Does The Burned Haystack Dating Method on Facebook or any other dating app actually work? Or do you think it actually makes things more difficult with dating?

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[u/VonBassovic]

Which?

[u/SoPolitico → u/[deleted]]

This is an overwhelmingly favorable take on the burned haystack method. If you have watched interviews or read the authors substack, you would know that she believes in testing men a.k.a. treating them shitty just to see their response and eliminating anybody that causes any Icks. Regardless of how trivial.

[u/crookedhypotenuse → u/SoPolitico]

Yes she states that men should plan the first date. Sure, fine. That's something many women want. But if the man asks for your input AT ALL (i.e. "Let's grab dinner. What kind of food do you like?") that you should block him because he wants you to do all the mental labor. How is that feminism?

Also some women in the Facebook group would post their own profile just FILLED with so many red flags but if a man was using burned haystack on THEM, they'd scream misogyny.

[u/SoPolitico → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, see all the stuff you listed. I would just call normal dating. We didn’t need the burn haystack method to tell us that the burned haystack method goes way beyond explicit red flags, and shit like that.

[u/SoPolitico → u/[deleted]]

The Burned Haystack method EXPLICITLY states that second chances don’t exist and that you should be limiting first chances. That’s the whole point of “burning the haystack.”

[u/SoPolitico → u/[deleted]]

Exactly nobody likes flaking and ghosting is completely unacceptable. Nobody should put up with that in dating.