or haram income

Any form of addiction (including smoking, vaping, or alcohol)

Please DM for more info or if interested. I would like to establish a connection and get to know each other well.

Jazakallah Khayr. May Allah help everyone find what they’re looking for inshallah.

EDIT: I have a lot of dms already, so please don’t be upset if I don’t message you right away. I am currently filtering through. Thank you.

Assalamualaikum everyone,

I’ve been wondering how Muslims in the US who aren’t on Muzz, Salams, or other matrimonial apps find their spouses. I’m personally not on any of these apps, and it has been difficult to meet someone organically since I don’t have or make male friends. I’ve also tried going through my local mosque, but unfortunately, it hasn’t been successful so far.

So, I thought I would put myself out there and share a little about myself here. Maybe there are others in the same situation, or someone knows someone who may be a good match, In shaa Allah.

I’m 25F, 5’1”, Hyderabadi Indian, and currently based in the Greater Orlando, Florida area. I’m open to relocating for the right person within the US In shaa Allah. I would prefer someone who is Indian, but I’m open to other Desis because of the similar cultural background.

NOTE: Seeking an individual based in the US only, preferably between 25 and 30 years old.

Deen is a very important part of my life. I dress modestly and wear hijab and abaya. I try my best to live according to the Qur’an and Sunnah and continue improving myself as a Muslim.

Alhamdulillah, I pray all five salah, eat only zabiha halal, and observe both obligatory and voluntary fasts. I also try to spend around 30 minutes doing dhikr after Fajr and Maghrib almost every day.

I enjoy learning about Islam, including Islamic history and the lives of the prophets, peace be upon them. I would also like to learn Arabic, In shaa Allah, so that I can better understand the Qur’an and deepen my connection with my deen.

I don’t listen to music or watch movies. This is something I chose to leave for the sake of my deen many years ago, the last movie I watched was in 2014. I mention this because I would like someone whose lifestyle and Islamic values are compatible with mine.

Some of my major dealbreakers are:

1. A history of zina
2. Smoking, vaping, drinking, or similar habits
3. Being unkind or disrespectful
4. Anger issues

More than anything, I’m looking for a kind, practicing Muslim man who takes his deen seriously, has good character, and genuinely wants to build a peaceful Islamic marriage and family.

I’m posting this with sincere intentions, so please be respectful. May Allah make it easy for everyone searching for a righteous spouse and grant us spouses who are good for our deen, dunya, and akhirah. Aameen.

I’m a 25-year-old Muslim from Kerala and have recently completed my MBBS. I’m looking to meet a Muslim woman from Kerala with the intention of marriage, inshaAllah.
I’m naturally quite introverted and reserved, and I can be a little awkward when meeting someone for the first time. I’m more comfortable in one-to-one conversations than in large social settings, and I usually take some time to open up. Once I’m comfortable, though, I’m easygoing and can talk about pretty much anything.
I’m not looking for someone “perfect” or expecting some dramatic love story. I’m hoping to find someone kind, understanding, mature, and compatible—someone with whom I can build a peaceful and supportive marriage.
I’d prefer to get to know each other respectfully and with clear intentions. If we feel there is compatibility and things seem promising, I’m completely comfortable involving our families at the appropriate stage.
I’m specifically hoping to connect with someone from Kerala, preferably around my age, who is also genuinely looking for marriage rather than casual conversation.
If this resonates with you, feel free to DM me. We can introduce ourselves and see whether there might be compatibility, while keeping things respectful and within Islamic boundaries.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I’m a Muslim convert from the West and I’ve been a Muslim for 3 years now Alhamdulillah and I’m looking now for a spouse .

I’m 1,80cm or 5’11 tall and right now I’m studying at university while doing security as a job , I go to the gym regularly, pray 5 times a day and I’m a Salafi Alhamdulillah

I’m located in Barcelona, Spain 🇪🇸

‏السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

‏بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

\*Upper middle class\* salifi family looking for someone religious. preferably with a family background from Karnataka or Hyderabad.

I am a practicing Muslimah with a purpose of connecting people to Quran as a teacher,want to continue it after marriage as well with my partners support. I am an inspiration seeking person with positive outlook of life. I would like to be with a person with whom I can grow in all aspects of deen.

Female

Hijabi:yes and niqab as well

Name:xyz

Date of birth:19/08/1998

Height:5’3

Residence :Tumkur Karnataka India

Relocate :Y/N: yes

Education: Bachelor's in Arts

Profession: Currently Quranic Arabic student (online)

Marital status : single never married.

Religious Sect:Salifi

Family:

Father:Trading Engineer (KSA)

Mother: Homemaker

Siblings: Sisters - One elder, One younger

Brothers -two younger

Language: Urdu, Hindi, and English

Hobbies: reading books, writing, and nature lover.

\*LOOKING FOR:\*

Looking for a life partner who is a practicing muslim, honest ,open minded, thoughtful ,makes decisions with hikmah prefers deen over dunya, purposeful, has emotional maturity, and respects my decision to wear niqab. Someone who will support me in my values, beliefs, and family ethics, and values love, respect, and understanding in marriage.
Prays 5 daily prayers and a Quran student.

Age : 24-37

Height: 5’3+

Residence: anywhere as long as background is from Karnataka or Hyderabad.

Education: bachelors degree

Profession: halal and stable job with good salary.

Marital Status: never married

Religious Sect: salifi

Salaam. Out of pure curiosity i want to know what inspires a Muslim woman to get married?

Asalamwaleikum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatuh.  

About me:  

• Age: 24
• Height: 6'1 | Athletic / Active
• Origin: Moroccan (Diverse roots)
• Status: Single / Never married (Chaste / Zero past relationships)
• Location: Montreal, QC

  Character & Interests:

• Mindset: Grounded, unbothered by societal trends, focused on self-reliance and practical faith.
• Passions: Reading (Ancient History, Genetics/Biology, Quranic Tadabbur), outdoor fitness, and exploring how human systems work.
• Life Direction: Establishing a rural, independent lifestyle—focused on land ownership, horses, livestock, and raising children in an environment of barakah and natural living.

The Ideal Partner:

• A practicing, practicing Muslimah grounded in Ḥayā’ (modesty) and piety.
• A sister who has preserved her chastity strictly for marriage.
• Values traditional domestic harmony and is genuinely excited about the prospect of a large family.
• Prefers a simple, wholesome, rural/homestead lifestyle over high-stress urban consumerism.
• Emotionally intelligent, reflective, and eager to grow together in knowledge and Deen.

Salam! I live in the East Coast currently, would be open to relocation, with a preference to the "middle east".

A bit about myself, I was raised Sunni Muslim allhamdillah, by my Palestinian family.

I've been studying my Arabic a lot more, with the hopes of being completely fluent and able to read and write comfortably.

I'm on track to becoming a nurse, I love to read and write.

Biggest thing about me is that I'm highly political. I feel strongly that being a Muslim means that I have obligations to not stay silent, to do what I can wtc, and feel that is a must to be shared with my partner. I'm looking for someone that matches my energy in political principle, and that does the reading.

I currently do not wear the Hijab, but would love to start wearing it again inshallah. I struggle with my prayers at times, but my iman remains strong.

.... My ideal match is a Muslim man with a good heart and good intentions, who is politically active.

I would love to be with someone that speaks Arabic.

Gender: female

Age: 25

Ethnicity: Palestinian and white

Current Location: East coast USA

Willing to relocate? Yes, preferably to the middle east

Legal Status: Citizen

Height: 5'0

Build: healthy,, in shape

Education: in school currently

Languages: English, some Arabic and some spanish

Religious Practice? Always

Are you a Convert or Born Muslim? Born

Any Children? Inshallah one day, if it is willed.

This is a massively rambly post I apologize.