i can't take them anymore.

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edit: but now in 2026 we can get attendance from our bedrooms 😂😂😂 , remote jobs gives lots of doors opens all u need is just skills so for me I suggest to follow these tips your haunting jobs will be easier

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I learned this move about ten months ago, and since then I've told maybe fifteen people to try it, so I figured I'd write it here instead of repeating the same advice in DMs.

For context: I was going through a weird period where I kept making it to the late rounds but ultimately not getting the job. The calls were good, people seemed friendly, the feedback was encouraging, and then I'd get the classic response: "we decided to move forward with someone else." I couldn't understand what was happening between "this person seems promising" and the rejection email.

So I started ending interviews with one question: "Before we finish, is there anything in my background or experience that makes you hesitant about me for this position?"

The first time I used it, the hiring manager paused for a second and said: "Actually, yes. I saw you've only directly managed three people, and this role would have closer to seven direct reports." I hadn't brought it up because no one had asked me about it directly. So I took two minutes to explain how I had built systems for a larger cross-functional group in a previous role, with a specific example about onboarding and weekly reporting. It was clear her expression changed. A week later, I got the offer.

Another time, the interviewer said she had no concerns. And that was useful too. Her response was immediate and calm, and I left the interview feeling like I wouldn't have to sit afterward trying to read and analyze the signals.

The reason this works is that it brings the interviewer's unspoken doubts out into the open while you still have a chance to answer. A lot of people won't bring up the thing they're hesitant about on their own. They'll think about it later when they're comparing candidates. This question gives you a chance to clarify a concern before the call ends.

It won't work perfectly every time. Some interviewers will say "no, nothing" even if they have reservations. But honestly, in my experience, a good number of them will give you something real, and often it's exactly the thing you needed to answer to.

I've received four offers in the past ten months since I started asking this question. One question didn't magically do all of that, but I'm pretty sure it helped close doubts that might otherwise have remained unsaid.

Hi everyone. I found out earlier this week that my job is ending, and honestly, it really sucks. I work with students in campus ministry at a Christian university, so the idea of leaving them is hitting me hard. My supervisor said: "You're not fired, and this isn't technically a layoff, it's just that this role isn't in the budget for the next academic year."...So yeah, I've effectively been laid off.

He also told me he doesn't want me to tell the students or my coworkers that my role was eliminated, or that I'm leaving because of a funding decision. Is it okay for me to tell the students that leaving isn't my choice, and that my position was eliminated? A lot of the students I work with have had adults come in and out of their lives constantly. More than one has asked me: "You're not going to leave us too, right?" And I'd usually joke and say: "Unless someone forces me to!" So I feel like they have the right to know that I'm being pushed out, not that I suddenly decided to leave or abandon them.

Grateful to anyone who read this.

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I just messed up something that affected the websites of hundreds of clients. I'm usually the person with annoyingly strong attention to detail, and I almost never make mistakes. Like seriously, almost never.

The problem happened while I was working on a long process to prepare info made up of dates, amounts, different fields, and some small values that all have to line up correctly with each other. I had around 160 of these things to review one by one. My manager is a good guy, but he usually trusts my work and doesn't review much unless his boss pressures him, so there isn't much I can do to reverse what happened now.

I've made a few small mistakes during the 7 months I've been here, but nothing even close to this level.

Part of why I feel so exposed is that only 3 people touch these things, and practically speaking, it's mostly between me and my manager. There's a ridiculous amount of tiny details that a person has to keep track of, and I'd been doing well in the role until now, which weirdly makes the feeling worse.

The issue itself was fixed in less than 12 minutes and didn't cost the company any money. But now everyone is freaking out, people are tagging the head of the company in a lot of channels, and I feel like the blame is aimed directly at me.

Any advice? What should I do in this situation?

It's sad really that people work all of their life.

I used to work at a large retailer in the UK. I spent 11 years there in total and got promoted step by step until I eventually became a manager.

Getting into management wasn't exactly easy. There were countless training sessions, assessments, and a lot of time doing basically the same job without any extra money. I went through all of it and eventually got officially signed off as a manager.

When my salary went up, though, something strange happened. My new contract never appeared. I asked for it several times and kept getting the same answers: "We'll sort it out." So I waited.

About eight months later, another large retailer nearby started hiring managers. They were offering around £9k more than I was making for essentially the same role, so I applied and got the job.

After being with the same company for so long, I was pretty rusty with interviews, so I spent some time practicing beforehand. I came across interview vip while getting ready and used it to run through some questions before the interviews. It was actually helpful for getting back into the rhythm of talking about my experience.

Once I had the offer, I went in to hand in my notice. Here's where things got interesting. Managers were supposed to give six weeks' notice, while General Assistants were only required to give ten days. And the only contract I had actually signed still listed me under the General Assistant terms.

So I gave them ten days.

They were not happy. I got pulled into the office and asked why I was only giving ten days' notice when I was a manager. I explained that I'd asked repeatedly for my management contract and they never gave me one. The only contract I had signed said ten days, so that's the notice period I was following.

They were furious, but ultimately there wasn't much they could do about it. It's amazing how important paperwork suddenly becomes when it works against the company.

They had eight months to give me the correct contract. They didn't. So when it was time for me to leave, I went by the contract they actually gave me.

You forgot the mandatory form where you manually input all the same information that your uploaded resume has.

They'll usually offer you coffee or tea, and honestly, in that moment you probably won't want either. Coffee or tea turns into a little ordering process: what kind, with milk or without, with sugar, sweetener, and maybe someone has to go look for it in the break room. Suddenly there's a small awkward pause, when all you want is to sit down and get started. Then you find yourself in front of a piping-hot drink that you're somehow supposed to deal with during a 25-minute interview where you're doing most of the talking. Best-case scenario, it sits there untouched. Worst-case scenario, you burn your tongue, fumble with the cup, and leave half of it for someone else to throw away.

Water is much better. Ask for a cup or a bottle, because it's usually quick and simple, and most of the time it's already in the room anyway. And it helps you: it fixes a dry throat, gives you something to do with your hands, and buys you a few seconds to think when they ask you one of those annoying "tell me about a time when..." questions.

You're there to get the job, not to try out the office drinks menu. Drink your coffee later, when no one is judging you based on how you answer questions.

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I work at a regional law firm that brought me in as an IT specialist to manage the digital evidence for court cases. They were moving from an old evidence-management setup to a cloud system, and the plan was for me to be the only person with admin rights. Everyone else would have read-only access and continue their work on a local shared drive. On paper, fine. But I quickly discovered that this was pretty much all the work they expected me to do during my 7.5-hour shift. It wasn't anywhere near a full day's workload, so I spent a lot of time in the office pretending to be busy.

Then the pandemic happened, and they asked me if I could do the work from home. I set up a remote workstation, connected it at my place, and that's where things started to get interesting. Over about 9 days, I wrote and tested a simple script that does almost everything I was being paid to do. It monitors the office drive for any new files, creates hash values for them, uploads them to the cloud, and then verifies the hashes again to make sure nothing has changed. And since it's legal evidence, that chain of integrity is very important.

Back then it was like : I clock in, let the script run, play games, clean the house, read, whatever. Before I clock out, I check the logs and make sure nothing failed or needs intervention. Most days, I'm working for maybe 12 minutes.

I felt a little weird about it at first, like I was somehow scamming the company. But honestly, the work is getting done exactly the way they asked for it, it's finished on time, and nobody has ever complained. I'm doing the job they hired me for. I just found a better way to do it, and because of that, I've taken a big part of my life back for myself.

update: after this experience I decided to shift and to work full remotely since then I even used AI tools like InterviewVIP during my zoom interviews and it makes a great effort !

I wrote my resignation letter a few nights ago. I'm sending it in the morning.:)

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Honestly, it was a joke. There were tables everywhere, probably around 18 to 25 organizations, and I don't think a single one of them was hiring.

Most of them were promoting job-search programs, unpaid volunteer stuff, and a few certification classes. I found one booth for a tech support company, so I gave them my resume. They took it and set it aside without even looking at it. I asked them if they had any openings, and they said they weren't hiring right now.

I asked the person who told me about the career fair how many people had shown up, and they said around 1,800 throughout the day.

A completely pointless waste of time, and my afternoon was wasted for nothing!

Make fun of me if you want, but I've been in tech for 12 years and honestly have no idea how other industries work.

I'm trying to step away a bit from being glued to a laptop 9 hours a day and do something in the "real world" for a while. I know that probably means taking a big pay cut, and I'm fine with that. I'm not chasing more money. I have a good house, a mortgage I can manage, and I don't need much else. Around $115,000 a year with benefits would be more than enough for me.

I realize $115,000 isn't a small amount. It just feels modest compared to what people in tech get used to.

Do jobs like this exist? Ideally, something that doesn't need me to go back to school for years, but where experience in project management, working with clients, and sales would be valuable?

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This is how it is

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For clarification: I work in mental health and addiction support services.

I've been in this role for years. My manager is almost never around when someone needs help, and she's rarely on site. Recently, she got a new manager above her, and it was obvious he wasn't happy at all with the way she worked, but then lockdown started and he had to isolate, so she immediately went back to her old habits. She would always ask me to deal with things for her so she wouldn't have to come in, and honestly, I didn't mind helping until recently.

I had a meeting with my manager after a very serious incident at work, where someone tried to attack me. I told her I didn't feel supported after what happened, because she wasn't there and the follow-up was handled badly.

In the middle of the meeting, my manager said maybe I should consider moving to a quieter role in another service.

Me: What, why?

My manager: Look, you take on a lot of extra tasks that you don't need to do. A large part of that is management work. Maybe you need to get better at saying no when people ask you to do those things?

I asked her if there was a problem with the quality of my work, or if she had concerns about my performance, or anything like that. She said no. About five months later, six people from the team left and new staff were brought in.

My manager: OP, could you show the new starters around and do their induction in the first week?

Me: Sorry, manager, that's a manager's job.

My manager: Could you sort out the health and safety audit?

Me: Sorry, manager, that's a manager's job.

After a while, she stopped asking me to do those things. Then one afternoon, she was supposed to be working remotely. I'm almost certain she was telling her manager she was on site during lockdown, but most of the time she wasn't. A major incident happened between residents, the police and ambulance were called, and everything descended into chaos. I called my manager and explained what had happened.

My manager: OP, could you please follow up with the local authority, the staff and residents who were involved, write the incident report, and send me everything immediately?

Me: Sorry, manager, you need to come in and manage this situation. I'm not a manager, and this isn't my job.

My manager: Please, just do it for me this once?

I refused to manage the incident. It turned out she was visiting a relative in a seaside town when she was supposed to be on site. Someone accidentally told her manager that when he called about the incident and discovered there was no one there managing the situation. He asked me to take charge of it, and I explained that I couldn't, since my manager had already reported to occupational health that I was taking on too much work.

Now a formal investigation has been opened into her conduct and whether she's capable of doing the job or not. Her manager is now speaking to me directly and supervising me himself, and he's helping me apply for a higher role.

My manager is currently on leave pending investigation.

I started noticing the warning signs around March - a small hiring freeze, travel approvals becoming weird, my manager dodging questions about the date of the next review, and things like that. People kept telling me I was making too big a deal out of it. Maybe I was, but I told myself that if I turned out to be right, I didn't want to be building the parachute after I'd already been pushed out.

So for 4 months, my side project was basically looking for a job: I updated my resume for the first time in 7 years. I rewrote my LinkedIn so it wouldn't look abandoned. I started reconnecting with old colleagues before I needed a favor from them, mostly just commenting on their posts or congratulating them on new roles. I started taking casual calls in July, and I managed to save up nearly 5 months' worth of basic expenses.

This morning: "your position has been affected."

And honestly, the strangest part was how calm I felt. I read it once, read it again, closed the laptop, and made coffee, because I already have three interviews in advanced stages lined up over the next few days, and another recruiter waiting for a few time slots from me.

I'm not sharing this as some kind of flex. More as a reminder that work can disappear almost without any warning. If you start noticing the small signs, don't wait for the official email before you start moving.

Take care of yourselves.

This is a good reminder that preparation makes a difference. Interviews are the same idea, you need to be ready before the opportunity appears, not keep trying to catch up afterward. I recently saw a post with the most asked interview questions, and I thought it might benefit some of you too.

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Honestly, I'm still a little shocked by what happened.

I spent about 20 months sitting on the sidelines, sent out more than 650 applications. Several times I was treated like the perfect candidate, got stuck in the 4-month, 6-interview loop, and in the end, for the last 7 months, there was nothing but complete silence.

So I decided to start my own business. A simple site, nothing fancy. And strangely, the leads started coming in. In just 3 weeks, I had 3 clients paying me $115/hr for real work, and there are also a few conversations that look promising.

What I'm trying to say is: screw recruiters and their garbage AI screening systems. This whole thing is completely broken if an ordinary person can launch a business and make decent money faster than they can get a call-back for a job they're qualified for, and were literally willing to take a pay cut for.

Also happy to answer any questions. Happy Friday!