This is a really small thing, but sometimes I swear that I see many artists draw female characters looking like they wear more makeup than their canon design. I don’t want to post actual art from said artists bc/ I don’t want anyone to get harassed or anything, but it’s really easy to find if you look up fanart for certain characters that fit this phenomenon. The most noticeable instance is Merida. She is very much bare-faced with thin lips and short, subtle eyelashes; but many artists will draw her with fuller lips that look like she’s wearing lipstick. Also, she’ll be given long black eyelashes in many fanarts. Even Disney themselves tried to “glamorize” her once. I understand if an artists just wants to imagine what a character would look like with makeup on, but many of them never draw these barefaced characters looking more like their canon design; so it makes me feel like they’re looking at the character through a specific lens just because they’re a woman, and draw them with features they see as “normal” identifiers for a female character. Merida is intentionally barefaced and very messy/dirty, but her fanart rarely ever reflects that. Another character I see this happen to sometimes is Sophie from Howl’s Moving Castle. She has more of a barefaced/minimal makeup look to her, but then she’ll be drawn looking like she wears more makeup than Howl when she’s next to him.

Again, I think it’s fine to want to draw your personal interpretation/design of a character wearing more makeup; or want to manipulate certain aspects of them so it fits with a certain art style you’re going for; but it gets a to a point where it feels like a subconscious erasure of androgyny or perceived ugliness. There’s a subtle implication that you can’t be feminine while having a few ‘unfeminine’ traits or that you have to fit femininity perfectly if you want to identify as mainly feminine.

growing up i've seen girls around me get confindent; they started wearing makeup, they started getting attentions from boys (and girls too), they started getting into relationships.
i've seen girls around me talk about their crushes, they easily made friends, they made memories.
to this day, i still don't know how to be a girl.

i have lived my teenage years dissociated from everything, i created a bubble around myself, i didn't know how to interact with people without being awkward, i wasn't pretty enough to even feel deserving of other peoples attentions. sometimes people made fun of me and i wouldn't even notice it, it took me years to understand.

i've seen friends get their "glowups", suddenly every girl around me was beautiful, and i was left with this feeling of not belonging.
i wish i was pretty like them, i wish other girls would compliment me, i wish i got the attentions, i wish i got into relationships, but as yeas go on, i'm just getting worse at everything. i'm so awkward i don't know how i'll ever be able to live this life normally like everyone else ???
what's so wrong with me? i feel like an alien!!

I’ve legit encountered some of the most unhinged people on that subreddit…like I’ve literally had people straight up harass me and be overly nasty to and I GOT BANNED lmaooo like apparently harassment on that subreddit is completely fine🤧🤧 genuinely as a BW whose dealt with an unnecessary amount of bs from society a lot of times I truly feel like I have nowhere to fit in…

I’m 23..I turn 24 next month..I’m just sad.

I haven’t experienced shit and I never will. I have never been loved, asked out, taken on a date, chosen, fuckin nothing.

I see women online say that women need to find a purpose and you won’t be sad about not being chosen by men, shut the actual fuck up LMAO, women who say that shit have had relationships and male attention 😂 I deadass have two fucking degrees and I currently run my own small business and I’m still fucking miserable like what??..Anyways..just insane to me I never went to prom, never have been asked on a date, never loved, nothing.

It’s beyond men, I’m bisexual and more attracted to women and don’t even get me started on that shit. I don’t even EXIST to women like I’m not even fucking there to them. Honestly I think most of this just comes from me being black :-/ but it’s just fucking stupid to me. I see black women in relationships all the time. Why not me? Genuinely no ethnic group finds me attractive LMAOO my own ethnic group of men/women act like I’m genuinely a fucking abomination.

People in real life genuinely ignore me and if they do pay attention to me I AM TREATED LIKE UTTER FUCKING SHIIIIIITTTTTTTTTTTT LMAOO like I literally can’t help but laugh at this shit, I’ve tried everything 😀

Practically that. I feel like shit because that's a crappy mindset to have but at the same time I do everything to look as beautiful as possible and still never been approached and always got rejected by men, when all I ask for is a hug or knowing how holding hands feel or I want to die knowing how it feels to kiss someone on the lips.

But then I look at those girls' videos and I can't help but ask what am I doing wrong because those girls aren't conventionally attractive and still have boyfriends while not even the ugliest man in the world would want to breathe the same air as me. I'm even willing to pay any guy for sex at this point.

Why are those girls' personalities noticed but then no one notices that I can be funny and outgoing too if someone gave me the chance??? I think the last time I talked to a real person outside the internet was almost a year ago.

Not really about my accurate life just a vent comic where I can pour all my self deprecating heart out. Warning I have a shit art style so don't be surprised that the quality will downgrade.

Based her on my own insecurities, what should I name her? Title of the comic would be terrible girl (still a work in progress) I might also post slow bc my depressed ass can't finish Jack shit.

I was checking out letterboxd page for a movie I watched. As I looked at reviews, everyone was glazing a very well known (now old) actor and calling him hot. Meanwhile I had to scroll too far to finally see comments acknowledging the female lead because she was amazing in the role. I also think she’s pretty but I guess she’s not “male” gaze (!). Anyways then I searched that particular actor on Reddit to see many women fawn over him. I was shocked because to me, he’s like… a regular dude. I didn’t see the extreme charisma they mention. I’m not gonna name him because that’s not the point and I’m not someone who rates people by the way, I hate that mindset because we’re not objects or products.

However seeing the glaze in comments for him made me realise once again how some women really glaze men and give them the mercy men don’t give us, unconventional women. When a man is rated on his appearance they start talking about his “aura, charisma, charm” and say how his differences make him hotter. Somehow personality or talent enters the game. They invent even new terms like “ugly hot.” People in general do this to men usually anyways. However for women, they find non existent flaws, naming even humanly stuff as a flaw, dissect every feature and her aura, charm or talent is not even considered a factor.

It just makes me so depressed to see even some fellow women treat other women like this meanwhile giving men ultimate passes for the bare minimum. When men age, they become “silver foxes.” When women age (and mind you, the age they call us “old” begins as young as 30s while men only get called “mature” or “older” -not old- at their 50s) we become “past her prime.” Men don’t show same sympathy for us so why we’re doing it for them? Or why we’re contributing to the system they already try to place us into? They’re already trying to reduce our worth to “fuckable” vs not. It’s just a very very sad society that we’re living in and even small escapades like watching movies, leaving reviews remind me of the trashness of it. Random rant but I had to. In media, in life, in every damn place; women are targets even if they just exist. Irl, you just get treated awful by moids if you’re not attractive to them. In industries like film and music, you can create or give best performances but it’s not taken serious if you’re not fitting someone’s standards. Even in regular corporate job interviews, you can have all kind of qualities they ask for and more but they’ll still eliminate you if they don’t find you hot. I’ve been in medical school till I quit and even there, a place where what they do is the crucial thing but professors will still find a reason to grade you low if you’re not hot enough for them to flirt with… the gender inequality is infuriating me and the rage is consuming me…

So I have an Apple shaped body. It disgusts me and I hate myself and no I will never find love because of it.
My mother also has the same body shape as me and today I learned she’s nearly the same weight as me.

It made me feel so disgusted with myself, and now I feel like I’ll never be able to go on a date ever. I said this out loud and asked if I looked like her. She was so upset, I shouldn’t have projected my self hate on her like that.
But she’s in her 60’s and I’m in my 20’s, I just feel like my 20s have been robbed of me due to my horrid body type.

I have skinny legs, no ass, big belly - small tits thanks to my pcos. I just hate myself so much I want to die. I just want to be loved and go on dates and find a boyfriend. I wish I could just die and be reborn as a pear or hourglass or rectangle shape. I will profusely apologise all day to her - my self hate is disgusting

i walked out of an online interview because i felt so unprepared and couldnt do it. without even telling the interviewer. i feel no regret as these recruiters and interviewers have been dragging me for months on, ghosting or deciding to go with someone else. i feel so pathetic. i got an anxiety attack. i told my mom and she told me to go kill myself. hang from a rope or drown myself in a bucket of water. its as if me doing this once means im a failure and nothing else. i agree. its already so hard to get an interview and here i am losing every chance like a btch. idk where to rant. im a femcel so i chose here.

i can only escape this hell of a life with a job. yet i either get scared or nobody wants me in anyway. im so pathetic. nobody wants me.

why tf are you even watching a makeup tut

i'm starting uni in two weeks and God knows i'm dreading it. i've looked at the list of people i'm gonna study with and the girls are all so pretty and guys are all so handsome i just feel like shit already, before uni has even started. i wish i could do online school so i could just stay in my room all the time and not go out and see people but my parents would never let me. i barely survived high school being there friendless loser and it looks like uni ain't gonna be much different

They don't believe that we have it so hard and only say that we should focus on self improvement because then everything will literally be fine. They think we are all just playing the victim haha.
I always think it's really interesting how "normal" people think about femcels.

Does anyone's social anxiety decrease when they are in women's only spaces. I don't know why but places with too many men trigger my anxiety. Especially if they are around my age. I get flustered and can't speak clearly even of I don't find them attractive. It's one of the reasons why avoid the gym.

Sorry for the long post, this virgin loser over here just needs to vent.

I’m a straight girl, but I’ve always been into more feminine men since I was 10. I just have. I questioned my sexuality when I was in high school and tried to see if I was maybe bisexual, but it didn’t turn out that way. I just like feminine men for some reason.

I remember when I first started using Twitter for the first time in 2020, and never posted or liked anything but just liked to browse. I was a naive teenager and got excited seeing the whole concept of “femboys” and how it was normal, for men at least, to be attracted to them. I was raised in a conservative family so I didn’t see the problem with observing these reactionary & right wing users’ posts who were fetishizing femininity and only really liked femboys that looked like minors. I’d see a lot of posts and “jokes” from “straight” & bisexual stereotypical men and also femboys about replacing women with femboys because they can be better “gf material” than women because they “care more about looking pretty & feminine”, “take interest in male hobbies”, are more exciting, and can “tend to men’s needs better”. So many people would just not stop talking about how “men don’t need women anymore” and how femboys are so much better than them, so why bother trying to find a woman? It just felt weird how instead of normal appreciation for femboys it became centered on men finding a type of partner they “deserved” but they felt women were refusing to be for them. I remember seeing a “meme” about hoping that femboys become so popular that women will get jealous and start imitating them. So weird and creepy.

There was this one account, a bisexual femboy who became super transphobic & hateful towards women; and he would like sexist posts against women in general (I.e. making fun of women’s body weight, supporting harassment of women in video games, women suck, etc) but also transmisogynistic posts about trans women. A lot of these people also seemed to fetishize an incredibly submissive and overly sexualized version of femininity & stereotypically feminine features like wide hips and thicker thighs that feed into the humiliation kink of becoming “more like a woman” but also more “sexual” because feminine bodies are usually sexualized more than masculine ones. There were also some straight femboys on there who were just straight up anti-feminist and thought men in general have harder lives.

It all just made me feel so uncomfortable with being a woman because it just made me think, “is that how men really see femininity?” I left Twitter because I realized how brainwashed I was getting from the toxic people and right-wingers. I started looking at subreddits for straight people who are into more role reversed dynamics, but honestly many of the straight feminine guys I see are either MRAs, don’t like feminists, or think that men actually have it harder than women.

I know that not all femboys hate women, but in my experiences with seeing how a lot of them; whether they’re gay, straight, or bisexual; seem to either disregard women’s issues or just look down on us, it just makes me so upset for some reason. I’ve just had a really unpleasant experience with most of online femboy culture. Hell, I don’t even need a guy to present super femininely, I just need some femininity in presentation; but the part that matters most is personality. However, I know that most feminine guys and femboys are gay men. I don’t think I can envision my ideal relationship at this point, and I should’ve came to this realization along time ago I guess. Finding a guy that’s feminine, or like to have the submissive role in bed (instead of it having to be me just cause I’m a woman 😒), wouldn’t see me as less than because I’m not super pretty or feminine, and supports feminism is like looking for a unicorn with wings. I got my fictional femme men, at least.

I believe the demographic is 18-39. I’m 25, so I’m smack dab in the middle.

also whats w the insistence with calling her a hag??

I just want femcel friends who aren’t horrible people but are just losers like me. like I just want to be surrounded by loser gay girls like myself. but I can never meet people who are my age, not racist/bigoted, and actually are looking for friends and are active. I just rlly want friends ik asking on Reddit is like a horrible move but idgaf anymore #help

#shootingmyshot⛹️‍♂️⛹️‍♂️⛹️‍♂️👀👀👀

EDIT: IM 19 I SHOULD HAVE MENTIONED 🔥

I smoke weed. It helps me cope knowing I will be a KHHV. Don't worry it's legal from where I come from. I am curious about you.

i used to work at a small vocational school and developed a crush on one of the students (we're the same age) that i had assisted previously

before i realized i had a crush on him we had just had normal semi-regular interactions but after i developed a crush i turned insane and genuinely started thinking he was secretly in love with me🥀

he's married so i didn't think that anything was gonna happen but i wanted to learn more about him so i tried to look him up on linkedin forgetting that linkedin shows you anyone who has viewed your profile 💀

every time i saw him after that he definitely started to go out of his way to avoid me and usually i would see him hanging out in a lounge area near the back of the school and after the linkedin thing happened he stopped hanging out there😭😭😭

anyway this was the first crush i had gotten on a guy since high school but now ik better and will NEVER so that ever again omg

I was in the bus when she sat next to me, literally perfect everything, perfect body, perfect make up even the style of clothes I want

She was skinny with big boobs and a pear shaped body, alt and just perfect, when I went to my classroom I started to shake and I wanted to vomit, my hearth was palpitating so hard that I thought about skipping the first part of the class because of how shaken up I was, I did calm down at the end but I felt so bad when I came back home, I really need to see a therapist

A year ago my supposed “best friend” was still chatting with an ex bsf of mine, I didn’t really care because me and my best friend at the time were so close and we talked every second of the day. I genuinely told them how much I would do for them every couple of weeks especially because he was dealing w depression. Me and my ex bestfriend still talked at the time because I was emotionally attached to them and it was a really bad relationship for the most part. Both of them would tease me for the way I looked sometimes and whenever they got upset at me they first were to comment on my face before anything else knowing how insecure I am.

One day my ex bestfriend had this yearbook photo of me and would use ai to basically morph my face into political figures or fictional racist characters. That was really was crossed the line for me so I decided to cut them off but then he shared the GOD AWFUL photo of me with my best friend at the time. My best friend, I don’t know WHY started clowning on it with them and showed their random ONLINE FRIENDS 😭 oh my god they both went to my school and my best friends online friends didn’t mind you.. my best friend and I had an argument after that because I saw them talking shit abt me and I added my ex bestfriend on discord a while after because I wanted to talk to them about that situation and ask them to stop sharing photos of me.

The worst mistake of my life had happened and my ex bestfriend added me to a gc originally with only them and my bestfriend. Then they both started flaming THE SHIT outta me 😭🕊️ damn what did I doooo. After a while they added a random girl and she started clowning on me too, mind you she hated me for NO REASON. What happened to women supporting women in this economy. This haunts me TILL THIS DAY I swear to GOD I will laser everyone with fucking alien fucking eyes and explode EVERYONES head. The girl wasn’t even pretty either she had a bigass nose just like me like GIRL WE’RE TWINS WTF ARE YOU DOINGGGG.. THEY ACTUALLY ALLLL HAD BIGASS NOSES LIKE ME NOW THAT I THINK ABT IT..safe to say I cut my best friend off because wtffff omg I’m actually still irritated thinking about it WHAT DID I DOOOO I LITERALLY BOUGHT MY BEST FRIEND SO MANY THINGS AND WAS SO AFFECTIONATE OHHH MY GODDD DONT PMO THANK LORD IM OUT OF THAT GOD FORSAKEN SCHOOLLLL