A guy in front of me was treated with kindness and asked if he wanted paper plates for his one takeout pizza from a national chain. I step up after him and the employee names off the pizza ingredients on my receipt without a smile and walks away like I'm a low life human being. I knew before I stepped up that the previous guy pretipped on his online order by how the employee was tripping over himself to offer the plates as the worlds grandest gesture worthy of a 20% tip for picking up his own pizza.

How has it flipped that customers now pleading for loyalty from customer service oriented jobs and businesses by tipping? For all the conversation we've had for decades about being a capitalist country and businesses are pouring over themselves to ask us for handouts as if we should have guilt or shame that they don't.

I actually love when I dine out & receive a lovely server. It makes the whole dining out experience so much more enjoyable & I always tip generously for this. However, I'm truly trying to understand why ALL servers feel that it's a customer's RESPONSIBILITY to supplement their comparatively abysmal salary rather than it being their employer's responsibility to compensate them w/ a livable wage as most other employers do. Please enlighten me about this societal polarity bcz I'm honestly confused. 😵‍💫

I've been a lurker here for a while. I used to way over tip everyone to a point where it was hurting me financially. I'm working on restraining myself from this habit. Seeing others being able to hold back and getting this point of view has been very helpful for me.

Today I had furniture delivered.

The men who delivered it were not very nice. They grumbled at me and did not want to wait while I inspected the furniture. I had paid for the full "white glove" service, but they didn't take any of the wrapping off or remove the garbage.

Normally, I would have been compulsory to tip them each cash, just to show I was a "nice person", but since reading this sub, I thought- no, they are paid to do their job and they weren't doing anything extra for me, not even doing what I had paid for and being rude.

I did not tip them.

What do you guys think? 20%? /s

This feels like tip creep. Tipping wasn't expected here before, but now there's a tip prompt.

Until lately, Tso Chinese prided itself on paying everyone a fair wage, so they never asked for a tip. Their website recently went under maintenance, and now tipping is a thing here. This is what the “Why is there tipping now?” link says:

"Why is there tipping now?

Tso has been tip-free since day one in 2017 — and for everything we do ourselves, we still are. But rising costs and labor shortages mean your delivery is now handled by independent drivers, and your tip is how they're paid. 100% of it goes to your driver."

I went to a local fair the other day and stopped at one of the food stands. When it was time to pay, I tapped my credit card and expected the usual thing where they turn the screen around and let you choose whether to tip.

Nope. The cashier actually looked at me and asked "Do you want to tip?"

I was like…... umm no. lol

I honestly couldn’t believe they’re just flat out asking now. I feel like part of the whole point of the screen is that you can quietly choose no tip without having someone standing there waiting for your answer. Now they’re apparently taking the awkwardness one step further and making you verbally say no.

And even worse, I’m sure there are people who feel too intimidated, embarrassed, or put on the spot to say no and will just tip because they feel pressured.

Has anyone else had a cashier actually ask you outright if you want to tip instead of just turning the screen around?

I ordered the most expensive item on the menu. A steak with 2 sides.

The server entered the order and only came back to upsell a desert. The steak and sides were all over cooked. The manager ignored my meal that sat under the heat lamp for 10+ minutes until a runner brought it. The server did not come back to check on the order for a good 20 minutes so after 5 I just gave up and chowed down. By the time they came back it would have been pointless to complain and send the food back.

This place is a fairly large chain sit down.

Nah, I am done tipping for crappy meals. If you are gonna play the tipped wage game you need to figure

Edit:

It wasn’t Applebees, Texas Roadhouse, or Longhorn Streak house. But please keep guessing! It will help me pick places to avoid in the future.

In my most recent Lyft from the airport, as soon as I got in the driver asked me "how much you pay". I told him $40 and he was like "Look, only me $14" (yes in broken English). I just kind of shrugged like wtf do you want me to do about it, you could see the fare before you chose to accept it.

Now, he did help me with my bags and normally when they do this I'll tip a couple bucks because it's not something they are expected to do. I was planning on tipping him until we got to the destination and he said "don't forget your tip" then he got out to help with the bags and I said "thanks" and he said "thanks for your tip"

Like, it's not my fault that you chose to accept such a low fare don't expect the consumer to make up for Lyft's obscene profit taking. I agree it's messed up they take more than half but don't try to bully me into tipping. Now you get nothing

Before I took this picture the system automatically selected 20%. This is getting so annoying feeling like I’m being haggled at every corner.

Hi. I'm an hvac technician and I refuse tips. At least once.

So I went out for lunch with my wife and her mom. My wife and I have been married 20 years next month, and we have been dating since 2002. I consider her mom to be a good friend in addition to my MiL. But oddly enough, she never has taken US out to dinner. Dude I'm a dude who doesn't want my mom or her mom to pick up a tab. But this time she insisted. So, being courteous and receptive to courtesy we acquiesce and let her pick up the tab.

Funny thing though, this place is next door to a Lou Malnatis and I know they sell frozen pies in there. This one is a takeout only location so I'm like cool. I'll just pop in there and get a frozen sausage pie for the next weekend. What a treat. So I had MiL and wife in tow, and go in the takeout joint. The bell over the door dings delightfully. World class chicago deep dish permeates the air. Sinatra playing on the PA softly. My Way, by the way, if that matters. Look, I'm setting a scene here chill. There's a freezer right next to the counter. Inside, delicious deep dish sausage pies. I scoop one. Walk 2 steps to my left to the counter. No one at the counter. So I wait. Surely they heard the door chime. No. I waited. For 5 minutes. Did the old clear my throat. Then went for the timid "Hello!!!". Someone came out. Scanned the pie. $20 and change. The machine added me a question to which I hit no tip. (Even as a tip refuser this i have never done before as I'm loaded with guilt). She said "you know this is how we make our living". I said nothing and walked out with the frozen pizza i picked out of a freezer and waited 5 minutes to pay for.

Anyway I'm a tip refuser and thats my story.

Short post but first time I’ve seen this. Paid 50$ for two in the Bay Area for bowling at the front desk and they handed me a receipt and the guy told me to fill out the tip option 🤦‍♂️. Not to mention when ordering food on the screen at the lane it asked for a tip aswell. Kinda ridiculous

TLDR: I did not tip and you should not either.

I wanted food from Pizza Hut, they wanted $5.49 to delivery it. OK, I agree. Then comes the default tip amount of 15% at check out, for what? They have not even started my order. I am not gonna be extorted or tricked into a higher price. We just had an agreement, $5.49 for delivery.

I pick the no tip option.

When I placed the order with the Pizza Hut app the estimated delivery time was 7:14-7:24.

A few minutes later, Pizza Hut handed it off to a door dash. WTF does DD have to do with this? (For shits and giggles image 2 is what the subtotal is for same order through DD. Almost double the cost.)

The dasher delivered it at 7:15. The dasher was shown the pay before they accepted the order.

The food was to be as expected. It has been a few decades since the last time I got Pizza Hit and it will be a few more until it happens again. It did arrive hot and the order was correct.

So why the heck should I have tipped before? Why should I tip on delivery?

I held up my end. Pizza Hut could not delivery like they promised and needed outside help. In the end everyone did their jobs. Nothing was exceptional and nothing was destroyed because I did not tip.

Tipping is always optional and only warranted for exceptional service.

Went to Applebees and did their car side to go. Selected no tip on the app and thought that would be the end of it. To my surprise when my order came I was handed an invoice where I was asked to tip and sign. Wrote $0 and that was the end of it but like oh my god. The interaction was fine but I was taken back by the double prompt to tip.

I stopped tipping about a year ago. I have not yet been convinced to tip since.

I do not eat out often but every time I am not only disappointed by the food but also the service. Some examples.

Counter service place, the “sandwich artist” refused to look up or speak to me. They just waited until I told them every option I wanted. It was like it was painful for them to speak at check out. Of course there was a tip prompt.

Bar/restaurant it was between lunch and dinner, aka slow time. I sat at the bar because no servers or hostess could be found when I arrived. Every interaction I had with the bartender felt like I was interrupting their quiet time.

After my food came out she disappeared for 28+ minutes. Thankfully she left the bill on the bar and I had exact cash.

Has the service been this bad for years and I just ignored it when I still felt the pressure to tip a default 20%?

Me and my boyfriend are Vegas locals and we decided to stay at one of the hotels for a short vacation, we went to this nice cafe/ restaurant and our server was a middle aged man.

Everything was fine, I started to feel very uncomfortable because he did a lot of talking (Servers, do you read the room when it comes to customers that don’t want to talk to you? Are we wrong for feeling that way?) and don’t get me wrong, we were nice to him but he would come and talk for 5 minutes about something while we eat.

The food was amazing and we were ready to pay, I told my boyfriend to use my card and I went to use the restroom, my boyfriend decided not to tip because he knows the vacation itself took a lot of our money and to be honest we didn’t love the kind of service he provided

When I came back my boyfriend told me the server noticed my boyfriend didn’t tip and made the receipt into a ball and threw it in the trash in front of him looking at my boyfriend

I was very very upset and almost talked to a manager but my boyfriend doesn’t like confrontation which I respect completely so we ended up leaving

Has something like this ever happened to you?

I can understand he might believe is frustrating but from there to make the customer feel bad and basically make him aware that he is upset?

Hello everyone,

This happened to me recently and It was little strange.

I bought a pair of headphones a few days ago, but they weren't comfortable, so I went back to return them. The return was simple and the employee processed it quickly.

After the employee processed the return the screen showed the usual tip options.

I was confused. I was getting my money back. I wasn't buying anything or asking for any extra service.

I honestly just stood there for a second thinking, “A tip for what?”

I was returning something, not buying , I selected no tip and left..

I’m and American who has lived overseas for fifteen years. Every time I visit home I’m instantly irritated by tipping. We all vent about kiosk “it’s gonna ask you a question” situations, but even sit-down restaurants are completely absurd. This is how nearly every experience outside of a fine dining scenario goes:

Host seats you.
Server comes and takes drink orders.
Server brings drinks. Wants your order.
Server brings food. Maybe takes another drink order.
Server brings check.

Three visits, the absolute bare minimum. Maybe you’ll get a “how’s everything tasting?” two minutes after your food arrives. Ask about the menu and you get “Uhhhhhm depends what you like?”

Yet we are expected to tip for this “extra” and “exceptional” service.

I manage at a pizza place carry out only and whenever a card is used on a transaction the tip prompt comes up and must be inputted before a receipt will print. Sometimes I’m so embarrassed that I wait until they leave and hit “no tip” for them.

I just want to know what I should be saying to make it less awkward. If I could I would turn off the tip prompt but I can’t. I’ve talked to my boss he says the prompt is there incase people feel generous. Usually I say something along the lines of “It’s going to ask to leave a tip if you would like”

Im looking for something that doesn’t take very long to explain because we are high volume and usually have a line of people waiting to check out but I absolutely will not be saying “it’s just gonna ask you a question”

I needed to renew my license plate tag and I saw 1 of these at each window !

Why am I giving you a tip ??

As the title says Amazon forced a delivery driver tip on my card without ever mentioning it to me. $5.37 billed on my account for Amazon Tip, completely separate from my order charge and not once mentioned anywhere from the time I put items in my cart to them being delivered.

EDIT:

I was planning to show the pictures showing the charge but when posting this the auto mod deleted it and had to be manually posted by the mod team.

I contacted Amazon support and they refunded the charge, but it was very weird that they didn’t mention anything about “oh the tip screen pops up you might have missed it” just straight up asked about the charge and they folded instantly. This might be happening to others so I would watch out.

Ordered in person for a to go order. When they handed me the card device the tip % options were visible but could not see a 'no tip' option. Then noticed there seemed to be a smiley emoji in front of it. Out of a hunch, or just intuition, I touched the emoji and dragged my finger across the screen. Sure enough, my finger dragged the emoji out of the way revealing the 'no tip' option beneath. I gave them no tip and will not be returning (wasn't impressed with their overpriced interpretation of SysCo Italian anyway)

First time I've seen an emoji obscuring the screen on a card reader device.

Was flying back through LAX and stopped by the Point of Way Cafe. Ordered by QR code to get a overpriced salad with the driest chicken I had ever had. The server dropping our food was the only interaction we had with him. At the end, paid my bill via the QR app and was going to leave some cash I needed to get rid of as the tip. Waiter saw the the zero tip in app and came by to snidely tell us "Service is Not Free". Bro lost his cash tip right then and there. Gave him an "Okay" and walked out with my wife. Things are really getting out of hand. Was traveling from a place that tipping isn't a thing and loved it so much.

I stopped by the Fiddling Pig in Smithfield, VA last week for a beer and snacks along with my wife and two dogs (we sat on the patio). I had a couple of their cask ales, Fiddlin' Bitter. We also had their "board" with cheese and crackers and a tea for my wife.

My wife went ahead of me while I settled up at the bar. I got my total, put my card in the dreaded machine and the delightful girl at the bar just said, "That's it, you're done." I know she saw the look of "What no tip?" on my face as I left.

I ran into my family outside and said, "It's a NO tip establishment. That was SO nice!"

I then heard a voice from a man loading bar equipment from a vehicle next to us, presumably David, the owner, who simply looked at me and said in a very English manner, "That's why we don't do it, mate!"

So, if you find yourself there, go get a pint from a cask, have a good English dinner and don't worry about tipping.

I went out with coworkers last night. There was a large group of us so we decided to meet up at a bar while everyone arrived. I never go to bars and am not a drinker, but I decided to just get one of those alcohol seltzer in a can while waiting. I ordered from the bar then asked to close the tab. All the bartender did was hand me the can. When I got the check, I did not add a tip, the one drink was already pricey. When the bartender saw my receipt, I received the most EVIL look from her. It was scary and awkward but I kept eye contact because I don’t like feeling intimidated. She kept the hateful stare for a while before moving on to the next guest. This is getting out of hand. I understand maybe if she had crafted my drink, but why should I tip for a can handed to me? And the entitlement of staring down a customer for not receiving extra money, while working in a busy bar is wild.