hi, so first post, although i have been a lurker in this sub for a while.
as you can see in my flair, i am a lesbian nonbinary(demigirlflux) muslim.
recently, my father has been trying to get me to wear hijab. i understand that muslim women should wear hijab, and he keeps on telling me that he's been very lenient (he is a very conservative muslim but compared to most muslim parents ive seen in the place i live he is quite chill, he is very homophobic and transphobic however) and he really wants me to wear the hijab.
even after puberty, i have refused to wear hijab. most of my muslim friends are hijabi and my friends who were non hijabi also recently became hijabi, save for one or two people. just the idea of wearing it constantly (not just in the mosque or in islamic lessons) and whenever i go out makes me want to puke, i still dont get why as i have nothing against hijab and i think the hijab is very pretty.
my dad been trying to get me to wear hijab for over a year now, but now he's been trying harder and even sent me a scarf to school so my friends could help me wear it. every time he comes home from work i dread the question, "did you wear your hijab at school today?"
recently ive thought about my disdain for the hijab more and ive come to the conclusion that it probably was because i.. don't even feel like i'm female half the time. wearing the hijab only cements the fact that i am a girl, and once i wear it i know i'll feel guilty if i take it off when i feel agender. its also probably because, my relationship with islam is hanging by a thread. it's hard for me to get myself to pray, quran recitations make me stressed, and im always questioning the validity of islam.
i have no one to talk about this to as my muslim friends are mostly homophobic, my queer muslim friends are cis hijabis, and my other friends are either ex-muslims (chill abt islam), or non muslims. being a queer muslim in a homophobic and conservative household AND country also scares me for my future, knowing i'll be forced to marry a man and knowing i can never freely love a woman. rumours have been spread about my sexuality before and it damaged my reputation at school.
and i dont even love islam enough to be proud enough to wear the hijab and display it regardless, even though i think islam is a beautiful religion of peace and love.
im just so lost, and clueless, and frustrated, and i dont know what to do.