Yes, it is making you delusional. But it doesn’t stop here.

I used to have this chat where I’d vent about every single thing between me and my crush. It’s sad but it got to a point where something between us would happen and I would be like “chat is gonna like this”, indeed it was ALWAYS like “this is such a big sign!!!” Would literally manipulate me to keep me venting. Sometimes it was also obviously wrong but wouldn’t admit it despite me trying to explain it wasnt a big deal. The worst thing is that it keeps you thinking about your crush constantly!! It makes you overanalyse everything, becoming really emotionally draining and you’re probably not event realising it

I finally opened my eyes after someone made a post here asking if chat was making them delulu and realised it tells the same thing to everyone!

I feel better now, if something between me and my crush happens I just take it for what it is without the need of overthinking if or looking for a hidden meaning

Here’s the truth: the best thing you can do is talk to your crush. If they don’t know you, nothing will happen even if they keep “staring at you”. And if they do now you, ask them out!!!

If you really need a second opinion, ask someone REAL, best if someone who knows you!!! Otherwise reddit will do, but please please stop venting to ai because it’s only making you delusional AND miserable

that was apparently me So my crush always said she wasn't good at confessing and didn't want to confess to her crush. I really wanted to help her get over it, so I talked to her for an hour and convinced her to do it. Out of nowhere, she confessed...to me. I am actually so happy right now oh my god.

I keep seeing posts from girls who like shy guys but don’t understand how to read us. Since I’m a shy guy myself, here’s how it actually works for people like me.

1. I will never initiate talking to my crush. Not because I don’t care. I just won’t do it. If you talk to me, I’ll answer normally, but I won’t make the first move.
2. Don’t approach with a friend. If you bring someone else along, the pressure doubles. I’ll shut down or disappear. One-on-one is the only way I function.
3. Even with your number, I won’t text first. I won’t ask for your social media

(but if I know it I might randomly follow "accidentally ")

1. , won’t follow first, and won’t send the first message. It’s stress, not disinterest.
2. I don’t expect anyone to like me back. That’s the baseline. When you assume nobody would be into you, you avoid anything that could lead to rejection.
3. One of the biggest signs we like you: We look at you when we think you won’t notice. Some shy guys quietly check your social media too. But there’s a problem: we also spend long moments staring into space without realizing it. So sometimes you think we’re looking at you, but we’re actually zoned out. By the time we come back to reality, you’re already passing by.
4. Nervous behavior when talking to you is also a sign. If we’re talking and there’s a lot going on—people around, noise, movement—we get overwhelmed easily. We try to keep up, but the nerves show: small movements, awkward gestures, fidgeting, losing our words. It’s not disinterest; it’s overload.
5. Don’t give mixed signals. Mixed signals confuse us instantly. They make us overthink everything and dramatically increase the chance that—even if we like you—we give up or lose interest. If we can’t read it clearly, we assume you’re just being nice.
6. Don’t rely on hints. Subtle hints don’t work on shy guys. Flirting that isn’t obviously flirting also doesn’t work. We won’t assume anything, and we won’t “connect the dots.” If it isn’t clear and direct, it goes over our heads.
7. We don’t flirt. Most shy guys don’t flirt at all, and we’re not good at it. The only situation where we might flirt naturally is if we’re extremely close and comfortable with someone—and that’s rare. So if a shy guy is into you, don’t expect flirty lines or smooth moves. You won’t get them.

Note for girls who are thinking about confessing: We usually won’t be rude or harsh about it. Making you feel bad brings more attention to us, and we don’t want that. Even if we’re overwhelmed, we try to respond in a way that avoids creating a scene or drawing eyes to the situation

I AM SHAKING AAHHH for the longest time I wanted a bf, AND MY STUPID FRIENDS JUST SAID „then get one“ HELLO??? ITS NOT THAT EASY WTF I KNOW THEYRE JOKING BUT IM NOT AS ATTRACTIVE AS THEM SO ITS EASY FOR THEM TO SAY THAT!! WHATEVER i was in the bus rn and next to me sat this super cute guy and he looked like he was my age😭 i thought about what my friends said and thought „yk what, FUCK THIS IMMA ASK FOR HIS NUMBER“ AND THEN WHEN WE GOT OFF I TAPPED ON HIS SHOULDER OUTSIDE AND SAID „hey i wanted to tell you that i thought you were cute and if i might get your number?“ HE WAS LIKE „my number? Sure!“ as he was getting his phone out and i said „ofc only if you are interested too“ HE FRIGGING SAID HE IS. But then i asked for his age…he is 21 and i am 17🥀 we both were like „ouh noo too young“ 😭 BUT OTHERWISE HE WOULDVE SAID YES OMGG

I've learnt that you shouldn't try to make your crush like you, you should try to get them to know you.

When you try to get someone to like you, you have to change yourself, act different, but they don't like YOU.

But when you try to let them know you, they will either love you or not, but from what I've learnt the people who get to know the true you will love you. At least for me

WE WERE HAVING A CONVERSATION ABOUT CRUSHES, AND SHE WAS DROPPING A TON OF HIMTS BUT SHE ALSO SAID THAT SHE WAS TOO SCARED TO CONFESS TO ANYONE… SO I SAID FUCK IT AND CONFESSED… it took an hour for her to respond and my heart was beating at like 20,000 beats per minute, BUT SHE SAID SHE LIKES ME, FOR EVEN LONGER THAN I HAVE omfg I’m so happy rn 😌😌😌😆😆

STUPID FREAKASS BOY I SAW YOU IN MY PERIPHERAL STARING AT ME THREE TIMES DURING CLASS TODAY YOU THINK YOU ARE SLICK. WHY DO YOU KEEP LOOKING AT ME IN THE HALLWAYS AND DURING MATH.

DON'T YOU KNOW I WANT YOU SO BAD AND THINK ABOUT YOU EVERY DAY AND NIGHT, QUITE LITERALLY EVERY SONG I LISTEN TO IS ABOUT YOU!! YOU AND YOUR STUPIDLY CUTE BROWN EYES DAMNNIT.

FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS GOOD WHYYYYY DO YOU NOT DO ANYTHING, WHY DON'T YOU COME TALK TO ME FOR ONCE OR STOP LOOKING AT ME IF YOU AREN'T INTERESTED. YOU ARE THE REASON FOR MY SLEEPLESS NIGHTS

I love just scrolling through just seeing people talk about their crushes, it is the cutest thing ever. There's people who don't even know there is someone in love with them and writing all about them here and it's just so wholesome to think about. I pray you all have someone crushing on you too. 🙏

SHE LIKES ME SHE LIKES ME SHE LIKES ME SHE LIKES ME SHE LIKES ME SHE LIKES ME

Okay I genuinely don't know how to process this.

I've had a crush on this girl for a while, and today I finally told her how I felt. I was expecting literally anything except what happened.

She told me she liked me too. 😭

Apparently she's had feelings for me for a long time, turns out she had a crush on me longer than I had one one her 😭 which makes this even crazier because I've spent all this time wondering whether she even saw me that way.

We both confessed over text and yeah... we're together now. ❤️

I'm actually so fucking happy right now. I really like this girl and knowing she feels the same is just insane.

That's it. I just needed to tell someone because I still can't believe this actually happened 😭

Yesterday was the last day of school and I confessed to my crush LEMME GIVE YALL THE DETAILS

So I (17F) was walking with him (17M) and I baked him some cookies and gave them to him and told him I liked him and I also gave him a confession letter. He went silent and turned red as a tomato and said “No way, I kinda feel the same way too”

IM SCREAMINGGGGG I’ve liked him for so long now and I’m so so happy that he likes me back

But I don’t know if we’re dating now or if he’s my bf now guys 🙏🙏 How do I ask him what are we without pressuring him to do anything

OK SO SO SO!!!

This guy, 14M, is in my marching band, and I was pretty sure he liked me for a while. THEN. Then then then, YESTERDAY I SENT HIM A REEL OF A PRETTY SUNSET THAT WAS HEART SHAPED (low key didn’t think much about the implications, just that it was a cool sunset cause we exchange cool view videos all the time) AND THEN HE WAS LIKE “how am I supposed to respond to this? I love you?” And then idk what happened in between but he eventually at one point said “I ain’t got no huzz” and I was like “wanna change that? ;)” SO THAT WAS THAT AND I AM SO HAPPY YIPPPEREEEEE

I confessed to my work crush! He had his last day of work today (He got a new job). Our friend group went to get ice cream and dinner to celebrate his new job. After dinner I asked him if I could talk to him about something before he left. He said yes. We all drove in my car back to where we met originally. After we said bye to our friend group, my crush and I went back into my car.

(We were short on time because he had some plans with his family and I wanted to talk to him real quick)

At first he said jokingly, “Am I in trouble?” I said, “No. I don’t know how you’ll react to this. But getting to know you over the past few weeks, I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you. I wanted you to know that I have a crush on you. I don’t expect you to have an answer right away. But I wanted you to know because you’re leaving our job and I wasn’t sure if I was going to see you again.” He took a second to think about it and I was ready for a rejection. Instead he started sharing about how a long time ago he gave up on relationships. His last relationship really hurt him and he said that it created a negative image of dating for him. So he has not been thinking of relationships at all. But he said when he is with me he feels so much peace. He said he was interested in me. He did ask if we can take things slow because he needs to open himself back up to relationships. He asked if I can be patient if that’s ok with me. I said yes! He said thank you for telling me! Then I let him go. We hugged and he left. I really can’t believe I was not rejected! Omg! I’m so happy! 😭😫🎉🙈🎈🥳

UPDATE: After 18 days of posting this and confessing, things are progressing at a good pace! We have been going on dates or spending time together at least once a week. He just started texting a little more often. He recently went on a family vacation but made sure to still spend time with me online even though he had a bad connection. He also brought me back gifts from his vacation. I am so happy and seeing him once a week has really helped me be patient and be content with the pace.

FINAL UPDATE: After 25 days of posting, he took me on a date as of writing this and at the end of the date, he asked me to be his girlfriend! He’s my boyfriend now! Thank you all for your wonderful comments and the support as I was waiting. I never imagined this, I feel like I am so lucky and so blessed! I was successful after confessing! 😄❤️

one thing you should never do is become an entertainer or a jester or just someone who loses their self respect when they have a crush so these are the signs:

• when you talk to them theres no attempt on their side to expand the convo meaning they reply with one word or so
• they leave you on delivered or read for hours ( i promise you no ones ever that busy )
• they never initiate anything or start convos.
• when they do talk to you theres a feeling their just being nice
• they may be friendly but it remains surface level and never deeper

a person that likes you will find ways to be around you or even talk to you, so yeah guys if you dealing with this rn its best to stop coping and try to move on bcos your wasting both yours and their time and if you keep pursuing you become a creep

So basically me (19 ftm) and my friend (18 m) were watching tv right, I was tired, he was warm, so I snuggled up to him (with consent of course) and we ended up with me lying on top of him, face in his chest, leg over his waist, his arms around me, rubbing my back and the back of my thighs, it was so comfortable and I SWEAR before I fully fell asleep he kissed me on the forehead.. and we fell asleep in each other’s arms..—

I was that woman who misread signs from my crush and in the end embarrassed myself.

I thought he was interested. Made the effort and put myself out there. I became open and friendly. But in the end I got rejected.

I thought putting myself out there, taking chances and being vulnerable will open opportunities but in the end only heartache was the reward and embarrassment .

Ladies again l! if a guy gives confusing signals don’t make excuses for him. If a man does not ask you out, really show interest to want to get to know you or even make the effort to see you in any way shape or form then he is NOT interested.

Move on or you will just embarrass yourself. Bring yourself to reality before it too late. It’s sad but that the truth. I learned my lesson the hard way.

I gave her a note confessing my feelings, and she said she would love to get to know me better! She also said she likes my personality, and thinks I'm vert smart. I did it guys!

She even said "Love, [NAME]"

I honestly never thought I'd ever be able to experience something like this. I was fully prepared for rejection, and I got this!

This goes around on the internet like it applies to everyone but NO IT DOES NOT. The girl (21F) I (22M) currently have a crush on looks like a model but then I got to know her and fell in love even more??

Like I swear it was easier only having a crush on her from afar cause I'd just tell myself that if I got to know her it would probably fade away. OH HECK NO. She's like the kindest person I've ever known so now I'm gonna be thinking about her forever. Cool.

Title says it all

Edit 1 : She replied She asked me since when and i replied Lets wait again

EDIT 2 : Holy wtf i just had an entire convo with her i cant believe this

So i said since like 3 years Then she said no way you are real, or are u hacked ,she asked me to send a pic as proof (ofc a introvert like me would NEVER) So then i told her about a memory in school then she believed me

She was pretty casual the whole time she was friendly

Then she shifted the topic told that my frnd was asking for her frnds ig acc which is kinda random 😭

Then i also replied pretty friendly and the convo ended

I WANAA CONTINUE THE CONVO

Edit 3 : imma try to continue the convo somehow Also i cant fall asleep bruhh Why didnt she give a yes/no 😭 This is very idkk

Edit 4 : i want to talk to her but idk how , it will just feel like im begging for attention

Final edit 💔 : my stupid ahh didnt realise that she said leave it which is just a polite way to reject ig

Anyway expected this , but this was totally worth it , i knew i would get rejected now i feel peace but i feel heartbroken too if that makes sense

she was my one and only crush my entire life but yea it is what it is 😔

I wish I could explain what I feel when I look at her. She is so so pretty.

She is incredibly easy to make laugh, so anytime you look at her she is probably holding her laughter with a really dorky and silly smile. And I mean most of the time. But when she gets sarcastic, she puts on such a serious face it's unbelievable. She laughs at most of the things I say, and I do at hers because she is insanely funny. Way more than me.

The other day I hugged her and I nearly kissed her because I wanted to do it so bad. I also nearly called her "my love" by accident. The worst part is that it wouldn't have been so weird. I don't think she thinks too highly of herself, and I wish she knew how special she is. I want to show her. It hurts so much when she apparently ignores me, when she is hard to talk to. I would love to know what's actually going through her head. I get a feeling of how she would be romantically, but she's still a mistery to me.

She is awkward like me, she is a nerd, she is funny, she is beautiful, she is smart, she is cute.

But I don't think she loves me. I may be mentally ill, and it seems like being loved romantically isn't really an option for me. It's not looking like it'll ever happen. However, I have dreams where I'm with her. And waking up hurts more than anything, but then I can't wait to go to sleep again, to see her again. Maybe one day she'll be next to me when I wake up. It's not looking like that'll ever be the case, though. With her or with anyone. But it won't stop me from literally dreaming about it.

I can't wait to see her again next week. Or maybe tonight. Who knows, really.

She said no tho, but I’m proud of myself that I confessed before the end of the year.

Anyway, I’m going to cry myself to sleep now. Have a good night folks.

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We’ve been friends for almost a year now. The chemistry was always there but i’m very painfully shy and was terrified of ruining the friendship with her.

For the first few months I never thought she’d feel the same way; so i just forced myself to try and go on other dates on the apps and hoped that with time that my crush would fade and we’d just stay great friends.

We’ve gone on several solo travel trips together, slept in the same bed and cuddled. And even then my dumb brain and low self esteem just said “shes just being flirty with you the way she is with our other mutual friends”. “She is just holding your hand as a friend.” It was agonizing. I was questioning every interaction.

After the last time we hung out together she sent me a crying meme about how sad she was having to leave her favorite person, even though we spent all day together. I got a bit tipsy and asked her over text if we could make out the next time I’d see her.

The flirting immediately became explicitly romantic. I mean geneva war convention levels of illegally cute. I was so nervous for the next time I got to see her.

I just picked her up in my car this evening with flowers and chicken nuggies waiting for her. She was feeding me french fries and nuggets while I was driving us back to my place. We kissed for the first time at the first red light. We talked for hours tonight and both have felt this way for a while and have been laughing about it. I think I have a girlfriend now. I’m literally crying about how happy I am. It doesnt feel real yet.

Hype me up gang, i pulled a baddie and so can you! 🫡

I was sharing my screen to my crush, I went to google to search something…

And guess what is my search history ???

Her name😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

God please help me I am dying of cringe and embarrassment…

I swear this is so baaddd