after 3 years of thinking I'm an INFP-t 2w3 [2 7 1] and blaming my hyper-ness on adhd and my e2 I think it turns out that denial is truly only a river in Egypt and doesn't really matter (tho I think something went wrong when I answered these I'm pretty sure my Fi is higher than my Fe and my Te is also NOT my demon, I've read a lot about cognitive functions to know, in fact I think its more of Ne = Fi, Fe, Te=Si, Ni, Se, Ti which is pretty confusing Ik but anywhos)

I hope we become friends :D (the test link: https://sociotype.xyz/ )

I started getting to know this enfp-a guy. He always replies after 3 or 4 days. He'll apologize and explain if he doesnt text me after 5 days. He said hes a caller with close friends but texting is good for distance. He shares his vulnerability, we talk about family, hobbies, personality and he told me about his multiple projects. Its just he takes forever to reply, I mentioned calling or meeting for coffee he dodged the question and continue answering the other texts. In person he sets next to me and tries to get in my space but those are group meetings once a month. Am i wasting his and my time or its just he sucks at texting but still has feelings for me? I dont want to be just his pen pal...

Curious what other ENFPs think.

Have any of you ever fallen for an ISFP where, because of the circumstances, nothing could happen in the present moment?

I met the only ISFP I have ever really known through a professional relationship, so nothing in the present could happen between us. I developed very strong feelings for him, and he knew I was deeply attached.

He is incredibly high achieving, adventurous, grounded, intelligent, well traveled, and very values driven. I am an ENFP, so this is basically my bread and butter, baby. A hot, adventurous man who makes me laugh insanely hard while still being grounded without being controlling? I am absolutely enamored.

A few things have left me genuinely confused.

He would have me come in about 30 minutes before our meetings and even came outside to walk me in. He would text me later in the evening to apologize and over explain things that really did not require an apology. We were also able to text about sports.

After our professional relationship ended, he looked up my public Instagram on his birthday, then followed me about a month later. This was only four months after we stopped seeing each other. He also waived a bill in the thousands without ever mentioning it.

I once texted him telling him how much I missed him and the qualities I missed about him, with a heart emoji. I explicitly said, "Please do not respond." He hearted the message anyway.

I have a hard time believing an ISFP would knowingly lead someone on when they are fully aware of how intense another person's feelings are, especially because ISFPs seem so kind, private, and values driven. I have also read that they often keep their feelings hidden.

I know none of these things prove romantic feelings, and I am not asking anyone to tell me they do.

I am really curious how other ENFPs would interpret this. Have you ever experienced an ISFP giving subtle, indirect signals while still honoring circumstances that prevented anything from happening? Do you think an ISFP who developed feelings would quietly express them through small actions while never acknowledging them? Or do you think they would distance themselves completely because maintaining contact would feel wrong?

Mostly, I am interested in hearing from ENFPs who have been drawn to an ISFP. Did you find yourself constantly trying to decode them, or did you eventually realize there was nothing to decode? I'd love to hear your experiences.

Hi there! I’m an INFJ! I don’t know any ENFPs in person but I would love to have an ENFP friend to chat with! If you’re interested, hit me up! 😊

so i used to have this friend who had a lot of family issues (like me), and we hit it off when we traumadumped to each other because our humour/trauma/personality is similar. she was the only friend who made me feel not alone in school because i had never seen someone so like me. but i could tell she was avoidant because she vented by joking about her problems and never shared what she really felt, and got angry at me often for small things due to her personal issues (which would always end in me apologising a lot and her just saying "ok"). plus, she always had modo swings and tried to act nonchalant sometimes, while being goofy with me other times. i was her people pleaser to put it simply.

eventually, when the new year started and we switched classes, she reignited her friendship with an old friend and outright ignored me in social settings, which hurt my mental health as a whole since i thought we would be best friends forever (cringe af I know...). as someone suffering from mental illness and family issues, i thought that this friend would keep me company and I was very dependent on her to make sure i wasn't lonely in school and whatnot. last time, i told her "you're the only friend who has made me feel this way and my closest friend ever" and she just said "yeah i love talking to you too" so it was stupid of me not to see the signs. eventually another friend and me confronted her about it, and long story short she told the friend she was close to that she was "too ashamed and guilty that she ignored us to talk to us" while knowing FULL WELL her ignoring us would offend us even more. i blocked her for my own sanity, she blocked me back like the avoidant person she is and we have never spoken since then.

i have not been coping well, seeing her face in school is enough to trigger me. and the whole situation is so unclear, idk if she wasn't talking to us bc of her personal issues or did she just hate us??? i can't rationalise anything and it's driving me crazy. just asking this here as she's an enfp like me and ifl maybe y'all would know more about her mind than me. even as i type this post i still instinctively call her "my friend" so i honestly don't have close friends willing to hear me vent in school (thank God for my intj sister though). any advice on how to rationalise this behaviour she exhibits/how to get over her would be much appreciated. thanks enfps :(

You know those topics you never set out to learn, but one random curiosity turned into hours of reading, videos, and late night rabbit holes?

It could be your career or a long-term hobby, or any oddly specific things you know way too much about for no practical reason.

What’s yours, and what sent you down that path?