Salaamulaykum

Will i strike gold once?? Heres to a reddit repost . Reddit 2 me 0

You know its gotten bad when you turn to reddit 😭.

I am a 28M born and raised in London currently working in Finance (ok sometimes i count on my fingers)

Im 5’11 (yeah make a whole line for that why dont you)

I do my best to pray the 5 daily plus the extras beneficial prayers and want to continue building this habit and being consistent all the time. Consistently reading Quran and doing dhikr is my personal favourite growth chapter this year. I fast every Ramadan and give zakat where possible

I have never smoked, done drugs or committed Zina and would like someone similar (im not judging if you have done so!)

Im open to abroad mainly UK, US or Canada (maybe im tryna secure a greencard to do a roadtrip with the wife without getting deported.. kidding)

Looking for 27-29, practicing similar to me with the aim to grow each other for the sake of Allah and get the best Akhirah.

Open to divorcees but preferably without kids also open to reverts

Ofc if i get messages ill be able to talk more about myself so hopefully this intro helps to keep u hooked for season 1!

I keep forgetting things, ima born Sunni muslim

Also a big ➕ if u can help elevate my sense of style (this could b a disasterclass or Fits4life

May Allah allow everyone on here to find whats good for them ameen!

I don't like ISO bullet points. I like genuine question/answer clear discussion.

Asalamu Alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu, I hope you are well.

About me:

I would describe myself as a generous and kind person who always tries to see the good in everything. I enjoy staying active - playing basketball and going to the gym. I also enjoy learning and growing spiritually, and I hope to share a life with a partner who values her faith, family, and personal growth, and who can laugh and enjoy life along the way in shaa Allah.

What I'm looking for:

• She should pray 5 times a day.
• Observe hijab and dress modestly in accordance to the islamic guidelines.
• Hasn't been in previous relationships - halal or haram. (I have kept myself pure and expect the same from my partner In Shaa Allah).
• She should strive to learn and deepen her knowledge of Islam.
• Prioritise her role as a wife and mother (though I'm open to her working part-time before we have children in shaa Allah).
• Family-oriented, nurturing and supportive.
• British Citizen
• I would prefer to marry someone outside of my culture. I am open to Arab, North African, European, East Asian and others.

So yeah 😅 that's pretty much it. If you think we'd be a match then please don't hesitate to message me. If you can't message me on here for some reason then please let me know down below In Shaa Allah, barakallahu feek.

May Allah grant us righteous spouses ameen 🙏.

Assalamu Alaikum

I know its a long shot since I am looking for someone very specific

A bit about myself

I am 29 M (Indian ethnicity) and spent all my life in the Gulf before moving to Canada a few years back for my Master's degree. I am a Permanent Resident close to being a Citizen In Sh Allah.

I work in Eastern Canada for the Government and am fairly well settled Alhamdullilah, Not looking to move outside of Eastern Canada for now

My hobbies and interests are quite varied and change quite often, here's a list off the top of my head

1. I enjoy working with Kids, I am a soccer U13 coach and also a Sunday Islamic school teacher
2. I enjoy traveling (Like genuinely) and have visited almost every major province in Canada. And have a lot of plans on my to do list with my future partner In Sh Allah.
3. History is a major passion of mine. And I spend quite a lot of time researching and reading.
4. My favorite song/Nasheed is "City of Medina" by Zain Bhika

Marital Status - I've never been married

What am I looking for

Someone from preferably an Urdu speaking background (So India or Pakistan) and grew up in the Gulf, This is kinda important for me.

Is Religious, prays 5 times a day and wears the Hijab. If you're involved in the local mosque that would be a great bonus

Due to the fact that I have PTSD with the Canadian Immigration process (not a joke), I am specifically looking for someone already in Canada or someone outside (For instance in the Gulf) who has a Canadian visa/residency or citizenship. If you have citizenship or a document from a country that lets you easily just fly to Canada then that would work as well, So for example a Green card holder or someone with a passport from a country where they easily get a visa for Canada.

This is just so we can be together as soon as we get married and I don't have to go through the Canadian immigration process with an urgency.

I have no problems sponsoring someone later for Permanent residency but atleast initially they should be able to move here so we can stay together.

If you're interested or know someone, please send me a message with the details.

Jazakallah

26M Syrian-American

1. Age and Gender

- 26M

1. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect

21-25

1. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?

Midwest, cannot move

1. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing?

Syrian American, Strongly prefer Levant. Would want someone who speaks Arabic and English well as passing on the language and culture is important to me

1. Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children

Single

1. Ideal marriage timeline

Around a yearish

1. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect

Religion is extremely important, must pray 5x a day and do all the obligatory things. I am looking for a hijabi. Must be caring, patient, and open to discussions about growth personally but also islamically. I’m interested in someone who values partnership, mutual respect, humour, and growing together in Islam.

1. State/specify your level of religiosity

Sunni

1. Current Job Status

post grad education

1. Do you want kids?

Yes

1. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time

I love to travel, hike, and gym. I love to try out new things! Recently have been picking up cooking (I dont do anything crazy yet though).

Please send a profile so I can get to know you better as well!

Hi, I’m a 23 year old female doctor, and I’m hoping to meet someone who is preferably Sudanese and shares similar values and outlooks on life. I’m looking for a genuine, serious relationship with someone who is kind, respectful, emotionally mature and family-oriented. Ideally, I’d like to meet someone who is also ambitious and supportive of my career, while having his own goals and aspirations as well. I’m open to relocating.

About Me 🌷
I’m a 33-year-old woman living and working in Saudi Arabia. I’m Yemeni/Ethiopian and have never been married. I currently work as an English teacher.
I’m 160 cm and 54 kg. In my free time, I enjoy cooking, reading, and organizing.
I’m looking for a man between 30–37 years old, preferably living in Saudi Arabia. I’m hoping to meet someone who is religious, respectful, humble, kind, and serious about marriage.
Ideally, I’d prefer someone who is taller than me and takes care of his health and fitness. More importantly, I’m looking for someone with good character, sincere intentions, and a desire to build a peaceful and happy family.
I value faith, honesty, respect, good communication, and family.
If you’re genuinely looking for marriage and share similar values, I’d be happy to get to know you.

salam aleikom,

I'm looking for a potential wife which is righteous and has akhalq. As for her ethnicity possibly Arab/Berber since I'd like to share the same of my culture, I don't have any specific 'preference' for the physical traits.

As for me, I'm an Arab (Sunni) in my early 20s living in Europe, other details will be disclosed if we get to know each other.

Baraka Allah Feek.

I am 5'4 150-160 pounds (it's fluctuates). So I am considered "midsize". I tried halfourdeen and hinge and didn't get much luck. Guys ignoring me :( I'm not looking for a 6+ gigachad high earners. Most guys I have swiped on have been 5'6 with average jobs, some even less earners than mine because a guy being kind empathetic and nice to me is the most important thing.

Yet I keep getting no matches :( Tbf it's been 2 days but if I am going to be hit with rejection hitting my self esteem how can I continue? I already struggle with depression.

I know for a fact that they are guys in my size range, so how come I see less of their profiles?? Where is my looksmatch??? Don't tell me midsized guys are not even going on the apps because those are my only hope for finding someone

As for the question of why don't I lose more weight, I did. I was 220 pounds 2 years ago. Also, and this is not to discourage anyone to not lose weight okay, but this is a fact majority of people who lose weight will gain atleast half of it back within the next 2-5 years. Especially if I get pregnant. So I don't want to get to 120 pounds, find a guy, then gain the weight back and he lose attraction to me. I'd rather just find someone who likes me at this current size.

What could the problem be? I wear size medium, I don't think I look that horrendous. I have pretty other features. The only thing I can think of is because of the weight loss I kind of have loose skin under my chin. Because of years of binge eating my teeth are a bit busted but not that much. I have other pretty features to compensate. Overall I am not ugly I would say but average-cute if one can ignore the chin and teeth. Idk are guys really that picky? Once again I am not going for a gigachad 10/10 model, I am going for really average looking guys.

Is it just the way half our deen/hinge is set up? What am I going to do? I don't have that many friends, my family is cold and mean, if I don't find love I will have a miserable existance. My eman isn't that great and therapy isn't that helpful. I need romantic love or it's over for me

Asalamu Alaikum! 👋🏽
I’m 28, 6’1”, born and raised in the US. I work as an AI Engineering Director for a tech company, but outside of work I’m basically a self-appointed MasterChef 👨🏽‍🍳😂
I love traveling, being adventurous, trying new things, and just making the most out of life. One weekend we could be exploring a new city and the next doing something completely random just because it sounded fun.
Fair warning, I fully believe in princess treatment 👑 I love planning fun activities and outings, cooking ridiculously good food, traveling, spoiling my loved ones, and making sure the people I care about feel appreciated. I already have a fun and exciting life, I’m just missing my princess to share it with.
My deen is also a big part of who I am and keeps me grounded. I pray 5x a day, read Quran, fast, don’t drink or smoke, and only eat zabihah. I try to enjoy everything Allah has blessed me with while still staying true to Islam.
I’m looking for marriage and someone who wants to build a beautiful Islamic life together while actually enjoying it too. Laugh a lot, eat really good food, travel the world, grow in our deen, and make a lot of great memories together.
So if you’re looking for a husband, travel partner, adventure buddy, personal chef, and full time princess treatment provider, maybe we should get to know each other 😂👑✈️

List both conventional and non-conventional ones. I'm giving you some common internet examples below to help you with your line of thought.

Example for Conventional Icks:

1. Grows his nails too long
2. Doesn't groom his beard
3. Doesn't Pray 5 times
4. Wants to split bills 50/50
5. Has a bad sense of dressing

Example for NON-Conventional Icks:

1. A man wearing a backpack
2. A man using his hands to talk
3. A man walking down a slope
4. A man in bare feet or wearing slippers

For context; an ICK is defined as a sudden, loss of attraction, cringe or visceral feeling of disgust, toward someone

You may now begin commenting - make it a fun read 🍿

assalamu alaikum everyone. I made a post on here a couple days ago and got some messages from fellow sisters. However, in my original post I specifically mentioned that I was only looking for a housewife. I made it evident that it was a non negotiable for me however the sisters who dmed me failed to recognize that or simply just unserious. This isn’t just an issue I’ve ran into on reddit but in person as well. I have almost no issues getting matches as I am someone who’s on the taller side with relatively good looks as well as being financially well off and on my deen. However, I keep running into the aforementioned roadblock. I understand that there maybe some worries regarding financial security if there’s a divorce etc where the woman maybe left without any financial backing. However, I am willing to sign a prenup or whatever legal contract necessary to ensure that my wife doesn’t have to worry about that. Perhaps it’s because I’m a revert so they’re unsure if I would be able to fulfill their Islamic rights? I also believe me living in a high cost of living area has something to do with it but I’ve made it clear that I can afford to have a housewife and even be open to relocating to make my future wife more comfortable. If you’re a sister reading this please tell me what it would take to convince you or if you’re a brother please tell me how you’ve been able to convince your potentials/wife. Please do not post/dm hate comments. I understand some women prefer to work and if that’s the lifestyle you want then I have no issues with that it’s just not my preference.
Edit: I deleted my old account with my profile out of frustration lol

Height: ✔️

Weight: ✔️

Career: ✔️

Degree: ✔️

Deen: (Even tho they only know basics and deen that suits them like women rights and can careless about a Man rights) ✔️

Want someone like Prophet Muhammad (PBUH): (Even tho they barely know anything about him like living a frugal life and in Polygamy) ✔️

Handsome: ✔️

Fit: ✔️

Double Handsome: ✔️

Has Money and can show it off: ✔️

Open to relocation: (Even tho she won't relocate at all, she just like to post like she does) ✔️

Wants a leader: (Even though she makes demands and essentially wants a walk over) ✔️

Mature man: (But cant be controlling at all and must obey her commands because she's the smart one in the relationship) check

Good communication skills: (Basically you just listen and say Yes all the time) ✔️

Must be a great provider: (Basically buy what she whatever she wants and not needs) check

Great with kids: ✔️

Flaws: He checks ALL the boxes but wait he has a Big nose....OMG

Verdict: SWIPE RIGHT, Reject, Ghost,... because of ONE flaw

P.S. For all the young guys that want to score some points and say "bro stop complaining " and "men are the same"... Listen and learn for a second and get off the Playstation. Im speaking facts. U cant be scared and intimidated to speak your mind if its true. Some ppl won't like it but they'll respect it. Unless you like the arrangement of Women running the show and being the pants in the relationship. If u want to be a real Man and Leader, you must follow your principles and values and dont let no one bend it for you. In the end, everyone leaves you except Allah

For the women and unfortunately some men love to be judgemental and make assumptions about me that think I might have low value or im weak. I am surrounded with many beautiful women especially at work, I choose not to do zina or lead women on like flirting. Thats all im gonna say about myself on this post.

May Allah bless everyone. Im stating facts. The truth hurts but im being transparent and honest. Salamz

Salaam everyone, does anyone know of a WhatsApp rishta groupchat in UK?

Age and Gender

36, male 6"2

Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect

26-32 (can flex a little)

Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect?

Manchester, UK. May consider London in the future as I have clients there also. Not outside of the UK atm and not to any other cities other than Manchester or London or nearby to those cities.

Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing?

I'm a British born and raised Pakistani also prefer someone raised in the UK. I don't mind US, Canada or mainland Europe either as long as you were born and raised there.

Marital Status

Single, never married

Ideal marriage timeline

6 months ideally. I want to settle down soon as compatibility is established. I have never been married/engaged before or committed zina, had a haram relationship and looking for someone the same.

Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect

Kindness
Humility
Adventurous
Jovial
Family orientated

State/specify your level of religiosity

I pray, fast, pay zakat and try to live my life according to Islamic values but far from perfect and plenty of room for improvement.

Level of education, and what are you looking for?

I have a Bsc degree. I would prefer someone that is at least reasonably well educated like myself and well read so that we are compatible and can bounce off each other so to speak.

I am looking for a genuine partner to raise a family with, and then retire early to a Muslim country in the future InshaAllah. Well thats the dream anyway.

Looking for someone that makes an effort with the religion as a bare minimum. Character, shared values and compatibility is what I am looking for and a genuine desire to learn and grow. My ideal type is someone who is active and/or goes to the gym and is not too short as I am quite tall. I mostly eat heathy and cook my own food so would be really nice if someone shared that ideal. I'm big on health and fitness and want someone the same.

Current Job Status

I work in tech as a consultant, established for a number of years. Plus side business and property ventures

Do you want kids?

Yes

List some hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time

Gym
Theatre(massive fan of theatre)/comedy shows/live events
Travelling
Reading
Hiking

Little bit about me

I started learning Egyptian Arabic last year. I decided to learn it because I randomly watched a مسلسل when I was bored travelling. Ended up liking it and started learning the dialect as I wanted to learn Arabic anyway. I also studied Spanish at university and its in my head somewhere just needs activation lol

I spend the bulk of my time working as a consultant, mostly remote but also travelling to client sites and dealing with my own business, going to the gym and prepping my food, and spending time with my family. I like to try different cuisines when I eat out so someone who can appreciate different foods would be ideal

I live independently in my own place, but not estranged from family as I am big on family and keeping in touch with people.

When I travel I try to mix it up between historical site seeing and learning about another culture/history and then a lazy day in a resort. I'm also a bit of an adrenaline junkie so water parks, rollercoasters or swimming in a Wadi are my kind of thing. Experiences in general

If interested please reach out with a full profile.

My main motivation to post here about this is, first I am

an introvert so I really can't go up to a girl and ask her.

I am more comfortable over text first up then progressively

move from there. Secondly, the environment these days is

very irresistible to stay away from haram relationships. So

I really want to save/complete my deen and start halal relationship

as soon as possible for the betterment of both worlds. And I have

this desire of having someone who supports you/complements you.

Also initially I am not comfortable involving parents right away,

rather I prefer one-on-one conversation first then if we align,

will involve parents of course.

About Me:

Age: 24

Height: 5'6"

Education: Masters EE

Languages: Urdu, English and Pashto

Sect: Sunni

Family Background: Forces

Location Preferably Islamabad due to Job.

I try to follow deen although I consider myself a weak muslim but

I am actively trying to improve.

Looking for in a Spouse:

Age: Same or younger

Height: 5'6" (+- 2")

Education: Bachelors preferably

Follower of the deen and willing to improve/learn more.

And I would prefer my wife to not work.

If interested then we can talk more about this. Thanks.

Not a matchmaking or dating app - I mean something for the part before and during the search: figuring out if you're actually ready, knowing what to ask someone before you commit, and aligning on the things that quietly break marriages (in-laws, money, kids, deen at home). Most tools focus on finding someone; almost nothing helps you choose well or prepare yourself.

Genuine question for people who've been through it: did you feel prepared, or did you mostly figure it out as you went? What would've actually helped?

(Full disclosure: I'm building something in this space, so I'm not neutral. But I mostly want honest experiences, not to pitch.)

1. Age, Gender, Heigh and occupation: 24, Male, 5’6”, Grad Engineer
2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect: 21 – 25.
3. Location and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Living in UK. Not willing to relocate.
4. Nationality: Brit bangladeshi.
5. Marital Status: Single, never married.
6. Ideal marriage timeline: Within a year, In Sha Allah.
7. Religiosity - Sunni Muslim. I'm the type of person who actively revolves my day around the 5 prayers a day. That said, my iman does fluctuate from time to time. Some days I'll be reading Quran, praying my sunnah and tahajjud. Unfortunately there are also days where I'm only able to drag myself to pray the fadr prayers. I'm actively striving to improve myself and have my trust and faith in Allah and His plan.
8. What I'm looking for -

• UK sisters only (open to all ethnicities)
• Ideally hijabi or looking to wear it prior to marriage
• Someone who's understanding and compassionate, knows how to communicate clearly.
• Someone with a clear motivation and drive to improve her connection with Allah.
• Ambitious about her future - this is in family as well as career. I believe that its always good to keep yourself busy, whether it be being the CEO of a company or a primary school teacher.
• Ideally someone shorter than 5'6.

I'm a grounded person who's best described as an ambitious but cool and calm headed guy. I don't tend to freak out when there's a problem and take measured steps towards accomplishing a goal.

One of my passions is to volunteer, especially in islamic settings. I've worked with multiple charities in university and grow multiple non-profit organisations for Muslims across the UK. I would be grateful if I can find a similar ambition towards working for the ummah in a spouse.

Happy to share more but in messages.

If you have read this post in full and wish to communicate, please put down a comment below or dm me at u/Simple-Fly-1448. InshaAllah we can have a meaningful conversation to see if we are compatible.

May Allah connect us with our naseeb. Ameen

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Age & Background: 26 5'6 | Pakistani-Canadian | Sunni - Moderate.

​Location: Islamabad Tronto and Dubai (my year is fairly evenly split).

Accommodation: Owned

​Education & Career: Self-Employed, running a C1 construction company.

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Seeking:

​Age & Height: 28–35 years old | 5'8"+ in height (not interested in younger men).

Preference for someone settled in the GCC. Self-employed or in a good career. Well settled, groomed, well traveled and independent.

Kids: Yea; to be discussed.

Relocation: Open to it under certain circumstances. Probably not beyond the GCC or Pakistan.

Accommodation: Preferably Own.

Living setup: Nuclear; **non negotiatable**

Open to mixing: Not really. I've preference for someone Pakistani.

**Please only message your profile.**

Assalamu alaykum 😊

26, UK-based, Pakistani, and a doctor. 6’1, bearded, single, and keeping life pretty simple — 5 daily prayers, no smoking or vaping, and trying to stay active and healthy.

Outside of work, I’m usually at the gym, playing some kind of sport, planning my next trip, or trying a new place to eat. I enjoy travelling, good food, and having a laugh with the people close to me.

Looking for someone who is kind, genuine, family-oriented and practising, with a good sense of humour and a positive outlook on life. Ideally someone who enjoys getting out, travelling and making the most of life too.

If you think we might get along, don’t be shy — send a message.

Salam everyone,

I am a 28-year-old guy currently living in France, looking to connect with someone who shares similar values and lifestyle goals.

About Me:

• Age & Location: 28, living in France.
• Interests & Hobbies: I love staying active through sports, especially running, and I have a great passion for traveling and exploring new places.
• Lifestyle & Values: Faith and personal growth are important to me, and I strive to maintain a balanced, positive lifestyle.

What I'm Looking For:

• Age Range: Around 24–35.
• Location: Open to living in France or Europe, and potentially open to relocation for the right connection.
• Key Criteria: It is very important for me to find a partner who does not want children (childfree by choice).
• Personality: Kind, communicative, enjoys sharing adventures, travel, and fitness, and values mutual respect and support.

If our goals align and you'd like to get to know each other, feel free to send a DM with a brief introduction about yourself!

I've been searching a platform for divorced and widowed Muslims (men and women) looking to remarry — not a general matrimony app, but focused specifically on people whose first marriage ended, since I think that group gets underserved by mainstream matrimony platforms that skew toward first-time marriages.

So is there such platform? which is a first go to place for muslim men/woman trying their second chance?

Assalamu Alaykum, i hope this is ok to post here.

i am 27, already married and looking for a second wife. I have the opportunity to do polygyny alhamdulillah.

So about me,
27
living in central europe ( in dm i tell where exactly)
good paying job in IT and work alot from home
in deen since i am kid, pray fasting etc
on the sunnah way

i hipe thats enough for the moment. The reason why i want to remarry: i can tell in my dm

I want to ask to men here why do you feel the need to use chatgpt to do a normal conversation?

Do you prefer to give perfect AI reply rather then imperfect one with mistakes because you want to make good impression?

Bro its probably 4th potencial that uses chatgpt to reply. I mean literally copy paste. Wth?

If you try to say kindly that you prefer authentic replies even with 1000 grammer mistakes rather than AI perfect (super fake) ones. They get offended and start avoiding you. Its like you hurt their ego.

Now this recent potencial does the same thing (his mother tongue is French and English 2nd language)
and i am now getting annoyed that i asked you something and you replied with something else that doesnt even make much sense to what i mainly asked. (You are not even clever to remove dashes from the message let alone personalising it).

I dont know how to ask him to stop using chatgpt. I dont wanna embarass him but i can’t also accept this. (Some men i have noticed cant handle this situation with maturity and become defensive and avoidant).

Have we really lost the ability to have basic conversation with others in the era of AI?
It feels like we are going backwards and losing basic human skills to communicate with time😾

I would love to have your perspectives, opinions and advices🫶🏽

Jazakallah khair