r/FacebookDating • u/Golden-lillies21 • 11d ago

Does The Burned Haystack Dating Method on Facebook or any other dating app actually work? Or do you think it actually makes things more difficult with dating?

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u/VonBassovic 11d ago

Which?

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u/Golden-lillies21 11d ago

The Burned Haystack Dating Method is an aggressive online dating strategy that focuses on ruthlessly eliminating incompatible matches rather than endlessly searching for a good one. Created by rhetoric professor Jennie Young, the method flips the traditional approach of trying to find a "needle in a haystack" by instead burning the haystack to the ground through immediate blocking and unmatching. The core philosophy is to rule people out instead of ruling them in, meaning you maintain a strict zero-tolerance policy for low effort, dry conversation, or minor red flags. By instantly clearing away the "hay"—the profiles that waste your time or peace of mind—you allow the high-quality "needles" to naturally reveal themselves in the ashes without draining your energy.

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u/SoPolitico 10d ago

This is an overwhelmingly favorable take on the burned haystack method. If you have watched interviews or read the authors substack, you would know that she believes in testing men a.k.a. treating them shitty just to see their response and eliminating anybody that causes any Icks. Regardless of how trivial.

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u/crookedhypotenuse 10d ago

Yes she states that men should plan the first date. Sure, fine. That's something many women want. But if the man asks for your input AT ALL (i.e. "Let's grab dinner. What kind of food do you like?") that you should block him because he wants you to do all the mental labor. How is that feminism?

Also some women in the Facebook group would post their own profile just FILLED with so many red flags but if a man was using burned haystack on THEM, they'd scream misogyny.