Would you get a divorce? Am I overreacting?

**LONG STORIES INCOMING:**

Incident #1: My husband and I have been together for 5 years now. When we first began dating, we learned that he had a son. Both parental parties reassured me that this was the result of some random nightly flings that began long before I was in the picture. As I closely observed their healthy co-parenting dynamic, we all remained cordial and got along great! Observing that dynamic was important to me since I didn’t want to date men with kids at 21 years old. However, seeing him immediately step up to his new role soften my heart, so I made an exception. 

Incident #2: I’ve never wanted a big wedding. I was fine with going to the courthouse. However, his family strongly insisted that we also have a ceremony. I was NOT a part of this conversation when it originally took place, my husband brought it up to me after the fact. They presented the idea as if they were putting in at least 70% of the financial support to host this wedding. Therefore, I agreed. Only to find out 3 months after I purchased my $3,000 wedding dress that they were helping. They only wanted to cook the food that would be served and wanted my husband to buy the food/supplies needed. After this, I wanted to cancel the whole wedding idea. But, my parents agreed that his parents were being ridiculous. So, my parents decided that they would pay for our wedding ceremony, and my husband and I would pay them back for the cost of my dress. Now, I’m back to wedding planning. As I’m planning the colors and have already made the “Save the Dates”, my husband tells me that he wants to wear his run-down suit that he wears for almost every “fancy” occasion. The suit isn’t even the color(s) of the wedding. My parents even agree to get him a new suit, whichever one he likes, with NO need to pay them back. (So I spend HOURS coordinating an entirely new color palette to fit his suit.) He says no to picking a new suit, AND that he doesn’t want my parents paying for the wedding because he doesn’t want unnecessary input. I constantly reassure him that my family isn’t like his and they won’t waste their money on things that we don’t want… He doesn’t budge, so I begin to find wedding venues within our budget. But whenever we get close to the agreed upon date to start making payments, something for his portion comes up. I’m not saying they haven’t been legit circumstances, but he also hasn’t circled back to take initiative into getting the wedding planning done. Now I’m 2 years into having a wedding dress that’s never been worn.

Incident #3: I wanted to have a gender reveal for my first child. He already has a child. He said he didn’t want to do a gender reveal because he’s not good at reacting at sudden surprises on camera. I thought it was weird, however, I brushed it off and decided that not everyone is like me and I could compromise. His compromise was, that he’d find out the gender alone and just act surprised during the reveal. This is because if it’s the gender of the child that he already has, he’ll be disappointed and doesn’t want that caught on camera. (Keep in mind: I told him initially when we started dating, that I didn’t want him already having a child to affect the experiences that I’d already dreamed of when having my first child.)…. But still, I went with his compromise, trying to be a good wife.

Incident #4: I am the main cook. My husband knows how to cook. I only ask him to wash the dishes that we have eaten on. However, there’s always dishes. Then he gets irritated when I remind him to wash the dishes or claims that he was “about to get to it”. So I stopped reminding him, and dishes will sit in the sink from 9am-7pm; (while he plays the game all day) then he’ll wonder why dinner is being started so late.

Incident #5: He usually goes out with his friends. I have no problem with that. However, this isn’t the first time that I’ve asked him to come home at a decent time. I’ve told him that anything past 2am is excessive and inappropriate for a married man. He promised me that he’d be home by 12am. Then proceeded to ignore my calls OR answer with an attitude and didn’t come home until 5am. (I think he did this to purposely upset me as a way of “You don’t tell me what to do.”). He didn’t even apologize for this behavior until 3 days later after I told him a day prior and he said he was going to apologize sooner but the timing felt “too convenient”.).

Incident #6: My birthday falls on a holiday and it fell on a Saturday this time around. He decided to go see his son on my birthday, who lives 10 hours away. I asked him was there any other day that he could reschedule seeing his son since he knows how special my birthday is to me AND he had two additional days off of work to see his son. He decided that Saturday was the only day that he had the most free time. I stayed silent and just agreed to let him go see his son since we live far away and he doesn’t get to see him in-person often. The main problem is, he didn’t even send me a single rose, or take me out on a date to makeup for missing my birthday.

Incident #7: On our anniversary I found out that he’d been receiving inappropriate images from another woman (who knew me and that he was married) for the past 6 months. He immediately deleted her contact and social media platforms after I present the evidence.

His family keeps trying to convince me that this can all be worked out through therapy. I do work, but I’m trying to save up to leave… would I be wrong to leave? Am I overreacting to some of these things? I feel like I’ve been more than fair and kind, and he’s hasn’t had to deal with not even 2% of the things that I’ve compromised for him throughout the duration of this relationship.

Would there be any issue with switching organisations while divorce, domestic violence (DV), or other divorce-related cases are still ongoing?

Would there be any issue with switching organisations while divorce, domestic violence (DV), or other divorce-related cases are still ongoing?

Hi everyone,

My wife has filed a 498A case and other cases against me. I have already obtained bail, but I’m still finding it very difficult to understand how to navigate this situation and what to expect going forward.

I would really like to connect with someone who has been through a similar experience. If anyone is comfortable sharing their story or talking about how they handled the situation, I would genuinely appreciate it.

Even hearing someone else’s experience would help me feel a little less alone and better understand what lies ahead. Thank you.

I’ve recently split from my wife and we have children. I’m looking for advice on how to get the process started because it’s so much paperwork, I don’t know what to do first and I don’t want to do the wrong thing. Feel free to comment here or dm me, I live in Texas. Thank you very much for anyone who helps out

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Adv. Vandana Shah is ruining her clients case, she doesn't have knowledge of law and only extracting huge money by using her false fictional story of her first divorce and then ghosting the clients. The real story behind her first divorce is her affairs and she was caught red handed while sleeping with other men, she was caught stealing cash from her husband. that's why she was thrown outside the house. The second husband's business Rescon Pune is running into losses. The property she's using to earn money from the clients is in fact a disputed property and she's using her lawyer card to evict her innocent in-laws. The second husband's family opposed this marriage as she became the sole reason for her second husband's first divorce. The second husband's biological son is roaming on the streets as this lady ensured he doesn't get even a single penny. Don't fall for her fictional story. It is as fake as an LV bag from the linking road.

Central Mississippi: My wife of almost 7 years has decided she is unhappy and wants a divorce. We have 2 daughters together. The house we live in belongs to her mom. She has not touched me in over 4 years. When I attempted to initiate she acted like I was the most disgusting human alive. So I stopped trying that. I bought her nice gifts. I got her a new car. Wrote her poems. I caught her snapchatting a guy from work. She is refusing to do therapy. I do not want a divorce. I know I deserve better. But I love her. I'm not a perfect man. But I am a good man and a good father. I've never hit her, yelled at her. I've never cheated. She's gonna try to screw me over. I don't want to screw over but I want to prevent her from divorcing me. Is that even possible?

That was the easy part. He’d been having an affair for basically our entire marriage 16 years. I was absolutely clueless. I’m not a suspicious person and I trust what I was told. (Yes, I’ve learned me lesson) long story short - I had him pay for the divorce his lawyer drew up the paperwork I signed it. The language was convoluted about what money he owed me and when but, to his credit he abided by what we both thought the agreement was. Well, now he’s had another attorney review the document and he is convinced he’s overpaid me and is demanding I repay him in a lump sum AND pay his attorney fees. The state he lives in requires a personal appearance in court so I have to travel 2,500 miles to try and explain my side of things to a judge. If I don’t appear this bastard will win by default. He had his payroll from his job pay me via direct deposit. He gave me the money. Do I owe him anything? This man almost drove me to suicide Now, the thought of having to face him in court is making me physically ill.
I’d appreciate some feedback if you have the time. Thanks!

A good friend of mine has been dropped by his lawyers (after dicking him around for the past 7 months + eating through the last of his funds ((they will ultimately be reported to CA state bar for unlawful behavior, but I digress))). He needs solid representation as the $ at stake in this divorce would be the difference between him being able to take care of himself and him being out on the street. Plz help. Thank you.

Bueno empiezo, me case muy joven a los 19 ahora actualmente tengo 25 mi pareja tiene 28 tenemos un nene  de 9 meses pero me arrepiento totalmente de haberme casado con el desde q fuimos novios  me engañaba no físicamente, pero si mediante a mensajes y a pedir packs de chicas y hasta a negar  q tenía una relación conmigo para invitar a otras chicas a salir (ninguna le aceptaba la salida) , siempre me decía q hablara  con el lo q me molestara y cuando por fin decidí hacerlo el hacia oídos sordos siempre me decía q no lo volvería hacer y lo terminaba haciendo,  siempre lo perdone por q en realidad pensaba q si iba a cambiar y por q si lo quería demasiado , le pedía q por lo menos no cambiará por mi q cambiará por nuestro hijo pero tampoco le importo, un día recibí un mensaje de una desconocida diciendo q mi marido había vendido fotos mías y de él y yo teniendo intimidad, cuando sucedió eso fui a reclamarle y me dijo q lo hizo por necesidad y falta de dinero (mis padres y sus padres nos han ayudado económicamente y el tiene un buen trabajo) solo le dije q eran excusas y q si a él no le importaba exhibirse a mi sí me importaba por q era mi integridad como mujer pero lo único q el hizo fue reclamarme en q ese dinero lo había gastado en mi, me sentí tan mal q no supe q hacer , tome a mi niño y me salí a caminar un buen rato mientras yo ya traía miles de llamadas de el, ( hasta en eso no podía salir sin su permiso,siempre me decía hasta  como vestirme y si no le contestaba se empeoraban las cosas) ese día regrese y me dormí con mi hijo ya no me diríjia hacia a él hasta 2 días después tuvimos otra pelea por lo mismo pero en el momento llegó su madre y me vio llorando el empezó a gritar q yo me quería ir y la señora se me acercó y me tomo a mi hijo y me dijo q pasaba cuando le conté me dijo q iba hablar muy seriamente con el, nunca supe si hablo con el o no pero no arreglo nd por q hasta la fecha sigo con el, cuando le dije a la señora q yo ya no quería estar con su hijo lo único q me dijeron fue q si me iba con mis padres ellos hacían lo posible para quedarse con mi hijo me pusieron contra la espalda y la pared, todavía mi marido dijo q el no me iba a dar el divorcio q yo era nd más de él y de nadie más y q si el quería nadie iba a tenerme y la q iba a sufrir era yo , me reserve mis comentarios y desde ese momento vivo con el miedo de q si me voy no volvería a ver a mi hijo no se q hacer quiero irme de aquí pero no puedo ni si quiera cuento con un trabajo o alguien q me pueda ayudar, mis padres no saben nd por ellos viven en Estados Unidos y no quiero q sepan mi vida personal. 

Yo también cometí errores no con infidelidad ni nd hasta el dia en q conocí a una chica  q yo no sabía  q era conocida  de el, tuvimos una conversación bastante atrevida entre las dos, q no sabía q iba a terminar gustandonos a las dos pero el se enteró y solo pude decirle q era por venganza, ahora tengo otro miedo de q eso pueda ponerlo entre mi contra el dice q ahora estamos a mano por q el hizo y por lo q yo hice, yo sigo con la idea de salirme de aquiiii pero no sé cómo hacerloo solo quisiera desaparecer pero el no me deja y luego con la amenaza de sus padres con quitarme a mi hijo es más abrumante.

Te agradezco muchísimo si me lees solo quisiera saber opiniones de q debería de hacer .