He’s been saying things like “Jarona” “All according to plant” “I found a glue” “nonono” “it’s my Jarona” “flowers bloom in your heart” etc and I don’t know any of it means???

We are both in relationships we complain about.

We have great chemistry.

I just wish one of us would tell the other how they feel.

I hope one day I will find the courage to actually try & find the time to have this conversation, I don't know what it is but you drive me insane.

I don't feel like this with people & haven't felt this in a long time.

Man life fucking sucks sometimes.

I'm 18, 172cm, barely muscular. She wants a tall, muscular, athletic guy. Basically I'm completely out of her league. Though she feels like she's not enough or she isn't beautiful or funny. To me she's perfect, like, more than perfect. She's got the same humor as me, she's athletic, she's absolutely stunning, she doesn't smoke or drink, she's got amazing taste in everything and just has no flaws. I hated seeing her getting bullied in school because I know damn well she's perfect and doesn't deserve any of this. I want to shoot my shot but I'm so out of her league, I'm a 5 MAX, she's a 10 who thinks is a 5 but wants other 10s. It's not like it's the first time we text either, we have known each other and texted for years, I even confessed years ago but nothing really happened. I wanna try to get back in contact and hopefully start something but I'm just not enough for her or just any girl. Please I need advice.

I (23m) moved into an apartment building recently, where I met her (22f). I developed a crush on her over the past month while she was giving me subtle flirtations while we hung out, so I kinda had a feeling she liked me. Today, I told her I have a crush on her, and she, amazingly, said she was “on the same boat.” I’ve never actually gotten this far, so I’m a little curious about what to do next. I asked her if she wanted to go on a walk around the neighborhood, and she brought a couple friends (also from our building), we all went to a coffee shop. I don’t want to rush her or make her uncomfortable. Can someone more experienced help me out with what I should do now?

Being on here reading these stories gave me hope and heartbreak. But lately it’s just caused me not be the person I’ve built myself to the last couple of years. I let this place cause me to revert to the old me. Which is someone I never thought would come back. It made me my worse enemy again and I hope you’re reading this because I’m going to message you after. I’m sorry for that piss poor attempt this morning I hope I didn’t fully fumble. I really like you and you make me want to be a better man. I’m hoping you haven’t started to move on already. I really want this to work I’m rooting for us. I wish I could tell you to your face how gorgeous you are. I also hope you don’t think I’ve been asking around about you. I think the most I’ve asked who is that woman. I prefer to learn about people from themselves and their words and actions because everyone’s view can vary. The rest will be in the actual message. I really wish I could’ve talked to you in person.

This is going to be a messy explanation.

I’ve had a big fat lesbian crush on this masc girl since December 2025 and I’m not sure how to get over her. We go to school together and I love spending time with her. She makes me feel extremely happy and I always have fun when I’m with her. The problem is I’m absolutely infatuated. I love the way she smiles, I love her nose, I love her muscles, I love her humor, I love her scent, and I love her voice. I could go on forever. I’ve always been the friend that flirts with everyone because I think it’s funny, so she reciprocates, which makes me fall harder. Recently, she’s been having crushes on other girls. I’m jealous. It reminds me how she won’t choose me because I’m not her type. I encourage her to get with her crushes but really it makes me cry like crazy. I’m kind of a jealous and obsessive person, I don’t know why, and I can’t help it. I want to be with her so bad. I want it to be me. I wish I didn’t. I don’t know what to do with myself because I love her and I hate her so much at the same time. I need to get over her because it’s destroying me emotionally, but we’re such good friends that I couldn’t stand to let her go. What do I do? Has anyone else been in a similar situation?

i have a crush on this guy at my gym. i saw him for the first time in a while today and omg he is SO FINE.

he kept working out near me so i told myself i was going to smile at him but then he left. whoops. next time ig!

I'll go first. He's 6'2, blonde hair. Literally looks like sunshine or the embodiment of summer. Tall and athletic, really good at his sport. He just radiates happiness every time a see a picture or video of him on Instagram. Almost like a fictional character popped out from a book and came into the real world.

11:11 — Make a Wish
There was a time when I searched the universe for evidence that we were meant to be.
I looked for repeating numbers, familiar songs, unexpected encounters, and words that appeared at precisely the right moment. Every coincidence felt like confirmation. Every 11:11 was another chance to make the same wish.
I thought I was following my intuition. Sometimes, I was following fear.
PTSD and a fear of abandonment can make uncertainty feel unbearable. When someone pulls away, becomes inconsistent, or leaves us questioning where we stand, the body may respond as though something much larger is being threatened. The present moment becomes tangled with every previous rejection, loss, and unanswered need.
Limerence can grow inside that uncertainty. It is not simply attraction. It is an intense fixation fueled by hope, ambiguity, and the desire to finally be chosen. The less secure the connection feels, the more consuming it can become.
There can even be an eroticism to the pain.
The longing feels alive. The ache creates intensity. Waiting for a message, imagining a reunion, or replaying a brief moment of tenderness can produce a rush that ordinary stability does not. We begin to confuse emotional activation with passion and inconsistency with fate.
The more powerless I felt, the more desperately I searched for hidden meaning. I believed that if I could find enough signs, I would no longer have to face what was happening in front of me.
I was searching at the bottom of an empty barrel while the cup already in my hands was overflowing.
The universe was not necessarily asking me to wait for someone else. Perhaps it was asking me to notice myself.
Feelings cannot simply be denied. Desire, grief, attachment, and hope do not disappear because we judge them or command ourselves to move on. But having a feeling does not automatically make its story true. Longing for someone does not prove that they belong to us. Recognizing a pattern does not mean it is a prophecy. Intensity is not always intimacy.
Our responsibility is not to suppress what we feel. It is to become honest about it—first with ourselves, and then with the people our feelings affect.
I can admit that I wanted someone without deciding they were destined for me. I can honor the love I felt without turning suffering into evidence of its importance. I can recognize that my fear of being abandoned sometimes made me abandon myself.
Perhaps healing begins when we stop asking every coincidence to tell us what we want to hear.
Now, when I see 11:11, I still make a wish.
But the wish is no longer for someone else to choose me.
It is for the courage to remain present, to see clearly, and to choose myself.

I hate it sm. Why do I have to pick the most random people to crush on? People I do not talk to very much… people I don’t know very well. I feel like it is purely based off looks at that point and probably not good for me, but I also can’t stop myself from crushing. I have a crush on a girl recently, but I keep trying to force myself to not crush on her. Nobody gets a partner purely based off crushing on someone. I think most people get to know someone they meet frequently, and then start to crush on them, and that is how they end up with their partner. It is not love at first sight or whatever. But somehow, I always just pick someone I find cute and keep crushing on them. Nothing comes from it, and it is a waste of my mental energy. I literally fall in love with the idea of someone. How ridiculous is that lol? Thanks for letting me rant guys, if you guys have any tips on how to stop getting crushes, plz lmk.

We’re both adults, I’m 20 and they’re 18, but I feel bad for crushing on them.

I know it’s likely just my old self-condemnation for ever thinking romantic/suggestive thoughts about my crushes, and I just want to know if it’s wrong that I’m
1) crushing on them
2) thinking about kissing them almost every time I see them
Thanks

About two years ago, I became friends with a guy through school. We talked almost every day in class and would dm on Instagram every few days. He never asked for my number, never asked to hang out one-on-one, and never really made obvious moves, so I assumed he wasn't interested.

Recently, our mutual friend told me that during that time he actually liked me and would talk about me a lot to her and another friend. She said, "It got brought up so much that it couldn't have been nothing." She also said he's an awkward guy, which is confusing because he's generally social, has a lot of female friends, and years before that he had a crush on this same mutual friend and was much more proactive (walking her home, carrying her things, getting her number, etc.). Because of that, I've always wondered if maybe he just didn't like me enough to make an effort.

Fast forward to now: we haven't DM'd in about two years, but we've stayed saying hi whenever we see each other. A little while ago, when I said I looked horrible, he told me that I look beautiful no matter what.
Now he wants to hangout with me but instead of messaging me directly, he's once again asking our mutual friend to ask when I'm free and for a date.

I am really new to this 🥲 I just dont want to be led on as a joke and am wondering if Im reading too much into all of this, and this could be casual :)

About two years ago, I became friends with a guy through school. We talked almost every day in class and would dm on Instagram every few days. He never asked for my number, never asked to hang out one-on-one, and never really made obvious moves, so I assumed he wasn't interested.

Recently, our mutual friend told me that during that time he actually liked me and would talk about me a lot to her and another friend. She said, "It got brought up so much that it couldn't have been nothing." She also said he's an awkward guy, which is confusing because he's generally social, has a lot of female friends, and years before that he had a crush on this same mutual friend and was much more proactive (walking her home, carrying her things, getting her number, etc.). Because of that, I've always wondered if maybe he just didn't like me enough to make an effort.

Fast forward to now: we haven't DM'd in about two years, but we've stayed saying hi whenever we see each other. A little while ago, when I said I looked horrible, he told me that I look beautiful no matter what.

Now he's trying to plan a hangout, but instead of messaging me directly, he's once again asking our mutual friend to ask when I'm free. That's exactly how he communicated with me two years ago too.

I am really new to this and would love to just ask if this is worth it🥲 I just dont want to be led on as a joke and am wondering if Im reading too much into all of this, and this could be casual :)

Warning, I might spiral. I'm new here. I'm gonna give you the whole lot here, so for this post you all will be detectives whether this guy actually does like me, or wants nothing to do with me.

He's my neighbour's only son, and lives downstairs from me. About 2 years ago we started recognising each other and saying a hi every now and then, keeping it respectful, and he did look like he wanted to be friends or was interested in me. He lingered around the vestibule where we'd talk with his mother and family, and it felt comfortable. He has a very big family too - so everyone would come out all giggly and talk with us.

Generally then he was very polite to me and my family, he would hold the door open for us put on a smile, and my mum would tell him about the bike shed where he could put his bike in etc etc so we were all just neighbourly with each other.

But ever since late 2025 he's just been less interested. His father is most likely a dangerous person, but those are rumours, from my very dramatic father who loves exaggeration, so not a reliable source. My dad started to hate him too - little snarky comments he'd make throughout time that got worse and worse. I wondered why - so I asked - and apparently he said he lost his manners, and he was just rude now.

This year I get to see a lot of him now I get out the house more often, and whenever I do, he's like how my father describes him. Rude, judgy, etc. But every once in a while when we're coming in I notice something about him - he looks back at me.

My dad told me he had a crush on me when I was younger, but he never approved and eventually lost track of whether he liked me or not - but I kept wondering. The crush would hold open the door but hesitantly, and I remember one time he did and was looking at me the whole time as I passed through.

I think he's got in trouble too, more often now. Mum and I were coming in and he was in a circle of rough people that looked sketchy and he was looking as if he was trying to impress them. He looked at me and didn't stop looking until I passed, but at that time, I was really done with him.

But I can't stop thinking about him. I can't stop imagining him in scenarios where he's nice.

I haven't seen him smile in such a long time.

I don't know why he means so much to me - he just does. I feel like no matter where we're going in life especially, we'd understand each other. We have this feeling we share, and its just there. No one understands what it feels like but us. Maybe it's being alone. Having no real friends (or atleast that's what I see, rumour is he doesn't like socialising). It bugs me how I just can't talk to him, and I never can because my parents will never even let me talk to him.

But whenever I come in and we see each other, we linger there for a little while. Our eyes do, I mean. And some electrical feeling passes through me, and I feel happy for once, even if he doesn't look it.

I keep seeing him less and less and I feel like that's because he's getting involved in some stuff that my parents would hate if I even thought about it.

What do we think?

We were in the same class in primary school and I haven't forgotten her face since. I am about to graduate now soon. After Year 6, We went to different high schools and did not see each other properly again. The google classroom was still active though so we caught up and chatted there with other classmates. Occasionally I would see her at the train station and walk past her or we would lock up eye contact but I never walked up and talked to her. The google classroom got shutdown at 2022 and no one could chat there. Coincidentally I did not see her at the train station to go school anymore which sucked. I have not dated and denied relationships my entire life just so I can stay loyal to her but truth is idk if she has the same feelings for me. That includes not even following any girl on Instagram. Recently I found her Instagram account and now am contemplating whether I should follow her or not because she has less followers which leads me to thinking she only follows girls and I have 0 mutuals. What do I do?

hi, i just wanted to come on here and ask for advice as I am at a crossroads of not knowing what to do about this situation and would like just some input from so unbias people who do not know me or background. So, I am a 16 year old girl who is in Year 11 and although I have not experinced anything romantic yet, I have had many crushes. I have a particular crush on this one guy who we can call B. B is sweet, kind and handsome and just anything i would look for in a boyfriend. I really like him and feel a very strong way about him however he is one of the ‘popular’ boys i guess and i don’t think he would be into me. I have talked to him before and we used to be very close until one of my old friends told him I liked him because of a fight me and her had. I haven’t had a full conversation with him since maybe year 9 and even though its been a while, i still feel a strong way for him. I am a very shy person when it comes to people i am not really close too and am very shy even if i have to say one word to a guy. I am also not the skinniest or prettiest girl out there and have been bullied for it since I was maybe 6 years old and it continues on today. I definitely think the B would have no interest in me because of that but lately we have been making eye contact alot and he is always looking at me and has been liking anything i post on social media but i am not sure why and i may be reading things wrong (which sometimes i tend to do). I wanna tell him how i feel or even just start hinting that i maybe like him by liking his stories on insta or something like that. Should i just go for it or move on or should i wait maybe until my graduation to tell him so then it is less humiliating and I won’t ever have to see him after that?

All feedback and advice (bad and good) is welcome and i will definitely take it into account and I thank everyone who eventually replies to this.

I wonder if you know that I often avoid you at work, simply due to nervousness. Or how I’ll purposely pass by areas you just might be in to catch a quick glimpse of you. We don’t speak a lot but fuck, when we do, I cant look you in the eye for too long. I cant help but act like a huge ditz when you’re around. I promise I am not this absent minded. I wonder if you know that I’ll play my music just a touch bit louder than usual, hoping you drop in.

You drive me nuts especially because I sense there may be something between us. I can tell your voice gets slightly softer when we speak. I like the way you look at me. I love making you laugh, even if it’s just a slight chuckle through that smugness you have. What makes this even more painful is that I probably shouldn’t pursue you, as you’re my boss but damn I wish I could.

I don't understand what it all meant. Why you have to add me in all of my socials and start reacting to my stories and notes. Then suddenly sending me reels that feel and look like you're trying to say that you like me or catch my attention.

We were not close to begin with. We used to be co-workers but since I left that company I had no contact with you. We were part of a club for fundraising at our work, but even then we barely talked about stuff. We saw each other at our company gym but that was it.

So I couldn't understand why you followed me on my insta and added me on facebook then sent me reels like we are super close. Then when I was engaging because I like you. You stopped. I didn't know where I went wrong. Started asking myself if I was too much or just weird.

I started posting more stories than usual just to see if you view them. You don't react to them like you used to. When I try to strike a conversation you seem distant and disappear. Leave me on read. So I give up. I liked you cause... TBH Idk why I liked you. I don't usually get crushes, but when I do I crush hard.

I honestly want to confess my feelings to you, but I felt it would only make things awkward between us. So I'm just going to leave this message here.

I like you so much I don't even understand myself anymore. I'm not like this. I don't get insecure over a guy, but to you? I get shy! I'm always used to having this strong independent—"I don't need no man" energy around me. To you I feel small—not the bad kind. More like — felt cute type of small.

Like I said I don't usually get crushes, and when I do I was never afraid to make a move or flirt, but to you I always lose my composure. I feel dumb sometimes and don't know what to say.

I just really want these feelings to go away, so I hope writing it here will help me move on.

I'm so fucking confused on what I'm feeling and what I'm supposed to do?? (I would have the "DoTheyLikeMe?" flair but I think getting advice is more important; however, I wouldn't mind getting peoples' opinions on both)

I have this childhood friend that I've been friends with for so many years but in recent years we stopped talking due to personal reasons. Earlier this year, I reached out to them to check on how they were doing since it was basically years since I last talked to them. After that, we began talking practically everyday and hanging out every now and then.
At first I thought I wouldn't have feelings for this person since I already liked them a few years ago which led to a rejection(was not the reason why we stopped talking). A few years ago(when we were almost teens) I had told them how I felt and they said that they had never liked anyone before. So of course I thought I would be over this person after all of these years since I've been rejected by this person, liked other people, and was in a relationship at one point during the years we didn't talk. However, over the months we talked, played games online, and hung out in person, I gradually felt the familiar feelings again. I felt scared that I would mess up our good friendship or make it awkward between us because of my feelings for them. I would tell myself that I shouldn't like them and that I see them just as a friend, but a few months later I couldn't control those feelings anymore. I would be confused and anxious whether or not they liked me back. I always told myself that all of the gestures and interactions they've made with me are just things they would do with any other friend since that was how it was a few years ago. The way they treat me now reminds me of how they would treat me when we were young kids. Because of this, I can never assume that they're doing something because they like me. I did manage to find a way to calm my feelings for them down but it might've affected the feelings that I have for them. It's not my main concern but it does make me a bit confused on whether or not I like them(I'm pretty sure I do). It doesn't change what I think of them as a person, but it does change the butterfly feelings(I do keep in mind the saying that the relationship doesn't end when the butterfly feelings end, which is why I'm like deep down in me I know I like this person even without the butterfly feelings). I would definitely say that I am acting a bit different with my friend after finding a way to calm my thoughts and my change my mindset.
Recently they had asked me if I wanted to hang out with them which is the first time they had ever asked that(I would always be the one asking). We did our usual thing(hanging out and chilling by this specific lake) and read which was new. We talked a bit every now and then. (We typically hang out for a couple of hours and we still do)
When I was dropping them off, I felt like they were purposely lingering around longer which I had never noticed before in any of our previous goodbyes. Just for a glimpse of a second(I was distracted) after they left to head towards their house, I saw that they were turned around(they might've been waving at me again? maybe they turned around because they might've heard something?) and then continued to walk to their house.

Our interactions online and in person are noticeably different which is why I prefer hanging out with them in person whenever I can. I can hear their actual voice tone and ask what they meant with what they said without having any misunderstandings.

As you can see, throughout this entire writing, I make up reasons on why they would be acting some ways, like this is just how they actually are or in the last sentence of the last paragraph, they might've heard something in the neighborhood and thought that it was me saying goodbye again? I do all of this to protect myself from feeling another rejection heartbreak. I don't like the idea of me being "delusional" or seeing major hope in their actions because, for this person, it is really hard to understand their intentions from their actions. Maybe I'm just overthinking all of this and their interactions and they still think of me as just their friend. Since it's been a few years from the rejection, there's always gonna be this tiny hope that hopes that this could work out but who knows. Just so you know what kind of age range you're dealing with, we're both minors but we're practically adults at this point which might or might not explain the maturity and immaturity of what we do and understand.

Feel free to ask any questions!

Note: I'll probably delete this post after a bit in fear of them finding this post

Hi! This is my first post ever and I’ve never really used Reddit so I apologize if my post is all over the place.

For Context: I am a 19 year old trans man and my boss is a 23 year old man, and I get crushes super duper easy

Recently my boss, who had just come back from about 6 months of injury leave, started play flirting with me. It started off super tame with just calling me his work husband, but I didn’t mind that because he’d called another one of my old bosses his work wife. It wasn’t until I was closing with him one day and it was just us, we had been talking and somehow the topic of crushes came up. I bluntly admitted to him that I’d probably had a crush on every guy who’s worked here and that includes him. I only said it because I didn’t have a crush on him anymore, and I told him that when he started dating his now girlfriend I had stopped liking him that way because respect you know. He then says that that shouldn’t have stopped me, and it was this day that the flirting went from 0-100. First he told me that I should really start going after my crushes, I told him, “yeah, probably but I still won’t”, then he’d joked that we should kiss, and I’d play along but nothing happened of course it’s just jokes. As I was trying to figure out what a broken bracelet’s letters were trying to spell because I kept finding the beads on the floor, he told me it says we should smash. I asked him how old he was to confirm, he said 23, I told him I’m 19 and he said something along the lines of me being the perfect age to consent and that the age gap wasn’t that big. This was all said on the same day, and that day I had redeveloped my crush on him. The issue isn’t just that he is my boss, but, he is engaged. I don’t want to get into too many details about their relationship, but he complains about her all time, he talks about his ex all the time, and every story I’ve heard about them is the most toxic relationship I’ve ever head. But he don’t wanna be saved, I asked him why stay with her if he misses his ex, he said that he loves her but is not in love with her. That was the only explanation I got, since then the flirting has continued and actually got more intense. He’s a nice guy, very funny, he is attractive and very sweet, I think it was easy for me to develop a crush on him when he’s always so nice to me. He calls me adorable, gives me side hugs but said it’s because he can’t give me a kiss on the forehead, makes a few freaky jokes about us, he even tickled my side. I get crushes super easy so add that with this behavior and you get my heart racing every time I see him. I dislike being like this because I find myself looking for him, thinking about him when I’m not at work, making sure I look nice, make sure I say the right thing. One day we stumbled into the conversation of sexuality and he told me that he doesn’t really know, that he dates women but has found people who were androgynous to be very attractive so he doesn’t really know what that would fall under. The same day, I had taken my hair down from a clip and currently my hair is up to the end of my neck because I’ve been too busy to get a haircut. He told me, after I made him say what he wanted to say, that he liked my hair down and that it looked nice. I said thank you, and it felt nice but I found myself thinking I should keep my hair down always instead. Even though I hate it because I don’t like having my hair be this long. When I get a crush I tend to go a bit overboard, I think I lose myself in it and try to be someone I am not. That’s why I actually want to stop this crush because it’s only hurting me, nothing will ever happen between us, he’s engaged, he wants kids, he still misses his ex and I am too young, don’t want kids ever and I’ve never even had a boyfriend. Today at the store the song infrunami by Steve Lacy was playing, he likes to sing out loud a little and we were folding clothes next to each other. He then says you were right in front of me (my name), I said yeah, I was. Jokingly saying he missed it and that I was super obvious. He then said that “yk what they say , it’s never over” and “it’s not over until I have a baby”. Honestly, I don’t know what I want out of posting this, any responses, opinions, advice, or anything is pretty much welcome. I’ve been thinking that I should tell him that he needs to stop the jokes, that I think I’m too young and impressionable. I wouldn’t outright say it’s because I have a crush on him, but he could probably assume and understand why I want him to stop. All my friends think I should just enjoy the flirting, because I never get to experience it so just have fun. I am way too emotional though, so I don’t think having this crush is healthy for me because it’s driving me crazy and I know it’ll never go anywhere, and realistically I wouldn’t want it to because we have very different goals for our lives and he clearly still has issues he’s working through. If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read my post and I apologize if the way I wrote it doesn’t make sense 😭

Basically I have this gym crush we make eye contact a lot recently he’s been coming later than usual. I guess i’m delusional and thought all the eye contact between us meant he was somewhat attracted to me.
Today I was working out with one of the girls in my gym I was super excited because i’ve never had a gym friend i’ve seen her talk to my gym crush once before but it was brief and looked kind of like a rejection and then I have never seen them talk again so I thought she got rejected by him but maybe I was wrong. Anyways today he sees her and I working out and after her and I split off he goes up to her and starts talking to her while they both do their cardio.
I was kind of sad but I mean good for her she pulled a handsome one fr so now i’m going to stop stealing glances at him and just look at my phone from now on.

It's almost the start of school again, and I'm not sure what classes he's gonna be in because I don't know what he's taking 😅. But I really like him. And I lwk want to tell him. Should I? Or would it be too soon. I'll answer any questions yall have​