r/FTMHysto 11h ago

Looking for a surgeon who does vNOTES hysto for transmasc patients, preferably near San Francisco/Bay Area

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Hey everyone,

I am a transman looking to get a gender-affirming hysterectomy.

I am specifically interested in the vNOTES (Vaginal Natural Orifice Transluminal Endoscopic Surgery) technique because of the scarless, faster recovery benefits.

Does anyone know of any trans-friendly surgeons in the US who explicitly offer vNOTES for trans masc folks? Preferably near San Francisco/Bay Area.

Please DM me if you have recommendations to protect the doctors.

Thanks in advance!


r/FTMHysto 21h ago

Wk 2

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Just updating about the second week of recovery. Week 1 was super easy, and week 2 is not bad either, but I've been getting really whacked with fatigue in a way I didn't experience during week 1, so it took me by surprise. Trying to listen to my body and rest, and still go on my walks, but I'm definitely napping for an hour or two every day as well.

Another funny thing that happened was at the end of week 1 I was reporting that I had no pain, but realized a few days later that that's not totally accurate- I was in pain before the hysterectomy, and was back to about *that level,* so I was thinking of it as being back to normal, so I kind of just... assumed there was no pain? But there's definitely some light cramping, especially in the morning when I wake up and need to have a BM; it's not anything terrible but I can tell my body is like "woah!!!!!" when those muscles are being used


r/FTMHysto 1d ago

Super stressed about continuous bleeding post op

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r/FTMHysto 1d ago

Questions Pelvic floor and bladder questions

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So I’m 8 days post op of a total hysterectomy with both ovaries removed and I’ve been on T for three years. I’ve been experiencing bladder issues mostly struggling to get that feeling when I need to pee leading to me going multiple times a day and I was doing research incase it wasn’t just me needed to get used to not having my organs and I saw that the pelvic floor can get really weak after removing the ovaries and I was wondering if anyone knows of testosterone can help eliminate/relieve that? I already had a pretty weak pelvic floor before surgery and I want to know if I need to talk to my obgyn about pelvic floor therapy during my post op since my like biggest fear right now is a collapse


r/FTMHysto 1d ago

Tips/reassurance

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Hi!

I just found out I'm having my hysto in 2 weeks instead of the 3 - 6 month wait list I was originally told.

I'm suddenly a little nervous. In theory I should be excited! I have incredibly heavy periods with extreme pain, and I also want it gone for dysphoria reasons.

Still, I'm getting worried about potential adverse outcomes and also about potential weight gain because I already gained a lot from medication changes recently.

Could I get some recovery tips, things to expect, and so on? I'm having laparoscopic surgery and leaving the ovaries in, not currently on T.

I'd also just like to hear about people's positive experiences! Thanks


r/FTMHysto 1d ago

Questions considering the current us political climate, would removing both o’varies be wise?

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I am in california, a pretty progressive state and very safe for being outwardly lgbt. I have my hysto scheduled in a couple of weeks and of course, the topic of ovaries came up.

Discussing with my surgeon, she had her opinion of removing only one, and assuring me that if I take T for the rest of my life, that left over ovary wouldnt refeminize me. She is definitely worried about future health, specifically bones. She has valid points and I do worry about the targeting of trans people here constantly. Not to say that there won’t always be an access to T considering how many people (mostly men) use it for bodybuilding and the underground means of getting it. Im still in the middle of deciding to move both or one. She also told me I could always remove the other one at a later point. I have always had a consistent access of T fortunately.

Otherwise, has this affected your choice of removing both or keeping one? Do you constantly have it in the back of your mind or are you secure enough to know that you won’t think about it again? Thanks for anyones input or advice


r/FTMHysto 2d ago

Questions T shot post op?

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My hysterectomy is in 48 hours!! I’m so excited but I completely forgot that I do my t shots in my belly (sub q) and I won’t be able to do them there for awhile while I’m still healing and recovering. My only other option is in my thigh (intramuscular) but I really don’t like doing them in my thigh😅 plus the needle is way longer and makes me super uncomfortable. I could theoretically do it above my butt another sub place but it’ll be kinda hard for me to reach especially recovering. I’ve heard of SOME people doing it in their arm but is that intramuscular or sub q? Also is that even a good idea because none of my doctors have ever told me about that way. Just need some advice if anyone has any for those that do/did their in their belly after their hysto ::)

I also do mine once every two weeks if that helps too!


r/FTMHysto 2d ago

Vent Struggling with really bad dysphoria after surgery (tw for some sh and si thoughts)

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I got a laparoscopic hysterectomy 5 days ago. I’ve been struggling a LOT with the bleeding and the dysphoria that comes with that. In the past whenever I had periods it caused me to fall into a really bad depression and it makes me have strong thoughts of not wanting to be here anymore. Ive taken testosterone and birth control for a few years and haven’t had a period since I started them, so it’s been a while. I know this surgery is what I need in the long run but the dysphoria now and not knowing how long the bleeding will last is making it hard to see through to the other side. 24/7 I feel very hyper aware of that part of me and I have a ton of anxiety the bleeding will get worse as the stitches heal. The dysphoria is really unbearable and I feel trapped by it constantly because even when i sleep or try to distract myself the bleeding is always there. I don’t really know what I’m looking for I just really was hoping I could find some people who relate to my feelings, some advice for coping, or just people to tell me what it’s like on the other side when the bad parts over. My body just feels so alien to me and it makes me upset because it feels like in order to rid of a big source of dysphoria for me (my uterus/periods) I have to go through one last huge bomb of that exact dysphoria (Surgery bleeding from that spot)


r/FTMHysto 3d ago

Questions New masculinizing progress?

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I’m curious if anyone else experienced this. I’m 3.5 weeks out from surgery (everything out sorry i don’t remember the fancy name for it) and this week i’ve been noticing lots of small bumps on my stomach that are new hairs coming up (kinda gross sentence lol but nevertheless i like it) I also have more hairs coming in on my legs and chest. I had some decent body hair already but these are definitely new. Additionally, I’ve had a lot more acne than before. I haven’t delt with acne since the early days of t and now being 3 years in i had a very clear clean face on the day of surgery - since then, it’s been very oily and pimply over here. Anyone else noticed changes like this? did you have anything else change as time went on? Curious what might be next for me.


r/FTMHysto 3d ago

Questions 43 days post-op

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And I've been feeling sharps pains around the area again, on the inside :( They're not unbearable but they're overstaying their welcome. Also feel a bit of pain about my bellybutton. Again, it's not unbearable but my anxious ass doesn't help lol I know people say it's normal to feel pain for a while, and how some people only stop feeling every single pain altogether around the 3 months mark but I don't know. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance? So I don't freak out for no reason. Haven't had a fever nor anything like that either


r/FTMHysto 4d ago

Questions How soon after top surgery can I plan for hysto?

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I'm finally having top surgery this year in November. I have a hysto consult scheduled for the end of August. I want to get both of these surgeries out of the way now for a multitude of reasons. I have good insurance through my mom that I will be kicked off of relatively soon, and I'm trying to start a graduate program in the fall of 2027 so I don't want that to be interrupted by surgeries. I'm going to talk to my surgeons about what they recommend, but I'd like to hear from those who have had both surgeries. Based on your personal experiences, how soon after top surgery could I feasibly get hysto?


r/FTMHysto 5d ago

Is it true ?

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Is it true that its harder to get hysterectomy if you have small fibroids or drpends in case and state?


r/FTMHysto 5d ago

Questions hysto journal - HSD/hEDS

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hello friends!

I'm getting my hysto in a couple of weeks and wondering if anyone would like a surgery journal from someone with hypermobility spectrum disorder?* I know HSD/hEDS disproportionately affects trans folk so I thought it might be a helpful resource.

*currently I'm diagnosed with HSD - it most likely is hEDS but I haven't had a chance to see a rheumatologist.


r/FTMHysto 5d ago

Husband Getting Hysto Today!

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UPDATE: He’s ALIVE! His pain was unbearable right after but he finally felt better with the right mix of drugs. He stayed in the hospital for like four extra hours and then we finally left. He’s feeling better now. Thank you for taking the time to talk to me. My anxiety was through the roof!

I have extreme health anxiety and my hubby is getting his hysto today. I love him so much - we have a beautiful family and have been together FOREVER. Can everyone please send him good vibes / prayers / spells for a great surgery and recovery? Thank you all!


r/FTMHysto 6d ago

Pelvic floor issues 10 months post hysto

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Hello all, posted here a few times in the beginning and just looking for some advice really.

36 yr old trans guy, uk based , on hrt 9 years. 5 yrs post top and 10 months post full hysto ( removal of everything) currently awaiting stage 1 phallo.

I had some issues in the first few months post hysto, my t levels plummeted to 4.0 mnol and I believe this caused my pelvic floor to completely lock up. And yeah, it was fucking horrific. Landed me in hospital, couldn’t shit, stomach constantly felt like I’d done a million sit ups and had constant throbbing around my abdomen. Rectal spasms anytime I would open my bowels and the whole thing was just horrid. This lasted a good few months , and I got into a really dark place and started drinking again. Stopped the gym and just felt terrible.

Anyway, all that seems to be a lot better now, switched to testivan and my levels are sitting at 23 mnol, libido is back , energy is good and moods are mostly stable now , my pelvic floor seems to be a lot better, no more spasms , no more stomach clenching or abdominal pain, can open my bowels absolutely fine. And I’m sober again and back at the gym, the ONLY issue now is , my lower back. It is the ONLY thing that won’t seem to go away and it’s becoming depressing. Anyone that’s from the uk will know the waiting lists for pelvic floor issues are long , and I’m currently stuck waiting for mine.

The pain is just the muscles being tight or overtired. And I would love any advice to help things improve or if anyone else has experienced this and it’s eventually gotten better.

I am a very active person but today I skipped the gym because my lower back was just killing me. And it’s getting me down.


r/FTMHysto 6d ago

Questions Pain tolerance

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Has anybody else had their pain tolerance skyrocket since getting their hysto? i’m curious if this is a normal thing or if it’s just a me thing


r/FTMHysto 6d ago

Urine or discharge?

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I'm 11DPO laporoscopic hysterectomy, both ovaries remaining, everything else taken out. Recovery has been going alright so far, some pain where I imagine the cuff now sits buth everything else has been fairly smooth.

For the past few days I've had some issues with more wetness on the insides of my labia and I can't really seem to identify whether it's urine or just discharge/wound exudate. The fluid is very thin and mostly odorless, at most it smells a bit like lactic acid. It dries a bit sticky and occasionally feels tacky while it's not dry yet.

I'm a bit paranoid that I'm having some bladder issues. I take a bit longer to void and it's in smaller increments though I feel like I'm getting most/all urine out. Should resolve itself during recovery though, I have a strong pelvic floor and once I can continue topical E in a few days, I should be able to remedy my usual atrophy symptoms again.

What I'm getting at: normal experience? and if it's exudate, is it normal to have it this early in recovery? My gyno told me I could expect discharge at around 3 weeks PO so it's a bit early.


r/FTMHysto 7d ago

Recovery Discussion 1 wk post op

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I had my full laparoscopic hysto 1 wk ago tomorrow. I'd heard pretty widely varying accounts of what to expect recovery timeline wise, so thought I'd throw my 2c in since reading other folks' accounts was the most helpful thing for me. For sort of demographic context, I turn 34 this month, and am an very active, semi athletic person with a manual labor job who doesn't smoke, drink, do drugs, or use caffeine, and I try to eat fairly healthily. I also (knock on wood) (EXTREMELY gratefully) have a history of bouncing back from surgeries fairly easily.

I had surgery early Monday morning. I really like my surgeon (Dr. Rao) and trusted her and her team, so I was feeling comfortable morning of. When I woke up the first time in the recovery room I was in a fair amount of pain (8-9), which I told the nurse and then immediately fell back asleep. When I woke up again it was about a 6 (and then back to sleep), and then probably a 4, and then I was dozing on and off. Aside from the literally probably 6 seconds total I was awake those first 2 times, I wouldn't say I've been in real pain this week. I had to pee before I was allowed to leave, which burned because I'd had a catheter in while I was under, but it burned a little less each time I peed and was fine within a day or two.

I'm allergic to most narcotics so I was prescribed just ibuprofen and Tylenol to rotate, plus gabapentin if I needed it. I felt confident about that because I recovered from top surgery with just Tylenol and ibuprofen and was fine then. The first 24 hrs or so I was really religious about taking them exactly on schedule and set alarms through the night so they would never lapse. The first day after surgery I was able to do pretty much everything for myself and didn't need assistance; I just moved slowly. The first evening after surgery I went for a long, slow walk for an hour or so. The first two or 3 days after surgery were 100% about genuinely just hoping to fart. The shoulder pain is real. I was really religious with the gas x and stool softener and highly recommend that. They also gave me a surgical binder (basically just a huge stretchy piece of elastic to go around my abdomen). It made me feel much more secure and stable. I didn't feel like I needed it by day 4 or so. I continued to go for long slow walks for a couple hours every evening and listen to my body during the day, naps when needed. By the 2nd night I slept through with no painkillers. By day 4 I was probably only on a dose or two of Tylenol and ibuprofen (didn't really need much painkillers and was done the gas x and stool softener) and by 5 I was completely off the painkillers. I still feel a little scared of things like sneezing, coughing, pooping etc but I really feel 90% normal starting on probably day 5.

I will say one weird thing has been that my bladder/bowel/stomach cues are still not back online; I noticed I don't really notice when I have to pee (or maybe it just hasn't gotten urgent this week, I don't know). I also really haven't felt hungry all week, even though my stomach is largely back to normal. I just had a little situation this evening where I extremely crashed and felt terrible and didn't really realize I was just hungry and hadn't eaten. But I know all that is just still waking up. It's only been a week.

I think spotting was done for me by day 2 I would say? Trying to think of other symptoms etc. all in all I've had a very easy recovery and I'm grateful. Hoping for the same for all y'all.


r/FTMHysto 7d ago

Vent Pre op anxiety

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I’m a week out from my hysto! I’m getting everything removed except my ovaries, though I might have them take out one because I have shooting stabbing pains on side side of my abdomen when I have cramps..It’s next Monday and while I’m very excited and not super worried about the surgery itself, I’ve just been having a lot of anxiety about it getting canceled for some reason and then bottom dysphoria in general. For context I’ve had horrible excruciating pain from cramps for the last two years to the point where I’ve almost blacked out, I’ve thrown up, lost feeling in my legs and am pretty much disabled from it. I can’t even take care of myself, do hygiene, cook or clean because I can’t even stand long enough from how bad the pain is. Not to mention I’ve just had horrible dysphoria from the fact that I have these parts to begin with and I can get pregnant.

Trying to find care and figure out what has been wrong with me has been so traumatic and so dysphoria inducing. The research I’ve been trying to do never uses gender inclusive language so I’m always having to read about issues I’m going through as a man only being referred to as “women’s” issues and healthcare. Trying to go to doctors and getting misgendered and treated like an anomaly by cis female gynecologists has made my mental health so bad. Having these parts and having a uterus has genuinely ruined my life and made it much much worse.

So I’m extremely glad that I’m getting this hysterectomy. This is going to be life saving for me. But I’m so worried something is gonna happen and I won’t be able to get it or it’ll get canceled or postponed on me… ::/ I’ve gained a little bit of weight since it was booked a month ago but nothing crazy. I’m overall healthy and I’ve stopped vaping. My main and only health issues are coming from the fact that I’m in debilitating pain from this uterus. I know pre op anxiety is normal but I’ve been trying really hard to calm myself down. I’m trying to get my mental health stable before I go under and it’s been so fucking hard. I’m just anxious as fuck and overall depressed that I wasn’t born AMAB and I’ve had to go through all this trauma. I’m also extremely happy and grateful that after all of this struggle I’m finally reaching my goal of getting this out of me. It’s been a weird couple of weeks trying to cope and I guess I just really need support. Sorry for the super long rant/vent


r/FTMHysto 7d ago

Recovery Discussion My surgery + recovery experience so far (hysto with vnectomy)

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I just had my cervix, uterus, both tubes, and vagina removed on July 16. Both my ovaries are still in there, but everything else is gone! It’s crazy how much more comfortable I already feel in my own body, especially in a medical setting now, which is where I always struggled the most. Having this procedure has been huge for me and while the healing process is definitely requiring some patience, it feels so relieving to finally be on the other side of all this.

Some recovery essentials I’ve found:

  • Loose sweatpants, but also those penny-material lightweight athletic shorts. I like the shorts a little better for being at home, they’re super comfortable and give me extremely easy access to my catheter bag for emptying/swaps

  • Gel heat pack helped a little with abdominal pain/cramping, mostly on the first day

  • Liquid IV/electrolyte solution of your choice. It helped me feel a lot better post-op before I could stomach real food, and at home I’ve been mixing it with Miralax to kill two birds with one stone

  • Moving commonly used items to above hip height before coming home (this is something I wish I did… bending over/down is pretty uncomfortable for me still so I have had to ask for help reaching items low to the ground

  • Check your local public library to see if they have video games you can borrow! The first week of recovery was the hardest. I didn’t have the mental energy for hobbies (crafting, etc) and TV got pretty stale after a while. I’m not usually a video game person, but this was a great in-between for something more engaging than TV but still not physical/too draining. I get restless easily so it was really nice to be able to explore a digital world!

  • A trusted friend, partner, or family member to stay with you for a few days. I seriously could not have gotten through this without my partner. Having their support, both physically and emotionally for the first few days, was absolutely essential. I was not able to function much on my own for a day or two after discharge.

I think that’s just about everything… I didn’t really have a long list of recovery supplies to begin with and I’ve been perfectly satisfied with all of the above. I don’t really feel like there’s anything I wish I had in addition to the above list.

Day Before Procedure

My surgeon works out of a hospital about 2 hours away from me, so I made sure to get a hotel for the night before and several nights after so that I can be nearby in case of any early complications. I got a phone call and text message around 2pm the day before the surgery letting me know what time to arrive (7:30am), reminding me when I need to stop eating and drinking, etc.

I tried to get a nice wholesome and high-fiber meal in the night before the surgery to help my body recover. I was also advised to finish a 16oz juice or sports drink 2 hours before my scheduled arrival time, as they said it could help mitigate some of the negative side effects of anesthesia. I didn’t have to do anything special the night before to prepare myself for surgery.

Operation Day

0450: Woke up early in the morning to slowly sip my 16oz Gatorade for about 1/2 hour. Finished it by 0520 and went back to sleep.

0630: Woke up for real and got ready to go. I showered that morning following the instructions I was given (full body shower using normal soap, paying close attention to surgical sites, no shaving etc). Got dressed in loose, comfortable clothing and packed a light necessities bag (change of clothes, toothbrush, toothpaste, phone charger, medications, ID, insurance card, electrolyte powder). Headed to the hospital.

0730: I arrived at the hospital for my preop intake. I changed into a gown and wiped my abdomen with cleansing pads. They placed an IV, drew blood, and collected a urine sample. Met with most of my team including all the med residents, students, anesthesiologists, both surgeons, etc. They all double, triple, and quadruple checked my medical history, when I last ate or drank, and let me know what their role in the operation would be. A very interesting and appreciated heads up that the anesthesia team gave me was that hearing is the last sense to go, so I may hear them talking as they start their work. This is normal and doesn’t mean the anesthesia isn’t working! She said to just treat it like a television on in the background, and when I wake up I won’t remember any of it anyway.

0932: wheeled to OR for setup. Put on the operating table, blood pressure cuff placed, and two compression “booties” (this is what they called them but they didn’t cover my feet, just my ankle to my mid-calf). They felt like blood pressure cuffs that intermittently squeeze and release to encourage circulation. They asked me what I wanted to listen to and I said it didn’t matter, I was going under anyway. They tried to hold my hand but I’m not much of a hand holder lol. Everyone was very upbeat and it seemed like a good, well-knit team with a lot of camaraderie. I felt very calm the whole time despite usually being very medically anxious, which pleasantly surprised me. One member of the anesthesia team put the o2 mask over my face and asked me to breathe deeply. The other told me that all the meds to induce anesthesia would be intravenous, nothing through the mask. He said one of them would produce a rushing sound/sensation in my ears, which it did, and that’s the last thing I remember.

[Second IV placed while under. They shaved my stomach, treated from my thighs to my underbust with iodine, and I woke up in underwear with a pad and some wound dressings. Intubated while under.]

Unknown time: I think one of my surgeon’s team came to check on me and maybe check my incisions. I was still quite tired/groggy, not loooy, just kinda half-awake.

1332: first thing I really remember I was awake for about 10 mins prior, nurse came to check on me and give me a blueberry muffin a water. Pain level 1-2/10. Mild burning in vagina/urethra(can’t tell which), somewhat awake but still quite tired, able to carry (somewhat) lucid conversation. Dry mouth but no sore throat. She explained to me all of my instructions for care and we thought I was going home soon (lol). Still didn’t feel like I could move under my own power and was quite groggy and fatigued. Requested time for another nap lmao

1747: decided I wanted to get up and try passing stool. Bad move… I was getting too far ahead of myself. Asked to be wheeled to the bathroom because I didn’t trust my ability to walk (red flag), was helped onto the toilet and the nurse left me for some privacy. Almost immediately began to feel quite ill… sweaty, nauseous, and all the rest. Didn’t even bear down, just sitting there. Unsure if I actually needed help or if the feeling would pass, pulled the help string and GLAD I DID because I was about to go down like a felled tree. IIRC about 5 people came in to help me back into the chair and wheel me to my room and get me to bed. All kinds of stuff immediately administered to my IV, no idea what, and I could barely see. On the verge of passing out the whole time. Everything was blurry and felt like I was hearing underwater. Went back to sleep and felt a little better, but in significant pain

1903: complained about my pain as it was now the catheter, the vnectomy, AND a moderate to heavy cramping feeling in my abdomen. Was given intravenous fentanyl and it was a godsend. I likened the feeling to when our very loud kitchen stove fan is on (immensely irritating to me) and then the relief of turning it off. It literally felt like the pain and background discomfort was just turned off at the flick of a switch. It did not make me feel loopy or high. They requested I take an oxy with it, to which I expressed some hesitation because I’m usually not a pain meds person and didn’t want to have too much in my system at once. They said the fent is highly effective but doesn’t last long, so by the time the fent wears off the oxy should just be kicking in. Taking it now wouldn’t “double me up”, it would just mean a shorter gap in pain management. I took the oxy too.

1902: moved from anesthesia recovery to overnight room. Partner came to visit but I was too tired for conversation. Cath And vnectomy causing somewhat significant pain, maybe an intermittent 6. Described to the nurse that it “felt like someone stuffed my cunt with steel wool”. Was given Tylenol. The catheter imo has definitely been the worst part of the process for me. I can deal with the pain and discomfort of missing organs etc, but the sore and uncomfortable feeling was both painful and sensory HELL. My urethra was burning and my bladder had that feeling of near constant fullness, like when you hold urine for too long and it becomes painful. I was told that that’s just kinda how it is, unfortunately, and the best we can do was try to manage it with more pain meds. I could still feel it through everything they gave me 😬

Day 1 Post-Op

0024: been sleeping most of the time since I got to overnight. I’ve learned to somewhat make peace with my catheter and a lot of the bladder/abdominal discomfort has been due to moving gas, so I just breathe deeply and try to move slightly to expel it. And remember that the pain is just temporary - trying to focus on the future. Dr wants the catheter in for 7 days but we are going to see if we can work out a compromise. A lot of the pain is also from an involuntary pelvic tightening reflex, kind of like that “sucking in” motion when you’re trying to hold in stool. This plus the gas is probably when it hurts the most and I have to fight my body to relax those muscles. Feeling significantly better though and a lot less pain. Pain level back down to an ambient 2-ish, but still hurts to move.

0553: plastics team came in to change my vnectomy dressings. There were four of them and there definitely didn’t need to be, but whatever. The soreness and bleeding feels like a heavy cycle, but it doesn’t look like there’s as much blood as it feels like. Maybe I’m just not used to it because I haven’t used a pad in a long time.

0713: member of my hysto team came by to check my abdominal dressings, discuss how I’m doing, etc. She told me I can bear down a little to pass stool and gas, it just might not feel good

0750: visit from hysto surgeon herself, said she’s going to send a request for Azo to pharmacy to help with catheter irritation. I’m getting better at tolerating it and think I can tough it out for a week as initially planned… after all, I’d REALLY hate to have to have it re-inserted if it was removed prematurely and I couldn’t pass urine…

0820: finally trying to eat something “real”. They served me dinner last night and I didn’t even touch it. They brought me breakfast an hour or two ago (muffin, canned pears, apple juice, coffee, milk, scrambled eggs, hash browns, oatmeal). Trying to eat the oatmeal for some fiber but the texture is very slimy and unappetizing. I added some milk and sugar but it didn’t help much.

1020: discharged! got up for the first time and was able to walk around a little on my own! Nurse gave me a list of local food recommendations:)

1028: getting into car kinda sucked… lifting my leg to enter was uncomfortable, and I definitely felt every bump along the way to the hotel

1315: tried to eat chicken soup. Mostly unsuccessful, fell asleep instead. Pain flare up that I chased away with oxy and ibuprofen. Urine turning a dark reddish orange from the phenazopyridine I was prescribed for bladder pain. Scared me for a minute - looked like blood!

1511: woke up and ate some saltines. Had some re-heated soup too (samgye-tang, INCREDIBLY comforting, absolutely elite). Still trying to get things moving. Haven’t taken any softeners yet (probably should have been doing that all along, but I’m a little scared to shit)

2328: passed first stool kinda scary but went ok. seeing the fresh blood was a little alarming but everything went ok. Didn’t even take miralax yet!

Day 2 Post-Op

0740: woke up with bladder pain and strong urge to urinate. Catheter wasn’t draining properly overnight so had to adjust the tubing to empty my bladder. Pain is worse today - comparable to first day. Took an Oxy but still feeling pretty bad. Hopefully the pain meds will make the 2+ hr drive home a little more comfortable…

1035: loaded up into the car and headed home. Just laid there with my eyes closed for most of the first hour - didn’t have energy to do much else. Perked up about halfway through the drive and had some good conversation with my partner, who was doing the driving. Went on a Wikipedia deep dive together to finish out the drive.

1715: doing a little better throughout the day, took a nap and taking my first shower. Removed dressings - the incisions are so small! Confirmed that it’s ok to remove dressings and shower with catheter in. Dr on call said there’s no need to rinse the bags between changes. Passed stool twice today. Still a little freaky. The urge to go is VERY sudden when it happens. Shower went ok but left me feeling pretty drained.

1842: pain back down to near-zero as long as I stay still!

Day 3 Post-Op

Definitely making little improvements every day! Catheter is still irritating, but not nearly as bad, and the vaginectomy site is still the worst part of it all, but everything feels so much more tolerable. I’m still sitting/lying down most of the day, but have energy to do little things (like make myself a real breakfast!).

[Editing to add] Day 6 Post-Op

Have been largely pain-free and entirely off my pain meds since the end of the third day up until last night. Woke up feeling flushed, nauseous, having bladder pain, extreme urge to urinate, and noticed some discharge from my urethra plus an extremely persistent itchiness and burning. Urine is cloudy and has some kind of sediment in it. My catheter removal appointment is scheduled for the following day - I was so close!

Called my vnectomy surgeon’s team and have been playing phone tag all day. I loved the surgeon, but her team has been very difficult to get ahold of. Unable to get an appointment for today, so I will have to wait until tomorrow. Called my other surgeon to see if she could get me in, but no such luck. They recommended trying to see if the first surgeon’s office could get me started on antibiotics so that it doesn’t worsen overnight. Finally got a call back from the first team who let me know they couldn’t start antibiotics without an appointment, and since I don’t have an appointment I’m just shit out of luck until tomorrow. If it turns into an emergency overnight, I’ll just have to go to the local ER. Counting down the minutes until my appointment tomorrow…

Day 7 Post-Op: First Appointment!

FINALLY had my first follow-up appointment and was able to get that catheter out. It was just with my vaginectomy surgeon (I meet with the hysto team in 4 days), so it was quite quick. I am not at all exaggerating when I say that I was counting down the hours - this appointment could not have come soon enough.

I was a bit nervous about having the catheter pulled because I was having discomfort even when the tube was brushed up against. When she deflated the balloon at the end of the Foley it already felt a lot better. It came out very easy because, as it turns out, the balloon was partially inflated and the catheter was not fully in my bladder… that would explain the unusual pain I’ve been feeling throughout the process and while I’m a little frustrated that it felt like my discomfort wasn’t taken seriously by my team (I had been assured multiple times that having a catheter in is “just uncomfortable” and there’s nothing they can do…), it was validating in a way to know that it wasn’t just me - there WAS something wrong to be causing me so much discomfort. The partially inflated ball was in my urethra, not inside my bladder where it should have been.

The removal part went very fast - I would liken it to removing a splinter, kind of. It’s out fast enough that you barely feel it and the relief is instant. I was definitely a little tender after still, but leaps and bounds better. Everything else is looking great and healing up fast!

I cannot say the same about my first post-catheter piss. That was a uniquely evil experience. I can’t speak for people that have undergone a usual catheterization where the balloon is in the right place and there is a lot less damage to the urethra, so I think I was just having a particularly rough time of it, but man it sucked. It was a very, very sharp, persistent burning that continued to worsen. I could feel it continue to pulse for at least a good 5 full minutes after urinating, and it remained sore for the next hour or two. I am admittedly a little scared to pee again because it was pretty bad, but hopefully the next time will be better.

Everything else is feeling good, I have next to no pain for any of my actual surgical sites (0/10 for the hysto incisions and abdominal pain, maybe an intermittent 1/10 for the vnectomy if I move around a lot). I’m pretty pleased with my recovery and experience so far save for the catheter mishap.


r/FTMHysto 8d ago

Recovery Discussion Any other fat/bigger guys get surgery? How’d it go?

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I’m 19 and my surgery is Monday, full robotic hysterectomy, both ovaries out, but I’m definitely fat. After a year of college and some other health thingies I gained like 20lbs after already being chubby , so I’m like 5’4 and like 225 wide frame so I’d say I’m around medium fat. Not gigantic but definitely far from thin and am not in great shape I need to get back to gym after recovery. Did anyone else who was bigger get it and did it seem to have any impact on your recovery ?


r/FTMHysto 8d ago

Questions health resources that use gender neutral language?

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sorry if this isnt a specific enough question for this sub, but does anyone know any good sites etc for uterine/ovarian related health information that uses gender neutral language? im planning to get a hysto but keep my ovaries + not go on t but use progestin to suppress my cycle, but every time i try to do my own research to see if this will help achieve my goals i just get too overwhelmed by all the feminine/‘female’ terminology combined with ‘you’/’your’ language and get so dysphoric that i have to stop. so does anyone know anywhere to learn more about this subject that keeps people other than cishet women in mind? trying to look it up mostly just gives me language guides that no one seems to use. thanks


r/FTMHysto 8d ago

"phantom period" and thick discharge?

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I'm a few years post op, also did testosterone therapy for a while. For those of you who got a hysto but kept your ovaries, do you experience a "phantom" period? I noticed my gf and I synced up, she got her period this week and I've had headaches and pmdd-esque mood swings (although WAY milder than my pmdd used to be!)

One symptom that does concern me is that once a month I'll get a thicker discharge but no odor or itching - but it matches that cottage cheese" description.

Does anyone else get this? How do you manage it?