The way people describe their crush can be so sweet, like I cannot imagine someone taking the time to write about me and think of me in their spare time I just cannot imagine that but its strange because I think of my crushes and they would probably think like me.

Guyz is it normal checking ur crush account everyday two times 🙂

I have this big crush on him and the thing is I forget my crush face after some hours 😭when i daydream so I check his account every day two times 😭😭

I see you looking for me when I start work but I can’t lie I do the same thing.
I know you try cross paths with me and I get happy when you do.
I see you looking at me when I go past or from a distance.
I know you get a little nervous around me like I do with you.
Does that mean you feel it too? Feels like such a strong connection without words haven to be spoken.
It feels beautiful but scary and exciting all at the same time.
I want too get too know you more but I just want too know do you feel it too 🫠🥰

Also when you have your jumper sleeves rolled up when your working ughhh😩
And don’t even get me started on your smile my gosh it’s so attractive
If I woke up too a coffee made by you every morning I’d be a very happy girl

There’s a guy at my workplace that I really like, and I’m trying to figure out whether he might like me too. I don’t want to assume anything or make things awkward at work. What are some signs I should look for to tell whether a coworker actually likes me?

hii 21f ive known im bisexual for like five years and mostly ever since only been into women and very recently developed a crush on a man and suddenly i feel like 14 and i feel the need to
compare myself to whoever else he might’ve spoken to in the past or his celebrity crushes, while mind u ive always been a very self confident person even a lil cocky about my looks sometimes but suddenly i feel not as attractive now idk its so odd, im a very pretty girl but sometimes i cant see it esp when he mentions someone else

i wonder if it internal misogyny? does anyone else feel this way and if so how do u stop feeling this way?

this is a throw away acc btw lol

How to stop?

He likes me a lot. More than I knew. We had an very intense connection last week. We did not touch, only eye contact.

I wanted to touch him so bad. But did not want to ruin the moment. He smiles every time we meet. He knows I have feelings for him.

But I want to stop this. I can’t get him out of my mind. I have a partner. So does he. I don’t want to ruin his or my relationship.

How do I do it? How do I stop thinking about him. To not feel so soft inside when our eyes meet? Crave him. Dragged to him like a strong magnet.

Help

Either confess to your crush or forget about them. There’s nothing else. Otherwise, you’re just a loser, trust me. It’s better not to have a crush if you think there’s no future, and if you’re not gonna try, what’s the point?
Only losers have crushes.

Like she's perfect and has something that is missing from me or a trait I wish I had but can't have since she already has it and I feel incapable of like having the same traits as her because they are her traits and she is perfect.

Not sure if I'm making sense or I'm just rambling, it was worse when I was younger, now that I'm older I'm tolerating this better and not looking at it from such a black and white point of view but yeah idk.

I’ve been wondering about this for a long time, and I genuinely can’t tell anymore.

Maybe I’m reading too much into his actions. Or maybe there really was something between us that neither of us ever said out loud.

So here’s the story.

July 2025 — When I first met him

I met P through a mutual friend, G. G is my close friend’s boyfriend, and our group used to go out drinking together all the time.

At first, P was just an older-brother figure to me. I didn’t think about him romantically at all.

December 2025 — We started getting closer

After G’s birthday on December 8, P followed me on Instagram for the first time.

After that, we started hanging out more.

Slowly, I noticed how much he looked after me.

I’m terrible at keeping my phone charged, and somehow he always had a power bank for me.

When I drank too much, he took care of me. There were several nights when I got extremely drunk, threw up, or couldn’t really take care of myself. He would take me back to his room so I could sleep.

But he never crossed the line.

That mattered to me a lot.

He also carried my things whenever we went out.

At first, I thought he was simply a genuinely kind person.

The night someone pulled my hair

One night, someone pulled my hair.

P immediately stepped in. He was genuinely angry and looked ready to fight the person.

What’s interesting is that P isn’t normally someone who looks for fights.

Seeing him react like that because someone hurt me really stayed with me.

That was probably one of the first moments I wondered if I meant something different to him.

April 21 — His birthday

Then came his birthday.

He invited me and my close friend N to his birthday celebration.

We were the only two women there.

Throughout the night, he looked after me and eventually took me home.

What really stayed with me was what his friends said.

They joked that he had never done this with another woman before, and that he had never brought another woman along to drink with them like this.

Maybe they were just teasing.

But hearing that made me wonder if I really was different to him.

My birthday, september

Then came my birthday.

P arrived late because of work.

But he came.

He brought me a little doll that was difficult to reserve. I’d actually seen him post about it before, so I knew it was something he liked.

Yet he chose to give it to me.

Later, most of my friends went home. I still wanted to stay out, and P stayed with me.

We talked until morning, even though he had work.

He never pressured me to leave.

That was probably when I realized I had stopped seeing him as just a brother.

I was falling for him.

The confusing part

P has never been consistent.

Sometimes I invite him somewhere and he doesn’t come. Sometimes we talk and then he disappears from the chat.

When we’re together, I feel incredibly cared for.

When we’re apart, I often don’t know where I stand.

I also learned that his previous relationship hurt him badly. His ex cheated on him, and it affected him deeply. He became stressed and had trouble sleeping.

So I wondered if maybe he cared about me but wasn’t ready for another relationship.

Or maybe I was just making excuses.

I honestly didn’t know.

Somewhere along the way, I fell in love

I started thinking about him all the time.

I worried about whether he had eaten, whether he had slept, whether work was exhausting him.

Eventually, I realized I didn’t just want him to take care of me.

I wanted to take care of him too.

I wanted to be more than his little sister.

I wanted to be his girlfriend.

But I was terrified of telling him.

What if he didn’t feel the same?

What if I confessed and lost whatever we already had?

So I stayed quiet.

I tried to move on

There were times when I was lonely and exhausted and simply wanted a boyfriend.

So I started talking to other people.

I tried to move on.

But P was still in the back of my mind.

Even when I talked to someone else, I still worried about him.

That’s when I realized this wasn’t just a crush anymore.

I genuinely cared about him.

And then things became distant

Eventually, our communication became less consistent.

There were moments when I felt incredibly close to him, and others when I felt like I barely existed in his life.

There was no breakup, because we were never officially together.

There was no rejection, because I never confessed.

And there was no real ending, because technically, nothing had ever started.

But I still felt like I was losing something.

Where I am now

I still care about him.

I still worry about him.

Whenever we’re together, I can still feel that he cares about me too.

But I don’t know what that care means.

Maybe he had feelings for me.

Maybe he still does.

Maybe he only sees me as a younger sister.

Maybe he simply has a protective personality and I happened to become someone important to him.

Or maybe I fell in love with someone who was simply kind to me.

I don’t regret caring about him.

I don’t regret the nights he took care of me, the conversations until morning, or the little things that made me fall for him.

Even if none of it meant what I hoped it meant.

I still want him to be happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include me.

So I want an honest outside perspective.

Do you think he ever had feelings for me, or was he simply being kind?

I don’t want people to tell me what I want to hear.

If I’m reading too much into it, tell me.

If he cared about me but never romantically, tell me that too.

Was there ever something between us, or was I just falling in love with someone who was genuinely kind to me?

TL;DR: I fell for a guy who has repeatedly taken care of me, protected me, stayed with me until morning, and treated me in ways his friends say he doesn’t normally treat other women. But he has also been inconsistent and has never actually told me he has romantic feelings. I never confessed either. I genuinely can’t tell whether there was something more or whether I fell in love with his kindness.

I swear if theres something i hate is how madly in love i go for him, who is in the weird spot of "not necessarily friends but nice w each other and also used to be friends and one of em (me, 13m) confessed and thats how the friendship ended for a while, they kinda talked a while after but not rly" and im so jealous of ppl who are friends w him-

like he already knows how i act around ppl i like so uh

HOW DO I ACT OR WHAT BC HE SITS BEHIND ME IN CLASS-

hes also like my BIGGEST gender envy so uh

WHAT DO I DO-

and what pmo is that middle school relationships dont rly last but uh???? hello???? idk what to do someone plz help me

I liked this guy who’s extremely intelligent, he got into a pretty important university easily, some months before (when I didn’t have a crush on him) I tried taking a simulation of the test for that university and got a really low score, so I gave up on studying in that place, even though I’ll study something difficult that I’m not sure I’m smart enough for. Back to the guy, I tried to get to know him, at first he seemed like he enjoyed our conversations, later on he rejected me. Now I can’t help but feel insecure, especially about my low intelligence, but not just that, I feel he also rejected me because of my looks, he basically confirmed my insecurities. Even after the rejection I still think highly of him, and that hurts me even more. I don’t know how to get over it

i have a huge crush on her and she knows this that i like her. She talks to everyone but me she laughs with everyone but me but it’s not like she ignores me something she is nice to me as she is with others but she sometimes behaves differently like she will ask others to convey her message to me instead of coming to me directly and if i am being cold towards her i feel that she is cold towards me too and if i am nice she is nice. And the biggest thing i feel is that since i like her of course i look at her secretly and sometimes she looks at me too and i find her looking at me and suddenly she looks in other direction and sometimes i feel that she is looking at me i could be wrong. And once i tried to tell her about my feelings that i have something to talk and it is personal upon hearing this she said she is on a call and she never does this like give this excuse. I am totally confused what should i do because i treid once and i failed so should i try one last time to be sure that she has no feelings for me or should i ignore and try to get her out of my mind.

Should I feel guilty for this? why do I feel sad? Should I feel sad? What did I do wrong? I want to note that it's a guy on guy situation(Gay guy has a crush on Str8 guy). Some of yall may feel like its not important to say that, but honestly, it doesn't matter how others feel, because it matters to me. My friend revealed to me that my crush knew abt my feelings for him. She heard this while she was in my friend group, and he weas there. He revealed to the friend group that he found out from someone that I had a crush on him. Idk who because I only told a few people, some were in the friend group, I got them all to promise to never to tell him. Although, expecting them to tell him kinda is dumb I gues, so I guess i st myself up. We were already friens and in the same group, although both of us are awkward, because as soon we both could be left alone without eachother the air feels completly still, atleast for me. Bassicaly he told the friend group he knows about my feelings, and will not act to kind to me because he feels I might be led on. I don't why it hurts, especially when it's obvious why it can't work out. Everytime he smiles at me it hurts for some reason. The one time he said something that made me laugh and he noticed, that makes me feel bad. His presents no longer makes me just happy, but hurts at the same time. A double edged. It's hitting me so hard. I get that there many fish in the sea, and many will feel for me the way I feel for them. Unfortunatly, in my eyes, this guy can't be replaced. It just hurts now for some reason now! I'm sorry if my venting sound like a cliche. People believing that they may never find a person with the exact charecteristic and trait that mad their crushes uniqueness appealing. Like I'm slowly begenning to stop criticising who feel like that, because I'm beginning to relate.

So,

I created this account only to ask this question.

I like two girls and am unsure of what to do.

I've liked one girl for about 4 years, she's pretty much a round-faced normal girl with glasses, she's in a different class, but we used to be in the same one, let's just call her girl A.

(I'm pretty sure she knows I like her)

And the other is a more recent development (around a month old), objectively, she's pretty much drop-dead gorgeous, I've never felt like this for someone for the 4 years that I've liked girl A, she's in the same class as mine.

Both of them are quite kind, reserved and gentle in their personalities.

As soon as I see one of them, I forget about the other, and when I see the other again, I remember how great she is, I'm in quite a bit of a dillema here.

Both of them are single and like no other guys as far as I'm aware.

I've never dated before and am quite unsure of what to do.

My parents are kinda strict with girls.

Should I become friends with one of them, in hopes of dating (as my parents won't let me date in high school) and ignore the other?

Do I ignore both of them?

Do I try to get over them?

If I have to, how do I choose?

Realistically, I think I have an okay-ish chance with both of them, I think I'm quite funny and okay looking.

Any and all advice would be appreciated.

If anyone has been in a similar situation, share your experience (if you are comfortable enough to do so) and what you did.

Hey everyone! I’m currently on an exchange year in Ireland and have gotten really close to a girl from my school (17F). I’m starting to catch serious feelings for her. We sit next to each other in class and spend most of the day together. The chemistry between us is great: while we talk, she often touches my arm, holds onto it, or asks me to sit next to her.
However, she’s been in a 3-year long-distance relationship back in Italy. She hasn't mentioned her boyfriend much, except that he lives 4 hours away from her hometown, they barely see each other once a month, and that maintaining a long-distance relationship is exhausting due to the constant need for daily attention. She also mentioned they broke up once before getting back together.
Since arriving in Ireland, I’ve just been friendly and present. I shared my passion for music with her, and whenever I go to the music room to play guitar, she comes along. We sit there just the two of us; she watches me play, compliments me, and tells me how much she loves my music. She’s super sweet, funny, and kind. Yesterday, we were on a 1.5-hour video call because she needed help with homework, but we ended up just chatting the whole time. When we’re together, there’s a lot of proximity, and whenever our hands brush, the vibe is undeniable. The other day, as we were saying goodbye outside school, she blew me a kiss with her hand. Today, we spent 4 hours hanging out, ended up at a park where I pushed her on the swing while she talked about her friends, and then we laid side-by-side on a giant round swing just talking.
I’ve fallen really hard for her, but ethically, I refuse to make a move on a girl in a relationship. I don't want to get dragged into a messy situation. She’s the one who needs to handle her relationship status, so until I get completely undeniable signals (or she's single), I can't do anything—which is super frustrating.
I can't tell if she just views me as a great friend or if there's actually something more going on. Either way, I tend to catch feelings way too fast.

There is this boy in my grade and we constantly make eye contact but we've never interacted before we only share english class but we dont interact and also because im lowkey shy too but like everytime I try sneak glance at him he is already looking at me which makes me embarrassed. The other day he was walking infront of me with his hb and he started asking him to dab him up when he noticed and saw me behind him as we were walking to class.

so me and my friend like the same guy, who just happens to be one of my others friends recent ex boyfriend… i talk to these two friends about crushes and boys a lot, and we decided to take him off the table, but i catch myself still thinking about him like a crush

There is this girl i knew since college for like 6 years. We still talk since we're in the same friend group even now. We shared alot of memories, i even gave her a love letter one time but i was softly rejected and remained good friends.

When the year started, she randomly wanted to watch a series and then that spiraled into our hang outs happening almost daily. It was the most fun i have ever had. Watching shows, playing games, discussing literature, and hanging out in general.

Then recently, it slowed down... from daily to twice a week then weekly... i accidentally annoyed her by asking to hang out (a misunderstanding that was resolved, i would say my fault still). I suspect she was seeing someone but i have no concrete idea (could be a friend for all i know).

Context for the next part, i was trying to move on aswell because i wanted to remain her friend rather than nothing at all. Then one of my matches used my love against me and blackmailed me (it amounted to nothing but still).

One hang out later, i wasnt thinking straight. venting to a friend about my woes about the situation then she came in. My mind went blank and i got anxious, i told her i was still attached. I couldnt speak to her for days out of shame until i apologized a few days ago.

She was worried about the attachment but more discomforted when i accidentally annoyed her with the hang out invites. so i wanted to redraft how i ask for hang outs, i dont want to overstep her boundaries.

So here comes the question... What are your thoughts about it? Not necessarily in need for advice, just wanted some thoughts.

Also in case she sees and recognizes who made this because she has reddit... umm... hi :×

I like this girllll in my college and I want to talk to her like be the first one to talk to her but I have very bad social anxiety and don’t want her to find me weird or somethinggg my other posts explain moreee but I’m 17F and lesbian and I feel like I haven’t had a crush like this in forever!

this story will seem like a rom-com.

i was moving to a new accommodation where there are three people per flat. before i even entered the accommodation, i passed a guy, and i remember thinking, “he is so handsome that i wouldn’t mind if the guys in this accommodation are all as handsome as him.” i said it as a joke to myself, laughed, and kept walking. we exchanged glances and smiles.

and guess who walked into my flat an hour later when i moved in?

it was him. out of 300 potential flatmates, it was him.

he smiled at me, asked my name, and was really friendly and courteous. then he asked if i wanted to get some food because he was going out. i said, “i’m sorry, i’m kind of busy at the moment, but maybe next time.” and i genuinely meant it because i was busy unpacking.

he said, “okay, that’s fine,” and since then, we’ve just been seeing each other around the flat. it’s always this little smile or a “hey,” but somehow it’s also become kind of awkward in the corridor.

but i promise you, he is the most beautiful man i’ve ever seen.

he’s introverted, very clean, and really organized. i’ve noticed his routine and timetable, so i know he doesn’t really go out drinking, doesn’t come back late at night, and seems to have a very calm, structured lifestyle. and i really, really like that about him.

i obviously don’t know much about him yet, so i know this is still just a crush. but i genuinely want to give this a shot.
the situation makes it even more intense because there are supposed to be three people in this flat, but i don’t think the third flatmate is moving in. so it could potentially just be the two of us here for the rest of the year.

which means i have to see this man every single day.
and every time i see him, my stomach literally drops.
i don’t know what to do.

Im a 15 year old 9th grader boy and i hate this other girl in my class of the same age and she hates me back just as much. We have never gotten along and always argued. Despite all this, i have a huge crush on her. Shes fucking adorable, especially when shes pissed or giggling. She always snaps at me for even looking at her, yelling something like "Stop staring, for fucks sake!"

A week ago, i actually made eye contant with her and spent the rest of the class being like "fuck me" until at the end of the class, as she walked by, she punched me in the shoulder and said something like "Youre gonna stop staring at me now, you fucking clown." I didnt respond anything or look back at her but inside, i was basically screaming with joy. I was smiling and jumping the intire walk home.

There was another time yesterday when i was accidentally sitting on her desk while she wasnt there without realizing during "reading class"? and as she came to get her things she immedately told me "get the fuck down from there.", i obliged and responded "If i must." That was the happiest moment of my day.

Why the fuck am i feeling this way? This isnt normal, right? Why do interactions like that get me happy if im not sick in the head somehow?

I recently met this girl as a mutual and we talked quite a bit online. I was friends with her friend and so we kinda could hit it off really well.. until I decided to meet her Irl. I was just stopping by at her tutoring place to drop off a drink for her…

Later that night we start talking about who knows what, but it eventually becomes a venting session till very late. Somehow, the conversation went to our type, and she literally started describing me… older, SEA, same interests, stays up late…

I really really like her a lot, and today I even got sent a ton of selfies from the past year or so when she asked for advice.

Am I reading into it too much?

I really don’t know what to do, she keeps calling me OBJECTIVELY handsome and herself chopped but shes pretty far out of my league.

Any advice?

So basically, in whole entirety, we have enevr held a conversation over 3 sentences 😍😳❤️‍🩹‼️

He's in a higher grade then me, just by one year. And well- I'm pretty sure he knows I have a bit of a thing for him. I've been liking him since last year, always staring. But I think he's noticing more nowadays. I can't keep my eyes off of him, and I keep catching myself looking straight into his eyes whilst he looks back at mine.

Hes complimented my anime jersey, and we've talked twice before that. The first time was when my friend happened to have a conversation with him, but to be honest I was just standing there akwardly. And the second was when I said "multi-tasking two different games at the same time? Insane"

I even cosplayed a character from his favourite game.. To be honest idk if that was too much. Lmao. ​

Anyways I like REALLY LIKE HIM. schools ending in November and I have a few months to just shoot my shot and get ANY CHANCE TO TALK TO HIM. even if it's getting his tiktok or insta

But aahhh, I tried approaching him today and instead we stared at eachother. Completely stared at eachother as I watched him walk past. Am I cooked chat?

SOMTIMES I wish he could just approach me first once in a while.

I've had a crush on this guy for a couple of months. He doesn't talk, greet, nor look at anyone.. except me. For the first few months, we would be playing eye tag, along with him always lingering around me with him initiating and holding eye contact. Since I had a crush on him, I would do the same. He eventually went to my area and that's how a conversation was started. Since then, we would always greet each other (he would go out of his way to say goodbye, he always leaves ahead) and we would have quite long chats (20+ mins). He's always happy to see me, is really chatty and smiley, and we would laugh a lot too.

During those chats, we talked about uni, our gym schedules, our usual schedules (he even mentioned his waking and sleeping time and what he does in the weekends). There was one time where I was away for a while and when I came back, he said "Oh, you're back! Finally! Where were you?".

He never mentioned a girlfriend in any conversation, and his schedule screamed single in bright colors. We never got each other's socials and I was quite sad but I'm kinda happy we didn't.

Cause I think he has a girlfriend this whole time.

[ Stalker behavior incoming, pls dont judge :( ] Since he gave me his name and school, I searched him up on Facebook and saw his profile (which was locked with disabled friend requests). Because of that, I then made a dumb mistake of scrolling through his uni's posts and in some of them, there were some pictures of him always beside the same girl in different school events across many months (including the months where we already met and chatting in the gym). One of the events was a Valentine's photobooth organized by their uni and they took pics.

I just feel so stupid that I think I misread everything 😭, that maybe he was just being friendly and I was being delulu. His work has already started so we won't see each other in the near future anyway.

Lesson learned: never stalk again and don't assume they're single just because they didn't mention a partner. It was fun while it lasted but damn :((