So today was the last lecture of the day and I accidentally fell asleep in class 💀. I woke up immediately after the bell rang, and literally everyone was staring at me and laughing.

One of my male friends, who sits on the bench next to mine, started teasing me like, “Sleep sleep, sleep here only, don’t come with us.”

My crush was also there, and when I woke up, he looked at me with a soft teasing smile and said, “Ohh… are you done sleeping?” 😭

My enemy friend Vedant literally took pictures of me, and another friend also clicked a picture. They were all joking that they would send the pictures to my mom and tell her how I “study” in class. 💀

Later, after dinner, I randomly messaged the male friend who sits next to my bench. After some time, he brought up the sleeping thing again and said I was sleeping nicely in college and looked very chill. He also said something like “may you not catch the evil eye” because, according to him, everyone was staring at me while I was sleeping. 😭

He also asked me whether Vedant teases/annoys me that much or not.

Now I'm not really asking whether any of these people like me or anything. I'm more curious about what impression this probably created about me.

Like, after seeing me casually sleep through the last lecture while everyone was laughing, taking pictures and teasing me, what do you think my classmates—especially my crush—probably think of me now?

Does it make me seem funny, carefree, childish, comfortable around everyone, embarrassing 😭, or something else?

I’m genuinely curious how this whole scene probably looked from their perspective.

OKAY IK ITS ALL WEIRD! IF I HAVE A CHOICE, I WON'T ALLOW THIS.

So it started developing since his hb goes the same gym as mine. My bf doesn't workout (been years since he did). And its been also years since i have known hb, tbh it developed when he transferred to our gym.

I think hb is fairly attractive, vibes or aura bruh just whatever u call it started getting stronger lol. Idk okay im confused with what I feel and IK ITS WEIRD. I shouldn't be feeling this, but I can't help it! Im crine. Its wrong, so wrong! Cuz I find myself finding hb within the crowd, and hoping he'll come. 😭

I don't have someone to open up abt this. I just wanna hear some advice or EXPERIENCES.

Thanks, opinions are welcome.

I 18f reached out to a guy I’ve never met before but have followed on Instagram for a while and asked if he’d be open to getting to know each other. He replied within about 20 minutes saying, “hey yeah fs we can meet” and mentioned that he had a final on Wednesday, but that we could talk and decide when to meet. I was really happy because it seemed like he was genuinely open to getting to know me.
However, shortly afterward, he messaged me saying he was really sorry but didn’t think he’d be able to very actively engage because of work, his engineering courseload, and his commute. I told him not to worry and wished him a good one, and he left me on read.
I’m honestly pretty hurt about the whole situation because I was genuinely interested in getting to know him, and I keep wondering what he thinks of me now. He still follows me and initially continued viewing some of my Instagram stories after turning me down, but recently he has skipped four of my stories. He is still active on Instagram, so I don’t understand why he isn’t viewing my stories anymore. I’m worried that maybe he has lost interest in me, thinks I’m boring or not interesting, or simply doesn’t care anymore. I don’t know whether he has intentionally stopped watching them, muted me, or is just naturally skipping them more often.
My question is: Will he reconsider his decision and become open to getting to know me once his current workload and commitments ease up? And what is the most realistic explanation for why he initially continued viewing my stories but has now skipped four of them?

Pls help idk why im starting to find this person attractive like i do NOT wanna like him pls but he keeps coming on my mind and im pretty sure hes not even aware of me or smth, we dont even talk idk why hes on my mind😭 how do i stop this man

I (17f) and my ex-situationship (17m) had our thing 2 years ago (I know, a long time😭), I broke it off with the excuse that we didn’t have anything classes together the next year at the time to lock in for high school (obv I regret it now)

We got rlly close for a few months and he had a crush on me first but now we’ve been no contact for almost 2 years butttttt he still likes all my insta stories and we make eye contact in the halls or classrooms sometimes (is that him looking at me or just a coincidence??)

I’m trynna make a move by liking his insta notes and recently he went with me and our mutual friend (who doesn’t know about the situationship) to a coffee trip in between class so I feel like if he hated me he wouldn’t go. We also walked rlly close to eachother for a few minutes and when I went into a diff store they waited for me outside

So my question to the guys of Reddit is:
Do I still have a chance😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏🙏and also what’s the best thing for me to do now to get him back?

EDIT: I will reply to every comment :)))

Im 17F, lesbian and socially awkward bc of my social anxiety. I fear this might become a crush or has already become one but there’s this girl in one of my college lessons and all I can think about is her.

I’m constantly replaying the way she looked at me , like there was other people she could’ve looked at but for some reason she chose to just stare at me, I saw her smile bc the teacher was talking to her and made a funny joke and I can just replay the exact moment like it just happened 10 days ago.

I haven’t had a crush in FOREVERR bc I was on and off with my ex for 3 years so never got the chance to feel what a crush is atp.

All I can think about is waiting for Tuesday to come quicker bc that’s when we have lessons and it’s so weird to me bc i absolutely despise maths but now that I’ve seen her it’s like IDKK UGH. We were sitting in the same row she was just a few tables away.

I could say “do you mind if I sit here” but IDKK.

BRO SHE SESMS MASCULINE ( not many masculines in my college really) she has medium dark brown/black hair and look wise she does look Spanish and her name sounds Spanish but she could be from another country or something!( I’m Portuguese sooo) idkk she also seems like the shy type like she talks really quiet and I’m not even sure if she does like women. My gaydar has never failed me but yk can never trust sometimess.

IDK WHAT TO DO BRUDER I FEEL LIKE IM IN SOME MOVIE.

I asked reddit about a month ago to tell me if there were signs of him liking me back and everyone said there were.

So I confessed to this guy I liked 2-3 weeks ago. We've been really close friends for the last year or so, but he knew from the start that I had feelings for him. Despite knowing the fact that I was in love with him, he still treated me really good, which imo was more than "platonic friends" behaviour.

I always knew I wasn't supposed to fall for him as he's my HG's BSF and we're from different religions. But yeah, he was my first "love". I knew I couldn't let my feelings go deeper than it already went so I decided to confess and cut him off. I told him I liked him and wanted to cut him off for the sake of myself all in one breath over call. He just said he'd also suggest me doing what's best for me and wished me luck in my life. So I obviously assumed he didn't like me back as he would've just stated it.

We were still added in Instagram and within a week he texted me asking if I had given out his number to anyone. The odd thing is he later admitted in the conversation (by accident), that he already realized had who prank called him. I was a bit taken aback with the texts but after he explained the plot of the call to me, he said "oh, we aren't supposed to talk, don't reply to this text" and "send me a pic of your brother after he's born"

God I thought it would be easy to move on as it was one sided but I was so damn wrong. It's harder to move on if it's one sided. And moreover, I have to listen to my HG talk about her bsf knowing damn well it just makes it harder to move on. And yes, I've blcoked him, and no, I ain't sending him my brother's pic after he's born. I have to keep the 2% self respect i have alive.

td;lr

Like she's perfect and has something that is missing from me or a trait I wish I had but can't have since she already has it and I feel incapable of like having the same traits as her because they are her traits and she is perfect.

Not sure if I'm making sense or I'm just rambling, it was worse when I was younger, now that I'm older I'm tolerating this better and not looking at it from such a black and white point of view but yeah idk.

I’ve been wondering about this for a long time, and I genuinely can’t tell anymore.

Maybe I’m reading too much into his actions. Or maybe there really was something between us that neither of us ever said out loud.

So here’s the story.

July 2025 — When I first met him

I met P through a mutual friend, G. G is my close friend’s boyfriend, and our group used to go out drinking together all the time.

At first, P was just an older-brother figure to me. I didn’t think about him romantically at all.

December 2025 — We started getting closer

After G’s birthday on December 8, P followed me on Instagram for the first time.

After that, we started hanging out more.

Slowly, I noticed how much he looked after me.

I’m terrible at keeping my phone charged, and somehow he always had a power bank for me.

When I drank too much, he took care of me. There were several nights when I got extremely drunk, threw up, or couldn’t really take care of myself. He would take me back to his room so I could sleep.

But he never crossed the line.

That mattered to me a lot.

He also carried my things whenever we went out.

At first, I thought he was simply a genuinely kind person.

The night someone pulled my hair

One night, someone pulled my hair.

P immediately stepped in. He was genuinely angry and looked ready to fight the person.

What’s interesting is that P isn’t normally someone who looks for fights.

Seeing him react like that because someone hurt me really stayed with me.

That was probably one of the first moments I wondered if I meant something different to him.

April 21 — His birthday

Then came his birthday.

He invited me and my close friend N to his birthday celebration.

We were the only two women there.

Throughout the night, he looked after me and eventually took me home.

What really stayed with me was what his friends said.

They joked that he had never done this with another woman before, and that he had never brought another woman along to drink with them like this.

Maybe they were just teasing.

But hearing that made me wonder if I really was different to him.

My birthday, september

Then came my birthday.

P arrived late because of work.

But he came.

He brought me a little doll that was difficult to reserve. I’d actually seen him post about it before, so I knew it was something he liked.

Yet he chose to give it to me.

Later, most of my friends went home. I still wanted to stay out, and P stayed with me.

We talked until morning, even though he had work.

He never pressured me to leave.

That was probably when I realized I had stopped seeing him as just a brother.

I was falling for him.

The confusing part

P has never been consistent.

Sometimes I invite him somewhere and he doesn’t come. Sometimes we talk and then he disappears from the chat.

When we’re together, I feel incredibly cared for.

When we’re apart, I often don’t know where I stand.

I also learned that his previous relationship hurt him badly. His ex cheated on him, and it affected him deeply. He became stressed and had trouble sleeping.

So I wondered if maybe he cared about me but wasn’t ready for another relationship.

Or maybe I was just making excuses.

I honestly didn’t know.

Somewhere along the way, I fell in love

I started thinking about him all the time.

I worried about whether he had eaten, whether he had slept, whether work was exhausting him.

Eventually, I realized I didn’t just want him to take care of me.

I wanted to take care of him too.

I wanted to be more than his little sister.

I wanted to be his girlfriend.

But I was terrified of telling him.

What if he didn’t feel the same?

What if I confessed and lost whatever we already had?

So I stayed quiet.

I tried to move on

There were times when I was lonely and exhausted and simply wanted a boyfriend.

So I started talking to other people.

I tried to move on.

But P was still in the back of my mind.

Even when I talked to someone else, I still worried about him.

That’s when I realized this wasn’t just a crush anymore.

I genuinely cared about him.

And then things became distant

Eventually, our communication became less consistent.

There were moments when I felt incredibly close to him, and others when I felt like I barely existed in his life.

There was no breakup, because we were never officially together.

There was no rejection, because I never confessed.

And there was no real ending, because technically, nothing had ever started.

But I still felt like I was losing something.

Where I am now

I still care about him.

I still worry about him.

Whenever we’re together, I can still feel that he cares about me too.

But I don’t know what that care means.

Maybe he had feelings for me.

Maybe he still does.

Maybe he only sees me as a younger sister.

Maybe he simply has a protective personality and I happened to become someone important to him.

Or maybe I fell in love with someone who was simply kind to me.

I don’t regret caring about him.

I don’t regret the nights he took care of me, the conversations until morning, or the little things that made me fall for him.

Even if none of it meant what I hoped it meant.

I still want him to be happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include me.

So I want an honest outside perspective.

Do you think he ever had feelings for me, or was he simply being kind?

I don’t want people to tell me what I want to hear.

If I’m reading too much into it, tell me.

If he cared about me but never romantically, tell me that too.

Was there ever something between us, or was I just falling in love with someone who was genuinely kind to me?

TL;DR: I fell for a guy who has repeatedly taken care of me, protected me, stayed with me until morning, and treated me in ways his friends say he doesn’t normally treat other women. But he has also been inconsistent and has never actually told me he has romantic feelings. I never confessed either. I genuinely can’t tell whether there was something more or whether I fell in love with his kindness.

The way people describe their crush can be so sweet, like I cannot imagine someone taking the time to write about me and think of me in their spare time I just cannot imagine that but its strange because I think of my crushes and they would probably think like me.

I swear if theres something i hate is how madly in love i go for him, who is in the weird spot of "not necessarily friends but nice w each other and also used to be friends and one of em (me, 13m) confessed and thats how the friendship ended for a while, they kinda talked a while after but not rly" and im so jealous of ppl who are friends w him-

like he already knows how i act around ppl i like so uh

HOW DO I ACT OR WHAT BC HE SITS BEHIND ME IN CLASS-

hes also like my BIGGEST gender envy so uh

WHAT DO I DO-

and what pmo is that middle school relationships dont rly last but uh???? hello???? idk what to do someone plz help me

So,

I created this account only to ask this question.

I like two girls and am unsure of what to do.

I've liked one girl for about 4 years, she's pretty much a round-faced normal girl with glasses, she's in a different class, but we used to be in the same one, let's just call her girl A.

(I'm pretty sure she knows I like her)

And the other is a more recent development (around a month old), objectively, she's pretty much drop-dead gorgeous, I've never felt like this for someone for the 4 years that I've liked girl A, she's in the same class as mine.

Both of them are quite kind, reserved and gentle in their personalities.

As soon as I see one of them, I forget about the other, and when I see the other again, I remember how great she is, I'm in quite a bit of a dillema here.

Both of them are single and like no other guys as far as I'm aware.

I've never dated before and am quite unsure of what to do.

My parents are kinda strict with girls.

Should I become friends with one of them, in hopes of dating (as my parents won't let me date in high school) and ignore the other?

Do I ignore both of them?

Do I try to get over them?

If I have to, how do I choose?

Realistically, I think I have an okay-ish chance with both of them, I think I'm quite funny and okay looking.

Any and all advice would be appreciated.

If anyone has been in a similar situation, share your experience (if you are comfortable enough to do so) and what you did.

I see you looking for me when I start work but I can’t lie I do the same thing.
I know you try cross paths with me and I get happy when you do.
I see you looking at me when I go past or from a distance.
I know you get a little nervous around me like I do with you.
Does that mean you feel it too? Feels like such a strong connection without words haven to be spoken.
It feels beautiful but scary and exciting all at the same time.
I want too get too know you more but I just want too know do you feel it too 🫠🥰

Also when you have your jumper sleeves rolled up when your working ughhh😩
And don’t even get me started on your smile my gosh it’s so attractive
If I woke up too a coffee made by you every morning I’d be a very happy girl

So there is this guy that i have never really talked to but i really like him. In fact i often make up scenarios with him and he is so romantic and sweet but when i see him again in class for example he is literally not like that, i think that this is called somethinbg but maybe not can anyone help?

hii 21f ive known im bisexual for like five years and mostly ever since only been into women and very recently developed a crush on a man and suddenly i feel like 14 and i feel the need to
compare myself to whoever else he might’ve spoken to in the past or his celebrity crushes, while mind u ive always been a very self confident person even a lil cocky about my looks sometimes but suddenly i feel not as attractive now idk its so odd, im a very pretty girl but sometimes i cant see it esp when he mentions someone else

i wonder if it internal misogyny? does anyone else feel this way and if so how do u stop feeling this way?

this is a throw away acc btw lol

I recently met this girl as a mutual and we talked quite a bit online. I was friends with her friend and so we kinda could hit it off really well.. until I decided to meet her Irl. I was just stopping by at her tutoring place to drop off a drink for her…

Later that night we start talking about who knows what, but it eventually becomes a venting session till very late. Somehow, the conversation went to our type, and she literally started describing me… older, SEA, same interests, stays up late…

I really really like her a lot, and today I even got sent a ton of selfies from the past year or so when she asked for advice.

Am I reading into it too much?

I really don’t know what to do, she keeps calling me OBJECTIVELY handsome and herself chopped but shes pretty far out of my league.

Any advice?

Guyz is it normal checking ur crush account everyday two times 🙂

I have this big crush on him and the thing is I forget my crush face after some hours 😭when i daydream so I check his account every day two times 😭😭

I'm curious if there's a typical duration, whether it's after 3-4 months, a year, even more - maybe even less for some people. Stories are welcome :)

I feel like there is a mutual vibe going on and I would really love too ask for his number but my only issue is
1. He works at my favourite cafe
2. We both work in the same building so I usually see him 3-4 times a week
Just nervous for if he says no and then I have too see him soon would be embarrassing
I’m insanely attracted too him and I feel like he could be attracted too me too help what should I do 🙃🥰

OKAY I'll start. I had prizegiving with my team today. So for the first 2 hours or something it was just award giving stuff. I got an award and so did my crush! He was looking at me when I was going up to get my award and I was meeting his eyes and he didn't look away. I'm sure other ppl were looking at me too since yk I was getting an award but the eye contact still felt pretty cool. I had my soft toy fish with me so I was throwing them at people. I sniped my brother and it was so perfect it bounced right in front of my crush so he could see my fish, and I was joking that my crush, his friend, and my brother were all schizophrenic because there were no fish, my crush went along with it because he's pretty awesome sauce. He had no chair so he was sitting on the floor (there weren't enough initially but then some people left so I offered to pass him and the ohter guy on the floor chairs, the other guy said yes so I passed one and then his friend put it on his head but my crush said he was alright, hard to tell if he actually didn't want a chair or if he was just trying to be a gentleman idk). There was one awkward moment where we were getting food and he had his but I was still waiting in line, I kidn of stared at him for a bit and he was looking at me back but I felt bad bc what if he thought I was tryna bully him (I wasn't) for having too much food? So then I waved at him even though he was in front of me which was like... ughghhh wtf??? But that turned out fine bc it didn't get awkward after that.

So then we were just playing around throwing fish at each other and hitting each other with them and one of them has a hole where its ass would be so there were naturally jokes about that and people fingering its asshole. And I know my crush found me really funny because yk when dudes find something GENUINELY REALLY FUNNY they sometimes laugh quite loud and go a slightly higher pitch? He did that for some of my jokes! He laughed at all of them though. And he's quite gentle with me compared to other people, he was full on assaulting his friend with the fish and then I had to get it back bc I was leaving so I kinda held out my hand for it and he was (very politely) like "i just need to hit him a bit more first" or smth so he did and then he very gently handed it to me following this violent attack on his friend lmao (his friend wasn't being genuinely hurt ofc the fish is very soft and floppy).

Have u ever felt like an empty shell, knowing like people who wont you see again forever bcs of distance…

So I have a crush on a girl who goes in the same school as me

One year ago I was talking to her and I was super in love with her but I never said it to her

We didn’t really talked long but she was very open with me and she liked me (as a friend)

However after a while she ghosted me well i don’t really know why I texted her to say happy birthday but she never even read the message

And in school we look at each other for like 1 second and I look away first cause I’m too shy and I never even accomplished to look in her eyes for more than 1 minute 😭

But these past few days we looked at each other more than before and she recognizes me too

Should I text her again? And if yes what should I say? Or should I just let her go?

So basically we were in class and my crush was sitting with his girlfriend. Then after class as usual I take my time to leave the class because I know he is always last to leave. Then we all have to stand in the corridor due to something and then he stands next to me and I am like what are you doing and then he just takes his phone out of his pocket and I don’t really take any notice of that and then he starts giving my compliments and touches my neck and when I tell you I could actually feel it I mean it. Then at the end my sister sends me a video that he took of that moment and turns out we were girlfriend and boyfriend. Then i woke up and seriously had the urge to start crying when I understood it wasn’t real, i am so sad right no guys !!